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"Are men just really bad at emotions? Or is this just my bad luck that I'm attracted to emotionally stunted individuals? I'm going through a particularly tough time right now and I've reached out to people (men) to discuss it. One man said 'That is a lot to consider' And another said 'Aww, can't find the suitable emoji but I'm rooting for you' And I think I might want to scream??? Hit me with the worst responses to stuff you're dealing with." It’s men, literally just men. Or maybe we both fall for men who are shit with emotions 🤣🤣 | |||
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"Just man up and deal with it "God, yeah. That is a terrible, terrible response to literally anything. | |||
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"Men? Usually along the lines of: “Sounds tough. What colour pants are you wearing?” " Send me a pic? | |||
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" It’s men, literally just men. Or maybe we both fall for men who are shit with emotions 🤣🤣" You might be right. On both counts. Which doesn't help the stabby/ragey feeling that's building up in me. | |||
"I think a lot of men are unaware of how much it takes some females to be vulnerable and show that side. To then be met with crappy responses that make you feel even worse, not good." See, never open up to a guy. Use them for the sex and keep it simple! | |||
"Just man up and deal with it
God, yeah. That is a terrible, terrible response to literally anything."I suffer with bad anxiety and before I was diagnosed I was bedridden, someone very close to me said “pull yourself together and sort yourself out” I will never forget that | |||
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"Are men just really bad at emotions? Or is this just my bad luck that I'm attracted to emotionally stunted individuals? I'm going through a particularly tough time right now and I've reached out to people (men) to discuss it. One man said 'That is a lot to consider' And another said 'Aww, can't find the suitable emoji but I'm rooting for you' And I think I might want to scream??? Hit me with the worst responses to stuff you're dealing with." It bugs the hell out of me seeing anyone treated like that, Fabs is supposed to be about fun and friendship. Not how much you can take advantage of someone to try get something out of them when they are vulnerable or just make fun of the situation ... Noone should be treated with that lack of respect or understanding | |||
"Men? Usually along the lines of: “Sounds tough. What colour pants are you wearing?” Send me a pic?" Yep. Or my favourite “how wet are you though?….sorry, you probably don’t want to hear that right now” Yeah, no shit Sherlock! | |||
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"I think a lot of men are unaware of how much it takes some females to be vulnerable and show that side. To then be met with crappy responses that make you feel even worse, not good. See, never open up to a guy. Use them for the sex and keep it simple! " Maybe we should all be more Raven. | |||
"I CAN'T FIND THE RIGHT EMOJI BUT I'M ROOTING FOR YOU literally makes me want to hurl things across the room." I’m rooting for you, is bad enough🤣 let alone ‘ I can’t find the right emoji’ 🙈 | |||
Quite a lot at the time, actually. Not that that is how it works!  | |||
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"I CAN'T FIND THE RIGHT EMOJI BUT I'M ROOTING FOR YOU literally makes me want to hurl things across the room." Eek. You can just visualise them clenching their fists with a “go get em tiger” look on their face. I think this thread has opened up a can of emotional worms for me | |||
" never open up to a guy. Use them for the sex and keep it simple! " This. All the way. | |||
"The death of my daughter....someone told me once " you could have another one" " Oh, Sparkle 😔 | |||
"The death of my daughter....someone told me once " you could have another one" " No way | |||
"The death of my daughter....someone told me once " you could have another one" " Surely that was their one brain cell talking to itself. | |||
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"The death of my daughter....someone told me once " you could have another one" " omg seriously that’s awful thing to say to someone x | |||
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"Hmmm it’s a sex site…..playing devils advocate here but maybe the guys aren’t emotionally involved because this is about a bit of fun and nothing too serious? X" I don't think the topic was aimed just at the men on fab...I think it was in general. | |||
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"Hmmm it’s a sex site…..playing devils advocate here but maybe the guys aren’t emotionally involved because this is about a bit of fun and nothing too serious? X" I didn't specify the men of fab though, did I? I get your point but also ... One of the men I mentioned is my ex who I was in a relationship with for over a year 😀 | |||
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"👋🏾 Yeah it might be just men in general. But I’m rooting for you "That wasn't the right emoji, sorry. | |||
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"I feel for you OP, i currently feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall to try and get some kind of emotional support from a certain man. I've had a bad couple of days. " Ugh, I'm sorry you're going through a hard time  I'm honestly giving up on emotional support from men. I'm skipping right past them straight to my girl friends. My best friend has had such an earful tonight.
I hope things get better for you though. | |||
"Upon sharing the news of my mother’s passing to someone I’d considered a close friend…… “Right ”
Urgh "I hope they went in the 🚮 | |||
"Upon sharing the news of my mother’s passing to someone I’d considered a close friend…… “Right ”
Urgh
I hope they went in the 🚮"Fuck the bin, I hope they went in the paper shredder. | |||
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"The death of my daughter....someone told me once " you could have another one" " What the fuck? | |||
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"Are men just really bad at emotions? Or is this just my bad luck that I'm attracted to emotionally stunted individuals? I'm going through a particularly tough time right now and I've reached out to people (men) to discuss it. One man said 'That is a lot to consider' And another said 'Aww, can't find the suitable emoji but I'm rooting for you' And I think I might want to scream??? Hit me with the worst responses to stuff you're dealing with." I hope you find the right support x | |||
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"Men? Usually along the lines of: “Sounds tough. What colour pants are you wearing?” Send me a pic? Yep. Or my favourite “how wet are you though?….sorry, you probably don’t want to hear that right now” Yeah, no shit Sherlock! " Men can't really be blamed for this tho, can they? Cause... Is fab the really the right place for one to come on and seek out and find the comfort and care and affection needed if they are upset? Be honest!! If you have just been cheated on, or found out your getting cheated on, or been used or treated like shit in the past or present, I would have thought that any other person would find that support from a family member or a good friend. Not start discussing on here to the other person you may have just started chatting to, or even bothering to open a rude message from a guy, if you know deep down that's not you wanna hear right now. And then taking the time to post the blame on those guys in a forum about how much of a bastard these guys are. Everyone on here, we all know why everyone has joined up to this site!? For fun, swinging, sex, discreet sex, group fun and more etc. And it feels daft I have to spell those words out to remind people of this. If I'm not happy, well then I will just stay away from here until I'm not. I'm not gonna try and find someone sensitive to sit on the other side and listen to me going on about my life and then make a topic up in the forums about how insensitive people are when they are chucking one liners at me, or sending rude messages to me, when I am telling them I feel sad. Obviously it's not right/ethical for someone to talk to someone like that, if they are expressing their feelings towards you. So why would anyone expect a difference on a adult sex site? I'm sure there are other sites that listen and will be happy to help and give you the support and advice that one is actually seeking. I can probably guarantee that 9 out of 10 guys on here, who are not paying attention and write something a long the lines of "nice ass, or fancy a fuck" have most likely sent messages like that because they have sent a 100 more to other women too. Just to try their luck and see if they get any response from them. Unless you are actually talking to the guy first and then he ignores your sadness and starts sending out randy messages still. Well then it goes back to what I'm trying to explain here, that people will bring it on themselves like that. Don't get me wrong, if any guy who ignores any women in person or if they have been chatting for a while in here and he starts going on like that and doesn't respect their feelings, well then that guy is a 100% dick head, period. But to be honest, if you are feeling bad, down and sad, then I would get yourself better first, don't share out your life story to anyone on here at all, but just come on here happy and what you came on here to do in the first place, flirt chat, sex chat, sexting, pic swap, meet for sex or just friendly company.Just have fun and what you set out to do. I know it's hard sometimes and we like to talk and share our feelings and then complain and confront them when we feel no one is listening, but not on here. I haven't seen a place on here for support and advice for such a problem. I wanna express what I want, when I am feeling randy, and hopefully I find someone else who is on the same level and also wants to share their sexual feelings and then go from there. No one wants to listen how bad my day was or what has happened to me in the past. How will anyone pick someone up like that. I'm just saying, if someone I was talking to for a while on here and they ignored me when I expressed my feelings, and they just continued talking about sex, well I would confront them about it there and then, and consider blocking them if they ignored me. I wouldn't come and tell and share your complaint to everyone, that's all. Of course guys are sensitive and compassionate. So it's wrong for all women to say they have no sensitivity in them. The real problem on here is, guys sending out a 1000 messages to women and bombarded their inbox, to a point where women can't get through them all, without reading their profiles. That's why most women don't get chance to reply back to anyone. That's a bigger issue on here | |||
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"I'm going through a particularly tough time right now and I've reached out to people (men) to discuss it. " The problem is, emotionally supportive men have learnt the hard way, that at any other time, they'd be passed up for a tattoo'd bad boy with a cocksure smile. | |||
"Some of the replies "Agreed. It all just feeds into my belief that a lot of people are generally quite crap, which isn’t their fault but isn’t remedied without their explicit intent | |||
"I'm going through a particularly tough time right now and I've reached out to people (men) to discuss it. The problem is, emotionally supportive men have learnt the hard way, that at any other time, they'd be passed up for a tattoo'd bad boy with a cocksure smile. " That’s absurd incel nonsense | |||
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"Men? Usually along the lines of: “Sounds tough. What colour pants are you wearing?” Send me a pic? Yep. Or my favourite “how wet are you though?….sorry, you probably don’t want to hear that right now” Yeah, no shit Sherlock! " Sorry, but out of context, this is absolutely hilarious 😂 On topic though, I've read that "men bad at emotions" is somewhat accurate due to 2 reasons. We may actually experience emotions with less intensity (not sure how scientifically this has been tested). Also, and this is generally accepted as true, a group of guy friends do not discuss emotional topics to the same extent or depth as what women do. Neither of these excuse lack of social context / blunt responses of course, but it's possible a guy may actually be sympathetic - but doesn't know how to express it because he doesn't have experience! | |||
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"The death of my daughter....someone told me once " you could have another one" " What the bloody hell??
That's beyond terrible | |||
"Not all men are the same, however, the ones like that do spoil it for the rest of us. As men, we just get told to man up. Probably a contributing factor to higher number of men who take their own lives. " I know that feeling only too well
Luckily  I couldn't even get that right
I've always been a good listener, emphatic and caring but on more than a few occasions been told that's why I'm weak and deserve everything I get. | |||
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"Not all men are the same, however, the ones like that do spoil it for the rest of us. As men, we just get told to man up. Probably a contributing factor to higher number of men who take their own lives. Everyone needs to do better as listeners, not just guys" I agree, to listen is an art however it goes deeper than just listening and to be a support for someone consistently takes a lot of emotional support out of yourself. It's easy to dismiss others but it's a lot to commit and can wear you down and have a detrimental effect on your own mental health over time. Like who supports the supporter? I take care of someone who has BPD, people mean well, but I am rarely asked how I am, rarely asked if I need support. People just ask about him.....Of course in their heads I'm strong, I'm great. But as I said self preservation becomes paramount over everything else because if you don't then you're no good to anyone So I know from experience it goes way deeper than just listening | |||
"Not all men are the same, however, the ones like that do spoil it for the rest of us. As men, we just get told to man up. Probably a contributing factor to higher number of men who take their own lives. I know that feeling only too well
Luckily I couldn't even get that right
I've always been a good listener, emphatic and caring but on more than a few occasions been told that's why I'm weak and deserve everything I get. "That is just horrendous. Takes great courage to reach out and speak to somebody. | |||
"I CAN'T FIND THE RIGHT EMOJI BUT I'M ROOTING FOR YOU literally makes me want to hurl things across the room." Are you on your period? #MaleResponse 🤬 | |||
"Not all men are the same, however, the ones like that do spoil it for the rest of us. As men, we just get told to man up. Probably a contributing factor to higher number of men who take their own lives. Everyone needs to do better as listeners, not just guys I agree, to listen is an art however it goes deeper than just listening and to be a support for someone consistently takes a lot of emotional support out of yourself. It's easy to dismiss others but it's a lot to commit and can wear you down and have a detrimental effect on your own mental health over time. Like who supports the supporter? I take care of someone who has BPD, people mean well, but I am rarely asked how I am, rarely asked if I need support. People just ask about him.....Of course in their heads I'm strong, I'm great. But as I said self preservation becomes paramount over everything else because if you don't then you're no good to anyone So I know from experience it goes way deeper than just listening" Yep, another great point. Takes a special someone to care for someone else and agree it can absolutely take it's toll. With that being said, how are you? | |||
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"Are men just really bad at emotions? Or is this just my bad luck that I'm attracted to emotionally stunted individuals? I'm going through a particularly tough time right now and I've reached out to people (men) to discuss it. One man said 'That is a lot to consider' And another said 'Aww, can't find the suitable emoji but I'm rooting for you' And I think I might want to scream??? Hit me with the worst responses to stuff you're dealing with." Was it men on here that you reached out to ? | |||
"Christ, that was an essay and a half. tldr I'm afraid." He just poured his insides out. Don't you think someone should take the time to read it ? To listen and digest ? | |||
"I think a lot of men are unaware of how much it takes some females to be vulnerable and show that side. To then be met with crappy responses that make you feel even worse, not good. See, never open up to a guy. Use them for the sex and keep it simple! " Many men would see that as an ideal solution. | |||
"The death of my daughter....someone told me once " you could have another one" " Oh dear god. | |||
