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By *enda83Man 5 weeks ago
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No I have the same respect for anyone actually working for a living regardless of their job, as someone who probably gets looked down upon by certain types if seen In my work clothes I’d never do it to anyone else ha |
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"Opinions please.... does a person's job make them more or less desirable to play with?  "
A job will never make someone less desirable. I don’t judge. But certain jobs (or uniforms) can make someone more appealing |
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The only time I’ve asked what job they do is when it has become a longer term arrangement and it was part of getting to know them as a person. So it doesn’t particularly bother me, more important is their attitude and how they treat me. |
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"Opinions please.... does a person's job make them more or less desirable to play with? "
Not my thing but I've seen no end of posts of people after bods in uniform, delivery drivers, people in the trades or wanting to re-enact something like FAKE Taxi. |
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It doesnt bother me what jobs people do and it surprises me to see profiles saying wont meet police and things like that.
I can understand if a job was part of their identity, a polititican, for example where your look on life may differ but police ?.
Maybe i'm just old |
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"It doesnt bother me what jobs people do and it surprises me to see profiles saying wont meet police and things like that.
I can understand if a job was part of their identity, a polititican, for example where your look on life may differ but police ?.
Maybe i'm just old"
I don't think that makes you odd. There's good and bab people in all jobs. I think it's odd that someone would pigeon hole someone because of their job, like a police officer. |
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"It doesnt bother me what jobs people do and it surprises me to see profiles saying wont meet police and things like that.
I can understand if a job was part of their identity, a polititican, for example where your look on life may differ but police ?.
Maybe i'm just old
I don't think that makes you odd. There's good and bab people in all jobs. I think it's odd that someone would pigeon hole someone because of their job, like a police officer."
I misread that as odd. You're not odd, and no comment on the old  |
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Imagine constantly working for minimum wage days and nights wouldn't facilitate dating women.
Even when people say they don't care.
The rich guy with lots of free time is living his best life.
I say this as an overworked person myself.
I had literally zero time or energy to meet women when I was single.
So I think it matters to an extent.
If you're broke and overworked you still struggle even with low maintenance women.
How many men my age actually have TIME?
I had Saturdays and Sundays. Some don't even get that.
I don't blame women for wanting better. |
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"Opinions please.... does a person's job make them more or less desirable to play with? "
Probably yes. It's all part of the overall package isn't it? Unless people have never fantasised about police fireman nurses doctors estate agents plumbers car mechanics etc |
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""but this is a hookup site not dating"
Yeh but they still don't want to "just fuck now"
They still like the other stuff."
What "other stuff" would be dependent on their job??? Sounds a bit snobby 🤣🤣 |
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I think some people are confusing what people spend 40 hours a week doing for their job, with class or money. They aren't the same. If people think what we spend a minimum of a third of our day doing and half our waking hours doing does not shape them, im quite surprised. But to each their own.
I mean for those who this is purely a cock in cunt transaction it may not matter but for some I'm sure it would make a difference. |
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It depends on context… if I’m just chatting you for the aim of a good time for one night.. don’t give a jot for what you do.
If it becomes more long term then yes! I need to have a similar experience of life to you to identify with you.. (this is not about hierarchy or power play) but a mutual understanding of work life pressure. |
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"I'm on universal credit, I haven't had a shag in 3 years. 'Nuff said 🤷♀️
I’d do you for a bottle of gin? 😎
Meh, I'll take it 
I’ll let you know when 20 secs are over with, then free gin 😎"
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"I'm on universal credit, I haven't had a shag in 3 years. 'Nuff said 🤷♀️
I’d do you for a bottle of gin? 😎
Meh, I'll take it
I’ll let you know when 20 secs are over with, then free gin 😎
Sign me up "
We have terms 🤝 |
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I didn't think I'd knowingly meet someone in the police, as they just seem interested in notches and the next body
I'd likely also have an inferiority complex meeting someone creative, so I'd probably make an excuse that I wasn't sure too busy to meet them |
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No, as long as they don't bang on about it. Messages from squaddies who open with "wanna try fucking a guy in uniform" is off putting so Armed Forces are generally types I'm not attracted to.
I met someone once who worked in the city in finance and couldn't stop talking about how much he earned. It was pretty tiresome.
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A persons job shouldn't make any difference, and it doesn't matter to me what station in life a person has, so long as personal hygiene and personality come high on their agendas. I must admit though that being in the privileged position where my work and line of business gives me access to tastefully furnished executive homes to entertain in has had its advantages, especially with those who cannot accommodate, even overnight for whatever reason, and resulted in repeat get togethers. |
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By *sWyldWoman 4 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Sometimes it does matter.
I work hard and I'm very happy to pay my way . I also want to do nice things. I don't want to have to not do those things because the other person can't afford to. While I'm kind and happy to pay, I'm never going back to a situation where I foot the bill for every hotel room or every date night..
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"Sometimes it does matter.
I work hard and I'm very happy to pay my way . I also want to do nice things. I don't want to have to not do those things because the other person can't afford to. While I'm kind and happy to pay, I'm never going back to a situation where I foot the bill for every hotel room or every date night..
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Very true. At some point, rightly or wrong, these things eventually matter to a lot of peolle. Not the actual job but the lifestyle people are used to. True for both established relationships and repeat casual encounters. |
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"Sometimes it does matter.
I work hard and I'm very happy to pay my way . I also want to do nice things. I don't want to have to not do those things because the other person can't afford to. While I'm kind and happy to pay, I'm never going back to a situation where I foot the bill for every hotel room or every date night.."
So, all you that say it wouldn't bother you, if you were the top end of the socio-economic duo would your answer still be the same in the scenario described by MsWyld? |
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By *eliWoman 4 weeks ago
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It does matter to me to a certain extent for similar reasons to MsWyld. I like particular things. Wouldn’t say I'm a snob but I've studied and worked hard and like what it can afford me. I pay my way. Stay in nice places, enjoy good food and drink etc. That doesn't always equal cost but sometimes it does.
I guess in part because NSA isn't for me. I like friendships. Actual friendship. Doing things. And when people have said they're too skint to get a cocktail etc, whilst I don't mind paying some of the way, after some time it can make me feel uncomfortable. Similar feelings when someone wants to impress me with spending a lot of money on the hotel. There's no need, even less of a need when their income is less than mine. I love booking, organising things but if the onus is on me always, I don't find it attractive.
It's a tricky thing to discuss because whilst I don't actually care *what* it is someone does for work or not, if I feel uncomfortable surrounding money, paying for things etc it tends not to last. |
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"Excellent. Honest answers at last...
So it occurs to me that it may matter less to a man than a woman 🤔"
I think it's very glib to say it doesn't matter. In the same way as someone's dress, car, home, accent, etc doesn't matter. If you're dogging or at a club for a quick random encounter perhaps that's true. And nothing wrong with that. But if it's something a bit more connected I would have that all the parts of an individual matter to some extent. |
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Clearly there’s some that see it as an attraction….all the uniform groupies on here….but then I have seen some where they avoid certain professions….squaddies, police etc!!
I find it a bit of a conversation starter so do tend to ask….im a nosey bastard really…not too concerned with what it is 😅 |
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What "other stuff" would be dependent on their job??? Sounds a bit snobby 🤣🤣"
Think about being a guy my age or younger.
You need a home and free time. Enough disposable cash to take a woman to a restraint and blow £100-200 on just a simple dinner.
That's no longer in the grasp of the average working man.
The difficulty setting is higher.
I am not a snob I'm actually really really bitter about clawing my way to being an independent married adult man.
Women don't exist without money. Even if the woman is not interested in you're wallet you need a home and free time.
These 21 year old working class guys now are just wageies who have a big struggle if they want to move out of their mum's house and own a car etc...
That's why they are Incels. Society is really against them and pussy blocking them.
In my dad's era you could be a minimum wage worker and own a 2 bedroom house in 2 years.
I know couples who earn 40k each now who struggle to buy homes that were available to single working class people in my dad's era.
I feel really sorry for the young men now. Loads of them are mentally ill virgins who have suicidal thoughts.
If I explain this to people my father's age they are just apathetic.
Half of women aren't even into you're wallet but if you can't afford a home, decent work life Ballance, a car and £100-200 to pay for a day out to "get to know them"...not to mention nicer clothes and whatever else level ups you need.....
Then you will struggle.
I do know baby daddy type bumz who just impregnate women with zero income but that's another story and they are only a minority.
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What "other stuff" would be dependent on their job??? Sounds a bit snobby 🤣🤣
Think about being a guy my age or younger.
You need a home and free time. Enough disposable cash to take a woman to a restraint and blow £100-200 on just a simple dinner.
That's no longer in the grasp of the average working man.
The difficulty setting is higher.
I am not a snob I'm actually really really bitter about clawing my way to being an independent married adult man.
Women don't exist without money. Even if the woman is not interested in you're wallet you need a home and free time.
These 21 year old working class guys now are just wageies who have a big struggle if they want to move out of their mum's house and own a car etc...
That's why they are Incels. Society is really against them and pussy blocking them.
In my dad's era you could be a minimum wage worker and own a 2 bedroom house in 2 years.
I know couples who earn 40k each now who struggle to buy homes that were available to single working class people in my dad's era.
I feel really sorry for the young men now. Loads of them are mentally ill virgins who have suicidal thoughts.
If I explain this to people my father's age they are just apathetic.
Half of women aren't even into you're wallet but if you can't afford a home, decent work life Ballance, a car and £100-200 to pay for a day out to "get to know them"...not to mention nicer clothes and whatever else level ups you need.....
Then you will struggle.
I do know baby daddy type bumz who just impregnate women with zero income but that's another story and they are only a minority.
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Very well said mate.
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Can't say I've ever thought to ask anyone that we've spoken to what they do for a living. We haven't met up with anyone yet, I suppose it may come up in conversation at a first social meet as way of getting to know one another but I can't think of anything that would be an instant turn off. It's all about chemistry really.
We're not here looking for a long term partner, so it's really nothing to do with me/us what someone does or how much they earn.
Although a more money than sense cashpig would definitely come in handy if we found one and they insisted on lavishing us, who are we to argue? 😂😂😂
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If you think of it from a safety and discretion point of view, certain careers can indicate that a person is more trustworthy. Professionals who are practiced in confidentiality are easier to be open with. If a job is crb checked, (though it's never a certainty)😂 it's likely they are not a serial killer.
Some jobs will indicate attention to detail, strength, stamina or a moral compass.
A lot of jobs require you to be clean and well presented.
These are all things requested in profiles all over the site.
There's a lot you can glean from what a person chooses to do for a living.
It's not about the money (or shouldn't be at least). It's about character.
Just because you aren't looking for a relationship, that doesn't mean that you don't want to feel safe, assured and respected.
Also I defy any guy that doesn't get excited at the word Nurse 🤣😂 |
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On Friday I happened to drive past a bin collection lorry on my way to work around 0630 hours and there was a really cute lady in the crew attaching a brown bin to the back for emptying.
I clearly remember thinking, ‘she’d get it!’ |
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"On Friday I happened to drive past a bin collection lorry on my way to work around 0630 hours and there was a really cute lady in the crew attaching a brown bin to the back for emptying.
I clearly remember thinking, ‘she’d get it!’"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 |
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"On Friday I happened to drive past a bin collection lorry on my way to work around 0630 hours and there was a really cute lady in the crew attaching a brown bin to the back for emptying.
I clearly remember thinking, ‘she’d get it!’"
Did you tell Sam when you got home, Henriette? |
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"Sometimes it does matter.
I work hard and I'm very happy to pay my way . I also want to do nice things. I don't want to have to not do those things because the other person can't afford to. While I'm kind and happy to pay, I'm never going back to a situation where I foot the bill for every hotel room or every date night..
Very true. At some point, rightly or wrong, these things eventually matter to a lot of peolle. Not the actual job but the lifestyle people are used to. True for both established relationships and repeat casual encounters. "
Well put MB. |
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"What people do is often related to their personality and approach to life so yes. "
I tend to agree with this. I’ve never found anyone ‘less desirable’ because of their job but I have definitely found people more desirable. It’s not about financial stability or ambition but it’s a good indicator of personality and therefore compatibility for me. |
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"What people do is often related to their personality and approach to life so yes.
I tend to agree with this. I’ve never found anyone ‘less desirable’ because of their job but I have definitely found people more desirable. It’s not about financial stability or ambition but it’s a good indicator of personality and therefore compatibility for me. "
Someone above said work is not related to personality or identity which is obviously not true. Many people have chosen jobs or careers that reflect their interests and passions and this is absolutely part of their identity, by choice. Not everyone is so lucky of course but no need to denigrate those who feel that way. |
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For me, it's not a pre-requisite to know what someone does for a living when deciding whether or not to meet them. The important factor is having a spark/connection between us, compatible personalities, and mutual physical attraction. I've only ever discovered what their job is when we've decided to become fwb's and learn more about each other through our developing friendship. The financial aspect, has never been an issue...we would simply arrange dates that we could both afford. |
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Yeah, I’ve been a bit put off before when people have revealed to me what they do. It doesn’t define them fully, but how you choose to make money & spend a third of your life is pretty important to me. |
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By *YDB75Man 4 weeks ago
Beverley |
Depends how people word their job description.
My job certainly aint glamorous and desirable but if it word at a “logistical distribution equipment engineer “ it sounds better than a truck mechanic. |
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By *asha86 OP Couple 4 weeks ago
walsall |
"Depends how people word their job description.
My job certainly aint glamorous and desirable but if it word at a “logistical distribution equipment engineer “ it sounds better than a truck mechanic. "
This is very true it puts a certain spin on it
I was curious to everyones thoughts as me (Mr) doesn't have a very glam job and thought id ask the question |
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"Depends how people word their job description.
My job certainly aint glamorous and desirable but if it word at a “logistical distribution equipment engineer “ it sounds better than a truck mechanic. "
Being a mechanic is skilled, useful and interesting. |
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