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I find majority of women don’t respond put on what they are looking for and you never really get a response.
I totally believe women on this site get inundated with messages for sure.
What’s everyone else thinking 🤔
Ps some very hot profiles on fab x |
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By *bi HaiveMan 4 weeks ago
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"I find majority of women don’t respond put on what they are looking for and you never really get a response.
I totally believe women on this site get inundated with messages for sure.
What’s everyone else thinking 🤔
Ps some very hot profiles on fab x"
Most will view a profile before opening a message.
If more people concentrated on creating the best profile they could, with words and images that attracted interest rather than putting all their hopes into a message to a total stranger, then there's a liklihood they may get a better response rate.
No guarantee of course.....but it's highly likely. 🤷♂️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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Inundated, can get 30 to 50+ in one day. No time to read them all but that’s why there’s information on the profile page which hardly anyone reads, and those that seem incapable of digesting that info
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By *vaRoseWoman 4 weeks ago
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"I find majority of women don’t respond put on what they are looking for and you never really get a response.
I totally believe women on this site get inundated with messages for sure.
What’s everyone else thinking 🤔
Ps some very hot profiles on fab x
Most will view a profile before opening a message.
If more people concentrated on creating the best profile they could, with words and images that attracted interest rather than putting all their hopes into a message to a total stranger, then there's a liklihood they may get a better response rate.
No guarantee of course.....but it's highly likely. 🤷♂️"
Absolutely this
If the profile doesn’t meet my expectations then I just won’t bother |
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Remember when sending a message, it’s an invitation to view your profile, your pics and your message. All 3 have to be reasonably appealing.
So consider that when sending a message and it may mean you put your effort equally into your profile/pics/messages.
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"Remember when sending a message, it’s an invitation to view your profile, your pics and your message. All 3 have to be reasonably appealing.
So consider that when sending a message and it may mean you put your effort equally into your profile/pics/messages.
Like your profile
Your pictures look stunning tbh x
K"
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"I find majority of women don’t respond put on what they are looking for and you never really get a response.
I totally believe women on this site get inundated with messages for sure.
What’s everyone else thinking 🤔
Ps some very hot profiles on fab x"
I think what you thinked |
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If the message, profile picture, profile etc isn't appealing to me I won't respond.
Sometimes there's nothing wrong with the message, profile picture, or profile and I still won't respond.
Don't go thinking that effort in any of those things guarantees or entitles you to anything. |
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"If the message, profile picture, profile etc isn't appealing to me I won't respond.
Sometimes there's nothing wrong with the message, profile picture, or profile and I still won't respond.
Don't go thinking that effort in any of those things guarantees or entitles you to anything."
Yes that’s fair enough
Tbh a lot of women say on there profiles they are after this and that but actually think some might be just words |
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"If the message, profile picture, profile etc isn't appealing to me I won't respond.
Sometimes there's nothing wrong with the message, profile picture, or profile and I still won't respond.
Don't go thinking that effort in any of those things guarantees or entitles you to anything.
Yes that’s fair enough
Tbh a lot of women say on there profiles they are after this and that but actually think some might be just words "
100%. What women say they want and what they actually want can be very different things. The worst is when women start giving advice to single men on what to put in their profile. "Just be yourself, m'kay" |
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I've given up on messaging women. I've seen first hand the amount of messages they receive, most of them are vile. Unfortunately, if you've got something nice to say, messages often get lost amongst the shite. |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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You might get some tasty replies from certain members of the forums for asking this...
I'm pretty sure they don't speak to people like that in public...
So brace yourself...  |
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"I find majority of women don’t respond put on what they are looking for and you never really get a response.
I totally believe women on this site get inundated with messages for sure.
What’s everyone else thinking 🤔
Ps some very hot profiles on fab x"
It's just loads of messages and it's too overwhelming.
You gotta look through so many bland messages
No hate at them for shooting their shot but they shouldn't get upset about not getting responses. |
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People might match the outline of what someone is broadly looking for but that doesn't mean that if 1,000 men kind of see themselves as being just right for them, that a single one of them is attractive or compatible.
Be grateful when people give an accurate brief of their requirements  . It helps you to only contact people with an higher likelihood of saying 'maybe' - thus saving you lots of effort with the likely wrong ones
Even if you get a response, you could still be sent packing, after meeting in person.
There are no guarantees. Nor obliterations to reply, as per clear Fab FAQs.
If you feel you're the best thing since sliced bread and online interaction doesn't sell you well, get to clubs, where you can sell more than just your groin. |
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I don't get many messages at all. Of the ones I do get, men explain that they have ignored my preference and messaged me anyway. They are an instant delete.
If you just say:
Hi
Hello
How r you
Then I will delete your message.
If guys send idiotic, vulgar or Rude or crude messages I will delete.
If you send a great message but have no viewable pics or profile pic I will delete your message.
If you have pictures, you're my preference and your message is polite and nice I will reply.
There's so many guys that have nothing on their profile but expect a reply which isn't going to happen.
I don't know what your profile is like but the more pics you have which are not dick pics the better. Also pics or videos with lots of other women for me is a turn off as I'm looking for regular.
I wish you good luck!
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"i stopped sending messages a few years back, i just wait and hope i’m spotted by someone who will actually want to interact with me 🤞🏻"
Good luck with that tactic and who knows maybe it will work.
I’d liken it to putting a car for sale poster in your car down a dead end side street and hoping someone walks past
I think it’s better to at least try advertising it elsewhere to increase your chances
Good luck with your tactic, it’s brave |
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In my experience, about 50% of messages don't even get read. People often use sites to concentrate on people they know. They aren't looking. Of the ones that get read, about 30% might reply.
Of those replies, maybe half are positive. Of that half, maybe 20% end in meets. You can do the numbers yourself but if you're already getting butt hurt over lack of reply, then this scene ain't for you |
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"In my experience, about 50% of messages don't even get read. People often use sites to concentrate on people they know. They aren't looking. Of the ones that get read, about 30% might reply.
Of those replies, maybe half are positive. Of that half, maybe 20% end in meets. You can do the numbers yourself but if you're already getting butt hurt over lack of reply, then this scene ain't for you "
So guys have about a 1 in 100 chance of getting laid with someone new via apps. That's Best Case Scenario |
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Tbh a lot of women say on there profiles they are after this and that but actually think some might be just words
100%. What women say they want and what they actually want can be very different things. The worst is when women start giving advice to single men on what to put in their profile. "Just be yourself, m'kay""
The worst is when a man assumes what a woman writes on her profile is the opposite to what she's looking for.
Maybe when a women writes 'be yourself' it's because she doesn't want to chat or meet someone that puts on a fake persona?
I don't know though...I'm just a woman |
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"If the message, profile picture, profile etc isn't appealing to me I won't respond.
Sometimes there's nothing wrong with the message, profile picture, or profile and I still won't respond.
Don't go thinking that effort in any of those things guarantees or entitles you to anything.
Yes that’s fair enough
Tbh a lot of women say on there profiles they are after this and that but actually think some might be just words
100%. What women say they want and what they actually want can be very different things. The worst is when women start giving advice to single men on what to put in their profile. "Just be yourself, m'kay""
Absolutely not this woman.
I’m very clear in everything I do, say, and write on my profile and expect anyone I chat to, to be exactly the same. 100% of the time 👍🏻 |
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Tbh a lot of women say on there profiles they are after this and that but actually think some might be just words
100%. What women say they want and what they actually want can be very different things. The worst is when women start giving advice to single men on what to put in their profile. "Just be yourself, m'kay"
The worst is when a man assumes what a woman writes on her profile is the opposite to what she's looking for.
Maybe when a women writes 'be yourself' it's because she doesn't want to chat or meet someone that puts on a fake persona?
I don't know though...I'm just a woman"
That sounds more like someone not reading your profile before messaging
I'm talking about the women who encourage simpy guys to get in touch with their feminine side and embrace their patriarch guilt....and who then hook up with some muscled up dude who fucks them like a barbarian whilst calling them a whore.
Girl you know it's true. |
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Tbh a lot of women say on there profiles they are after this and that but actually think some might be just words
100%. What women say they want and what they actually want can be very different things. The worst is when women start giving advice to single men on what to put in their profile. "Just be yourself, m'kay"
The worst is when a man assumes what a woman writes on her profile is the opposite to what she's looking for.
Maybe when a women writes 'be yourself' it's because she doesn't want to chat or meet someone that puts on a fake persona?
I don't know though...I'm just a woman
That sounds more like someone not reading your profile before messaging
I'm talking about the women who encourage simpy guys to get in touch with their feminine side and embrace their patriarch guilt....and who then hook up with some muscled up dude who fucks them like a barbarian whilst calling them a whore.
Girl you know it's true."
Boy, we'll have to agree to disagree |
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Tbh a lot of women say on there profiles they are after this and that but actually think some might be just words
100%. What women say they want and what they actually want can be very different things. The worst is when women start giving advice to single men on what to put in their profile. "Just be yourself, m'kay"
The worst is when a man assumes what a woman writes on her profile is the opposite to what she's looking for.
Maybe when a women writes 'be yourself' it's because she doesn't want to chat or meet someone that puts on a fake persona?
I don't know though...I'm just a woman
That sounds more like someone not reading your profile before messaging
I'm talking about the women who encourage simpy guys to get in touch with their feminine side and embrace their patriarch guilt....and who then hook up with some muscled up dude who fucks them like a barbarian whilst calling them a whore.
Girl you know it's true.
Boy, we'll have to agree to disagree "
As you wish. But look at the sexual tension we've built up between us just by me challenging you 😘 |
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Tbh a lot of women say on there profiles they are after this and that but actually think some might be just words
100%. What women say they want and what they actually want can be very different things. The worst is when women start giving advice to single men on what to put in their profile. "Just be yourself, m'kay"
The worst is when a man assumes what a woman writes on her profile is the opposite to what she's looking for.
Maybe when a women writes 'be yourself' it's because she doesn't want to chat or meet someone that puts on a fake persona?
I don't know though...I'm just a woman
That sounds more like someone not reading your profile before messaging
I'm talking about the women who encourage simpy guys to get in touch with their feminine side and embrace their patriarch guilt....and who then hook up with some muscled up dude who fucks them like a barbarian whilst calling them a whore.
Girl you know it's true.
Boy, we'll have to agree to disagree
As you wish. But look at the sexual tension we've built up between us just by me challenging you 😘"
Honestly, I got wet from thinking about the bouncy castle, but I suppose you'll do😋 |
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🤣🤣🤣 See...this kinda proves my point. You're probably thinking "what a twat", but my twattiness has secured more engagement from you than the 30 other guys who messaged you trying to flatter your knickers off. |
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"🤣🤣🤣 See...this kinda proves my point. You're probably thinking "what a twat", but my twattiness has secured more engagement from you than the 30 other guys who messaged you trying to flatter your knickers off."
Is that to me? |
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"🤣🤣🤣 See...this kinda proves my point. You're probably thinking "what a twat", but my twattiness has secured more engagement from you than the 30 other guys who messaged you trying to flatter your knickers off.
Is that to me?"
You know it is 😘. Here's the thing...as a guy, if you get zero engagement then your chances to progress from that are zero. I have had some engagement from you - you've definitely read my profile, so that puts me in a better spot that all the blokes you ignored. I've gone from 0 to 0.001 |
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"🤣🤣🤣 See...this kinda proves my point. You're probably thinking "what a twat", but my twattiness has secured more engagement from you than the 30 other guys who messaged you trying to flatter your knickers off.
Is that to me?
You know it is 😘. Here's the thing...as a guy, if you get zero engagement then your chances to progress from that are zero. I have had some engagement from you - you've definitely read my profile, so that puts me in a better spot that all the blokes you ignored. I've gone from 0 to 0.001"
Ah. For the record I didn't think twat, and you called twattiness lol  |
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"🤣🤣🤣 See...this kinda proves my point. You're probably thinking "what a twat", but my twattiness has secured more engagement from you than the 30 other guys who messaged you trying to flatter your knickers off.
Is that to me?
You know it is 😘. Here's the thing...as a guy, if you get zero engagement then your chances to progress from that are zero. I have had some engagement from you - you've definitely read my profile, so that puts me in a better spot that all the blokes you ignored. I've gone from 0 to 0.001
Ah. For the record I didn't think twat, and you called twattiness lol "
Maybe up to 0.002 then 😃 |
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They flooded by hundreds of messages just saying ‘wanna fuck’ majority ending up bulk deleting messages too. I’ve kinda stopped messaging and just hope someone takes a liking and messages or winks first |
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