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Does number of sexual partners bother people??
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By *hireLad OP Man 3 days ago
Aberdeenshire |
Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? |
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Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️ |
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Your on a swinger site... this is the wrong crowd to be bothered by the number of people someone has slept with!!  |
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No it would bother me of all their sexual encounters were unprotected though |
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️"
This! |
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I’d be put off by someone who has to broadcast my personal conversations for a start. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???"
Nope. Who someone has slept with before me is none of my business. 🤷♂️ |
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️"
This! |
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By *WANDTGCouple 3 days ago
Borough of Greenwich |
That's her past , I suppose your looking to spend the future with her, there's your answer ! |
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I don't think it would put either of us off. |
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A persons history before me isn’t my business to ask! We are all consenting adults and we have all had previous partners! |
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Did you not ask how many women she's had too OP?! ...175 men might be a drop in the ocean!
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I couldn't care less.
I'm a woman asking men, though.
If a man asked me, I'd say 500+ for an easy out. |
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Im surprised by the exact number. Did she have a ss? |
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For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does. |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???"
Why are you asking her how many people she’s fucked? It’s none of any bodies business but hers |
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By *hireLad OP Man 3 days ago
Aberdeenshire |
For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me.  |
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By *DerryMan 3 days ago
Dublin/Derry/Belfast |
Wouldn’t put me off. If she’s a nice girl why would it bother you? |
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️
This! "
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"For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me. "
And did you say i dont know ill just pop onto the swingers site to find out? 🤣🤷♀️ |
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By *IXEN200Woman 3 days ago
newcastle upon tyne |
We all have a past, and the thing is no matter how many sexual partners you have, you can easily add to it as you're sleeping with their ex and then some |
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Here, no. We're here for a reason.
For a partner, yes. |
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Why would you ask her how many she has slept with, it sounds like you could carry a bit of Jealousy, if so swinging isn't the game for you. |
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Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental.
I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past.
Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people.
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No nothing wrong with that number at least she was honest |
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Only in the sense that it would indicate our likes don't align. |
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental.
I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past.
Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people.
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how can you morally question someone whilst frequently a swingers site. |
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental.
I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past.
Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people.
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Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️ |
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"Why would you ask her how many she has slept with, it sounds like you could carry a bit of Jealousy, if so swinging isn't the game for you."
Bit of a stretch and jump to conclusions there. What makes you think he asked her? He said nothing to imply that, but you label him and jump to a stupid conclusion. |
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No. It's all experience and fun. Bring those things you learned to the bedroom and we all good. |
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️"
Absolutely this! |
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Not in the slightest, we are all here for a reason and it's not something i've ever considered asking anyone i've ever slept with tbh. |
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental.
I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past.
Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people.
Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️ "
That said, I'm not judging, but I don’t think it’s just about liking sex. You could be with one or two partners and have sex a thousand times, or sleep with 175 different people and have sex 175 times. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story, it’s the context and mindset behind it that matter. |
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"Not in the slightest, we are all here for a reason and it's not something i've ever considered asking anyone i've ever slept with tbh."
I can’t imagine asking the question! |
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Tbf he is saying he didnt ask.. i wrongly assumed he did .. so maybe she wanted to be judged by him .. maybe not by a full swinger site mind but yano 🤣🤷♀️ |
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"Not in the slightest, we are all here for a reason and it's not something i've ever considered asking anyone i've ever slept with tbh.
I can’t imagine asking the question!"
Exactly and it really shouldn't matter at all if you like each other. |
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"Not in the slightest, we are all here for a reason and it's not something i've ever considered asking anyone i've ever slept with tbh.
I can’t imagine asking the question!
Exactly and it really shouldn't matter at all if you like each other. "
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"Tbf he is saying he didnt ask.. i wrongly assumed he did .. so maybe she wanted to be judged by him .. maybe not by a full swinger site mind but yano 🤣🤷♀️"
Very true he did say that |
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The only concern I have on numbers is of they are fucking lots of different people in a very short space of time continuously.
Other than that, I dont really care as long as safe and test often |
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental.
I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past.
Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people.
Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️
That said, I'm not judging, but I don’t think it’s just about liking sex. You could be with one or two partners and have sex a thousand times, or sleep with 175 different people and have sex 175 times. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story, it’s the context and mindset behind it that matter."
Some women enjoy sex with different partners because they get pleasure and enjoyment from experiencing/connecting with new people, or multiple people at the same time, or having sex with strangers.
Why do we always have to pathologise women's sexuality?
Nobody ever questions if there's a "reason" a man has fucked 200 women. |
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By *hireLad OP Man 3 days ago
Aberdeenshire |
Yes just to totally clarify i did not ask haha. We were talking about what we would like to try and explore she said shes done it all as been with that many people. I wasn't put off i was just surprised a little someone could get a high number without being a swinger or something like that. |
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By *sWyldWoman 3 days ago
Edinburgh |
"Here, no. We're here for a reason.
For a partner, yes. "
Why is there a difference? |
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental.
I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past.
Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people.
Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️
That said, I'm not judging, but I don’t think it’s just about liking sex. You could be with one or two partners and have sex a thousand times, or sleep with 175 different people and have sex 175 times. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story, it’s the context and mindset behind it that matter.
Some women enjoy sex with different partners because they get pleasure and enjoyment from experiencing/connecting with new people, or multiple people at the same time, or having sex with strangers.
Why do we always have to pathologise women's sexuality?
Nobody ever questions if there's a "reason" a man has fucked 200 women. "
The same can be said for both men and women. I know of men and women who have had over 300 sexual partners. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does. "
Why the difference? 🤔 |
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"Yes, to a point, it would make me want to understand why, not judgmental.
I’d want to understand the reasons behind it, because I believe people do things for a reason. It’s important to look at the full picture rather than judge someone solely on their past.
Of course, I’d also want to know about their sexual health and overall well-being. That said, I know of people who’ve slept with over 300 people.
Maybe the reason is she just likes sex?! 🤷🏻♀️
That said, I'm not judging, but I don’t think it’s just about liking sex. You could be with one or two partners and have sex a thousand times, or sleep with 175 different people and have sex 175 times. The number alone doesn’t tell the full story, it’s the context and mindset behind it that matter.
Some women enjoy sex with different partners because they get pleasure and enjoyment from experiencing/connecting with new people, or multiple people at the same time, or having sex with strangers.
Why do we always have to pathologise women's sexuality?
Nobody ever questions if there's a "reason" a man has fucked 200 women. "
Probably cos he’s exaggerating and full of it |
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By *IXEN200Woman 3 days ago
newcastle upon tyne |
"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔"
I was just thinking 🤔 this myself |
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An abacus is always useful for keeping an accurate record to share with prospective suitors. Apparreny a nine-digit abacus can record 999,999,999 occurences.  |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???"
I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️
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Yes. It would make me think twice. I'm not a swinger and therefore I'm not looking for ephemeral encounters. I'm looking for something with substance and connections that mean something beyond the transient superficialities.
A reasonable complement of sexual partners is fine. For example, what isn't fine for me is when I've met someone on a Monday for an overnight date, and I'm still glowing for days, but the other person is on their third encounter by the end of the week.
As I've said I'm not a swinger. This is just me. |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👌 |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️"
🤣🤣🤣 |
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"Why would you ask her how many she has slept with, it sounds like you could carry a bit of Jealousy, if so swinging isn't the game for you.
Bit of a stretch and jump to conclusions there. What makes you think he asked her? He said nothing to imply that, but you label him and jump to a stupid conclusion."
I've never once known a lady to confess the number of partners they have had and I'm well into three figures not counting the ones whilst swinging. |
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔"
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?  |
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175 are decent numbers. She must be hot.
(Jk) |
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I've sucked over 500 different cocks. If it bothers people, well there's nothing I can do about it. I'm not going to lie if asked |
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"I've sucked over 500 different cocks. If it bothers people, well there's nothing I can do about it. I'm not going to lie if asked "
Well done for keeping count ... impressive |
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely? "
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you? |
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I operate a don’t ask don’t tell policy |
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you? "
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours. |
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours. "
It's crazy how a logical reason bugs others so much. |
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By *indergirlWoman 3 days ago
somewhere, someplace |
"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours. "
But what if it was over their lifetime, for example someone could have had sex with 5/6 different men a year since they were 18 and that would total 175 nearly..... |
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By *indergirlWoman 3 days ago
somewhere, someplace |
"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
But what if it was over their lifetime, for example someone could have had sex with 5/6 different men a year since they were 18 and that would total 175 nearly....."
Forgot to add in their mid 40's |
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
It's crazy how a logical reason bugs others so much."
The more you're on here the more crazies you'll encounter |
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Not at all why would it bother anyone ?? |
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
It's crazy how a logical reason bugs others so much.
The more you're on here the more crazies you'll encounter "
Lol too right. |
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"I operate a don’t ask don’t tell policy "
Good mantra 👌 |
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Why would anyone even ask that? Massive red flag 🚩 |
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Don't really see the difference between one person 100 times and 100 people once. The physical outcome is the same. Use protection etc and ultimately it's the same thing.
So it isn't a high number in terms of times they've had sex. You're concerned because she's what you may perceive as 'easy' then I presume? If consenting adults are horny and want to shag then all power to them. If she's not in a relationship then that's going to be with different people.
Men would do the same, they just typically can't. That's why the number seems high. But even an unattractive female can go out on a whim and almost certainly find someone to sleep with. If guys could have sex with someone everytime they're horny then they would.
The perception that this is an issue really stems from men being jealous.
Sex is sex. It's a physical drive we and basically every other animal have. Like needing to eat or go to the loo. We're literally built to do it.
Question - would you rather she'd slept with one person 5000 times or 176 people once and had sex a total of 176 times? If your answer is the one person 5000 times then I'd be interested to know why 👍 |
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Some people are bothered. Some aren't. Those who are looking around for easy sex but wouldn't consider a relationship with someone with high numbers should probably just keep it in their own pants before they destroy their own ability to pairbond or whatever 💜 |
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Yes
If she’s ’promiscuous’ then do one 👍✌️ |
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"Yes
If she’s ’promiscuous’ then do one 👍✌️"
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???"
Nope none of my business. 175 is pretty low imo if people fuck regular in this game over the years |
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
It's crazy how a logical reason bugs others so much.
The more you're on here the more crazies you'll encounter "
Why is it crazy though?
I know for a fact I've likely slept with a similar number in my life as the girls in the OP.
I've never felt judged by anyone. Its never hindered me finding a relationship.
Sure, people will have different views. But what if the girl of your dreams rocked up, you fell in love, married, had kids and on her deathbed she announced she'd slept with 500 people before you.
Would it really change your view of her at that point?
Or is it a case of what you don't know doesn't hurt you? Because I'd bet there's plenty who'd never dream.of telling you even a rough number, or would fib if there was any indication shown that they'd be viewed negatively by a guy if they told the truth. 🤷♂️
Everyone has a past. You can't change it, nor does it affect your future. |
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It bothers a lot of people hence the number of profiles that say they're not 'looking to sleep their way through the site' and the occasional thread asking about 'body count' |
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"Yes
If she’s ’promiscuous’ then do one 👍✌️
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No we are all diferant and you need to try befor you buy, so to speak.
Some are lucky to find a sole mate some like verity.
So long as in the moment we focus on each other that's fine. |
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If she was a Virgin, you would worry you weren't enough,
If she fucked a rugby club, you would worry you weren't enough..
Enjoy, love, feel. |
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If a guy told me he'd had sex with 175 people my opinion of him would depend on his attitude towards those people and to women who've had sex with a similar number |
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"Yes
If she’s ’promiscuous’ then do one 👍✌️"
Yet thus is sex site ultimately lol most normal civilian people would look down with disgust and disdain at any man / woman on sites like this as tainted / corrupt.
We are all swimming In filth ultimately on here regardless  |
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does. "
Say you want to be blocked by couples without saying "I want to be blocked by couples"
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"For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me. "
Sounds like she's testing you. |
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Everyone has a past. You can't change it, nor does it affect your future. "
And remember folks, if you are attracted to them now it's their past that shaped them into who they are 😊 |
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"It bothers a lot of people hence the number of profiles that say they're not 'looking to sleep their way through the site' and the occasional thread asking about 'body count'"
Also "quality not quantity" |
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" she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. "
It's a high number if it's over one weekend |
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As someone who takes their sexual health very seriously - Yes
Even if you are protected AND regularly tested, there’s still things you can catch.
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Even if you are protected AND regularly tested, there’s still things you can catch.
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Every time I cross the road I could get knocked down and killed but I prefer to take the risk rather than stay indoors. |
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"My wife has had two"
How many have you ? |
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If they were all in the same session then I'd be honest and say "sorry but I don't have that sort of stamina or many repeats"
Otherwise you've got someone who may be good to learn things from. |
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Thanks for writing this post. I know to avoid you. |
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What a loaded post! Then again always grateful for these so you know who to avoid. Only people that judge care to ask that question. You can’t undo your past. How ironic that Fab is full of married/ involved men who aren’t getting what they need at home….. Sexual compatibility is a lot more important than most think and it’s something very few are willing to compromise on. |
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By *manteeCouple 2 days ago
Manchester |
Em has had 24 different men since new years day |
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I mean everyone is different, but it wouldn’t bother me how many they had slept with in the past though at some point you lose count? 🤣
I think the difference is that people maybe don’t want to be sleeping with loads of people at the same time, for the sexual health reasons but also cos a lot value connection and that’s trickier with lots of people all at once! |
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Not at all.. doesn't bother me at all.
Some questions aren't meant to be asked if you dont wanna know the answer |
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How about a really low number, i.e. 4 in my case. Is that an issue? |
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"Not at all.. doesn't bother me at all.
Some questions aren't meant to be asked if you dont wanna know the answer "
This! |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️"
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️
If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke "
From the American pie movie by any chance? 🤣🤣🤣 |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️
If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke "
Fair play to you for confidently announcing you’re judgemental. Always nice to know who makes sweeping statements.
For the record if I told you my body count you wouldn’t need to multiply it by 3 (shock horror people exist that tell the truth) |
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No not at all |
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I once met a couple and she had fucked 49 men on her holiday and I didn’t fancy being number 50. |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️
If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke
Fair play to you for confidently announcing you’re judgemental. Always nice to know who makes sweeping statements.
For the record if I told you my body count you wouldn’t need to multiply it by 3 (shock horror people exist that tell the truth)"
How is acknowledging that people exagerate or downplay the numbers judgemental.🤷 |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? I’d take it with a pinch of salt she could be just exaggerating I mean some of you guys do 🤷🏻♀️
If someone tells me how many people they've shagged I'll x3 if it's a woman and ÷3 if its a bloke
From the American pie movie by any chance? 🤣🤣🤣"
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By *eliWoman 2 days ago
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It's not a high number - there are people who've probably done at least double that.
I don’t think there's anything wrong with people not being compatible with others, minus the judgemental slant. I'm not compatible with someone who meets multiple people a week - nothing wrong with it, it's not how I do things.
And people use lots of things to decide if they're not compatible; it could be down to number they've met, who, how many in a timeframe, if they're more club based as opposed to one on one. It's okay to do that. Being a bit judgey isn't the way to go about it though. |
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It's information I (Mr) would rather not have. I wouldn't ask and wouldn't wish to know.
Its like profiles that have hundreds of verifications...they could be a perfect match, but I find it off putting. |
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By *AYENCouple 2 days ago
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175 is too high for us, 174 is our cut-off point |
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No. And even if I asked people, plenty wouldn't have a clue.
Everyone has different criteria and if that's one yours then fair enough.
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By *arknatCouple 2 days ago
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Not at all, love knowing all the things she got up to before  |
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Not in the slightest for me, besides experience is a good thing |
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"175 is too high for us, 174 is our cut-off point "
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I'm going to get whinged at but yes. I don't like the idea of sex with someone that's been around.
This is why people should keep things to themselves really, they make private matters everyone else's business, then are shocked when they're judged |
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People by their very nature are judgemental. It’s how they choose options, especially with people who they are interested in forming relationships with. It’s how they filter the yays from the nays. Everyone has different standards or expectations and that’s fine. It’s perfectly normal.
This is a swingers site, so straight away, people on here will be judged by the non swinging communities. The idea of partners being shared casually for thrills exited some people and disgusts others.
I think that the body count thing comes down to people’s expectations of loyalty and monogamy. People will look at the past to predict the future.
I’ve heard people describe swingers as people who behave like alley cats. That’s fine, that’s their opinion. Swingers usually describe that sort of person as prudish, uptight and frigid.
We’re not all compatible and never will be. |
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"People by their very nature are judgemental. It’s how they choose options, especially with people who they are interested in forming relationships with. It’s how they filter the yays from the nays. Everyone has different standards or expectations and that’s fine. It’s perfectly normal.
This is a swingers site, so straight away, people on here will be judged by the non swinging communities. The idea of partners being shared casually for thrills exited some people and disgusts others.
I think that the body count thing comes down to people’s expectations of loyalty and monogamy. People will look at the past to predict the future.
I’ve heard people describe swingers as people who behave like alley cats. That’s fine, that’s their opinion. Swingers usually describe that sort of person as prudish, uptight and frigid.
We’re not all compatible and never will be. "
Perfectly balanced, as all things should be |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 days ago
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I've had sex with a very low number of guys, but the guys I tend to go for have slept with a lot of women.
It doesn't bother me, when I'm with them in that moment is all that matters, what they did before or what they do after doesn't come into it.
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It doesn't bother me in the slightest. Your past is your past, you can't influence it nor be too judgemental of it
What I could do without is comparing me to others whilst we do the deed, which has happened once! |
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Say you want to be blocked by couples without saying "I want to be blocked by couples"
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What was the reason for telling you, I'd be wondering. |
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"What was the reason for telling you, I'd be wondering."
This is what I thought too.
Sounds like she wanted a reaction from you OP.
Who I’ve slept with before someone else isn’t something I discuss with anyone. Sexual health is a discussion topic between potential partners. Discussing previous ones is not 👍🏻 |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl ... but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys"
I think this actually is judgemental because of your use of the word "but".
Like when people say "I'm not racist but ..." |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl ... but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys
I think this actually is judgemental because of your use of the word "but".
Like when people say "I'm not racist but ...""
Don't be so stupid, comparing it to a racist. Jesus Christ.
Of course it's judgemental. He has every right to be. As do you.
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No was obvious she was experienced when we first got together and now I love that she wants to experience more again |
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Don't be so stupid, comparing it to a racist. Jesus Christ.
Of course it's judgemental. He has every right to be. As do you.
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I'm not saying he's racist. I'm saying he's judgemental. |
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Don't be so stupid, comparing it to a racist. Jesus Christ.
Of course it's judgemental. He has every right to be. As do you.
I'm not saying he's racist. I'm saying he's judgemental. "
But your using racism as a comparison, when they are completely different.
One is by choice. The other isn't.
You can't choose your race, but you choose who you pick as a sexual partner and how many you sleep with, and anything made by choice is should be open to opinion by others.
Using race is extremely naive, and to me, shows just how easily you would use it in an argument for no reason whatsoever. |
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I can’t say it’s ever crossed my mind to ask anyone how many people they’ve slept with or to tell them how many I have.
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I'm here to try and get my number into double digits |
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By *avexxMan 2 days ago
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tbh ive never give it a thought |
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How often would you expect someone to have sex in their lifetime? Not everyone has 1 stable partner throughout their life. |
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"175 is too high for us, 174 is our cut-off point "
Show offs, mine is 176. And that is non negotiable. |
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Everyone has a past, hopefully a future...
It's very immature to ask how many people someone has had ....and let's be honest there's always room for comparison to the fish that was caught that was a monster when in fact it was a minnow ! |
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175! Wow, how could she! She's "damaged goods", OP, don't go anywhere near her! If you live in Middle Ages!
In 21st century, women are allowed to enjoy sex as much as they can, without being judged (though it is still happening). Are you sure you're on the right site, OP? You're not going to find many women on here (I'd think) who haven't met much. |
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does. "
Why? |
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The thing is, people are being judgmental of people who are being judgemental!!
If someone deems 175 too many, that's their prerogative. Who is anyone to say they shouldn't think that. It's up to them. Just like if someone sleeps with 100 in a week, that's also up to them. We all have our own criteria. |
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Depends if they get tested regularly for STIs |
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Using race is extremely naive, and to me, shows just how easily you would use it in an argument for no reason whatsoever. "
I was actually highlighting the use of the word "but".
I used that phrase as an example of the negative use of the word "but".
I repeat, I am not saying the OP or anyone on this thread is racist.
You have called me stupid, you have called me naive. I haven't insulted anyone other than saying I consider the OP to be judgemental. |
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Really? Is this a genuine question? Are we seriously entertaining the notion that it's OK to question... oh wait you guys are on it, I'll defer I don't need another ban 🤣😂 RIP OP |
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"The thing is, people are being judgmental of people who are being judgemental!!
If someone deems 175 too many, that's their prerogative. Who is anyone to say they shouldn't think that. It's up to them. Just like if someone sleeps with 100 in a week, that's also up to them. We all have our own criteria."
Exactly. We all have choices. There’s sooo many reasons I won’t meet people which im sure the majority on here would find ridiculous 🤣. I don’t feel the need to broadcast them though or listen to peoples opinions on them. |
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I mean at group sex events / you can easily burn through 10-20 people in one session |
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Don’t think I’ve ever asked that question, as long as she’s not Bonnie blue we’re all adults and judging someone by the number of people they’ve been with means nothing. What difference does it make if someone has slept with 2 people but 500 times, or 80 people a total of 400 times 🤷♂️ |
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I have just had a very similar experience.
I LOVE sex and met a guy on a dating site and we got on really well and sex was amazing ( and often ) he said time and again that he loved that my sex drive matched his.he moaned that ever other girl he had been with hadn't really been in to sex or had been shit at it . But then came the dreaded question I lied and said 30/40 ( it's a lot higher) and he said that put him off and we stopped talking after that .
I am sorry but your never going to find a virgin niphamanac !!! |
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"Don’t think I’ve ever asked that question, as long as she’s not Bonnie blue we’re all adults and judging someone by the number of people they’ve been with means nothing. What difference does it make if someone has slept with 2 people but 500 times, or 80 people a total of 400 times 🤷♂️"
There is a difference between having regular sex with one partner and lots of single encounters with different partners. Although the may have had the same amount of sex, it’s the multiple partners that seems to put people off. |
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If a guy is was chatting to with a view to dating asked me this, I'd immediately go right off him |
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Nope.
None of my business at all.
Why should it matter? |
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By *icksaxCouple 2 days ago
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My first wife was 23 when we met and she was his dinner, she asked me about my number and that was pretty easy to work out and then she told me she had absolutely no idea and couldn’t even guess, which was kind of a turn on |
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By *abba44Man 2 days ago
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Thats why i`m on Prep and use a rubber. |
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"Don’t think I’ve ever asked that question, as long as she’s not Bonnie blue we’re all adults and judging someone by the number of people they’ve been with means nothing. What difference does it make if someone has slept with 2 people but 500 times, or 80 people a total of 400 times 🤷♂️"
I think the Bonnie Blue thing was a fake publicity stunt anyway.
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"I have just had a very similar experience.
I LOVE sex and met a guy on a dating site and we got on really well and sex was amazing ( and often ) he said time and again that he loved that my sex drive matched his.he moaned that ever other girl he had been with hadn't really been in to sex or had been shit at it . But then came the dreaded question I lied and said 30/40 ( it's a lot higher) and he said that put him off and we stopped talking after that .
I am sorry but your never going to find a virgin niphamanac !!! "
He's not looking for a virgin nympho, just someone who hasn't had 40 (or alot more since you lied) different cocks inside them. He's doing what's best for him, as you sleeping with 40+ men is doing what's best for you.
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How old is she thou not high if she's older
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"For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me. "
By posting this question, i assume that her number does bother you.
Her being open about it would imply (in my opinion) that she has told people before and it has put them off. Her honesty about it should not be a concern, in my eyes.
Or are you more concern about how you compare ?
If they were that great she would still be with them
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"For just a liaison? No.
For potential relationship material? Yes it does.
Why the difference? 🤔
Because with one you would want commitment and with the other, it's not so important. Its not that trivial surely?
So forgetting about swinging, you couldn't have commitment with someone that had slept with 175 people before you but never slept with anyone else again in their lives other than you?
I'm saying it matters in that context. I'm not saying person 'x' could not provide commitment but I wouldn't want to take that risk. It's called a reputation and it matters in my world even if it doesn't in yours.
But what if it was over their lifetime, for example someone could have had sex with 5/6 different men a year since they were 18 and that would total 175 nearly....."
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I have never been bothered about anyone's sexual past, as long as they have looked after their sexual health.
Being on a site like this, we all know why we are here, and couples may experience over 100plus playtimes ... singles may experience playtime in many forms, but IMO being on the swinging scene means sexy time is always available somewhere. So whether it's just a few people someone has played with or many, it isn't our right to judge.
If the lady in question said that and it hasn't put OP off then what doesn't it matter. Long time dead. Fuck it ... literally lol |
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I'm just waiting for her to reassure OP that he shouldn't worry, he's the only guy that really matters to her - because, after all, the other 175 were just paying customers... |
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Sooooo do we still think its warm today then 🤣🙊 |
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"I have just had a very similar experience.
I LOVE sex and met a guy on a dating site and we got on really well and sex was amazing ( and often ) he said time and again that he loved that my sex drive matched his.he moaned that ever other girl he had been with hadn't really been in to sex or had been shit at it . But then came the dreaded question I lied and said 30/40 ( it's a lot higher) and he said that put him off and we stopped talking after that .
I am sorry but your never going to find a virgin niphamanac !!!
He's not looking for a virgin nympho, just someone who hasn't had 40 (or alot more since you lied) different cocks inside them. He's doing what's best for him, as you sleeping with 40+ men is doing what's best for you.
I have been tested and sex ( other than that had in a long-term, committed relationship) has always been safe . I have never cheated in a relationship. So why is the fact I enjoy sex off-putting?
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"For your information i never asked her number she told me and asked if it bothered me.
By posting this question, i assume that her number does bother you.
Her being open about it would imply (in my opinion) that she has told people before and it has put them off. Her honesty about it should not be a concern, in my eyes.
Or are you more concern about how you compare ?
If they were that great she would still be with them
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I'd like to know how she's keeps track? Does she have a spreadsheet?
I've slept with less than 20 and I even have to take a few minutes to try and remember he exact number. |
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"Sooooo do we still think its warm today then 🤣🙊"
You could slice me up and serve me with gravy |
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"Sooooo do we still think its warm today then 🤣🙊
You could slice me up and serve me with gravy "
Ooh you flirt you |
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By *aven.Man 2 days ago
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"I have just had a very similar experience.
I LOVE sex and met a guy on a dating site and we got on really well and sex was amazing ( and often ) he said time and again that he loved that my sex drive matched his.he moaned that ever other girl he had been with hadn't really been in to sex or had been shit at it . But then came the dreaded question I lied and said 30/40 ( it's a lot higher) and he said that put him off and we stopped talking after that .
I am sorry but your never going to find a virgin niphamanac !!!
He's not looking for a virgin nympho, just someone who hasn't had 40 (or alot more since you lied) different cocks inside them. He's doing what's best for him, as you sleeping with 40+ men is doing what's best for you.
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Depends on who they sleeping with.
Alot of dirty smelly people around. |
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"Sooooo do we still think its warm today then 🤣🙊
You could slice me up and serve me with gravy
Ooh you flirt you "
Me! Never!!!! |
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Some men just want nymphos to satisfy their urges for a bit, but want to marry a virgin.. never mind about their partner being a fully rounded person and experiencing a satisfying and varied sex life themselves 🙄
I couldn’t give a shit in terms of numbers, but practicing safe sex and getting tested regularly is important. |
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By *a LunaWoman 2 days ago
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If someone brought up the fact they’d had 3456 sexual partners then I’d be lying if my eyebrows wouldn’t be slightly raised.
But if they were just a shag I’d not be bothered.
Relationship wise I’d probably worry if my solitary fanny would be enough to satisfy them.
But I’d not ask. And anyone who volunteers their sexual partners number without being asked is a bit of a dick. |
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By *oobaaMan 2 days ago
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Havent a clue how many I ve had sex with..and its got nothing to do with me how many other people have either |
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️"
This^^^
Also, are you suppose to keep count on how many you slept with???
I don't see why body counts matter personally. I dont give a damn how many people someone slept with... that's their business not mine Just as the number of people i slept with isnt other peoples business |
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By *AYENCouple 2 days ago
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Don't be so stupid, comparing it to a racist. Jesus Christ.
Of course it's judgemental. He has every right to be. As do you.
I'm not saying he's racist. I'm saying he's judgemental.
But your using racism as a comparison, when they are completely different.
One is by choice. The other isn't.
You can't choose your race, but you choose who you pick as a sexual partner and how many you sleep with, and anything made by choice is should be open to opinion by others.
Using race is extremely naive, and to me, shows just how easily you would use it in an argument for no reason whatsoever. "
I think you're missing the point - all words before 'but' don't count. You can apply it to any situation, you're a great candidate 'but' you didn't get the job. If they thought you were a great candidate you would have got the job. |
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By *AYENCouple 2 days ago
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"175 is too high for us, 174 is our cut-off point
Show offs, mine is 176. And that is non negotiable. "
We're quite flaky - if she could assure us that a couple of her partners lost their hardon and didn't come, we could be pushed to 175. |
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In reality though if someone asked me exactly how many I’d just simply say it’s none of their business ultimately and that all they need to know is yes I am experienced like them |
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"Id be put off with someone asking me ... im not 16 🤷♀️"
This ! Like grow up  |
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