Would love people just to have conversations with.
Doesn’t have to lead anywhere. Most people near me don’t seem to be overly interested so happy to talk to people
Might make some new friends
Would rather chat with ladies but if guys have something interesting to contribute (no dicks please already have one and can look at my own if I need to) |
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You are right, less and less people, or at least the percentage of registered profiles that want to talk and chat has reduced.
It’s kind of more (yes/no) ghost you if they don’t like you practice everyone seems to have adopted on sights like these now. |
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"We've had a couple of really pleasant conversations with people recently.
I'm very wary though because it's so rare for a man to actually want just conversation "
There is a minority of people that spoil it for others. But if you ever wanted a chat please message me!..lol. Sorry that was very mercenary of me! Lol |
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I'm not meeting at the moment because I'm going through some health issues, but I'm still chatting to people...and they're local too. They know what I'm going through, and we still seem to be building a friendship, which is nice; and who knows, when life is a little less complicated, we might even meet. But there's no expectations, we're just enjoying the chat 😁 |
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"I'm not meeting at the moment because I'm going through some health issues, but I'm still chatting to people...and they're local too. They know what I'm going through, and we still seem to be building a friendship, which is nice; and who knows, when life is a little less complicated, we might even meet. But there's no expectations, we're just enjoying the chat 😁 "
That’s lovely to hear. Xx |
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Just to give the other side of it, whats the reason to have conversations if it's not to establish a connection to meet?
In my everyday life, I'm not a fan of having online conversations with anyone, even the people I know personally. I value connections in person, not through texting so I can't see the value of having other conversations.
And before anyone talks about compassion on a human level, I understand that. But on websites like this, very little interactions come without expectations and people can weaponise looking for 'genuine' connections when ultimately sex is the main focus. |
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I'm genuinely confused by the modern fashion of equating online messaging with conversation, chatting and talking, which for me are activities done in person. Aimless online messaging holds no appeal for me. Messages on any dating site should surely be a means to the end of meeting in person, even if that is just to chat! |
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"I'm genuinely confused by the modern fashion of equating online messaging with conversation, chatting and talking, which for me are activities done in person. Aimless online messaging holds no appeal for me. Messages on any dating site should surely be a means to the end of meeting in person, even if that is just to chat!"
As a younger woman I had penpals in Canada and USA. We exchanged letters on a semi regular basis and talked about all sorts of things. The net is just an updated version of that in some respects. I think as long as you're clear about intent there's no harm in just messaging. |
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By *riel13Woman 3 weeks ago
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You say it doesn't have to lead anywhere, so do you message women you aren't attracted to for just a conversation? I find that even just getting into a conversation and letting them know I am not interested in anything with them other than normal conversation, it always leads to them telling me something about being attracted to me, from mild flirting and that they fancy me to something disgusting they want to do to me/what they are thinking about doing to me... That is quite probably why you can't get conversation |
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I love a good chat, it's when the chat is being led in the direction of a sexual nature is when I lose interest and switch off....
Plenty of time for that, the sex stuff can be arranged after the face to face meeting, it's nice to get know someone away from the expectations and also it is revealing about the true intentions, like if you're just looking to dump a load then I'm not the person for you |
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"I'm genuinely confused by the modern fashion of equating online messaging with conversation, chatting and talking, which for me are activities done in person. Aimless online messaging holds no appeal for me. Messages on any dating site should surely be a means to the end of meeting in person, even if that is just to chat!
As a younger woman I had penpals in Canada and USA. We exchanged letters on a semi regular basis and talked about all sorts of things. The net is just an updated version of that in some respects. I think as long as you're clear about intent there's no harm in just messaging. "
Absolutely agree |
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I agree with liasonseeker above.
Messaging is NOT conversation but on a medium where text is king it is a way of communicating that has plusses as well as minuses..... BUT
Here is a big FAT cat for your pigeons....
Most people , the VAST majority , of people who attempt to strike up a conversation are BORING bloody BORING.
( yes I do know what makes two south poles or two north poles repel and i'm aware I think that those who cry bored are usually the most boring people of all )
You know ....... I'm going to start a sodding thread on it.
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"Generally people don’t want to run into meets in the supermarket etc so a lot of people will not want too local.
No I get messages saying I’m too far away! Too far away to chat?…🤷♂️😂😂😂"
I assume then women use that to narrow down who they are chatting to given the volume of messages.
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But if you have been sent a message and don’t reply due to the amount of messages how do you know what’s good or not… I saw in one profile.
‘I get some many messages I bulk delete.’
How can you see anyone that might interest you? |
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I actually have it in my profile that I am happy to have a polite conversation with anyone even if they aren’t what I am looking for. Sometimes it’s just nice to have a good chat. Unfortunately 90% of the time when chatting to a guy they try and turn it sexual and thats not something I’m into |
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"I actually have it in my profile that I am happy to have a polite conversation with anyone even if they aren’t what I am looking for. Sometimes it’s just nice to have a good chat. Unfortunately 90% of the time when chatting to a guy they try and turn it sexual and thats not something I’m into "
Surely that doesn't surprise you on here? |
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"I actually have it in my profile that I am happy to have a polite conversation with anyone even if they aren’t what I am looking for. Sometimes it’s just nice to have a good chat. Unfortunately 90% of the time when chatting to a guy they try and turn it sexual and thats not something I’m into
Surely that doesn't surprise you on here?"
No it really doesn’t. |
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"I actually have it in my profile that I am happy to have a polite conversation with anyone even if they aren’t what I am looking for. Sometimes it’s just nice to have a good chat. Unfortunately 90% of the time when chatting to a guy they try and turn it sexual and thats not something I’m into
Surely that doesn't surprise you on here?
No it really doesn’t. "
The only thing that surprises me is it’s as low as 90% 🤣 |
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"I actually have it in my profile that I am happy to have a polite conversation with anyone even if they aren’t what I am looking for. Sometimes it’s just nice to have a good chat. Unfortunately 90% of the time when chatting to a guy they try and turn it sexual and thats not something I’m into "
Happy to be in the ten percent club. I once noted the pants off someone talking about Simply Red. 😅 |
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I'm always happy to chat, but very often I find that there are numerous attempts to turn it into sexting. That's an immediate turn off and tune out for me.
Then there's also the 'I'd love to chat but I'm a boring fucker and have no interest in actually finding anything out about you' brigade. You know... Those people who send you three word messages and consider that to be chatty.
Good conversation is probably the exception here rather than the norm, but it does take time and effort, which isn't always easy to find if people's priorities are actually making connections with a view to meeting, rather than conversing. |
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By *riel13Woman 3 weeks ago
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"I actually have it in my profile that I am happy to have a polite conversation with anyone even if they aren’t what I am looking for. Sometimes it’s just nice to have a good chat. Unfortunately 90% of the time when chatting to a guy they try and turn it sexual and thats not something I’m into
Surely that doesn't surprise you on here?
No it really doesn’t. "
It doesn't but it should, eh?  |
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"I'm always happy to chat, but very often I find that there are numerous attempts to turn it into sexting. That's an immediate turn off and tune out for me.
Then there's also the 'I'd love to chat but I'm a boring fucker and have no interest in actually finding anything out about you' brigade. You know... Those people who send you three word messages and consider that to be chatty.
Good conversation is probably the exception here rather than the norm, but it does take time and effort, which isn't always easy to find if people's priorities are actually making connections with a view to meeting, rather than conversing."
Always up for a chat if you was at a loose end!xx |
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