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Does money make you happy?
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 days ago
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I think it does that up to a certain point, there was reasearch done on this and it was how money contributes to happiness when it helps us with basic needs, like, safety, food, education medicare stable housing, but once those things have been met, more money doesnt necesairy make you happy, but it can probably help a bit. I agree with that.
I heard one saying that he wished he had less money as it would make him happier as he already had to much of it he said. I guess as he doesnt now what to spend it all on.
It would be interesting to see what your view of it is, does money make you happy and do you also agree it does that up to a point, up to what point would that be?  |
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Other than the obvious answer, as i would love a chance to find out. Lol
I do think money and financial security does bring levels of happiness because you then have less general worries over life.
Not sure i would like a stupid amount of money. But enough so you dont have to worry about any unexpected bills etc. And enjoy things like holidays and days out more etc. |
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Happy might not be the phrase I'd use but it certainly helps. I've spent virtually everyday for last 3 years worrying about money.
If I had 10k I wouldn't necessarily be happy but I'd be able to pay off my debts and put money into my daughters account. I'd be able to breathe 😔 |
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By *ayHaychMan 4 days ago
Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work) |
Try this little exercise. I made it up but there is probabbly a better, “real”, version somewhere.
Imagine you have unlimited money and you would never have to worry about it again. You have several houses wherever you need them with staff to help cook, clean, and take care of chores. Transport is never an issue as you always have a chauffer to take you wherever you need. You have a personal stylist who sorts out your clothes and knows the styles you like. You have unlimited monry and so you have also given this amazing lifestyle to those you love and are close to.
Take a moment to close your eyes, and imagine this is your life. How it would feel for this to be your everyday norm. Visualise it and imagine how you would walk, talk, and feel.
Now consider if you would be happy. If so, what else would you want in life? If not, what do
you think would bring you happiness? |
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Enough money to not have to worry about money reduces worry, so closer to happy.
Money alone won't bring joy. And while it's entirely possible to feel happy in a moment while homeless and hungry it's unlikely to be sustainable long term 💜 |
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Yes very haha not so much the money but the freedom that comes with it, since having kids I’ve always feared being poor and not being able to give them what they want and never wanted to be one of those people where one missed pay and the whole house of cards falls, the trade off is I’ve never had nice things myself no nice car ever no fancy holidays haven’t been abroad in 20 years and I’m certainly not rich for it but now my kids are nearly grown up I can start enjoying the freedom that working hard saving and paying off my house and flat brings, I fully booked up with work this year but next year plan to take at least a week off between every job especially in summer. I wouldn’t have the freedom to do thst without managing money well the last ten years, my main regret is not starting earlier
On the flip side I have been happy when dirt poor, back when I had just been sacked in disgrace from one of my few jobs as an employee my partner at the time wasn’t working as I’d been making enough in my job so she didn’t have too so our income was zero we’re living off savings it was school summer hols so kids were off and it was probably the best summer we ever had but the stress was still there |
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Money doesn't make you happy. However money insecurity can make someone very unhappy!
Want to know why there's a mental health crisis? Something you will never escape as much as you believe it to, that is what's wrong. |
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I hate money, and having any excess makes me feel almost dirty. I donate often to multiple charities, and buy random necessities and gifts for people in my life, to get rid of what I don't need.
I hate how necessary it is for basically everything, I hate the way it corrupts people, and I hate that profit is prioritised over taking care of society. It doesn't bring happiness, but the lack of enough of it causes misery.
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"I hate money, and having any excess makes me feel almost dirty. I donate often to multiple charities, and buy random necessities and gifts for people in my life, to get rid of what I don't need.
I hate how necessary it is for basically everything, I hate the way it corrupts people, and I hate that profit is prioritised over taking care of society. It doesn't bring happiness, but the lack of enough of it causes misery.
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I agree wholeheartedly with you |
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"I hate money, and having any excess makes me feel almost dirty. I donate often to multiple charities, and buy random necessities and gifts for people in my life, to get rid of what I don't need.
I hate how necessary it is for basically everything, I hate the way it corrupts people, and I hate that profit is prioritised over taking care of society. It doesn't bring happiness, but the lack of enough of it causes misery.
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I never ‘get rid’ of money that I don’t currently need, I save it, for the day when I inevitably will need it, I think that is the responsible thing to do, as it lessens my burden on society. |
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Money is just a tool. It can be used to make your life better and it can also end up making your life worse.
If you spend your life chasing it - either because you don’t have enough to live on or because you simply want more - then it will destroy you. If you can live within your means then it will make you happy. |
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By *ustBoWoman 4 days ago
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Having no money worries would make life a lot less stressful. Having my own home and never having yo move again is something I would love but is highly unlikely at this stage. To never have to worry about bills etc would make life so much less stressful. And in that case happier. And I'm not talking about having millions to live a life of jet setting I mean enough so that if a bill suddenly comes in you're not stressing about paying it or buying food. |
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Having money relieves an awful lot of worries but it won't stop you being unhappy. On the whole though I'd sooner be miserable and rich than miserable and poor. I've been poor and that doesn't make you happy either. |
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"Having no money worries would make life a lot less stressful. Having my own home and never having yo move again is something I would love but is highly unlikely at this stage. To never have to worry about bills etc would make life so much less stressful. And in that case happier. And I'm not talking about having millions to live a life of jet setting I mean enough so that if a bill suddenly comes in you're not stressing about paying it or buying food. "
I agree with you. The 'we were poor but happy' mantra is only ever used on the past tense. |
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"Person make yuh rich?
I don’t have that type of riches; My riches is life.
FOREVER.
- Bob Marley 💛🖤💚"
Said Bob Marley, the guy who had an estate valued at over 20 million when he died, it’s easy to dismiss monetary wealth………. when you are loaded.  |
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"Person make yuh rich?
I don’t have that type of riches; My riches is life.
FOREVER.
- Bob Marley 💛🖤💚
Said Bob Marley, the guy who had an estate valued at over 20 million when he died, it’s easy to dismiss monetary wealth………. when you are loaded. "
I think he just valued his faith over his money. And his death certainly reflects that. |
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"Person make yuh rich?
I don’t have that type of riches; My riches is life.
FOREVER.
- Bob Marley 💛🖤💚
Said Bob Marley, the guy who had an estate valued at over 20 million when he died, it’s easy to dismiss monetary wealth………. when you are loaded.
I think he just valued his faith over his money. And his death certainly reflects that. "
I get what you are saying, but I also think it is very easy to value other things more in your life, when you know there are no financial worries. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 4 days ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I'd be willing to bet it would if I had any.
Still waiting for some generous billionaire to offer to test the theory, or for my lottery numbers to come up so for now at least it'll just remain a theory. 🤷♂️😭😭 |
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As they say money can’t buy you happiness but you can sail up to it in a fucking big yacht…
Money helps but I’ve travelled the world all my life and found remarkably happy people who have literally nothing and I know miserable rich folk. You can’t feel happy all the time, you need the stresses and strains of life for perspective, strive for contentment.
Money can’t buy time
Be thankful for what you have and how far in life you’ve made it… many haven’t and don’t
Don’t buy material things, buy experiences
Remember you only get 4000 weeks, if you’re lucky, don’t squander them |
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“Nothing is enough for the man to whom enough is too little. Epicurus”
It is not just that we want more but that we want more than others, who at the same time want more than us; this fuels an endless race. Blame the Jones' !
After wrestling with this question for a long time, a few years ago when looking into the subject, I read,(and for me it was, and is, a tough read) :
'Walden' (Hendry David Thoreau) and Transedentalist Philosophy and it was transformative for me at least, and it helped me find my personal answer to your question. I still read read it occasionally (still a tough read)
Personally, Spiritually and morally - I am now super content. |
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Happy not at all, yeah having enough money makes many things easier but happy, happyness no money can buy.... But the twist is to be honest to hisself... Do i really are happy or do I pretend to be happy... Habbyness always starts by everyone selfs.... And never cost something |
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Enough to not worry about bills. The more you have the more you want and then I see some people rather than pivoting to enjoying what they made, they just continue working into their 60s-70s which does make me wonder. Definitely want to reduce down to 3-4 days working at some point in my 50s to enjoy more time outdoors and doing things that brings me joy |
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My late mum used to say:
“Money isn’t everything, but it does put a smile on people’s faces”.
Money makes things easier but as time goes by, you realise that you need your health, your physical integrity, and the love of people around you. And some money to pay the bills and eat, yes.  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 days ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Never had enough money to make me happy tbh. But love the idea of if you have 5-10million then it gives you some kind of freedom.
Maybe like 500k to be mortgage free or something. Might help too."
Yes, having lots of money gives you some kind of freedom too |
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A lot of people saying money doesn't make you happy.
I'm willing to conduct a scientific experiment where you send me your money and I'll see if it affects my mood.
All donations welcome, please give generously! |
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By *lex46TV/TS 4 days ago
Near Wells |
I’ve had times in my life when I’ve been quiet well off and times when I’ve not really had much money.
I’m much happier as with money you can do the things you want to do. When you’ve no money and have debts you worry about buying essentials that you need just to live.
Currently I’m I’m a lot closer to being poor than rich. |
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"Ive just had a lecture from a very old aunt, find an older rich man about to peg it, get marrying him and make sure most of his money goes to you, is she on to something lol "
She's a wise woman! |
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Living on the breadline is a very specific kind of stress. It eats up almost every thought and ounce of energy you have, to the point where there’s barely any space left in your head or heart to notice or appreciate the positives in your life. You don’t even fully realise how tense everything feels because you’re just pushing through, going through the motions of living.
So yes, I think money is needed for happiness. At least up to the point where you’re not constantly in survival mode.
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The feel good factor of owning a nice furnished home, with a nice sized garage along with some cracking cars.
To be in a position that the only thing you moan about is how much tax you're paying, yet still have more than enough to live a healthy and happy lifestyle.
How can anyone be unhappy about that scenario? |
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What’s been said before. More money = less stress The stress of paying bills keeping a roof over your head! What gives you happiness is Freedom to do what you want and we live in a society where we have to buy our freedom |
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Eh not really but I've never had enough to really fix "everything". If I had more money than I knew what to do with I'd probably end up giving most of it away. My dream for some weird reason would be doing something like buying an ice-cream van, rocking up somewhere and just giving our free ice-cream all day it'd be great |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 days ago
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Having money relieves an awful lot of worries but it won't stop you being unhappy. On the whole though I'd sooner be miserable and rich than miserable and poor. I've been poor and that doesn't make you happy either. "
Hi nicecouple, yes, you are right there, having money relieves an awful lot of worries, yes, it wont stop you being unhappy too |
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i recently found out (out of the blue) i have a private pension which is due to pay out on my next birthday i will get £30,000 tax free then about £500 a month but my point is before this i thought i'd be working til i drop but now everything will change as i'll have more time to do the things that make me happy so yes in my case money does make you happy |
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By *azzy75Man 4 days ago
Houghton le Spring |
Having too much excess money as a young man with no obligations led to a 15 year gambling addiction for me. Fruit machines. But if I had that same level of excess income now, as a widowed single dad, I'd treat it very differently as I'm much older and wiser. So I think where you are in your life is a major factor in how you answer this question! |
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I _emember 15 or so years ago imagining the 'dream salary'. Now that very near 6figure has happened am I happier? No. Am I happy? Yes.
With the cost of living being so high it makes no difference.
I do like being able to shop and eat and cook what I want to, but should we feel successful because we can buy fresh produce and higher welfare meat and fish? In fact it makes me feel guilty because everyone should be able to afford healthy fresh food. Eating well should not be a privilege. 🙁
If I had loads of money there would be more bucket list things I'd do. So I think money buys you opportunities and experiences but equally I'm happy bumbling around living my life and enjoying every day. |
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Being content with the small things allows you to be happier.
Over the years I have sat with good friends and through varying points of my life with money and without.
And the fact is we always have a good time regardless of money that we have at that moment.
So to answer the question....sign up to my .....and pay me ....lol
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Having enough money to be able to do the things you need is wonderful. Having a bit more so you can do the things you want is even better. The mistake is having money and allowing it to become part of who you are! That's why so many killed themselves when the recession came! I have been broke and in debt, not a nice place, but I got through it. |
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It all depends on how we define happiness. People who don't have much money are not necessarily unhappy. Likewise, some people who have money are always seeking to have more money. Some who suddenly have money struggle to cope with it. I would say its all relative to a person's expectations in life. |
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"I think it does that up to a certain point, there was reasearch done on this and it was how money contributes to happiness when it helps us with basic needs, like, safety, food, education medicare stable housing, but once those things have been met, more money doesnt necesairy make you happy, but it can probably help a bit. I agree with that.
I heard one saying that he wished he had less money as it would make him happier as he already had to much of it he said. I guess as he doesnt now what to spend it all on.
It would be interesting to see what your view of it is, does money make you happy and do you also agree it does that up to a point, up to what point would that be? "
Tonight’s euromillions is estimated at £131 million.
Winning that would make me very happy.  |
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