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On "appreciation" threads (as let's be honest, women rarely start these for men here).
Do you enjoy being singled out by them? Do you find them creepy? Is it embarrassing being brought to the attention of the entire forum, often by someone you have little or no connection to? Has one of these threads ever caused the recipient to feel increased desire for the OP? Or the opposite?
I'm just curious as I personally find the whole phenomenon of these posts quite cringe for all involved. |
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Whilst a compliment or something is appreciated, anything more than that from (usually) a stranger is a little weird. And it doesn’t make you like them more, possibly will put that person in the weirdo category |
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I wouldn't know, no one's ever appreciated me that much 
But in general, depends on the person. Some are more prone to attention than others and some would find it mortifying.. either or, best to wank in private. |
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I found it overwhelming. I very much tried to downplay it and make it a funny thing but it seemed to take on a life of its own. It felt like there was no easy way to say “this is freaking me the fuck out” without coming across like a bitch.
But if someone enjoys that attention then good for them. |
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"I wouldn't know, no one's ever appreciated me that much
But in general, depends on the person. Some are more prone to attention than others and some would find it mortifying.. either or, best to wank in private."
You may have opened the floodgates for some appreciation posts here 😬
I agree about wanking in private though  |
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"Whilst a compliment or something is appreciated, anything more than that from (usually) a stranger is a little weird. And it doesn’t make you like them more, possibly will put that person in the weirdo category"
Yeah that's my suspicion too |
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"I found it overwhelming. I very much tried to downplay it and make it a funny thing but it seemed to take on a life of its own. It felt like there was no easy way to say “this is freaking me the fuck out” without coming across like a bitch.
But if someone enjoys that attention then good for them."
I think most would understand if you called someone out on an appreciation thread made for you. If someone made it without knowing you'd dislike it, then they didn't really know you at all. And if these things aren't called out they'll keep happening.
Like you say, these threads should be made only if the OP knows for sure that the recipient would like it |
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By *sWyldWoman 7 days ago
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I think its a bit weird. Often filled with people who desperately post knowing full well they dont have a hope in hell to have the person they post about.
That must then be really awkward for the person |
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"Men can respond too by the way, I realise that excluding them in the title wasn't really necessary as everyone's opinions are valid here, not just the "victims"  "
Ok, think it's cringy as fuck tbh.... that's just my opinion though |
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If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends. |
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"Men can respond too by the way, I realise that excluding them in the title wasn't really necessary as everyone's opinions are valid here, not just the "victims" "
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I was reticent, at first, in participating. I was going to say how about the "Happy Birthday" threads? Some people relish in those and some people on this thread have been the progenitors and the subject of such threads . |
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends. "
The one about you got me thinking about the topic, but it's just the latest in a long line of these threads where it seemed like the recipient was ready to curl up and disappear as a result of being brought to the attention of the whole forum against their will. |
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It happened to me once. I felt embarrassed. Other people didn't like it and joined in to point out that there were women who deserved to be praised much more than I did.
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If people enjoy these threads I'm fine with it but I don't join in |
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"Men can respond too by the way, I realise that excluding them in the title wasn't really necessary as everyone's opinions are valid here, not just the "victims"
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I was reticent, at first, in participating. I was going to say how about the "Happy Birthday" threads? Some people relish in those and some people on this thread have been the progenitors and the subject of such threads ."
This is a good point. The birthday threads seem extra pointless, as who actually puts their real birthday here anyway? Just because someone is in the forum, which is a form of community, doesn't mean they like being stood up in front of the class for others to comment on. |
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"It happened to me once. I felt embarrassed. Other people didn't like it and joined in to point out that there were women who deserved to be praised much more than I did.
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If people enjoy these threads I'm fine with it but I don't join in "
Ouch, I hadn't even thought about how others could take offence and get nasty about the recipient  Sorry to hear that happened |
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"It very quickly moves from a well intentioned compliment to a bit weird and overwhelming. Like you’re a specimen being examined "
You hit the nail on the head here, it feels like being stood up in front of the class and having to take comments about yourself from people you may not want to get them from. For everyone to see! |
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"Men can respond too by the way, I realise that excluding them in the title wasn't really necessary as everyone's opinions are valid here, not just the "victims" "
Cringy, but a fair few of the threads are, ... But seem very popular for a bit of arse kissing. I guess it's the beauty of the fora, if you don't like a thread, next.... |
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"It happened to me once. I felt embarrassed. Other people didn't like it and joined in to point out that there were women who deserved to be praised much more than I did.
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If people enjoy these threads I'm fine with it but I don't join in
Ouch, I hadn't even thought about how others could take offence and get nasty about the recipient Sorry to hear that happened"
It's fine I take compliments and insults in exactly the same way on here |
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"Men can respond too by the way, I realise that excluding them in the title wasn't really necessary as everyone's opinions are valid here, not just the "victims"
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I was reticent, at first, in participating. I was going to say how about the "Happy Birthday" threads? Some people relish in those and some people on this thread have been the progenitors and the subject of such threads .
This is a good point. The birthday threads seem extra pointless, as who actually puts their real birthday here anyway? Just because someone is in the forum, which is a form of community, doesn't mean they like being stood up in front of the class for others to comment on. "
Online behaviour when men are trying to get a bunk up is sometimes quite peculiar |
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends. "
If you don't like it you can ask for it to be taken down |
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends.
If you don't like it you can ask for it to be taken down "
How do i do that ? X |
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends.
If you don't like it you can ask for it to be taken down
How do i do that ? X"
You have to start an appreciation thread for NiceCouple561 😄 |
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends.
If you don't like it you can ask for it to be taken down
How do i do that ? X
You have to start an appreciation thread for NiceCouple561 😄"
🤣 done! |
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends.
If you don't like it you can ask for it to be taken down
How do i do that ? X
You have to start an appreciation thread for NiceCouple561 😄"
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends.
If you don't like it you can ask for it to be taken down
How do i do that ? X"
Report the thread and ask if it can be removed |
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends.
If you don't like it you can ask for it to be taken down
How do i do that ? X
You have to start an appreciation thread for NiceCouple561 😄"
that would be a very short thread |
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"Also if you have appreciation for a woman on here, just send then a nice DM saying so. That is just me though 🤷♂️🤷♂️"
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I used to do that years ago and it actually worked: after three months they would finally find my message and open it. |
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"Also if you have appreciation for a woman on here, just send then a nice DM saying so. That is just me though 🤷♂️🤷♂️"
Exactly, the old school methods are still the best. I guess some like to force the interaction by broadcasting it on the forum though, essentially forcing a response, if not from the recipient then others |
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"If this is in relation to the one about me then no .. im actually quite mortified and choosing to ignore it and hope it dies off on its own.
Im sure the OP didnt mean it with any malice but its not something i wish to be a part of.
Thankyou everyone who has messaged me to tell me it exists im just choosing to ignore it and hoping everyone else does so that it ends.
If you don't like it you can ask for it to be taken down
How do i do that ? X
Report the thread and ask if it can be removed "
I didnt even know you could do that. Done 😁. Thanks |
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"Also if you have appreciation for a woman on here, just send then a nice DM saying so. That is just me though 🤷♂️🤷♂️
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I used to do that years ago and it actually worked: after three months they would finally find my message and open it. "
Better late than never I say 😀 |
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"Also if you have appreciation for a woman on here, just send then a nice DM saying so. That is just me though 🤷♂️🤷♂️
Exactly, the old school methods are still the best. I guess some like to force the interaction by broadcasting it on the forum though, essentially forcing a response, if not from the recipient then others"
Yep exactly. Like if you like a woman at a pub or bar, you'd go up to her face to face. You wouldn't shout, "everyone listen up, this woman right here I fancy her". |
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"What is an appreciation thread on fab? I think I'm being dim ?
Like thanking someone for loading a photo?? "
Sounds like someone needs an appreciation thread 😄
It's when someone creates a thread about another forumite, essentially thanking them for existing and asking others to show their appreciation |
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"Also if you have appreciation for a woman on here, just send then a nice DM saying so. That is just me though 🤷♂️🤷♂️
Exactly, the old school methods are still the best. I guess some like to force the interaction by broadcasting it on the forum though, essentially forcing a response, if not from the recipient then others
Yep exactly. Like if you like a woman at a pub or bar, you'd go up to her face to face. You wouldn't shout, "everyone listen up, this woman right here I fancy her". "
So true 🤣🤣 |
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"What is an appreciation thread on fab? I think I'm being dim ?
Like thanking someone for loading a photo??
Sounds like someone needs an appreciation thread 😄
It's when someone creates a thread about another forumite, essentially thanking them for existing and asking others to show their appreciation "
Oh 🤔🤔 |
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"What is an appreciation thread on fab? I think I'm being dim ?
Like thanking someone for loading a photo??
Starting a thread about a particular person to appreciate them "
I must just glaze over those 😆😆 |
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A whole thread about appreciating or fancying me would be uncomfortable, especially if by someone I didn't even know.
A mention on a thread where people name someone they fancy can be sweet but wouldn't make me more likely to meet a person.
I've had piss take posts made about me by friends though and they're usually funny. |
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"A whole thread about appreciating or fancying me would be uncomfortable, especially if by someone I didn't even know.
A mention on a thread where people name someone they fancy can be sweet but wouldn't make me more likely to meet a person.
I've had piss take posts made about me by friends though and they're usually funny."
I feel like the best way to meet someone and show appreciation is through social events or at a club. |
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We would detest a thread being made about us.
We assume that the appreciation threads are done with the prior consent of the person being appreciated.
Also it comes across very very creepy in some cases. |
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"We would detest a thread being made about us.
We assume that the appreciation threads are done with the prior consent of the person being appreciated.
Also it comes across very very creepy in some cases."
I think your assumption is not usually the case, unfortunately |
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"What is an appreciation thread on fab? I think I'm being dim ?
Like thanking someone for loading a photo??
Starting a thread about a particular person to appreciate them
I must just glaze over those 😆😆"
I think a few forumites "glaze" over them 😬 |
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"A whole thread about appreciating or fancying me would be uncomfortable, especially if by someone I didn't even know.
A mention on a thread where people name someone they fancy can be sweet but wouldn't make me more likely to meet a person.
I've had piss take posts made about me by friends though and they're usually funny."
Pisstake posts are always welcome when made by friends! |
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"A whole thread about appreciating or fancying me would be uncomfortable, especially if by someone I didn't even know.
A mention on a thread where people name someone they fancy can be sweet but wouldn't make me more likely to meet a person.
I've had piss take posts made about me by friends though and they're usually funny.
I feel like the best way to meet someone and show appreciation is through social events or at a club. "
I agree, I find that the best way to meet people too but that wasn't the question . |
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"It’s all fun and games until the appreciation post has only 4 responses and a snarky “who?” comment left by the latest forum biatch.
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Sometimes letting it die is the kindest thing 💜"
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Almost like an in-forum defenestration. 🩶 |
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By *eliWoman 7 days ago
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I think they're awful. Cringy, sentiments expressed that are far from true and done in the hope they'll get noticed. The people are lovely but placed on a spunk coated pedestal.
I dislike the fawning. The pressure placed on the person. The bitchy comments that can pop up.
Do you know what I really dislike though? The cyclic "appreciation for everyone" that follows.
(Friends doing it jokingly is very different!) |
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"I think they're awful. Cringy, sentiments expressed that are far from true and done in the hope they'll get noticed. The people are lovely but placed on a spunk coated pedestal.
I dislike the fawning. The pressure placed on the person. The bitchy comments that can pop up.
Do you know what I really dislike though? The cyclic "appreciation for everyone" that follows.
(Friends doing it jokingly is very different!)"
3 words I didn't expect to see together in this thread, yet they make perfect sense: "spunk coated pedestal"
Bravo 👏 |
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By *a LunaWoman 7 days ago
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"It’s all fun and games until the appreciation post has only 4 responses and a snarky “who?” comment left by the latest forum biatch.
Does this happen?? "
It can and it has, albeit not that I’ve seen recently. |
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I've had it happen once a few years ago and it was uncomfortable.
A woman who was well below my lower age filter and couldn't message, contacted some of my verifications asking them to persuade me to get in touch.
When they all refused she started a thread in my name and quoted parts of my bio in the hope I would be impressed and message her.
I did the opposite and blocked her because she didn't respect my filters and the whole thing was creepy. |
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