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By *roupfunGB OP Couple (MM) 7 weeks ago
liverpool |
Has anybody had received any outrageous excuses for not meeting? Sick kids has to be No.1 and then time of the month a close 2nd.
I have just had "I dropped a sofa on my foot while helping someone move"
You have to laugh, after all it is Fab but there must be some original excuses out there |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼 "
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta. |
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta."
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds |
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta.
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds "
They're entitled to change their minds, but last minute when they've probably been looking forward to the meet only to be lie to the other person is still pretty shitty behaviour. |
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I wouldn't say sick children and periods are outrageous excuses...
If someone feels the need to lie to avoid meeting me, I might think why can't they be honest. BUT then again, I'd still rather they lie, than ghost. |
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By *roupfunGB OP Couple (MM) 7 weeks ago
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Family commitments are an over used excuse, when majority of the time there is probably nothing wrong with family.
Family always come first, I am not disputing that, I am just generically talking of excuses used whether true or not. |
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"Every time a man post something the fab police arrives with the good boys on their side... so much hypocrisy "
I do think family commitments are the easiest excuse to pull out of a meet if they change their mind, but if you've spoken for a while and feel like you know them well then I would give them the benefit of the doubt. Generally you can tell if someone is about to pull out of a meet. The messages can be less frequent, more abrupt etc. |
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta.
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds
They're entitled to change their minds, but last minute when they've probably been looking forward to the meet only to be lie to the other person is still pretty shitty behaviour."
Agree.
Had a social meet planned years ago. He cancelled, said he had to have his child, I thought fair enough.
Next day, very graphic new verification referencing a meet that night, the night he cancelled me.
Just tell someone you've got a better offer etc. |
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"Every time a man post something the fab police arrives with the good boys on their side... so much hypocrisy
If a woman had posted this, my answer would have been the same."
Honestly do people think life doesn't happen?!?
I had to cancel a meet this week because I found out a family member had been diagnosed with cancer - that was none of the other parties business and I just said I'd had a bust week and wouldn't be good company, but we're all human beings connected to other people and have lives off this website |
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"Every time a man post something the fab police arrives with the good boys on their side... so much hypocrisy
If a woman had posted this, my answer would have been the same.
Honestly do people think life doesn't happen?!?
I had to cancel a meet this week because I found out a family member had been diagnosed with cancer - that was none of the other parties business and I just said I'd had a bust week and wouldn't be good company, but we're all human beings connected to other people and have lives off this website "
I had to cancel my very first meet. I had an accident and was in hospital for over a week.
We rescheduled. He still takes the piss out of me for being a time waster  |
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The time of the month one. People can and do have erratic cycles and if a period arrives earlier than expected, probably wouldn't want to meet someone for sex.
My hormones are what gave stopped me looking to meet at the min. |
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta.
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds
They're entitled to change their minds, but last minute when they've probably been looking forward to the meet only to be lie to the other person is still pretty shitty behaviour.
Agree.
Had a social meet planned years ago. He cancelled, said he had to have his child, I thought fair enough.
Next day, very graphic new verification referencing a meet that night, the night he cancelled me.
Just tell someone you've got a better offer etc. "
Yeah, that's shitty behaviour and you didn't deserve that. Also fucking stupid on his part thinking you wouldn't find out. |
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"The time of the month one. People can and do have erratic cycles and if a period arrives earlier than expected, probably wouldn't want to meet someone for sex.
My hormones are what gave stopped me looking to meet at the min. "
Yeah.
My uterus is a psychopath. I promise it hurts me more than it hurts you 🤷♀️ |
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about"
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause. |
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause."
Id accept the 'excuse' and move on 🤷🏼 |
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta.
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds
They're entitled to change their minds, but last minute when they've probably been looking forward to the meet only to be lie to the other person is still pretty shitty behaviour.
Agree.
Had a social meet planned years ago. He cancelled, said he had to have his child, I thought fair enough.
Next day, very graphic new verification referencing a meet that night, the night he cancelled me.
Just tell someone you've got a better offer etc. "
Had this happen with someone who was turning into a regular friend. Nagged for another meet and we managed to free a Monday evening up. He said he would be too tired on a Monday, so we didn't go. About 3 weeks later, he published the veri from someone else on that Monday! Needless to say we've never seen him again! |
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause."
What an odd thing to say. If a man doesn't want to meet any more then of course they don't have to and aren't obligated to. |
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause.
Id accept the 'excuse' and move on 🤷🏼 "
So much for a site where open and honest communication is supposed to be revered |
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause.
What an odd thing to say. If a man doesn't want to meet any more then of course they don't have to and aren't obligated to. "
Oh I agree. It's why I was questioning the reason for "a woman" being specified rather than people in general. Of course they aren't obligated to go through with it, but a bit of honesty also goes a long way. |
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By *otBunsHunWoman 7 weeks ago
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"Has anybody had received any outrageous excuses for not meeting? Sick kids has to be No.1 and then time of the month a close 2nd.
I have just had "I dropped a sofa on my foot while helping someone move"
You have to laugh, after all it is Fab but there must be some original excuses out there"
My kids and my personal health/cycle will ALWAYS come before anyone/anything else. Especially fab.
These are not excuses. They're reasons.
And even if they are then you might not be the hot meet you think you are
No one is obligated to meet you and plans can be changed and consent removed at anytime..
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause.
Id accept the 'excuse' and move on 🤷🏼
So much for a site where open and honest communication is supposed to be revered "
If I was chatting to someone and felt unsure about meeting them, I'd say so, I wouldn't make up an excuse as to why I'd changed my mind
I've always prided myself on my open and honest communication |
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Reasons I’ve cancelled recently:
I had my period 12 days earlier than expected. I’m in my 40s, my period isn’t on a regular schedule anymore. Cry about it if that upsets you.
My kid asked me to take him to the cinema. I’d already warned the person that I might not be available and in this case I put my kid first. Again, I don’t know how either of these would be considered ‘outrageous’ - if someone thought either was outrageous I’d think I just dodged a bullet by not meeting them
I couldn’t get my (courtesy) car off my driveway.
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause.
Id accept the 'excuse' and move on 🤷🏼
So much for a site where open and honest communication is supposed to be revered "
I think it's what we'd all prefer. It doesn't always happen, and we can't control other people.
I think most of us objecting are saying that these excuses are not always excuses. Stuff comes up with kids. Periods aren't always reliable. |
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tbf I've genuinely had sick kids, last minute, throwing up the whole lot. It's unavoidable and not an excuse at all.
So maybe some of these 'excuses' aren't excuses for not meeting at all...
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause.
Id accept the 'excuse' and move on 🤷🏼
So much for a site where open and honest communication is supposed to be revered
If I was chatting to someone and felt unsure about meeting them, I'd say so, I wouldn't make up an excuse as to why I'd changed my mind
I've always prided myself on my open and honest communication "
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause.
Id accept the 'excuse' and move on 🤷🏼
So much for a site where open and honest communication is supposed to be revered
I think it's what we'd all prefer. It doesn't always happen, and we can't control other people.
I think most of us objecting are saying that these excuses are not always excuses. Stuff comes up with kids. Periods aren't always reliable. "
Oh I get what you mean and as I said above, any time I've been cancelled always seemed legitimate and had no reason to question it. I took exception to the idea that someone can change their mind and make up an excuse to do so. Just because you're entitled to change your mind, doesn't make the communication any less important in my opinion. |
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta.
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds
They're entitled to change their minds, but last minute when they've probably been looking forward to the meet only to be lie to the other person is still pretty shitty behaviour.
Agree.
Had a social meet planned years ago. He cancelled, said he had to have his child, I thought fair enough.
Next day, very graphic new verification referencing a meet that night, the night he cancelled me.
Just tell someone you've got a better offer etc.
Had this happen with someone who was turning into a regular friend. Nagged for another meet and we managed to free a Monday evening up. He said he would be too tired on a Monday, so we didn't go. About 3 weeks later, he published the veri from someone else on that Monday! Needless to say we've never seen him again! "
Yeah this bloke didn't get another opportunity to mess me about. He still looks at my profile regularly though! |
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause.
Id accept the 'excuse' and move on 🤷🏼
So much for a site where open and honest communication is supposed to be revered
I think it's what we'd all prefer. It doesn't always happen, and we can't control other people.
I think most of us objecting are saying that these excuses are not always excuses. Stuff comes up with kids. Periods aren't always reliable.
Oh I get what you mean and as I said above, any time I've been cancelled always seemed legitimate and had no reason to question it. I took exception to the idea that someone can change their mind and make up an excuse to do so. Just because you're entitled to change your mind, doesn't make the communication any less important in my opinion."
Do you not think they're telling fibs because they don't want to hurt your feelings? |
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By *iSoloCouple 7 weeks ago
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Yes had one today after confirming last night he was definitely going to be there and this was his words…..
I’m really sorry to have to cancel but I have a family emergency and a death the police are here apologies Dave.
An hour before he is due to meet ! |
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"A woman can make up any excuse she wants if she's changed her mind about meeting someone she's unsure about
And a man? Would you feel like it's ok if someone you'd been chatting with cancelled last minute for a made up excuse? I don't think you understand the self doubt that lack of transparency can cause.
Id accept the 'excuse' and move on 🤷🏼
So much for a site where open and honest communication is supposed to be revered
I think it's what we'd all prefer. It doesn't always happen, and we can't control other people.
I think most of us objecting are saying that these excuses are not always excuses. Stuff comes up with kids. Periods aren't always reliable.
Oh I get what you mean and as I said above, any time I've been cancelled always seemed legitimate and had no reason to question it. I took exception to the idea that someone can change their mind and make up an excuse to do so. Just because you're entitled to change your mind, doesn't make the communication any less important in my opinion.
Do you not think they're telling fibs because they don't want to hurt your feelings? "
If it was someone I invested time in getting to know, it would hurt my feelings more that they felt the need to lie to me. |
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By *roupfunGB OP Couple (MM) 7 weeks ago
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For all you keyboard warriors out there, I did not ask anybody to disect my message, I was literally asking what excuses people had been given for cancelling meets, whether true or not.
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta.
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds
They're entitled to change their minds, but last minute when they've probably been looking forward to the meet only to be lie to the other person is still pretty shitty behaviour.
Agree.
Had a social meet planned years ago. He cancelled, said he had to have his child, I thought fair enough.
Next day, very graphic new verification referencing a meet that night, the night he cancelled me.
Just tell someone you've got a better offer etc.
Had this happen with someone who was turning into a regular friend. Nagged for another meet and we managed to free a Monday evening up. He said he would be too tired on a Monday, so we didn't go. About 3 weeks later, he published the veri from someone else on that Monday! Needless to say we've never seen him again!
Yeah this bloke didn't get another opportunity to mess me about. He still looks at my profile regularly though! "
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta.
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds
They're entitled to change their minds, but last minute when they've probably been looking forward to the meet only to be lie to the other person is still pretty shitty behaviour.
Agree.
Had a social meet planned years ago. He cancelled, said he had to have his child, I thought fair enough.
Next day, very graphic new verification referencing a meet that night, the night he cancelled me.
Just tell someone you've got a better offer etc.
Had this happen with someone who was turning into a regular friend. Nagged for another meet and we managed to free a Monday evening up. He said he would be too tired on a Monday, so we didn't go. About 3 weeks later, he published the veri from someone else on that Monday! Needless to say we've never seen him again!
Yeah this bloke didn't get another opportunity to mess me about. He still looks at my profile regularly though! "
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I wouldn't call them excuses, they can easily be genuine reasons. We've been cancelled on because life happened as it does. We've also had to cancel on friends for the same reason. My body is grumpy and regularly drags me to the depths of hell. I have to cancel all kinds of life plans sometimes if its having a tantrum, a fab meet up is not an exception.
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To be fair - we had some fun time planned this weekend (Saturday) just by ourselves and most likely on cam, but Mother Nature made an appearance 4 days early and put paid to that.
It does happen and sadly can’t be helped - not sure that can really be classed as an “excuse”
You can see the obvious ones when the chat slows down as you get closer to the day though. |
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"For all you keyboard warriors out there, I did not ask anybody to disect my message, I was literally asking what excuses people had been given for cancelling meets, whether true or not.
Thank you to those people that read that and then replied "
It's an open forum, and people are just reacting to what you said |
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By *arierWoman 7 weeks ago
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As someone whose child is constantly in and out of hospital with breathing difficulties, I’m not ashamed to admit I’m flaky. Obviously I’m not going to be going out getting dicked while my child is in hospital struggling to breathe just so I don’t let someone down 😂 |
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"For all you keyboard warriors out there, I did not ask anybody to disect my message, I was literally asking what excuses people had been given for cancelling meets, whether true or not.
Thank you to those people that read that and then replied "
I'm not being a 'keyboard warrior' I took offence at your two examples 🤷🏼 |
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I've always said that I've never had a no show in 10 years here but I've had 2 occasions where I knew I was a plan B.
I arranged to meet a woman close to where she worked and messaged that morning to confirm. She said she might not be able to make it as she had to work through her lunch and could be delayed by a late afternoon work meeting but she would confirm before I finished work at 5.
I heard nothing so decided just to go home and got a message at 6.30 when we were due to meet to say she was still in work and hoped we could rearrange.
The next morning she had 2 new verifications. One from a quickie she'd had during her lunch break and a second from someone who not only said their meet had been arranged weeks before but actually named the coffee shop we were to meet in.
Another woman started a thread about how often she had been stood up or messed around and when I got in touch she told me she would be staying in an hotel 5 mins from where I worked a few days later and we arranged to meet for coffee.
When I messaged to confirm that morning she feigned surprise and said we couldn't have arranged to meet because she wouldn't have time as she was meeting family.
I asked how I could have possibly known she would even be in town or where she was staying if we hadn't had that conversation?
Once again, the next morning she had a shiny new verification from a well known forum couple.
Neither caused any self doubt because they were obviously playing games but they taught me a valuable fab lesson which was never to pay any attention to status updates or accept being anyone's plan B.
Neither of them got a second chance despite the first woman expecting one. |
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I think anyone that has second thoughts has the right to back out, and might want to give a reason to soften the blow.
I don't think any of us have any right to second guess that even if we might be disappointed.
Assuming that it's automatically shitty behaviour is ....shitty behaviour! |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"Family commitments aren't an excuse?!!
TOTM... do you seriously expect a woman to have sex when she feels like her insides are falling out??
Great thread 🤷🏼
Family Commitments that suddenly appear an hr before you are meant to meet tend to be made up.
For example someone cancelled on me last minute, stating their son had just been hit by a car and was in intensive care and they were rushing there.
They must have forgotten I have them on social media because the next day I saw them and their perfectly healthy son at a restaurant on insta.
Id take the hint that they changed their mind and didn't want to meet
People are entitled to change their minds "
Your reply ignores the point of the comment |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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sick kid
got pissed with another couple the night before
ghosted
not sure what they want out of the swinging lifestyle
ghosted
ghosted
my grandaughter has an appointment at the specialist (1 day before meet)
my daddy needs to authorise the meet
booked polar express same date
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"Because there are so many no shows. Some people arrange to meet two people at same time. if first one is a winner second gets blanked or given a lame excuse.
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I've been the unwitting 'Plan b' for a woman who didn't show, and it fucking stinks. Being ghosted 24 hours before we had arranged to meet was kind of expected (because so many get last minute jitters, it's not the end of the world), but reading the veri she posted from the other guy was a kick in the balls...  |
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Given the fact I have really bad entrometiosis means my period could literally come at ANY time, sometimes I get 2 a month sometimes one that lasts 3 months and sometimes none for a month or two so it’s NOT an excuse and shouldn’t be seen as one. Same as last minute family issues especially if you have little ones. |
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By *olo180Man 7 weeks ago
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"Every time a man post something the fab police arrives with the good boys on their side... so much hypocrisy "
Maybe its the fact they post utter shit rather than it being a sexist thing 🤷🏻♂️ |
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Providing the other party has given a reason/excuse prior to meeting then it makes no difference whether it is a reason or an excuse
When the other party just doesn’t show up then attempts to give a piss poor excuse as to why then there’s reason to be pissed off |
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I've used 'I need to get home to feed the cats' as a reason to get out of being somewhere I didn't want to be.
Might use it to cancel any potential meeting too. My cat needs me.
There are worse things people can do than make up crap excuses.
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks. "
Were they wrong though?? 😂 (from a fellow Cancerian!) |
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks. "
Crazy in bed is good thing, no?
Unless it's meant literally |
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By *arierWoman 7 weeks ago
birmingham |
"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks. "
😂 are you though? |
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks.
😂 are you though? "
Well I'm nuts in bed. Emotional? Only if there's nothing good in the fridge 😂 |
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks.
Were they wrong though?? 😂 (from a fellow Cancerian!) "
We are just misunderstood 😂😂 |
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks.
Sounds like the unhinged shit a (insert their star sign here) would say."
I should have said sorry for being born in June |
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks.
Were they wrong though?? 😂 (from a fellow Cancerian!)
We are just misunderstood 😂😂"
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks.
Crazy in bed is good thing, no?
Unless it's meant literally "
I hage no idea but they're pretty much spot on. I am crazy in bed 😜 |
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By *ypersoonMan 7 weeks ago
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks. "
From a fellow Cancerian, I say (with sincerity) WOW, that sucks 😳 maybe their star sign said they weren't as wild as they thought they were 😜 |
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"I once got rejected from someone on here as they asked me what my star sign is. I said Cancer. And she said nope. Too emotional and crazy in bed. I was like hmmmmm, okay. Thanks. "
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It was her loss, dear fellow, her loss. These sirens wouldn't know a jolly good fellow if it bit them on their derrières. |
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The single man who had his wife go into labour early, so had to get to her
There was a glut of people with injured and sick pets posted a while ago.
And some who'd had a murder or neighbour arrested for murder next door
I think there must be a forum or app somewhere that generates a sad cancellation excuse, that's lightly plausible but generally implausible.
I think 1 man had his mother died twice |
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"The single man who had his wife go into labour early, so had to get to her
There was a glut of people with injured and sick pets posted a while ago.
And some who'd had a murder or neighbour arrested for murder next door
I think there must be a forum or app somewhere that generates a sad cancellation excuse, that's lightly plausible but generally implausible.
I think 1 man had his mother died twice "
An irish footballer cancelled playing for ireland twice with a dead grandmother excuse when she was still alive |
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I would just like to say that should you receive an outrageous excuse or even a reasonable excuse, then I’d be more than happy to step up to ensure that your day was not wasted.
Maybe I could start a service, “ Have your swinging plans for the day gone arwy? Not going to get the sexy fun time you were expecting? Then you need to call…….” |
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My Mrs on her singles account had a guy who made an excuse of not wanting to say where he lived. Told her to meet at the corner shop. This was after his location moved a few miles. Think he bottled it. Luckily she had a backup or her time wasted for nothing. |
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I once had a hot meet lined up for my birthday. I legitimately had to cancel because mother nature arrived 10 days too early.
It was very much not an excuse I can assure you, it still peeves me now that my birthday celebrations were more sitting on a sofa feeling sorry for myself than being used and abused by a totally divine couple! |
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"I once had a hot meet lined up for my birthday. I legitimately had to cancel because mother nature arrived 10 days too early.
It was very much not an excuse I can assure you, it still peeves me now that my birthday celebrations were more sitting on a sofa feeling sorry for myself than being used and abused by a totally divine couple!"
I feel for you I really do as this happens to me a lot and I feel doubly bad because it means my partner doesn’t get the fun either ( least he doesn’t get the suffering ) we try not to plan things too in advance now and if we plan to go to a club we literally decide on the day! I really don’t think men understand how frustrating it is for us and it’s never an ‘ excuse ‘ even if you remove the fact it’s too messy and gross they don’t realise the pain and suffering we endure and the last thing we want is to be intimate. |
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I have had I am in hospital, my brother is in hospital, death in the family etc ...
Although I did once get blocked by a hot married couple because I couldn't visit them as my back wheel had come off which was true, they just said I was a time waster and blocked me.. go figure, ah fab life indeed.
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The best and most honest I’ve had was a local couple who were supposed to be coming to mine. Blistering hot day, said they’d gone to a beer garden for some Dutch courage and ended up far too smashed to enjoy a threesome.
Better than being ghosted I guess. |
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By *weets69Woman 2 weeks ago
Nr almondsbury interchange |
I’ve genuinely got parent in hospital at present.
Had meet for today, arranged someone else to do the sat at hospital thing so I could do the meet, plus a break would do me good..
Drive all the way (1 hr 40 mins) sat in car park of location waiting for message as planned,
My messages go unread.
I leave 30 mins after scheduled time and make way home.
Now I apparently look like a no show and have arrived home to find messages just after I left asking where I am. Surely if you’re running late you’d say?
I don’t get it.
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"I’ve genuinely got parent in hospital at present.
Had meet for today, arranged someone else to do the sat at hospital thing so I could do the meet, plus a break would do me good..
Drive all the way (1 hr 40 mins) sat in car park of location waiting for message as planned,
My messages go unread.
I leave 30 mins after scheduled time and make way home.
Now I apparently look like a no show and have arrived home to find messages just after I left asking where I am. Surely if you’re running late you’d say?
I don’t get it.
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This sounds like a time waster tbh and maybe they are pretending they showed up so you don’t report them on here for being a no show ? |
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"One guy just sent me a video of himself at the gym while I waited at the place we were supposed to meet. was this a legit confusion of days? So confused. "
No. He was standing me up...
And being a dick. |
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"I once had a hot meet lined up for my birthday. I legitimately had to cancel because mother nature arrived 10 days too early.
It was very much not an excuse I can assure you, it still peeves me now that my birthday celebrations were more sitting on a sofa feeling sorry for myself than being used and abused by a totally divine couple!"
I know this isn’t for everyone, especially a first encounter, so apologies, but the amount of times a single female has said this and I’ve followed with, ‘it doesn’t bother me, in fact I find it quite dirty… in a good way’. All of a sudden, it’s been back on!
After all, it’s what washing machines are for. |
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"I’ve genuinely got parent in hospital at present.
Had meet for today, arranged someone else to do the sat at hospital thing so I could do the meet, plus a break would do me good..
Drive all the way (1 hr 40 mins) sat in car park of location waiting for message as planned,
My messages go unread.
I leave 30 mins after scheduled time and make way home.
Now I apparently look like a no show and have arrived home to find messages just after I left asking where I am. Surely if you’re running late you’d say?
I don’t get it.
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No you don't look like a No show. Your mesaages show you were there. I wouldn't wait 30mins! That's way too generous especially without a running late message.
I've always turned up so that I can say for sure that the other person didn't. Having said that if I or the other person had a genuine emergency I would totally give them a second chance if I felt it was genuine. Being ghosted is not acceptable and never warrants a second chance.
We waited an hour for a couple once...we were having drinks in a pub so that's why we stayed, but as soon as we said we were leaving they messaged to say they were arriving. That's not genuine. Probably some bloke in the pub just watching us. Like a creepy walker. |
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Less so with meets but I always tried to make dates something I'd do otherwise. So many coffees, but I always had a book to back up.
Part of the reason I always social first here too unless I'm pretty sure ... |
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Had a social meet planned years ago. He cancelled, said he had to have his child, I thought fair enough.
Next day, very graphic new verification referencing a meet that night, the night he cancelled me.
Just tell someone you've got a better offer etc. "
This is the worst!
I had tentative plans with a FWB, and when I pushed him to firm up plans he told me he was travelling across the country to be in the right place for a funeral in two days time (which I knew was going to be happening as I was aware of the passing but hadn't known the funeral date until then).
Then low and behold a couple of days after the funeral a verification popped up from a profile in his town - for the night he claimed he would be in another town across the country and therefore couldn't spend time with me.
Just be honest with me... Tell me you forgot and you've made other plans that you now can't change. Don't lie to me using such sad circumstances as your get out clause. And then don't treat me like an idiot thinking I'm not going to put two and two together!
Needless to say I no longer consider him a friend. |
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yep things happen , I got abducted by aliens once , flown around 2 galaxies , mind probed, semen extracted forcfully
I over heard them talking what was going on when I had the probes on , " This one is nuts I think we better send him back pronto...
I would not of minded so much if they left a verification for me. I thought how rude is that.  |
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Had a social meet planned years ago. He cancelled, said he had to have his child, I thought fair enough.
Next day, very graphic new verification referencing a meet that night, the night he cancelled me.
Just tell someone you've got a better offer etc.
This is the worst!
I had tentative plans with a FWB, and when I pushed him to firm up plans he told me he was travelling across the country to be in the right place for a funeral in two days time (which I knew was going to be happening as I was aware of the passing but hadn't known the funeral date until then).
Then low and behold a couple of days after the funeral a verification popped up from a profile in his town - for the night he claimed he would be in another town across the country and therefore couldn't spend time with me.
Just be honest with me... Tell me you forgot and you've made other plans that you now can't change. Don't lie to me using such sad circumstances as your get out clause. And then don't treat me like an idiot thinking I'm not going to put two and two together!
Needless to say I no longer consider him a friend."
What I don’t get about these people is the fact they can’t work out that if they get a verification they don’t have to show it. So by showing it they are actually landing them selves in it to prove they lied and met someone else !? It also means showing a verification is more important to them than the person they were due to meet and that’s very rude. They would certainly be off our Xmas list ! |
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By *ennTMan 2 weeks ago
Bath |
I believe circumstances might change, so let’s give some leverage to people. However, the thing which I don’t like is last moment change.
One of the odd I have received is “my dog needs to be comfortable and seems he is not at the moment”, that was the last moment after chatting for almost a week. lol |
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"I can’t count the number of grannies and cousins who die in the day of a meet."
In their defence, they can’t text you to cancel when they’re dead. Maybe steer away from the elderly. And your cousins. |
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By *oyoteUglyWoman 2 weeks ago
Somewhere dark and gloomy |
"Has anyone on this thread given a fake excuse ? ...... "
I had an excuse once ready to go as I wasn't really sure, I was gonna say I had car problems. Then on the morning I thought no don't be a dick and just go,i had a flat tyre. |
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" Although I did once get blocked by a hot married couple because I couldn't visit them as my back wheel had come off which was true, they just said I was a time waster "
I think I’d be more curious than annoyed. Was the back wheel a prosthetic? And have you got two at the front? |
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"I can’t count the number of grannies and cousins who die in the day of a meet.
In their defence, they can’t text you to cancel when they’re dead. Maybe steer away from the elderly. And your cousins."
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The 'excuse' doesn't matter in the slightest, the fact is, that person changed their mind which they're perfectly entitled to do so and you just have to accept it 🤷🏼 because no one is entitled to a meet |
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"The 'excuse' doesn't matter in the slightest, the fact is, that person changed their mind which they're perfectly entitled to do so and you just have to accept it 🤷🏼 because no one is entitled to a meet "
Well, you say ‘changed their mind’. I’m willing to bet in 99% of the cases, they never had the intention of meeting. Hence the excuse being comical. |
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By *WB85Man 2 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
I've only encountered a couple of very genuine reasons.
Life happens...and family always comes first.
What i have learnt is when booking a hotel click the option of being able to cancel on the day.
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"I can’t count the number of grannies and cousins who die in the day of a meet.
In their defence, they can’t text you to cancel when they’re dead. Maybe steer away from the elderly. And your cousins."
Too true! |
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"Has anyone on this thread given a fake excuse ? ...... "
I've never had to give an excuse because I've turned up to every meet I've arranged.
I have been accused of giving a lame excuse though when a couple I had exchanged a few messages with asked me one Sunday morning to go to a club with them that night.
I took issue with a few details.
Firstly, we don't have any clubs in Ireland where you can just turn up. The few that do exist are open once a month for invitation only events so there was no chance of me being admitted.
The club in question was over 250 miles away which is a 4½ hour drive at the best of times and it was a Sunday night and I started work at 5.30 the next morning.
I explained all this to the couple and they insisted that I was just making lame excuses.
Rather than get into a row I told them to enjoy their night at the club and they said they didn't actually have tickets and were relying on me to get them in.
I've never been to a club in my life, don't know anyone connected to this club or any other and haven't even been in that city since the 1980s???
This was from a couple who were well verified so I'm sure it wasn't the first time they used this tactic. |
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There’s a few common ones, family member turned up unexpectedly, just had a phone call and got to go in to work etc.
I think the best we ever had was the roads were icy and their car was rear wheel drive so couldn’t go out |
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