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Single men have 0.001% chance on here
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As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. |
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By *hortieWoman 4 weeks ago
Northampton |
Site works ok for what I want. 👍 |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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That's still a chance. Be positive  |
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If you dont like it, no one is making you stay
Dont get yourself stressed out |
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Not sure how others use this site but I manage to meet attractive single women and couples through here.
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You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. † |
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Nothing to discuss really if you prefer other sites OP. It's your choice to be here or not. |
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There are couples like us that don’t want any form of single man no matter how attractive he is or how lovely he is.
There are couples that do indeed want single men but have a specific type and know what they want.
There were couples that only want local, so you might not be in their area, there are also couples that don’t want local and you might be to close to home for them.
Can’t speak for the single ladies but I do know that they get inundated with offers and messages and sometimes they literally don’t have the time in the day to read them all or take the time to reply.
As we have said in previous threads get your self to clubs and socials and you more likely to find singles or couples that do like you and location isn’t an issue because you all under the same roof at that very time!
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I think people are entitled to ask for anything they want (if it's legal and within site rules). I also think it's odd that you both a) emphasise that you're decent looking while b) suggesting that people with appearance preferences are shallow and narcissistic.
I'm sorry you're struggling with the site, but I'm not sure this is edifying. |
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People have preferences , personally as a single decidedly average man I find it works rather well and from what I can gather most who find it hard to get replies to mail etc etc maybe actually lack content , context and compatibility in those they attempt to communicate with .
I certainly know of plenty fellow males who seem to manage just fine as I do . |
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When you go fishing you don’t always use the same pond, you have to use a selection.
Same with Fab. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket with one site.
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I have successfully used this site to meet women and couples. The site works when used properly. I believe this is known as a "user problem" |
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What are you hoping to gain by this thread? If you're saying there are better alternatives then I'm happy that you've found what you're looking for elsewhere? |
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By *agic.MMan 4 weeks ago
Orpington |
I personally don't think women or couples that prefer me (or my body type) are shallow...i just think they have really great taste in men😬...but I might be slightly biased 👀 |
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Ooooh, I'm in the top 0.001% wooohoooo
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By *amesB66Man 4 weeks ago
St Peter Port |
I see that you've met a few women and couples since the end of last November.
You must be contacting thousands to get down to such small 'success' rates.
I'd suggest that you're doing rather well. |
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Join in with chat op and make friends. |
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"I'd say less tbf"
I was being optimistic with my % |
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I know quite a few single guys that do very well on this site xx 😄 |
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I've met single guys most my meets are single guys |
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yes and I am keeping my 000.p1 % success rate a secret...
OK a clue is :
3xy / 2x r2 squared multiplied by minus x/y squared.
it's really quite easy when you transpose it for clarity.
... hope I have helped a little |
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I quite like this site to be fair and the people I’ve interacted with (which include both couples and single women) are pretty cool. All sites will have spectrum of people. Some you’ll get on with and some you won’t, but it’s generally easy to avoid the people you don’t get on with. If you’re feeling negative about the site, it sometimes help you have a bit of a break from it. |
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Somebody forgot about the laws of attraction... 🤣🤣🤣🤣and personal preference is now narcissistic, oh cone on then, lets all jump into bed |
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By *amesB66Man 4 weeks ago
St Peter Port |
"I've met single guys most my meets are single guys "
My home town too...although don't get back as often as I wish.
Fond memories of the Bowerham Hotel! |
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" yes and I am keeping my 000.p1 % success rate a secret...
OK a clue is :
3xy / 2x r2 squared multiplied by minus x/y squared.
it's really quite easy when you transpose it for clarity.
... hope I have helped a little "
Cum again ? 🤣🤣🤣 |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
As for shallow and narcissistic I disagree as most the people i know along with myself are average people we just put the effort in and speak and have met lots of decent people off the back of that. |
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As a 121 site it's one of the worst around.
For club meets, socials and parties we've had great success.
The best feature for us is the "see who's near", great tool, especially on holiday.
The forum section and green arrows is a great filter, as well as how long on site.
For single guys and ladies who actually make effort to meet, it lifts you out of the delusional belt and success is almost guaranteed.
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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U dident say 0 chance so still hpe for me yet😬 |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †"
Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!? |
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"U dident say 0 chance so still hpe for me yet😬"
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By *WB85Man 4 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
Show people what you have to offer and be more than just a dick pic. The key is often in people's profiles...so read it properly.
I haven't met many people, but been fortunate enough to make some amazing memories with those that I have. |
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By *eliWoman 4 weeks ago
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That's not 0% though. Silver lining for all the men. 🩷 |
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I believe there is a chance for everyone. Young and old. Small and tall. Low BMI. High BMI. Sometimes it's a bit of a shock when somebody gets attention. And the better looking you are, the less attention you get. Some people don't want to be punching above their own weight |
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By *amesB66Man 4 weeks ago
St Peter Port |
"Im a big fan of the 1% club."
The 0.001% Club is the Channel 5 version |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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I just like the banter when u get to my age its about how a woman performs infront of a cooker anyhow not in the bedroom😬👀 |
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"This site works for me. "
Yes your an attractive woman thats why it does |
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A couple of people have said this over the years.
They choose somebody who isn't particularly attractive. That way they don't fall in love after a shag. |
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The thing is ive put time and effort into my profile and pics |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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Imagen if ur kink was beeing ignored though .what a fantastic site i would be for those kinky little cunts |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
Well I'm confused. What happened to all those people who gave you verifications? Have they all given up?
People in my verifications come and go and some I've seen at swinger socials, clubs and overseas so they are still around.
I care about people with a certain level of social skills so I can't shag everyone. Plus i'm not a supermodel in age, weight or height. Lol! So that rules out men who live in fantasy land. I have strict boundaries and that rules out men with no boundaries or who like to push boundaries to the limit.
I don't have a type apart from penis with no boobs ( moobs allowed! Lol!) and socialable and good hygiene. Lol!
Of course you've only been here a short time in the grand scheme of swinger life. People have been here or swinger lifestyle for 10 plus years.
Swinging isn't just sex. It's a particular kind of kink with rules and you have to be willing to play the game, especially for couples. I don't mind single men, and sometimes I end up playing with them with another couple because we just get on and have been chatting in the club and swinger resort.
I'm also a nudist so that helps me a lot in terms of I enjoy sitting naked in the spa jacuzzi or on the beach and deciding which cock I want to play with. Lol!
If you are an introvert...then it's going to be harder as it is for introverts everywhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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Have u shagged him ronnie |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!?"
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We most certainly have. I've bonked ThickThighs (twice), married and divorced Mélì (thrice), spurned the romantic overtures of ½ of the harlots on here and rebuked the other ½, bestowed extra sausage to Swing, given platonic kisses (on the lips) to VampireLove and even bonked a Mod or two.
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!?
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We most certainly have. I've bonked ThickThighs (twice), married and divorced Mélì (thrice), spurned the romantic overtures of ½ of the harlots on here and rebuked the other ½, bestowed extra sausage to Swing, given platonic kisses (on the lips) to VampireLove and even bonked a Mod or two.
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Ur a little slut m8 |
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"The thing is ive put time and effort into my profile and pics"
That's not how social life offline works. And real life sex is an offline thing. |
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Personally I found that the site does actually work. Yes there is a lot of nonsense and it can feel like the ratio is insurmountable, but honesty, a realistic profile and a little interaction with people both in the messages on the forums has stood me in good stead. Ultimately I think this place can be very bad for morale if being on it all hours of the day. Its only flesh- it's only sex, try and relax about it.  |
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"That's still a chance. Be positive "
Exactly this. I've had a few meets. A few couple meets. And I'm ugly as fuck....but funny 
Patience. Be friendly. Be yourself. Your time will come. If not. Si thi. 0.00001 percent more hance for the rest of us. |
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I don't let the site do any of the heavy lifting.
It works perfectly for me and always has done.
I'm happy for others to look at percentages and ratios and see fab as a competition because that just makes it so much easier for those of us who don't care about numbers or try to be competitive. |
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"The thing is ive put time and effort into my profile and pics"
Ok. That will help your chances.
There's no such thing as a guarantee, only better or worse odds. |
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"Have u shagged him ronnie"
Not me. Too far away unless he comes down to London for a social or a club night. 
Which won't work obviously if OP is an introvert.
I'm an ambivert/omnivert. I need to leave my home and be around people at least half the week. Hence me going to socials, clubs, spas and kink/fetish spaces in London.
For some people that's their idea of hell. I need sensory breaks for the autism but apart from that I'm ok around people. I stay to get cabin fever if I stay indoors for more than 72 hours. |
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By *ad-BodMan 4 weeks ago
Leicester |
I've been on and off for a few years with minor success- and most of the messages I recieve are from men! I'm always having to beat them off!
Wait... that's not what I... nevermind.
And I always enjoy the banter! |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!?
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We most certainly have. I've bonked ThickThighs (twice), married and divorced Mélì (thrice), spurned the romantic overtures of ½ of the harlots on here and rebuked the other ½, bestowed extra sausage to Swing, given platonic kisses (on the lips) to VampireLove and even bonked a Mod or two.
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What a busy lad. Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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Wile were all havein a moan any1 fancy a shag 😬 |
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I agree it's hard trying to find somoene on here as a single male with women recieving hundreds if not thousands of messages a day .. there is a near 0% chance they will even see your message.
This isn't a complaint, you just need to stand out in other ways.
I go on cam in the chat but instead of being like 99% of the other cams with their cock out .. i NEVER do this .. i will actully talk to people and have a laugh .. at most i will take my top off and i get 99% of my messages this way with women contacting me instead.
This wasn't a "tactic" it's just me ..and seems to work.
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Do you actually know what narcissistic means? Plenty of guys get meets. Some i know have over 100 meets.
If your not being successful have a look at what your doing. If its not working for you then change it |
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By *BW_BiWoman 4 weeks ago
BIRMINGHAM |
Well the men that send a dick pic and nothing else get ignored by me and that’s the majority of them |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!?
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We most certainly have. I've bonked ThickThighs (twice), married and divorced Mélì (thrice), spurned the romantic overtures of ½ of the harlots on here and rebuked the other ½, bestowed extra sausage to Swing, given platonic kisses (on the lips) to VampireLove and even bonked a Mod or two.
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Was I spurned or rebuked ...i get the 2 mixed up 🙈 |
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"I agree it's hard trying to find somoene on here as a single male with women recieving hundreds if not thousands of messages a day .. there is a near 0% chance they will even see your message.
This isn't a complaint, you just need to stand out in other ways.
I go on cam in the chat but instead of being like 99% of the other cams with their cock out .. i NEVER do this .. i will actully talk to people and have a laugh .. at most i will take my top off and i get 99% of my messages this way with women contacting me instead.
This wasn't a "tactic" it's just me ..and seems to work.
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That works. They get to know you through cams. I can't be bothered to do cams and my brain has some aversion to screens and the ME/CFS doctor told me to avoid screens. So I come for a while to check messages. Send messages. Sling a comment or few into the forum and go to my events/club/spa. Occasionally, I update my status if anyone wants to meet at Rios or Ignite but that's it.
Most of my life is Analogue now. |
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You joined 4 mths ago had 5 meets say you're doing better than most, if they are real |
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Also if youve found somewhere better why stick around on here |
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By *oelMan 4 weeks ago
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
Bit confusing as I have have a few verified meets |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!?
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We most certainly have. I've bonked ThickThighs (twice), married and divorced Mélì (thrice), spurned the romantic overtures of ½ of the harlots on here and rebuked the other ½, bestowed extra sausage to Swing, given platonic kisses (on the lips) to VampireLove and even bonked a Mod or two.
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Was I spurned or rebuked ...i get the 2 mixed up 🙈"
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Neither; you were bonked. However you weren't on the thread earlier and so I couldn't name-check you until now. One has to follow the correct protocols when it comes to unabashed lamppost pissing. |
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"Single men have 0.001% chance on here"
Given that there are 36,454 people on the site at the moment, that means OP there is about a 36.5% chance that you will have a single meeting with someone from the current pool.
Sounds better that way! |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!?
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We most certainly have. I've bonked ThickThighs (twice), married and divorced Mélì (thrice), spurned the romantic overtures of ½ of the harlots on here and rebuked the other ½, bestowed extra sausage to Swing, given platonic kisses (on the lips) to VampireLove and even bonked a Mod or two.
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And i've shook his hand...
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5 meets in a few months seriously what was you expecting |
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So - 3x/2r(squared)y
Got you thanks for this |
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We met a few single guys. However, most men on are just crude willy walkers and get blocked ASAP.
Maybe if guys change their tact they would be more successful. Respect goes a long way. S&F |
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A nicely written profile and who you are looking for will find you. |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!?
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We most certainly have. I've bonked ThickThighs (twice), married and divorced Mélì (thrice), spurned the romantic overtures of ½ of the harlots on here and rebuked the other ½, bestowed extra sausage to Swing, given platonic kisses (on the lips) to VampireLove and even bonked a Mod or two.
And i've shook his hand...
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It's not too late to go to genitourinary medicine clinic... |
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I don’t know what the problem is. I have fanny falling out my pocket… not enough days in the week for them all… sometimes I hide my profile just to stop the wave of women beating down my door… |
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By *ad-BodMan 4 weeks ago
Leicester |
I'm just wondering why women aren't queuing up for this here Dad-bod. How dare they! Come on. Form an orderly queue. It's only polite. |
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A bad workman always blames his tools. The site has always worked well for me with m, f, mf, mm, ff, mmf, mmmf and more meets over the years. |
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Positive mental attitude and all that , or is it my stunning good lokks ......must be my Positive attitude, i do ok |
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0.001%
If that is the actual figure then my mum was actually right I am special |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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Loads of time wasters and pic collectors thats why. Get yourself to clubs, always worked for me |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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Come now Lord Nero, We've had some good times on here, haven't we!?
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We most certainly have. I've bonked ThickThighs (twice), married and divorced Mélì (thrice), spurned the romantic overtures of ½ of the harlots on here and rebuked the other ½, bestowed extra sausage to Swing, given platonic kisses (on the lips) to VampireLove and even bonked a Mod or two.
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Was I spurned or rebuked ...i get the 2 mixed up 🙈
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Neither; you were bonked. However you weren't on the thread earlier and so I couldn't name-check you until now. One has to follow the correct protocols when it comes to unabashed lamppost pissing."
You followed protocol during the bonking as well if i recall
The clipboard was very sexy 😈 |
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You guys should focus on the men who put women off meeting people. Today I had this in my inbox “love your tits, meet me today?” My reply no thank you and the response “you’re 2 fat anyway” and it’s these guys that ruin it for the nice guys |
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"You guys should focus on the men who put women off meeting people. Today I had this in my inbox “love your tits, meet me today?” My reply no thank you and the response “you’re 2 fat anyway” and it’s these guys that ruin it for the nice guys "
I'm not sure that's fair. What can the nice guys do to change the jerks? (I'm not saying it's on women, either) |
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"You guys should focus on the men who put women off meeting people. Today I had this in my inbox “love your tits, meet me today?” My reply no thank you and the response “you’re 2 fat anyway” and it’s these guys that ruin it for the nice guys "
They honestly dont ruin it for anyone.
They set such a low bar its unbelievably easy to appear somewhat normal |
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I feel like I've done my bit then. I surely don't need to meet any more new single men??? Don't want to mess with the percentages  |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
I highly doubt there are better sites than this one that do not hide their main features behind a pay wall. I tried some of the popular app-based ones, that were supposed to be "by swingers, for swingers" and you can only use them in a very limited way without paying "subscription". Therefore, I'm sticking to here- at least the forum is entertaining (mostly).
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"You guys should focus on the men who put women off meeting people. Today I had this in my inbox “love your tits, meet me today?” My reply no thank you and the response “you’re 2 fat anyway” and it’s these guys that ruin it for the nice guys "
Don't you know your supposed to be gagging for it because your on swinging site, it's like caravan club and "First rules of caravan club everyone gets some"
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"You guys should focus on the men who put women off meeting people. Today I had this in my inbox “love your tits, meet me today?” My reply no thank you and the response “you’re 2 fat anyway” and it’s these guys that ruin it for the nice guys "
I know that you will have just hit block, but i am sure it deserved a put down along the following lines:
"Your desperation was showing, but now your insecurity is too."
or (plagiarising Churchill)
"I can lose weight, but you’ll always be the guy getting rejected by strangers on the internet." |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †"
What do you choose to remain for then? |
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I seem to do ok🤷♀️, and good to know im only meeting the top cream of the crop in the 0.001% of the sites single men that get meets!👍 |
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First rule of the 0.001% club is you don’t talk about the 0.001% club 😡 |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
No-one’s forcing you to remain. Maybe quit the site if you feel so strongly. Just a suggestion |
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"You're not wrong there, brother. This place is just Ayatollah Crapolla. †
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What do you choose to remain for then? "
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I remain here for my kink: to be repeatedly rejected. 🩶 |
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As a male, I do get fed up of all these threads about men having a zero chance of meeting. If you are not getting anything out of the site, then just leave. Simple as that really. |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
People are entitled to use the site how they see fit and to look for a certain type whatever that is. While it can be difficult at times plenty do have succes and they not always the gym fit type. A basic though is a connection and an attraction and unless that is there then its not going to happen. Pretty sure everyone gets frustrated on here at times. |
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The verifications on your own profile completely contradict your original post. Were you meant to post this from another account? |
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By *avidNPMan 4 weeks ago
manchester |
I have to say I have got a lot out of this site and it’s all been very positive. You know you don’t have to be here is your not getting what you want from this site? |
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Five meets in four months… I’d say you’re doing ok… Perhaps you need to adjust your expectations 🤔 |
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"Five meets in four months… I’d say you’re doing ok… Perhaps you need to adjust your expectations 🤔"
Samantha’s checked the receipts!  |
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"Five meets in four months… I’d say you’re doing ok… Perhaps you need to adjust your expectations 🤔
Samantha’s checked the receipts! "
2 were socials the other was from 14yr ago |
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"The verifications on your own profile completely contradict your original post. Were you meant to post this from another account? "
No they are from here and a couple were from many yrs ago |
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"The verifications on your own profile completely contradict your original post. Were you meant to post this from another account?
No they are from here and a couple were from many yrs ago"
So the site does work |
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But it’s not just about meets and how many you can get! It’s about a common interest and being able to talk to people about it comfortably. Stop being so down on it and just enjoy it for what it is. I’m sure 99% of people are here for some harmless naughty fun and giggles |
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I don't think this place is much different , than going out to a bar , pub , party , etc etc... sometimes you go home alone with half a kebab spilt down the front of your shirt...
Sometimes you meet somebody have a good laugh... or what ever else..
Either way you have a good time...
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Married over 50’s even less than that . Lol |
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"I don't think this place is much different , than going out to a bar , pub , party , etc etc... sometimes you go home alone with half a kebab spilt down the front of your shirt...
Sometimes you meet somebody have a good laugh... or what ever else..
Either way you have a good time...
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Exactly this, and also no different from any dating site. |
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Too bad no luck yet for me as well |
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By *eneguyMan 4 weeks ago
Northampton |
Yes it is a little limited but then keep going - It works on occasions |
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There is a spooky coincidence here because 0.001% (1 in 100,000) are the same odds as flipping a coin 17 times and getting heads every time. I have £17 in my wallet. Freaky, or what, eh? |
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These persistent whining posts do really well at putting off any women who might have been even remotely interested in a meet with anyone who starts these threads.
I know forums users don't represent the majority of Fab users, but given these threads could well be a form of self sabotage, one wonders what else they might be doing to limit their 'results' |
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"...one wonders what else they might be doing to limit their 'results'"
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Probably applying squirty cream on their freshly baked scones, as opposed to fresh Cornish clotted cream.
The women of Fåb are prim, proper and refined. |
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"A 1 in million chance is still a chance, so il take those odds"
My favourite lyric from a song and something i use in lifr |
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You've been on 4 months and have 5 veris?
Sorry fanny isnt flying to your door 😂 jeez |
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By *recticWoman 4 weeks ago
taunton |
I get the frustration, but the way this comes across is pretty negative. That kind of tone can actually push people away more than the situation itself. You might have better luck focusing on what you’re looking for rather than what’s wrong with everyone else. |
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By *aked beachMan 4 weeks ago
small cave, behind the big cave. |
I rejoined with the exception that I had 0. 001% chance of a meet so it’s worked out ok for me!
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I understand the frustration from single guys on here and there are times. I have gotten frustrated too. But there's more to life than this site and most ladies don't use this site. Only a small fraction do. |
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"I don't think this place is much different , than going out to a bar , pub , party , etc etc... sometimes you go home alone with half a kebab spilt down the front of your shirt...
Sometimes you meet somebody have a good laugh... or what ever else..
Either way you have a good time...
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I like that analogy and now I want a kebab 😂 |
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"I don't think this place is much different , than going out to a bar , pub , party , etc etc... sometimes you go home alone with half a kebab spilt down the front of your shirt...
Sometimes you meet somebody have a good laugh... or what ever else..
Either way you have a good time...
I like that analogy and now I want a kebab 😂"
I am really sorry I should have left food out of it... |
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"I don't think this place is much different , than going out to a bar , pub , party , etc etc... sometimes you go home alone with half a kebab spilt down the front of your shirt...
Sometimes you meet somebody have a good laugh... or what ever else..
Either way you have a good time...
Exactly this, and also no different from any dating site."
it's like anything just take it with a pinch of salt... and enjoy things you want to do for enjoyment sake |
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"Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples."
I've actually been rejected a few times from ladies and couples for being too muscular and gym fit. Seems like it is a bit of a myth on here that gym fit people do well. Everyone has different tastes. |
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One should refrain from displaying their frustration or negativity towards their personal inability to attract an opportunity for a meet. Imagine if one should meet such an individual, how they might behave should the experience they have been very lucky to be invited to participate in, not live up to their personal expectations. |
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Just because we're on a site like this doesn't mean we are choosy 🤷🏼
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It's not like we're paid to be on here. Or like court ordered.
It's 100.000001% optional.
You're free to leave at any point. Any. Point. |
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"Just because we're on a site like this doesn't mean we are choosy 🤷🏼
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*AREN'T - I so wish you could edit your posts 😡 |
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OP I reckon you missed out a couple of zeros on that figure... |
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By *ounmacCouple 4 weeks ago
Market Harborough |
"There are couples like us that don’t want any form of single man no matter how attractive he is or how lovely he is.
There are couples that do indeed want single men but have a specific type and know what they want.
There were couples that only want local, so you might not be in their area, there are also couples that don’t want local and you might be to close to home for them.
Can’t speak for the single ladies but I do know that they get inundated with offers and messages and sometimes they literally don’t have the time in the day to read them all or take the time to reply.
As we have said in previous threads get your self to clubs and socials and you more likely to find singles or couples that do like you and location isn’t an issue because you all under the same roof at that very time!
Good luck "
Exactly this we only want local and the right vibe |
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Feel your pain brother and I have less of a chance being disabled, been on here for 200 days and not had one meet. |
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Another day, another fool who can't manage their expectations and thinks that others can't have a preference... Give me strength!!!  |
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4 months and 5 meets what more were you expecting. Even haarland doesn't score with every shot |
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I love this site as it really helped me open the door to this lifestyle, especially through organised socials and events. So no gripes from me,❤️
Arranging private meets has been a challenge from time to time though, I've found that some people can get a little impatient at times and just bump me off.
I generally prefer to take my time and build a meaningful connection. You know, like go out for a few dates first, to see if we actually fancy each other.
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By *obbo2022Man 4 weeks ago
top of little hill near bishop |
wow had more luck than most single men on here
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How did you get to that number?
Maybe single men like you have 0.0001% chance? It doesn't mean all the others do.
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By *hybeamMan 4 weeks ago
Whyteleafe |
I’ve always found this site to be fun.
Yes often messages go unread or deleted but that’s fine, everyone has free choice over who they chat to or meet and I’ve met some great people, tried new things and had plenty of new experiences.
We’re not all for everyone and neither would I want to be, but when the stars align it’s fantastic |
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By *b1980Man 4 weeks ago
Burnley |
If someone was local to me i would be there |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
I joined as a single in 2008.
Been both a single and a couple over the years.
Never had any problems. 🤷♂️
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Of course it works for you, your stunning |
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I see this question come up a lot, so I’ll share my perspective.
For single men, it really is a numbers game. There are far fewer single women or couples on here compared to the volume of men, so naturally responses are limited.
Speaking personally, I can log in and see 20–50 messages at times. If a message is just one line focused on my photos, it’s very unlikely to get a response. Not because I’m being dismissive, but because there’s nothing there to engage with.
What does stand out is when someone has clearly read my profile and responds to what I’ve actually said—my interests, my boundaries, and the type of dynamic I’m looking for. That immediately sets them apart.
Tone matters too. A casual “hey, how are you” might work elsewhere, but here it doesn’t really show intention or awareness. This isn’t like chatting with your mates down the pub—people are looking for specific connections.
In the couple of weeks I’ve been back, I’ve met a handful of people—some just for coffee or a meal, others more intimate. So connections do happen.
My advice
Be patient. Read profiles properly. Respond with intention. And remember, profiles and photos are only the surface—real connection comes from conversation.
The men who present themselves thoughtfully and with awareness are the ones who tend to get responses. |
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I'm going to follow this advice.......................⬆️
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From people I have spoken to be it couples, single women ect, The biggest downfall For us single men is:
Timewasters
Picture collectors
Pushy for meets
Don't read Profiles
And many more
I think the best approach is to be Patient. I've only just rejoined after deletingmy old account 4 years ago, I don't push for meets, I read the profile, if you're not what they are looking for move on don't Sulk.
It's all about connection. Rather than a quick shag that most single blokes want and not bothered about the Fabbing Community.
I'm not even meet verified yet, I was but because the couple I met previously has left the site due to timewasters, and i know for verification,The easiest way to be verified is by going on the cams And speaking to people if your not shy to be on cam, but if you got your piece out you won't be taken as seriously as alot of single men just ask women to watch them blow there load and leave lol. |
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If it is that bad, why are you here? Works great for us, been here since 2006 |
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5 meets in 4 months is not bad going. |
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It's definitely tougher for single guys but not impossible. There are a lot of us on here, plus people are looking for different things. Be patient. Socialise online, enjoy the forums, go to socials in real life. Be kind to yourself.
If you are everyone's cup of tea then you're just a mug 😜 |
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I mean OP there are hundreds of us against the minority of single women/couples on here so they can afford to be picky as they see fit. Take it from a young lad it’s even worse and honestly I just accept the opportunity when it arises with knowing single men’s chances on here. Just patience. |
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I'm still none-the-wiser. What on earth does it take for a chap to get some quality crumpet on this site?
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"I'm still none-the-wiser. What on earth does it take for a chap to get some quality crumpet on this site?
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From the looks of your veris I’d say your fine 😅 Should be asking you for advice 🤣 |
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One too many knockbacks has pushed someone over the edge🤦 |
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"Loads of time wasters and pic collectors thats why. Get yourself to clubs, always worked for me "
This, At parties or clubs, the people there probably are looking to meet someone. Even if that someone doesn't happen to be you on the night, and by chatting to people you will have made a connection, rather than the 'messaging into the void' which is the single man norm on here. |
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Back to the vanilla world then. Men are doomed! |
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By *oxesMan 4 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
Just like with dating sites. Men outnumber women combined with the fact that there are idiots who send dic pics. It forces women to be picky because they can afford to be. |
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By *hortieWoman 4 weeks ago
Northampton |
"I have successfully used this site to meet women and couples. The site works when used properly. I believe this is known as a "user problem""
PEBCAK.
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You have unique chances here, for which you have some control upon.
It doesn't matter about men in general.
You just have to be right for each person that you contact. Only those engagements are the ones that are important. And where your chances matter..
Give them your best input, so they can choose wisely. Their tastes and preferences are unique to them - we'll not know them. But they can find you interesting, once they know about you |
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By *sWyldWoman 4 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Single men are my favourite, so I'd disagree.. |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
Fancy that. People saying the type of person they are attracted to. If that's too shallow for you then maybe a dating app is more in line with your needs. Your comment does make me wonder why you are here if it's so awful.
By the way, just because you don't have any success, it doesn't mean you are representative of almost all men. |
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"Is it that high ? "
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Stratospheric dear fellow, stratospheric. |
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I don't get many meets off fab, not because of fab, but because of other issues, like distance and my work schedule doesn't suit 99% of women and couples availability to meet.
I live with it, because on the rare occasions I do get to meet up, everyone seems to have a great time.
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Stratospheric dear fellow, stratospheric."
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
As a couple who definitely are not Gym fit I will say people are entitled to a preference in what they find that’s actually attractive and that does not make them narcissists. |
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You are very correct, I am not single by the way but I opened the site as a single men and the way single men have been judged and given no chance by other single ladies / couples it’s really really mind blowing, What are the odds all couples would be fit together? They are very judgmental, cynical and pathetic, they even go as far as to wanting to meet only guys they’ve played with at the club that’s how astonished they got me. |
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"You are very correct, I am not single by the way but I opened the site as a single men and the way single men have been judged and given no chance by other single ladies / couples it’s really really mind blowing, What are the odds all couples would be fit together? They are very judgmental, cynical and pathetic, they even go as far as to wanting to meet only guys they’ve played with at the club that’s how astonished they got me. "
People's choice who and where they want to meet and they are allowed to do that. I think it's extremely unfair to class everyone the same and if that is your only experience of how you have been treates you have either been very unlucky or it might be down to your approach/manner/attitude? |
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"You are very correct, I am not single by the way but I opened the site as a single men and the way single men have been judged and given no chance by other single ladies / couples it’s really really mind blowing, What are the odds all couples would be fit together? They are very judgmental, cynical and pathetic, they even go as far as to wanting to meet only guys they’ve played with at the club that’s how astonished they got me. "
That’s a rather judgemental, cynical etc attitude. Not very appealing to any ladies reading this. |
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Good things come to those who wait haha |
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I know a fair few single guys who do really well on here and they aren't gym fit. They have a good attitude and an understanding of what people want. They put in effort and dont whine when things don't go their way |
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If I do ok it can't be that bad.
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If single women and couples are more successful, who are they doing the sex with then? |
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It you search for 'who's nearby', how many women do you see? About 2. About 98 guys. 98 very similar guys. How is anyone supposed to differentiate you from the pack?
Despite stating clearly I don't meet single guys, the messages keep coming. And again, absolutely identical in tone and content.
When my F FWB and I needed a guy, I returned to my inbox and found the one who'd sent a thoughtful, articulate, sexy message. He's 61. Round 2 in a couple of weeks.
So if you go about it with subtlety and poise, it'll work. |
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Don't tell me the odds are that low, my kind of challenge. Very unbalanced site, always going to be, but has got worse. But you get stuck in a try, |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
Can't stand posts that end in Discuss.. |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
"How shallow and narcissistic"
Jeez, what? Narcissism and a cess pit 🤣
What if you're a curvy girl looking for a curvy guy? Is that narcissism? Women looking for black guys is what..?
I hope this is a post just written to trigger, because it otherwise comes across as more reflective of you than the site. |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss..
Can't stand posts that end in Discuss.."
"Can't stand posts that end in Discuss.."
Discuss. |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss..
"How shallow and narcissistic"
Jeez, what? Narcissism and a cess pit 🤣
What if you're a curvy girl looking for a curvy guy? Is that narcissism? Women looking for black guys is what..?
I hope this is a post just written to trigger, because it otherwise comes across as more reflective of you than the site."
Haha im certainly not narcissistic very far from it. I was just expressing a voice for most men on here. You don't know me and making a comment like that calling me that is way off the mark as to who I am as a person.
End of the day most men on here have little to no chance of meets.
Ive been on and off this site since 2009 and seen the decline. |
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"As a single decent looking man it is apparent that we have practically zero chances of meeting couples let alone single women. Dont get me started on profiles that say we are gym fit and looking for fellow gym fit couples. How shallow and narcissistic. This site has become a cess pit. Ive been on and off since 09. No wonder there are better sites than this. Discuss.. "
There are other sites where it is far easier for a single male profile to meet single ladies, and couples looking for a solo guy to join them, yes, it’s true. I’ve been using them alongside Fab for years 😉😋
Just enjoy Fab for the simple reason it is THE ONLY contact app on the internet, that single guys can use completely free of charge, at all times. I am unaware of any similar sites, which don’t punish men financially, with gender biased pricing structures. And don’t get me started on swinger clubs, as the clubs glitterati will no doubt steer you towards…..🤦♂️
Enjoy Fab as an aside to life in general. Chat shit in the forum, keep an eye on your local updates. There aren’t many solo female profiles in here, and there are few genuine couples left in here seeking men these days. But chill out, and take an irreverent view of the site.
If you want to meet women; put yourself in places where women are. That just isn’t Fab or the swinger clubs 😎👍 |
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