For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions |
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Jeez, that's insane. I'm sorry that happened to you OP and it can't have felt nice. Even if it was a fuck and go and they were open about that dynamic, it was still unnecessary to say that as you were leaving. |
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No idea what led up to it, but if that’s genuinely how it played out then yeah, that’s not great behaviour at all.
Regardless of the dynamic, there’s still a basic level of respect and "aftercare" that shouldn’t just disappear.
Was it him, her, or both? Either way it sounds off, and I can understand why you’d feel used and disrespected. |
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"Jeez, that's insane. I'm sorry that happened to you OP and it can't have felt nice. Even if it was a fuck and go and they were open about that dynamic, it was still unnecessary to say that as you were leaving."
What i thought. I knew what the dynamic was but I thought i did a fantastic job.... guess that's subjective but as with penis's you have good nights and you have bad nights. This was a fantastic night. So I thought I had delivered on what they wanted. I joke but I did feel pissed off with the husband. Like his way of trying to assert some dominance into the situation. As a 6'6" ex boxer i'm not used to being talked to like that. |
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"Jeez, that's insane. I'm sorry that happened to you OP and it can't have felt nice. Even if it was a fuck and go and they were open about that dynamic, it was still unnecessary to say that as you were leaving.
What i thought. I knew what the dynamic was but I thought i did a fantastic job.... guess that's subjective but as with penis's you have good nights and you have bad nights. This was a fantastic night. So I thought I had delivered on what they wanted. I joke but I did feel pissed off with the husband. Like his way of trying to assert some dominance into the situation. As a 6'6" ex boxer i'm not used to being talked to like that."
I'm a 5ft ex office worker and I'm not used to being spoken to like that! It's rude |
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"Jeez, that's insane. I'm sorry that happened to you OP and it can't have felt nice. Even if it was a fuck and go and they were open about that dynamic, it was still unnecessary to say that as you were leaving.
What i thought. I knew what the dynamic was but I thought i did a fantastic job.... guess that's subjective but as with penis's you have good nights and you have bad nights. This was a fantastic night. So I thought I had delivered on what they wanted. I joke but I did feel pissed off with the husband. Like his way of trying to assert some dominance into the situation. As a 6'6" ex boxer i'm not used to being talked to like that.
I'm a 5ft ex office worker and I'm not used to being spoken to like that! It's rude"
Yes true. I don't ever tell anyone to f off. We all deserve respect |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions"
I wasn't told to F off but I was told
You can get out now.
I'm not being treated like that so I told them that they were disgusting people and I would gladly be leaving.
Some people are just rude entitled scum. |
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I honestly thought this was a piss-take, a bit of a backhanded flex; but the amount of supportive response and Op's replies, I'm now wondering if I misread it?!!
Op, please tell! Should I offer my condolences, thoughts and support, or have you just got the forum hook, line & sinker?! 🤔 |
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"I honestly thought this was a piss-take, a bit of a backhanded flex; but the amount of supportive response and Op's replies, I'm now wondering if I misread it?!!
Op, please tell! Should I offer my condolences, thoughts and support, or have you just got the forum hook, line & sinker?! 🤔"
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"I honestly thought this was a piss-take, a bit of a backhanded flex; but the amount of supportive response and Op's replies, I'm now wondering if I misread it?!!
Op, please tell! Should I offer my condolences, thoughts and support, or have you just got the forum hook, line & sinker?! 🤔"
It is all true. Even the cool blue pants part. And in all honesty I have no regrets. Just one of my very few hotwife experiences and the only one like that. I like intimacy and connection so this was a rare one for me.
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That's terrible behaviour and very disrespectful. Regardless of being new to the scene or experienced swingers, there's no need to talk to someone like that, it's not ok. Flip the dynamic, if a wife spoke to me like that I would feel exactly the same |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions"
I hope you left them a verification that articulated how you was treated
Sorry to hear you've been treated this badly 🫂 |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions
I wasn't told to F off but I was told
You can get out now.
I'm not being treated like that so I told them that they were disgusting people and I would gladly be leaving.
Some people are just rude entitled scum."
Yeah i had to stop myself from saying the same. But I always try to avoid conflict and figured definitely not the time or place. The wife was still lovely but just kinda laughed along like it was OK what he said |
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"Maybe it’s there thing
Ok if they had explained it first
Would love to hear the couples side of the story as it seems out of context "
Yeah he might have thought i was trying to get a girlfriend out of it. We all agreed it was just for the night but it was just a massive switch from us all getting along to "f off then" |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions
I hope you left them a verification that articulated how you was treated
Sorry to hear you've been treated this badly 🫂"
Not on here she said. I'd have said something to them otherwise |
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"That's terrible behaviour and very disrespectful. Regardless of being new to the scene or experienced swingers, there's no need to talk to someone like that, it's not ok. Flip the dynamic, if a wife spoke to me like that I would feel exactly the same"
Yep you're right. I keep trying to find silver linings because other than the f off, it was a great night |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions
I wasn't told to F off but I was told
You can get out now.
I'm not being treated like that so I told them that they were disgusting people and I would gladly be leaving.
Some people are just rude entitled scum.
Yeah i had to stop myself from saying the same. But I always try to avoid conflict and figured definitely not the time or place. The wife was still lovely but just kinda laughed along like it was OK what he said"
I'm if the opinion that if something is not acceptable then it should be said.
I'm reasonable and fairly polite when I do it but I still say it.
Everyone should have a decent level of respect unless they show that they are not deserving of it.
You should not have been treated like that at all.
The wife supported it by not saying anything.
They're disgusting. |
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"I honestly thought this was a piss-take, a bit of a backhanded flex; but the amount of supportive response and Op's replies, I'm now wondering if I misread it?!!
Op, please tell! Should I offer my condolences, thoughts and support, or have you just got the forum hook, line & sinker?! 🤔
It is all true. Even the cool blue pants part. And in all honesty I have no regrets. Just one of my very few hotwife experiences and the only one like that. I like intimacy and connection so this was a rare one for me.
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We have heard about the cool blue pants but we have not seen them. I feel it is only fayr that the evidence is shown. |
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"I honestly thought this was a piss-take, a bit of a backhanded flex; but the amount of supportive response and Op's replies, I'm now wondering if I misread it?!!
Op, please tell! Should I offer my condolences, thoughts and support, or have you just got the forum hook, line & sinker?! 🤔
It is all true. Even the cool blue pants part. And in all honesty I have no regrets. Just one of my very few hotwife experiences and the only one like that. I like intimacy and connection so this was a rare one for me.
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in which case, gutted for you pal. I think the advice above that knowing up front would have softened the blow is sound.
Chalk it up as a learning, but one not to knock you down. Given the opportunity again, it's definitely something to communicate up-front beforehand. If you're just going to be there as a stunt-cock, being aware will give you the choice to go through with it or not. ...even so, to end with a 'fuck off', that's not cool in any scenario! (unless agreed and consensual of course!!) |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions"
So sorry to hear about this. I've had a few couples that I had to tell off about their attitude towards me |
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Sorry you had a bad experience, OP.
I don’t think there is standard etiquette - everyone’s different so it’s more about managing your expectations and communicating beforehand. If you’re not on the same page, better to know at that stage.
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"Fe ld like mot enough of the kink was talked about. You jump in cock first. That's life. You had your fun after all.
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What did you expect after. "
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The same thing a woman would expect: decency, respect and civility...? |
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"Fe ld like mot enough of the kink was talked about. You jump in cock first. That's life. You had your fun after all.
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What did you expect after.
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The same thing a woman would expect: decency, respect and civility...?"
Exactly what I was thinking. Same thing all people should expect |
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"Fe ld like mot enough of the kink was talked about. You jump in cock first. That's life. You had your fun after all.
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What did you expect after.
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The same thing a woman would expect: decency, respect and civility...?"
It wasn't a threesome, it was am awkward shag my wife moment, then partner want her back and privacy. What next bake a cake or order in pizza. Had the fun, fun ends |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions"
Maybe he was so intimidated when he saw your "cool blue pants" that he blew a gasket, knowing his fashion decisions had been just blown out of the water.
If it happens again, maybe when you are told to f off, you could respond something like
"I'm about to fuck off as quick as possible, you honestly don't think I'd want to stay in your company and longer than it takes me to cum"
Make sure you are fully dressed in case you have to run....
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on"
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it? |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?"
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️need to put the big boy pants on"
Are these like my Bridget Jones pants?
Nice to see fellow people showing some empathy not!
I think feeling used shows you at least have feelings and ain't some heartless git. Just my opinion of course which technically means sweet FA  |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy "
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say... |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say..."
It's was constructive, |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say...
It's was constructive, "
Your first comment was constructive? Really? 🤦♂️ |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say...
It's was constructive,
Your first comment was constructive? Really? 🤦♂️"
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say...
It's was constructive,
Your first comment was constructive? Really? 🤦♂️
Yep"
If you say so, buddy 👍 |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy "
As a couple who’s dynamic and fantasy is inviting another man to have sex with me while husband watches we would never dream of treating our guest like this. At the end of the day he’s still a person not just a vessel for us to use to fulfill our fantasy and then basically discard. You can indicate you would like your guest to leave while still being polite |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say...
It's was constructive,
Your first comment was constructive? Really? 🤦♂️
Yep
If you say so, buddy 👍"
I do, he achieved getting his rocks off and then feels used because he got told to fuck off, I'm sure 99.9% of guys on here would have been walking down the garden path like a Cheshire cat. |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say...
It's was constructive,
Your first comment was constructive? Really? 🤦♂️
Yep
If you say so, buddy 👍I do, he achieved getting his rocks off and then feels used because he got told to fuck off, I'm sure 99.9% of guys on here would have been walking down the garden path like a Cheshire cat."
Being ever so grateful they were the chosen one. |
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"You should have turned around at the door, winked at her and said lovely cum dump, thank you "
exactly, he reached his goal, they reached their goal and the hubby got his little kick, win, win for everyone |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say...
It's was constructive,
Your first comment was constructive? Really? 🤦♂️
Yep
If you say so, buddy 👍
I do, he achieved getting his rocks off and then feels used because he got told to fuck off, I'm sure 99.9% of guys on here would have been walking down the garden path like a Cheshire cat."
Note: my original emotional capacity comment |
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️need to put the big boy pants on"
You'd like to be told to fuck off then would you? Because I wouldn't. |
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"Fe ld like mot enough of the kink was talked about. You jump in cock first. That's life. You had your fun after all.
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What did you expect after.
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The same thing a woman would expect: decency, respect and civility...?
It wasn't a threesome, it was am awkward shag my wife moment, then partner want her back and privacy. What next bake a cake or order in pizza. Had the fun, fun ends "
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Oh I see - it was 'only' a one-to-one! Well, fuck my backwards with a knife and fork!
Therefore "decency, respect and civility" only apply to threesomes, foursomes, moresomes, gangbangs, fuckfests and shagging the mother in law and all that jazz?
I bet your response would have been different if a woman had posted this thread. In any case it's the woman's loss. |
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"Fe ld like mot enough of the kink was talked about. You jump in cock first. That's life. You had your fun after all. What did you expect after. "
Some respect afterwards. If the couple can't have any respect regardless of kinks. Then they shouldn't bother being in this lifestyle. |
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Post nut please F off as soon as you can is something that I think a lot of us Tgirls have come across.
It's irritating and means that I don't see them again. If it's particularly egregious, then I let the other local Tgirls know, too  |
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Whether OP is serious or not (I happen to believe him) this thread kind of sums up why there are issues with men being honest about feelings. The 'man up, you got what you wanted' rhetoric in full effect.
God forbid men show any empathy or vulnerability as its not 'manly' and appreciate being treated with respect as is the right of any human being.
Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness as is being a decent human being.
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"Whether OP is serious or not (I happen to believe him) this thread kind of sums up why there are issues with men being honest about feelings. The 'man up, you got what you wanted' rhetoric in full effect.
God forbid men show any empathy or vulnerability as its not 'manly' and appreciate being treated with respect as is the right of any human being.
Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness as is being a decent human being.
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"Whether OP is serious or not (I happen to believe him) this thread kind of sums up why there are issues with men being honest about feelings. The 'man up, you got what you wanted' rhetoric in full effect.
God forbid men show any empathy or vulnerability as its not 'manly' and appreciate being treated with respect as is the right of any human being.
Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness as is being a decent human being.
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❤️ Beautifully put. |
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"Whether OP is serious or not (I happen to believe him) this thread kind of sums up why there are issues with men being honest about feelings. The 'man up, you got what you wanted' rhetoric in full effect.
God forbid men show any empathy or vulnerability as its not 'manly' and appreciate being treated with respect as is the right of any human being.
Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness as is being a decent human being.
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100%
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"Whether OP is serious or not (I happen to believe him) this thread kind of sums up why there are issues with men being honest about feelings. The 'man up, you got what you wanted' rhetoric in full effect.
God forbid men show any empathy or vulnerability as its not 'manly' and appreciate being treated with respect as is the right of any human being.
Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness as is being a decent human being.
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I agree and once again highlights the imbalance on the fab forums with how easily some will dismiss a thread like this simply because it is written by a man.
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions"
Maybe this isn't for you then 🤷🏻♂️ |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions
Maybe this isn't for you then 🤷🏻♂️"
Or maybe some people should just be more respectful. |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions
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Maybe this isn't for you then 🤷🏻♂️"
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Slow clap. In fact sooo slow that it's going backwards, just like the mentality of that remark. |
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Let's not make excuses for shitty behaviour - there's no need for it ...
He was getting his clothes on to leave & even if it was part of their fantasy, it should've been agreed upon first.
Fun was had by all - why not just end on a good note.
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"I'm sure you'll live for FFS
Empathy goes a long way... And not having the emotional capacity of a teaspoon 🤷♂️
need to put the big boy pants on
Very useful advice. Any more pearls of wisdom? Man up? Grow a pair? Deal with it?
It's not as if your pet dog has been run over is it, just a couple playing out their fantasy
And being rude as a result. That could know anyone's confidence and they can feel hurt by it. If you don't have anything constructive to say...
It's was constructive,
Your first comment was constructive? Really? 🤦♂️
Yep
If you say so, buddy 👍I do, he achieved getting his rocks off and then feels used because he got told to fuck off, I'm sure 99.9% of guys on here would have been walking down the garden path like a Cheshire cat."
I was grinning. Just because someone gets their rocks off doesn't mean I should be told to f off. It's the fact that I would never let someone tell me to f off in any other situation so why should I accept it? Your comment was not constructive or decent in any way. If you think there's any justification for being rude that says a lot about you as a person. I don't expect empathy, sympathy or anything really. If you read the previous comments I stated I regret nothing. Just a weird situation to have been in so I shared it |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions
Maybe this isn't for you then 🤷🏻♂️"
So if you believe that you deserve to be treated with the bare minimum of respect when meeting then this kind of lifestyle isn’t for you? That mindset seems crazy to me. |
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"Whether OP is serious or not (I happen to believe him) this thread kind of sums up why there are issues with men being honest about feelings. The 'man up, you got what you wanted' rhetoric in full effect.
God forbid men show any empathy or vulnerability as its not 'manly' and appreciate being treated with respect as is the right of any human being.
Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness as is being a decent human being.
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Lovely put. I know i would get more sympathy if female but that's just the nature of the beast here.
At no point have I saught any sort of sympathy but there's been a lot assumed or dramatised in this thread to make it sound like i'm vulnerable or weak in some way. I am an honest and emotional guy and believe the strongest thing you can do is not be scared to be yourself.
As said, respect is not a debatable subject in my opinion. We all deserve it, no matter the situation |
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"For the first time I felt used last night.... Someone tell me what the etiquette is after a hotwife situation?
I got told to f off!
I was only putting me pants on so i could walk out of the room in my cool blue pants. I was outraged and felt used! Like a piece of meat! How dare they! I'm not just a walking hard on that drills people wives and then cums in their mouths. I have feelings and emotions
Maybe this isn't for you then 🤷🏻♂️
So if you believe that you deserve to be treated with the bare minimum of respect when meeting then this kind of lifestyle isn’t for you? That mindset seems crazy to me. "
I know. How dare I?! Crazy that it needs to be said |
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I find it quite disturbing that the underlying tone of the thread is that verbal abuse is perfectly acceptable in sexual situations...And that you should be grateful.
I love cake, I appreciate cake, it's a guilty pleasure of mine but I don't expect to be told to 'fuck off' after I've bought the cake....
I guess the upshot is it doesn't matter where you are or what the situation is nobody deserves it....
Verbal abuse is still abuse....
Where is a line drawn there |
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"That’s pretty shit mate.
I think it’s fair to say that most couples that invite a guy in to “help out” are much more considerate of his feelings.
Don’t let the twats put you off. "
Yeah i know. That's why it was such a strange situation to be in. It's not put me off in any way |
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"Let's not make excuses for shitty behaviour - there's no need for it ...
He was getting his clothes on to leave & even if it was part of their fantasy, it should've been agreed upon first.
Fun was had by all - why not just end on a good note.
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My whole point. I'd had a great time so didn't want leave with a bitter taste in my mouth. I didn't expect to hang around making idle chit chat and made it quite clear that i was leaving.
Some couples who want an extra man would like a friend who treats their significant other with respect and kindness. Not all but some. That was the vibe i got from them but was obviously wrong. There are more layers to attraction than just aesthetic. Some want to explore that, others don't. Be nice to be told that pre f off tbf |
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By *eyeYCouple 3 weeks ago
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We have only felt 'used' by one couple.
It was early on and the events felt contrived and transactional.
Various elements meant it was not the best experience and we didn't revisit when invited, regardless of how attractive they were.
A statement they made about 'guys being disposable toys, thrown away after use!' really stuck as a shit attitude..
Another couple we met at a club, reported the same feelings as they had met them early on too.
These self centered people exist unfortunately.
NB. The couple are no longer on the site and we didn't display their verification. |
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"We have only felt 'used' by one couple.
It was early on and the events felt contrived and transactional.
Various elements meant it was not the best experience and we didn't revisit when invited, regardless of how attractive they were.
A statement they made about 'guys being disposable toys, thrown away after use!' really stuck as a shit attitude..
Another couple we met at a club, reported the same feelings as they had met them early on too.
These self centered people exist unfortunately.
NB. The couple are no longer on the site and we didn't display their verification."
I've often taken issue with the use of language on the forums in regard to how people treat others.
Apart from having no interest in meeting women of a similar age to my daughters, one of the reasons I've never chatted to couples where the woman is below my age filters is that I used to get a lot of messages saying they had never tried an older man or that older men were on their to-do list.
I've challenged comments on the forums from people saying they wanted to try an older man or woman or some saying they used to have a man or woman who did this or that and would like to find that again.
It might be pendantic but anyone claiming to have "had" someone rather than saying they "used to know" someone or that they want to "try" rather than "meet" someone is a huge red flag as far as I'm concerned.
It makes every engagement sound transactional and shows a lack of respect.
Lack of respect, entitlement and presumption is also the reason I have zero interest in meeting a couple anymore and I say that as one half of a fab couple. |
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By *eyeYCouple 3 weeks ago
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Hope our post illustrated a disdain for inhuman behaviour or comments to others regardless of the dynamic.
But will add in having been a single guy in the 'scene' a cautionary point that an expectation of being included in a couple's personal time after activities have ceased is possibly unrealistic and have discussed with others situations when 'people' have been unable to read the room and bid farewell..
Absolutely not what we feel is the case in OP's story at all.
There's a balance, but being told to 'fuck off' as you reinstate your underwear is abhorrent treatment of anyone. 👊 |
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"Hope our post illustrated a disdain for inhuman behaviour or comments to others regardless of the dynamic.
But will add in having been a single guy in the 'scene' a cautionary point that an expectation of being included in a couple's personal time after activities have ceased is possibly unrealistic and have discussed with others situations when 'people' have been unable to read the room and bid farewell..
Absolutely not what we feel is the case in OP's story at all.
There's a balance, but being told to 'fuck off' as you reinstate your underwear is abhorrent treatment of anyone. 👊"
We always tried to include single guys in a little post coital chat and regroup. We found a lot of them were reluctant to do this and very reluctant to show any form of after care towards me as the woman. This in its turn left me feeling a little used. I wonder how much of it was down to them assuming that we'd just used them as a stunt cock 🤔 |
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It’s happened to me, with a ‘new to the hotwife dynamic’ newbie couple and it was clear that at a point in the evening, the husband was battling an inner turmoil, he just wasn’t ready for the overwhelming emotions. I don’t know what the trigger was, whether it was one thing or just the whole situation. He broke, and I felt sorry for him. I got dressed, I didn’t do anything that would inflamed the anger in him any further, have caused the situation (between them especially) to get any worse, said goodbye, saw myself out. They left Fab by the next morning, Profile gone. I’m not blaming him, what we do can be incredibly intimate, intense and emotional. I was fucking his wife, we were having a good time (maybe too good a time) and he just wasn’t prepared for how he was going to feel about that.
Another time was a lovely couple who were friends, and during a threesome when she was riding me she orgasmed… hard.. like heaving chest, breathing hard, shaking.. tears… sobbing, clearly a big deal. I took a glance at him and I just knew this was a ‘situation’. The light went out in his eyes, demeanour changed.. he looked broken.. furious. She then saw him too and straight away started trying to explain,hug, restore.. I knew that I had to leave immediately, leave them alone together, resolve what had just happened. Turns out that an ‘O’ had been been pretty hard to come by in their marriage and that one really hurt him. Still together though - they sorted it and are still on the scene 😮💨 |
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By *eyeYCouple 3 weeks ago
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That is frankly a couple of scenarios I've experienced previously.
The recognition of the situation I would say show's an empathy and appreciation towards your fellow 'man's feelings, (but we already knew that of you 👍) you've been included in their most intimate moments and whether it went 'off course' or not being offensively expelled wouldn't have been fair. 👊👍 |
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My Mr experienced something similar, it wasn't a couple, just a lady he had been chatting to for a while.
It's hugely knocked his confidence to meet others, almost reluctant to meet people incase a similar situation occurs.
You could say he almost self sabotages situations to protect his feelings.
Mrs. X |
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By *eyeYCouple 3 weeks ago
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"My Mr experienced something similar, it wasn't a couple, just a lady he had been chatting to for a while.
It's hugely knocked his confidence to meet others, almost reluctant to meet people incase a similar situation occurs.
You could say he almost self sabotages situations to protect his feelings.
Mrs. X"
A familiar story, whilst I am by and large enthusiastically welcomed, D has been effectively excluded on occasion.
This has caused me a lot of reluctance to engage with many, as we are neither a cuck or hot wife couple.
With zero disrespect to those who are, I get more from seeing him enjoy and others enjoy my man in pretty much any situation than I do in being the centre of it. Yx
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