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What has surprised you the most since you've been on here?
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I think what has surprised me the most is the amount of clubs that are currently operating in the country. Before I joined, I knew there were swingers clubs. I just didn't expect the number of them over the country.
Oh and the amount of people on this site was a big surprise too. |
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How many people talk about snow even in the spring/ summer |
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"How many people talk about snow even in the spring/ summer "
Maybe they really love Frosty the Snowman? |
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How many timewasters there are on here |
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Definitely the amount of people on here and that in the main, I’ve only met normal people 🤣
Also that clubs aren’t sleazy.
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"I think what has surprised me the most is the amount of clubs that are currently operating in the country. Before I joined, I knew there were swingers clubs. I just didn't expect the number of them over the country.
Oh and the amount of people on this site was a big surprise too."
That ginger men are very sexy  |
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The outright weirdness of some fuckers.
Jeez. They walk among us. |
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For me, the amount of people! Including local people.
The amount of time wasters, given most of us are on here for the same thing
Even online, there are cliques 👀
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I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some |
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"How many people talk about snow even in the spring/ summer "
This the first time I saw it I actually looked out thinking bullshit its not snowing  |
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The chat topic variation. Apart from the obvious, one of the best on the web I've experienced. |
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"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some "
I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade. |
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"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some
I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade."
In my lifetime I have discovered that self processed open minded people are frequently the most judgemental  .
They often start a conversation with
" I'm as open minded as the next person but..." |
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That I made friends. Definitely wasn’t expecting that!
Mrs TMN x |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 2 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
The amount of people who want to meet Tgirls.
How well balanced most people are. |
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"I think what has surprised me the most is the amount of clubs that are currently operating in the country. Before I joined, I knew there were swingers clubs. I just didn't expect the number of them over the country.
Oh and the amount of people on this site was a big surprise too.
That ginger men are very sexy "
It is like Tormund off Game of Thrones said. We are blessed with fire 🔥 |
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How many "straight men " are also on f#bguys...🤔 |
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"How many "straight men " are also on f#bguys...🤔"
How many straight men suck cock |
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I was surprised to discover that alot of younger men were looking for older females. |
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The amount of time wasters on here and rude people |
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the number of people who stop talking or delete their account when i talking to them |
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Was on here for 8yrs then took 18 months off, in the few months I've been back what's surprises me most is how many old friends have left or no longer online. |
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"How many "straight men " are also on f#bguys...🤔
How many straight men suck cock"
I've often wondered that. Why don't they just put they're bi or they're gay down on their profiles? |
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The amount of normal people, just day to day folk with normal jobs and lives.
And that not every man is looking for young, slim, perfectly proportioned 21 year old woman as the media portrays. |
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I'm not so much surprised as reminded of some things.
People are so lacking in self awareness. Point one finger out and one back at yourself.
Maybe only surprised by what folks will post online with no notion for their safety or their ability to pay their bills.
People get desensitised.
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How few genuine people there are who actually want to meet others. You’d have thought it would be simple, that most people would have the same goal, but that’s simply not the case |
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how many timewasters there are on here |
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By *on_20Couple 2 weeks ago
Manchester and Cardiff |
How much we enjoy the social side of this lifestyle and finding people we click with who have a shared interest. When we joined we were like horny rabbits wanting to fuck. Now we are definitely more into the social side of it and if we play it is an added bonus. We are most surprised by the culture switch we have found in ourselves since being on here. |
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The attitudes towards sex
The cluelessness about everyday ordinary women
The misogyny
The stuck in the past views |
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That for a site that's meant be so sexually open, how stuffy and judgemental people can be while appearing on their own moral high horse |
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"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some
I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade.
In my lifetime I have discovered that self processed open minded people are frequently the most judgemental .
They often start a conversation with
" I'm as open minded as the next person but..." "
Ah, possibly a similar cohort to the "I'm not a racist, but..." brigade |
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"That for a site that's meant be so sexually open, how stuffy and judgemental people can be while appearing on their own moral high horse"
I fell off mine. It probably wasn't that high. Maybe it was in fact just an ass. |
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Given how much complaining there is about not getting meets or having sex
The amount of people on here who are actually having lots of sex 🤣🤣 |
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"That for a site that's meant be so sexually open, how stuffy and judgemental people can be while appearing on their own moral high horse"
Right? |
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That pubic hair was so divisive. All my life my pubes have caused nae bother in my sexual campaigns. But on the forums here, if you have pubes you are a Pariah.
Strange. 🤷🏻♀️ |
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Let's concede for one moment that there are fake profiles and timewasters...
What has genuinely surprised me about this place is the amount of impressionable people who are so easily •susceptible• to fake profiles and timewasters, to the point of their perpetual frustration and resentfulness that requires them to endlessly debate the matter...rather than just looking forward and moving on. |
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How awful people can be at times, honestly it's like a bloody playground |
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That there are three types of fabbers...
Genuine swingers who are somewhere on the spectrum from curious to full swap - they are completely normal decent people looking for that something extra.
'Content creators' dominating the hot photos and videos.
And the third are simply pic collectors and arseholes looking to make themselves feel better by either having a quick tug or abuse people.
When you learn to out and filter the latter, fab is a great place 🫶 |
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How many old dudes would meet an 18 year old girl tbh, unsettles me |
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By *ayBeeTV/TS 2 weeks ago
Winchester |
That guys can do whatever they want with a penis and they're still straight.... if i do the same Im gay! 😁 |
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The sheer number of women that want to meet me. It's quite unbelievable. |
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By *WB85Man 2 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
How many people do it.
How many clubs there are.
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The amount of dickheads in swinging  |
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By *ayBeeTV/TS 2 weeks ago
Winchester |
"How many "straight men " are also on f#bguys...🤔"
I had a guy here explaining to me that " im into ts but im not gay! I'm straight, you know..."
And 2 weeks later he messaged me on Grindr from a profile that said: looking for lads.... 😑 |
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By *essTTWoman 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"How many people talk about snow even in the spring/ summer "
Lmao |
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"That guys can do whatever they want with a penis and they're still straight.... if i do the same Im gay! 😁"
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By *essTTWoman 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
The amount of people both men and couples (m and f half) who see single women as a commodity put on this planet simply to please them.
Obviously we see this from (some) men in real life but no where near the amount compared to on here. |
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By *essTTWoman 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"How many old dudes would meet an 18 year old girl tbh, unsettles me "
Works the other way as well though
Seen plenty of 50+ women who have verifies from 20 year olds |
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That people like me dispite me being an arse |
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"How many old dudes would meet an 18 year old girl tbh, unsettles me
Works the other way as well though
Seen plenty of 50+ women who have verifies from 20 year olds"
Yea fair point 💕 |
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"The amount of people both men and couples (m and f half) who see single women as a commodity put on this planet simply to please them.
Obviously we see this from (some) men in real life but no where near the amount compared to on here."
I said to someone the other day im not entertainment for you
They said sorry you feel that way 😂 |
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"The amount of dickheads in swinging "
Wankers. Literally 😂 |
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By *WB85Man 2 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
"The amount of people both men and couples (m and f half) who see single women as a commodity put on this planet simply to please them.
Obviously we see this from (some) men in real life but no where near the amount compared to on here.
I said to someone the other day im not entertainment for you
They said sorry you feel that way 😂"
I was described as a toy once. Picked up when wanted and dropped when something else comes along. |
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The amount of people who offer money for meets, the amount of people who can't accept "no" and the amount of people who have to talk about snow or 420 |
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"That there are three types of fabbers...
Genuine swingers who are somewhere on the spectrum from curious to full swap - they are completely normal decent people looking for that something extra.
'Content creators' dominating the hot photos and videos.
And the third are simply pic collectors and arseholes looking to make themselves feel better by either having a quick tug or abuse people.
When you learn to out and filter the latter, fab is a great place 🫶"
Good summary. As long time swinger who has seen a lot over the years am surprised how vile some on here can be. It’s getting harder to find the lovely nice people |
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I was surprised to find out how much married women and men cheat behind there partners back. |
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That swinging really isn't that much of a big deal. |
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By *CExeCouple 2 weeks ago
Lincoln/Exeter |
That sounding is not only a thing, but that men enjoy it 🤣 |
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There are a suprising number of ladies who do enjoy sex.
And are prepared to take the lead |
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Some very nice people from all walks of life and the reason I am still here. Make friends, meet people, learn stuff, get advise and support. It can all be good.
Some people who quite frankly need locking up.
Some people whose only pleasure is to contradict everyone else.
Some people are highly deluded.
Yes there are lots of schemers, fakes and the like but, having said all that, you have good tools to manage your account. No need to constantly moan about it when you have not even bothered to put any filters on. |
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By *aven RedWoman 2 weeks ago
who knows, but it's not raining x |
The amount of times I can kill a thread x  |
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By *avexxMan 2 weeks ago
cheshire |
all the new sex words ive never heard of.. thank you |
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I'm astonished by the rampant use of AI on here in recent years, particularly to try to gain popularity. To me it's transparent and slimy, and I'm not sure why anyone falls for it. |
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"all the new sex words ive never heard of.. thank you"
You’re welcome you rakishly magnetic smouldering Adonis! |
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How sex can completely take over some people's life.
Mrs |
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"For me, the amount of people! Including local people.
The amount of time wasters, given most of us are on here for the same thing
Even online, there are cliques 👀
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This is the one right here!! |
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"That for a site that's meant be so sexually open, how stuffy and judgemental people can be while appearing on their own moral high horse"
!!!! |
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Positives:
- How popular swinging is
- How many clubs there are on here
Negatives:
- How judgemental swingers can be
- How right wing people on this site are
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The thing that surprises me the most is how the two world of fab and normal life no matter how much you try to separate it, it slowly just intertwines with one another.. how most of my close friends are in the lifestyle and yet we do a lot of normal stuff too. But it allows me to be my true self without having to hide who I am or revealing too much if that makes sense |
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That some people seem to forget their moral compass whilst on here.
The amount of folk who would basically fuck anything and the whiny attitude of some who can’t even get to fuck anything 😱😬
K |
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"Some very nice people from all walks of life and the reason I am still here. Make friends, meet people, learn stuff, get advise and support. It can all be good.
Some people who quite frankly need locking up.
Some people whose only pleasure is to contradict everyone else.
Some people are highly deluded.
Yes there are lots of schemers, fakes and the like but, having said all that, you have good tools to manage your account. No need to constantly moan about it when you have not even bothered to put any filters on. "
The Good, the Bad and the Strange |
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The intelligence of the people here |
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By *WB85Man 2 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
How insecure so many people are about the size of their dick.
Daily threads about it. Madness. |
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"How insecure so many people are about the size of their dick.
Daily threads about it. Madness. "
My cock is the size of an Elephants trunk. Honest |
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"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some "
I was very surprised by the judgemental nature of people who are engaging in activities others would judge them into the middle of next week for.
You’d think people who might receive it would dish a little less of it out. |
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Many things have surprised me - of which most have been mentioned above
One thing I have found especially surprising is the amount of men have 'straight' listed on their profile but are actually bi or bicurious
I know a lot of this comes from feeling they need to hide their sexuality which I do find particular sad given how supportive, open and liberated this community is supposed to be
Times have definitely changed over the years and male bisexuality is definitely more accepted which IA great to see but my oh my do we still have a long way to go
S xx
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Nothing really surprises me. But I am alarmed, and sickened by some of the messages that I have had. It's actually put me off. |
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"Positives:
- How popular swinging is
- How many clubs there are on here
Negatives:
- How judgemental swingers can be
- How right wing people on this site are
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Yup |
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"Many things have surprised me - of which most have been mentioned above
One thing I have found especially surprising is the amount of men have 'straight' listed on their profile but are actually bi or bicurious
I know a lot of this comes from feeling they need to hide their sexuality which I do find particular sad given how supportive, open and liberated this community is supposed to be
Times have definitely changed over the years and male bisexuality is definitely more accepted which IA great to see but my oh my do we still have a long way to go
S xx
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I think you've hit the nail on the head. They are clearly bi but based on maybe, embarrassment, social pressure or whatever reason they have. They feel the need to put down they're straight. |
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How a high percentage of threads always end up either political or right/left back and forths |
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"How a high percentage of threads always end up either political or right/left back and forths "
The political ones always get quite heated too |
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How many guys really are cucks and submissive. Even the guys that you would think would dominate every room they go into wearing cages and begging to watch a line of guys go through their wife/gf while they're made to clean up |
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How often butter is talked about 👀 |
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How easy it would be to get the tiddler sucked as long didn’t mind a bloke doing it, also That nobody ever discusses or even mentions the legendary sexual chocolate mark henry |
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"How often butter is talked about 👀 "
🤣😘 |
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Five⁵ years on and some people still don't know how to eat a Scone. These miscreants and nincompoops should be sent to a Swiss finishing school! 🫖 |
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There’s lots of sweet and innocent people on here, no one is mischievous at all 🤣 |
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"How easy it would be to get the tiddler sucked as long didn’t mind a bloke doing it, also That nobody ever discusses or even mentions the legendary sexual chocolate mark henry "
I'm more that happy to talk about Mark Henry. I'm currently watching a Wrestlemania matches marathon on YouTube |
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"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some
I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade."
The amount of lamppost pissing and naked, blatant attempts to brown nose just to get their end away/be noticed still astonishes and depresses me. - That people can be so obviously,self-consciously false while making out they're lovely.
And i naively thought there'd be lots of sex positive,easy going people with (hardly any)agenda chattering away in the forums.
Tragically, it wasn't too far from that when i first joined.
Also: the self righteous, pathetically small minded, picky put downs for no good reason.
Thank god for the few nice, interesting, non twatty eejits i do talk to.
People of a similar ilk, we need to reclaim the forums!send me a DM and I'll organise an advance party to storm the Bastille.
Let them eat (not very nice...) cake! |
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The social events and making friends.
Just how enamoured some men are with their own penis. I’d always assumed straight men were turned on by looking at women, but I’ve had to reassess.
“Isn’t my cock just amazing? Here, unknown lady, behold my cock. Doesn’t looking at it turn you on as much as it turns me on? Oh, how lovely and hot my cock is 😍” |
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People who complain about not getting meets when they have nothing or very little on their profile and cant understand that you have to put effort in and just by signing up doesn't guarantee you a shag |
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By *essTTWoman 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some
I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade.
The amount of lamppost pissing and naked, blatant attempts to brown nose just to get their end away/be noticed still astonishes and depresses me. - That people can be so obviously,self-consciously false while making out they're lovely.
And i naively thought there'd be lots of sex positive,easy going people with (hardly any)agenda chattering away in the forums.
Tragically, it wasn't too far from that when i first joined.
Also: the self righteous, pathetically small minded, picky put downs for no good reason.
Thank god for the few nice, interesting, non twatty eejits i do talk to.
People of a similar ilk, we need to reclaim the forums!send me a DM and I'll organise an advance party to storm the Bastille.
Let them eat (not very nice...) cake!"
Makes me giggle when I see it on the forums |
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"People who complain about not getting meets when they have nothing or very little on their profile and cant understand that you have to put effort in and just by signing up doesn't guarantee you a shag"
Oh. |
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The casual (often unpleasant) homophobia in the forums, which gets a laugh on the forums. Do they also laugh at racist or antisemitic comments? Or is it just gay people who are a fair target? |
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That some people are fairly normal |
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How many cheaters are on here
How picky I really am when it comes to meets
How many people are just here for the fantasy and not for the actual action
And how many couples on here are using this lifestyle to save their failing relationships |
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How many genuine friends I've made.
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People’s intolerance towards unoriginality.
As in profiles who say ‘yes I’m ok, my day is going fine’ to preempt such incoming messaging.
If the message is pleasant, and perhaps more importantly backed up with an appealing pic, what’s the problem is asking a good natured question even if it is unoriginal.
They haven’t just taken a dump in your handbag have they? |
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"The entitlement "
Yes this!!! The demands to move to tele gram and the likes. The friends request without actually saying hello! The demands to call or can to listen to them wank. The forcing of their fantasies on you without caring if it an interest of yours.
A positive is the lovely and varied chats I have with people sadly all seem to be too far away! X
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"The casual (often unpleasant) homophobia in the forums, which gets a laugh on the forums. Do they also laugh at racist or antisemitic comments? Or is it just gay people who are a fair target? "
I am sure some do all of these. Bigotry through and through.  |
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"People’s intolerance towards unoriginality.
As in profiles who say ‘yes I’m ok, my day is going fine’ to preempt such incoming messaging.
If the message is pleasant, and perhaps more importantly backed up with an appealing pic, what’s the problem is asking a good natured question even if it is unoriginal.
They haven’t just taken a dump in your handbag have they?"
The problem I find with it is, it's indistinguishable from spam.
I used to work for a major institution and the number of times I'd get messages saying "I'm really interested in Competitor Across Town Corp".
As an employee, I get it. My place and Competitor Corp are both great.
As a person in my personal capacity, unoriginal messages can read like "Dear Person who has a vagina and a pulse within a fifty mile radius, you'll do". |
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By *essTTWoman 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"The casual (often unpleasant) homophobia in the forums, which gets a laugh on the forums. Do they also laugh at racist or antisemitic comments? Or is it just gay people who are a fair target? "
Lots of racist comments get brushed under the carpet as well although I will agree that there seems to be ALOT of homophobic/biphobic comments that seem to be made in comparison to other groups.
People are bigots unfortunately, it only makes sense that this kind of attitude would move from the real world into the swinging world  |
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For ‘libertines’ many seem very prescriptive and intolerant. |
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Honestly? Nothing... People are dicks.. same as in real life .. |
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"Honestly? Nothing... People are dicks.. same as in real life .. "
Dicks attached to an even bigger dick |
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How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing |
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The depth some conversations go to, how you can end up feeling like you truely understand where this human is coming from. Even if your wildly different in sexual needs and wants. Sometimes how similar you are but distance would mean mutual needs wouldn't be met, yet still being 'good friends'. Chilled playful strangers 😂
As well as the shallowness and reatativness of other convos and how they are usually the ones the other party think will result in a midnight liaison |
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"How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing "
I'm always surprised by the cliché "we're all here for the same thing". Because it's self-evidently untrue. |
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"How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing
I'm always surprised by the cliché "we're all here for the same thing". Because it's self-evidently untrue."
its doesn't matter how nice you are tho as to many are just rude back even though a lot are just looking for chats and a laugh |
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How surprisingly difficult it is to arrange a meeting with a single guy who will actually turn up! xx |
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Just the difficulty in arranging a meet, love the forums though |
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"How surprisingly difficult it is to arrange a meeting with a single guy who will actually turn up! xx"
its the same foe us blokes aswell sort a meet out then thay dont turn up or block you
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"How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing
I'm always surprised by the cliché "we're all here for the same thing". Because it's self-evidently untrue. its doesn't matter how nice you are tho as to many are just rude back even though a lot are just looking for chats and a laugh "
Yes, some people will always be rude. That's life. "The only person you can change is yourself", and all of that.
However, we are not all here for the same thing. |
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How many swingers are chavs (and chavettes). Naively thought they would all be middle class. Not complaining, love the scraped back hair and hoop earrings  |
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"How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing
I'm always surprised by the cliché "we're all here for the same thing". Because it's self-evidently untrue. its doesn't matter how nice you are tho as to many are just rude back even though a lot are just looking for chats and a laugh
Yes, some people will always be rude. That's life. "The only person you can change is yourself", and all of that.
However, we are not all here for the same thing. "
can't change anything when all im looking for is chats and if a meet comes along then its happy days |
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Surprised us how many time wasting, non swingers lurk on this site without means of outing them |
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"Honestly? Nothing... People are dicks.. same as in real life ..
Dicks attached to an even bigger dick "
Sometimes yes... Although occasionally there's a dick I'd like to meet  |
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"The depth some conversations go to, how you can end up feeling like you truely understand where this human is coming from. Even if your wildly different in sexual needs and wants. Sometimes how similar you are but distance would mean mutual needs wouldn't be met, yet still being 'good friends'. Chilled playful strangers 😂
As well as the shallowness and reatativness of other convos and how they are usually the ones the other party think will result in a midnight liaison "
This is it. Had lovely conversations and realised, they live 200 plus miles away. So the chance of meeting is slim. It is crap |
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The amount of rude people, expecting meets after just a hi
Friend requests- never chatted
Bareback riders given the stats on Sti's - increasing
Some strange kinks each to their own and all that but some just out there |
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How pathetic and feeble the majority of the male species are.
The mr |
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Just how many fake false people there are hiding behind their screens and key boards and the amount of bad manners aswell |
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That is actually harder than you think being on here...Its a strange world😌🤭 |
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"The depth some conversations go to, how you can end up feeling like you truely understand where this human is coming from. Even if your wildly different in sexual needs and wants. Sometimes how similar you are but distance would mean mutual needs wouldn't be met, yet still being 'good friends'. Chilled playful strangers 😂
As well as the shallowness and reatativness of other convos and how they are usually the ones the other party think will result in a midnight liaison
This is it. Had lovely conversations and realised, they live 200 plus miles away. So the chance of meeting is slim. It is crap"
Could always meet halfway |
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"The amount of rude people, expecting meets after just a hi
Friend requests- never chatted
Bareback riders given the stats on Sti's - increasing
Some strange kinks each to their own and all that but some just out there"
There's someone on my local tabs thing. She goes dogging often and does it bareback. Meeting randomers. And posting the meets via videos and pictures. Just so damn risky. |
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The number or people who assume everyone is here for the same reason (and fail to define what they believe that reason to be). |
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The amount of guys who are married and say straight on their profile, but send me dick pics and want to suck mine lol |
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By *oyoteUglyWoman 2 weeks ago
Somewhere dark and gloomy |
The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me. |
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"I think what has surprised me the most is the amount of clubs that are currently operating in the country. Before I joined, I knew there were swingers clubs. I just didn't expect the number of them over the country.
Oh and the amount of people on this site was a big surprise too."
Ppl are here for the thrill of the meet and not the actual encounter |
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"The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me. "
😅 whys that a surprise!? |
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"The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me.
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😅 whys that a surprise!?"
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Perhaps because she's hideous, repulsive, has hairy toes or she uses sarcasm to vanquish the sycophants. Who knows?  |
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Some people on here don’t seem to enjoy the experience which is a situation I’ve found interesting. |
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"Perhaps because she's hideous, repulsive, has hairy toes or she uses sarcasm to vanquish the sycophants. Who knows? "
Is that all🤔😅 |
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By *hesblokeMan 2 weeks ago
Derbyshire village |
The number of Warhammer players |
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By *oyoteUglyWoman 2 weeks ago
Somewhere dark and gloomy |
"The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me.
😅 whys that a surprise!?"
Honestly, because if I passed them in the street they'd most likely ignore me. |
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"The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me.
😅 whys that a surprise!?
Honestly, because if I passed them in the street they'd most likely ignore me. "
It's the boobs and the growler doing all the work |
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How easy it is for some guys to get laid, whilst for others its nigh on impossible |
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I would not say its easier for some over and above others to get laid..
and a two way thing for a bloke or woman..
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The large amount of people with the "How DARE you do Fab differently to how I/we want you to do here!" attitude. |
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The odd requests you get has surprised me too. You get used to it, but sometimes difficult to do so. For example this week a couple wanted me to lead them my dogs collar and lead for their humiliation fetish. And another said he wants to sniff my socks whilst I fucked his Mrs. |
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How inches can grow magically all by themselves yet the years, almost as magically too, can simply vanish... |
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How little effort people make in communication |
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"The hierarchy of desirability."
Care to expand on that? That is an interesting thought. |
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Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!
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Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting
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Rude people |
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How a lot of 'hot' wives are not that hot.
The abundance of sycophants. |
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"The hierarchy of desirability.
Care to expand on that? That is an interesting thought."
No, thank you. It would cause absolute mayhem and arguments. I'm not interested in that. It's more like an open secret. Everyone knows and no one talks about it. |
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"Honestly, because if I passed them in the street they'd most likely ignore me. "
Really!😲 not even a look!? Be a surprise,cos your snaps say you look a bit of a stunner😏their lose🤭 |
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By *essTTWoman 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!
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Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting
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Rude people "
How do you know they won't entertain older than 40?
"Will meet" doesn't mean will meet everyone who messages to ask... |
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How sexually flexible I am, if I'm attracted enough to want to snog then I'm attracted enough to fuck |
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"The hierarchy of desirability.
Care to expand on that? That is an interesting thought.
No, thank you. It would cause absolute mayhem and arguments. I'm not interested in that. It's more like an open secret. Everyone knows and no one talks about it."
That is okay. I get what you mean. And sadly it is there. |
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By *essTTWoman 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
One thing that has surprised me this week is men who meet known bareback girls (as is their right to do so) and then don't understand why other women would be apprehensive to meet them afterwards. |
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"Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!
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Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting
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Rude people
How do you know they won't entertain older than 40?
"Will meet" doesn't mean will meet everyone who messages to ask..."
Yeah.
I'm surprised by the number of people who confuse "won't meet me" with "won't meet anyone" or "won't meet anyone of my demographic". |
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Number of people on here that are really close |
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My biggest surprise was how cool the forums are. Some genuinely great people on here (I know there are a lot on this site that may not make it as enjoyable for others) but I find the people I interact with on here so brilliant. It’s not just about swinging, it’s about meeting great people |
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By *essTTWoman 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!
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Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting
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Rude people
How do you know they won't entertain older than 40?
"Will meet" doesn't mean will meet everyone who messages to ask...
Yeah.
I'm surprised by the number of people who confuse "won't meet me" with "won't meet anyone" or "won't meet anyone of my demographic"."
And then automatically get labeled time wasters
If I want to meet on Monday night but can't find anyone who tickles my fancy then I'll stay home. I'm not going to meet the first person who asks just because they are also free on Monday like?? |
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"Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!
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Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting
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Rude people
How do you know they won't entertain older than 40?
"Will meet" doesn't mean will meet everyone who messages to ask...
Yeah.
I'm surprised by the number of people who confuse "won't meet me" with "won't meet anyone" or "won't meet anyone of my demographic".
And then automatically get labeled time wasters
If I want to meet on Monday night but can't find anyone who tickles my fancy then I'll stay home. I'm not going to meet the first person who asks just because they are also free on Monday like??"
Yeah.
For me, time wasting is "sure, I'll meet you at 8pm on Friday at 123 example street" and then not showing up. Or maybe weeks or months of chatting one to one then ghosting (that's more borderline).
Saying no is just... not being in a class of person that rhymes with bravery. |
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How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal. |
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"How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal. "
*Deletes new photo...* |
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"How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal.
*Deletes new photo...*"
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it was the seal the deal bit that made me chuckle . |
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That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ? |
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"That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?"
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Quite possibly it is a preference but alongside other qualities or traits on offer, and not solely on height.
Are women shallow enough to bonk just based on height and nothing else? I don't know... |
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By *oyoteUglyWoman 2 weeks ago
Somewhere dark and gloomy |
"That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?
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Quite possibly it is a preference but alongside other qualities or traits on offer, and not solely on height.
Are women shallow enough to bonk just based on height and nothing else? I don't know..."
Yeah |
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"That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?"
It's a widely held preference (not by me: my preference is "not shorter than me").
Thing is, no one attribute is enough by itself. It's the whole package. |
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"How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal. "
360 pictures covering each degree angle you know just in case |
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"That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?
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Quite possibly it is a preference but alongside other qualities or traits on offer, and not solely on height.
Are women shallow enough to bonk just based on height and nothing else? I don't know...
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Yeah"
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I said "shallow" and not bat-shit crazy. |
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"How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal.
360 pictures covering each degree angle you know just in case "
I would say it's covered in mils all 6400 of them |
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How rude some guys are to the girls , why? |
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