Do you have a plan b in place when meeting? If so, is it a fabber or something unconnected?
Have you ever knowingly been a plan b? If so, how did you feel about that? If not, how would you feel?
Is it unfair on everyone or a sensible idea? |
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No, I find the idea of having a "Plan B" a bit disrespectful and I'd be livid if I discovered I was someone else's Plan B.
If I'm meeting someone, it's because I want to meet them. Not because "any cock will do" etc. |
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"Do you have a plan b in place when meeting? If so, is it a fabber or something unconnected?
Have you ever knowingly been a plan b? If so, how did you feel about that? If not, how would you feel?
Is it unfair on everyone or a sensible idea?"
I found out I was Plan B at the end of a 15 year marriage, that stung a bit. |
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My "plan B" for meets is a novel or an early night. I do think making a person your plan B is disrespectful. (Unless it's like, I'm talking to two or more people and at some stage I'd like to meet X, and I'd also like to meet Y, but maybe not as much as I'd like to meet X) |
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We have never had a plan B but once realised we probably were. We arrived at the appointed place, paid an eye watering price for a glass of wine and a . The guy as it turned out was at the bar but studiously avoided us until we messaged to say where we were. It was so obvious he had something else going on, we drank up and shipped out, as we drove away he was on his phone to plan A.  |
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I always have a plan B.
This does not mean that i have another fabber waiting in the wings, it just means that i plan a full day and if the meet doesn't take off I still have the rest of the day to go complete with make up and being decently dressed e.g. friends, shops, cinema, beach , what ever what ever what ever...
I've never gone home in a strop and cried into my pillow till my mascara runs.
To fail to plan is to ( insert something here )
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"I always have a plan B.
This does not mean that i have another fabber waiting in the wings, it just means that i plan a full day and if the meet doesn't take off I still have the rest of the day to go complete with make up and being decently dressed e.g. friends, shops, cinema, beach , what ever what ever what ever...
I've never gone home in a strop and cried into my pillow till my mascara runs.
To fail to plan is to ( insert something here )
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Get waterproof mascara is my takeaway from this... |
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I never have a plan B and will never tolerate being one either.
The issue with fab for me is that you can never be too sure that you aren't, or even a fall back plan because someone thinks you will always been around. |
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"Do you have a plan b in place when meeting? If so, is it a fabber or something unconnected?
Have you ever knowingly been a plan b? If so, how did you feel about that? If not, how would you feel?
Is it unfair on everyone or a sensible idea?
I found out I was Plan B at the end of a 15 year marriage, that stung a bit."
Ouch!!! Sorry to hear that, I hope you’re happier now you’re free. |
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"I always have a plan B.
This does not mean that i have another fabber waiting in the wings, it just means that i plan a full day and if the meet doesn't take off I still have the rest of the day to go complete with make up and being decently dressed e.g. friends, shops, cinema, beach , what ever what ever what ever...
I've never gone home in a strop and cried into my pillow till my mascara runs.
To fail to plan is to ( insert something here )
Get waterproof mascara is my takeaway from this..."
Who for ? |
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No I don't. I only meet socially first anyway, so I'd just meet somewhere I'd normally be/be near anywhere. Ie for a drink/coffee.
That way if they don't turn up, it's no skin off my nose,i can still have a drink if I want one etc.
I'd find it quite disrespectful if I'd been used as a plan b tbh. |
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"I always have a plan B.
This does not mean that i have another fabber waiting in the wings, it just means that i plan a full day and if the meet doesn't take off I still have the rest of the day to go complete with make up and being decently dressed e.g. friends, shops, cinema, beach , what ever what ever what ever...
I've never gone home in a strop and cried into my pillow till my mascara runs.
To fail to plan is to ( insert something here )
Get waterproof mascara is my takeaway from this...
Who for ? "
Moi when I'm sobbing over my latest rejection |
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"I always have a plan B.
This does not mean that i have another fabber waiting in the wings, it just means that i plan a full day and if the meet doesn't take off I still have the rest of the day to go complete with make up and being decently dressed e.g. friends, shops, cinema, beach , what ever what ever what ever...
I've never gone home in a strop and cried into my pillow till my mascara runs.
To fail to plan is to ( insert something here )
Get waterproof mascara is my takeaway from this...
Who for ?
Moi when I'm sobbing over my latest rejection "
Oh behave. Now I think you are teasing |
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"I always have a plan B.
This does not mean that i have another fabber waiting in the wings, it just means that i plan a full day and if the meet doesn't take off I still have the rest of the day to go complete with make up and being decently dressed e.g. friends, shops, cinema, beach , what ever what ever what ever...
I've never gone home in a strop and cried into my pillow till my mascara runs.
To fail to plan is to ( insert something here )
Get waterproof mascara is my takeaway from this...
Who for ?
Moi when I'm sobbing over my latest rejection
Oh behave. Now I think you are teasing"
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"No I don't. I only meet socially first anyway, so I'd just meet somewhere I'd normally be/be near anywhere. Ie for a drink/coffee.
That way if they don't turn up, it's no skin off my nose,i can still have a drink if I want one etc.
I'd find it quite disrespectful if I'd been used as a plan b tbh. "
 M.M. That is a plan B. It's the same as mine. |
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"Do you have a plan b in place when meeting? If so, is it a fabber or something unconnected?
Have you ever knowingly been a plan b? If so, how did you feel about that? If not, how would you feel?
Is it unfair on everyone or a sensible idea?
I found out I was Plan B at the end of a 15 year marriage, that stung a bit."
Yikes 😬 |
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My Plan B ended up being my FWB for two years.
I had a social planned with a couple but they cancelled on me last minute. I wasn't inviting this other man out. I only sent him a message to say I was all dressed up and had been cancelled on.
He said he was just driving past and could stop for a drink if I wanted? If I didn't mind that he'd had his dog with him?
It was lovely. He was lovely. I fell in love with his dog. And after that drink I wanted to do ungodly things to him. So that happened next. |
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Plan B for me is having a nice day out alone seeing and doing things I enjoy, or a cozy evening in with a film and snacks. I've never made a person my Plan B.
I did once find out I was someone else's Plan B when it transpired they'd made provisional plans with both me and someone else, and then I got dropped at the last minute. I found out a few months later when they slipped up on some details that they'd forgotten they'd fibbed about. Not a great feeling, really.
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I currently only meet at clubs and I'm very picky (basically I need any potential play partner to treat me like a person, not just a collection of holes to fuck). When I do meet on 1:1 basis, with one of my regulars, and they can't make it, then my plan B is a chilled evening at home, with a good movie/series or gaming. |
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After far too much time and money wasted by people who ghost or cancel short notice, I now only meet at organised socials or if I'm already out and about in the area.
I've discovered I've been a plan B before now, I was not best impressed. |
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No. Never have a plan B, only a plan A.
I once felt like a plan B when someone we was seeing regularly asked us to meet but said he would be tired on the day we managed to free up. He then stupidly posted a veri for that same date. Needless to say we refused to see him again. |
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"Plan b is contact ThickThighs and see if she is up for a Plan B wank. Chances are extremely high it will be a yes
You too! 
Of course. And I don't think we are the only two"
Im always Plan B im used to it.
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"Plan b is contact ThickThighs and see if she is up for a Plan B wank. Chances are extremely high it will be a yes
You too!
Of course. And I don't think we are the only two
Im always Plan B im used to it.
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And we love you for it 😘 |
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"Plan b is contact ThickThighs and see if she is up for a Plan B wank. Chances are extremely high it will be a yes
You too!
Of course. And I don't think we are the only two
Im always Plan B im used to it.
And we love you for it 😘 "
But im a good wanker so its ok |
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"Plan b is contact ThickThighs and see if she is up for a Plan B wank. Chances are extremely high it will be a yes
You too!
Of course. And I don't think we are the only two
Im always Plan B im used to it.
And we love you for it 😘
But im a good wanker so its ok"
The best |
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By *eliWoman 2 weeks ago
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Not knowingly, no. I've never had someone cancel/ghost, felt like an option rather than a choice etc.
Can understand to a certain extent why people do it. I do have a plan B but it involves doing nice things in the area. So far it's not been used, fingers crossed it won't ever be. |
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No, I'd never have a Plan B (chance would be a fine thing!). If someone didn't show up, my plan B would be to go home. Thankfully not happened yet though.
I don't think I've been anyone's Plan B in return, but who knows. We're probably all someone's second choice at some point! 🤣 |
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If i am travelling abit of a distance then i will have a plan B in mind.
Not another person but an option to do something or go somewhere in that area, museum, club, castle, whatever.
Depends on the area . |
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I was once a plan A that turned into a plan B.
A FWB had arranged for a friend of hers to join us. On the day the friend decided to make plans to see her karate instructor instead. She blew us out! Until..... he couldn't get it up! She put her knickers back on and came along to plan B/A.
Now I'm confused.....
Were we plan A, plan B or plan A after all? |
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So many times wasters on here, my plan be is not to give a fuck if they go off line, cancel or dont show.
I dont dwell on it, they are blocked instantly and I never look back.
Plan b? Maybe go on cam in the chatrooms if i am made up and dressed, or have a shower and not worry about it. Tbh, I wont make that much of an effort and finish any make up until I can see they are close by. |
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Sometimes it would be a relief when plan A doesn’t work out 😂 It’s never happened to me before but if I’d travelled somewhere, booked a hotel and plans fell through, I’d probably be over the moon to have a bath, watch telly and get room service 😄 |
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No, not really, especially if I've travelled a fair distance to meet them. I have had things fall through and it always feels a bit condescending if they say like "I'm sure you can find someone else to occupy your evening with 😉" like it's so easy to meet someone at the drop of a hat 😂 |
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"No, not really, especially if I've travelled a fair distance to meet them. I have had things fall through and it always feels a bit condescending if they say like "I'm sure you can find someone else to occupy your evening with 😉" like it's so easy to meet someone at the drop of a hat 😂"
If I'd travelled and had a hotel for the night I'd probably look to see if there was a band I could see |
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My plan b was going on the piss with my brother, when my meet I had booked a hotel for decided to leave me on delivered for 6 hours then said he didn't look at his phone. Obviously wasn't bothered then. |
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"No, not really, especially if I've travelled a fair distance to meet them. I have had things fall through and it always feels a bit condescending if they say like "I'm sure you can find someone else to occupy your evening with 😉" like it's so easy to meet someone at the drop of a hat 😂
If I'd travelled and had a hotel for the night I'd probably look to see if there was a band I could see "
Generally I couple a long distance meet with a city break or group social but for that particular evening, I do find myself at a loss for what to do 😅 |
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"My plan b was going on the piss with my brother, when my meet I had booked a hotel for decided to leave me on delivered for 6 hours then said he didn't look at his phone. Obviously wasn't bothered then."
Some people are so pathetic tbat they probably believe that thatvwas was a good enough exvise they had. Mind boggles |
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I arranged to meet a woman through here years ago and messaged that morning to confirm only to be told she was very busy with work and would have to work through her lunch and wasn't sure if she could make our meeting that evening. She promised to let me know before I finished work.
I didn't hear back from her so I didn't go to the meeting point and went straight home.
The next morning she had 2 new verifications. One from a lunchtime hotel meet when she had said she was working and another that specifically mentioned the name of the coffee shop we were to meet in. Looking back on it now I believe that was deliberate to make sure I knew I was a plan B.
She tried to get me to meet months later but I told her no chance.
On another occasion a woman started a thread on the forums about being constantly stood up and complained on numerous other threads about the same thing.
I messaged her and we arranged to meet for coffee at her hotel when she was visiting the following week. It was literally 5 minutes from where I was working.
She had told me her travel plans and what time she would be arriving and where she was staying.
The day before we were to meet I confirmed all the details and she replied to say she was confused as she couldn't possibly have organised anything with me because she was in the city for purely vanilla reasons and wouldn't be doing anything fab related while she was there.
I asked her to explain how I could have known where she was staying and what time she was arriving if she hadn't told me?
She has no answer apart from saying I was badly mistaken.
The next morning she had a verification from someone else.
As far as I am concerned I am nobody's plan B and it's a shitty thing to do especially when you are constantly whining about how you claim others are treating you.
They both had one chance and they blew it and if they have lots of no shows they deserve them for having such a crappy attitude. |
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"I arranged to meet a woman through here years ago and messaged that morning to confirm only to be told she was very busy with work and would have to work through her lunch and wasn't sure if she could make our meeting that evening. She promised to let me know before I finished work.
I didn't hear back from her so I didn't go to the meeting point and went straight home.
The next morning she had 2 new verifications. One from a lunchtime hotel meet when she had said she was working and another that specifically mentioned the name of the coffee shop we were to meet in. Looking back on it now I believe that was deliberate to make sure I knew I was a plan B.
She tried to get me to meet months later but I told her no chance.
On another occasion a woman started a thread on the forums about being constantly stood up and complained on numerous other threads about the same thing.
I messaged her and we arranged to meet for coffee at her hotel when she was visiting the following week. It was literally 5 minutes from where I was working.
She had told me her travel plans and what time she would be arriving and where she was staying.
The day before we were to meet I confirmed all the details and she replied to say she was confused as she couldn't possibly have organised anything with me because she was in the city for purely vanilla reasons and wouldn't be doing anything fab related while she was there.
I asked her to explain how I could have known where she was staying and what time she was arriving if she hadn't told me?
She has no answer apart from saying I was badly mistaken.
The next morning she had a verification from someone else.
As far as I am concerned I am nobody's plan B and it's a shitty thing to do especially when you are constantly whining about how you claim others are treating you.
They both had one chance and they blew it and if they have lots of no shows they deserve them for having such a crappy attitude. "
Very well said, sir. I couldn’t agree more and I’m sorry to hear about those experiences. |
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By *adyBugsWoman 2 weeks ago
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"I have, it was Plan B-eef. It was his suggestion though so not sure it counts. I wouldn’t use someone in that way without their knowledge. I would happily have a plan B of a self date!"
May I have a side of plan B-eef please 😈 |
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By *adyBugsWoman 2 weeks ago
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And for my serious answer, it’s never a Plan A. I’ll tell you what pub I’ll be in for a drink. I’ll take my book. If you turn up…awesome. If you don’t…fuck you and I really enjoyed my book 👍 |
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Always a joy to have someone reaching for their phone as they walk away or whatever.
The dubious mixed blessing and joy of fablife.
Your next hole/goal is always just a tippity tap away, right at your fingertips. |
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I had a Plan b for a club visit one time. I told a friend I was passing on my way to the club, and she said if the club was a washout, to message her on my way home. Needless to say, she and I had a good play on my way home……🤭 |
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I normally coincide any meets with a night out , if they don’t show or meet for the initial social I haven’t completely wasted my time getting ready , go out get d*unk and come back with sore feet |
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I would never make someone a plan B, it's a shitty thing to do to somone
I remember arranging to meet someone, I got ready and was literally leaving the house when he messaged to say he wasn't coming as he was meeting someone else....She ended up standing him up. He messaged to ask if I was still free....Like fuck I was.
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"I don't know about anyone else, but if plan A doesn't work out, it's off for a cheeky Nando's.
If plan A does work out, it's still off for a cheeky!Nando's "
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"Always a joy to have someone reaching for their phone as they walk away or whatever.
The dubious mixed blessing and joy of fablife.
Your next hole/goal is always just a tippity tap away, right at your fingertips."
I hope it’s yours  |
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"I have, it was Plan B-eef. It was his suggestion though so not sure it counts. I wouldn’t use someone in that way without their knowledge. I would happily have a plan B of a self date!"
Plan B-eef 🤣 Love it Best plan ever |
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I don't mind being someone else's plan B, C or D. I suppose it's because it's a bit like a bus queue. Sometimes you are first in the queue, other times somewhere in the middle, and sometimes at the back. I don't mind where I am in the queue. |
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Never had a plan B, never (not that I know of 😅), been someone’s plan B. We insist on a social (strictly - not even a goodbye kiss), first anyway, and we’ve generally put the legwork in to know there’s some kind of connection there, that we can at least get through a coffee together! At worst, it’s coffee with a stranger and you never see them again, at best it leads on to a proper meet.
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No plan B as such but because we live in a rural location, most men have at least 30 - 45 mins drive to get to us. During that time we’ll nearly always get messages and after they are told we have someone on the way, most say “let me know if they don’t turn up”. So it seems most men are happy to be the plan B.
If it’s the other way around and a guy told us he had an arrangement in place already but would let us know if they don’t turn up, we’d just say “maybe another time” and not give it another thought |
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Wife did her plan c. Plan A was married and cheating and showed red flags. Plan b was nervous wreck that showed red flag. Plan c was a good fuck, but tried to pester her after, bit stalking like. So not all backups work lol |
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