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"When you know you aren't their type but they say they want you.
Are you just an easy option?
A fill in until something better comes along?
A temu version of the one they really want?
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I wouldn’t say I wanted someone if they weren’t my “type”
But on the other hand, if im an easy option or a fill in, as long as they are honest about it and say that’s what it is, I’m fine with that, it’s not like I’m planning a wedding or anything. |
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Depends really. If they’re asking for a ripped, shredded guy with a massive dick on their profile and then they’re insisting they want to meet me, I don’t believe it for a second and assume I’m a “it’ll do” kind of meet and I’m not interested. Or even worse, you’re their personality hire! The dreaded “you’re not normally my type but” message.
Probably talk myself out of meets with this thinking 😅 |
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"When you know you aren't their type but they say they want you.
Are you just an easy option?
A fill in until something better comes along?
A temu version of the one they really want?
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Not my type is all I hear on here |
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On here I'd say yes, sadly any hole is a goal for a lot of people on here.
The amount of messages I get where they haven't even seen my face (probably for the best) but saying you are the most beautiful woman on here urm ok? Ha! |
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I'm kinda guessing that's more a woman problem than a man's. Unless it's that Bonnie Blue who shags anything. I wouldn't want to be anybodies back up, stopgap or anything like that. thank you very much |
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It makes me laugh when they say how beautiful I am and they haven't seen me.
I've not interest if I am nothing they are looking for on their profile.
I've had those who say they are looking dor slim petite women...I am neither so it's definitely any holes a goal for them,but it won't be mine  |
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By *oyoteUgly OP Woman 3 days ago
Somewhere dark and gloomy |
"I don’t like the phrase ‘not my type’
What does that even mean. You either are attracted to someone or you are not. It’s as plain as that. "
Sometimes people have a clear type. It's on their profile. It's in who they've met. It's in what they write. And you aren't it.
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"I don’t like the phrase ‘not my type’
What does that even mean. You either are attracted to someone or you are not. It’s as plain as that. "
Not a dig in any way but would you prefer someone to say I'm not attracted to you?
Personally I find not my type (as in not what I'm looking for) a softer way of saying I don't fancy you. |
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"I don’t like the phrase ‘not my type’
What does that even mean. You either are attracted to someone or you are not. It’s as plain as that. "
I very much have a type. It's what I'm attracted to most.
And I know what I'm definitely not attracted to. |
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"If people say ‘you’re not my type’ it’s just a way of saying ‘FOS’
FOS fuck off sunshine?
Oh I've had that one (not so subtlety) said to me a few times this morning. "
How much more unsubtly can it get? |
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"If people say ‘you’re not my type’ it’s just a way of saying ‘FOS’
FOS fuck off sunshine?
Oh I've had that one (not so subtlety) said to me a few times this morning.
How much more unsubtly can it get?"
The FO was attempted to be placed under lots of other words followed by sunshine. But it was there. |
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"If people say ‘you’re not my type’ it’s just a way of saying ‘FOS’
FOS fuck off sunshine?
Oh I've had that one (not so subtlety) said to me a few times this morning.
How much more unsubtly can it get?
The FO was attempted to be placed under lots of other words followed by sunshine. But it was there. "
Ouch! |
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I guess it depends if they have a type?
If we’re talking on here and their veris are from size 8s I assume they do even if they’re saying they like curvy women to try to get into my pants and ignore them. |
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" make me cry when I am left naked and shivering used and abused , , disgarded like a wet chamois leather for there pleasure sobbing, empty and shivering on the bed.
You told me you liked that!"
This is why aftercare is important.
Chilly, music time?
Walking on sunshine. |
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From my perspective I think it depends what follows "You're not my usual type". If "You're not what I expected, you're actually quite nice and you make me laugh" follows then I see nothing wrong with it. It happens, sometimes. |
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By *olo180Man 3 days ago
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"I don’t like the phrase ‘not my type’
What does that even mean. You either are attracted to someone or you are not. It’s as plain as that.
Sometimes people have a clear type. It's on their profile. It's in who they've met. It's in what they write. And you aren't it.
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Yeah….so basically ‘they are not attracted to you’
I just don’t understand people that say that blondes are their ‘type’ for example. Does this mean they find no brunettes attractive?
I prefer it when someone just tells me they don’t find me attractive rather than ‘not my type’
Maybe semantics but just my personal preference. |
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" make me cry when I am left naked and shivering used and abused , , disgarded like a wet chamois leather for there pleasure sobbing, empty and shivering on the bed.
You told me you liked that!"
you said it would not hurt ...fibber |
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On here I am always dubious when someone is coming on strong and I am nothing like their verifications or they say things like "you're not my usual type" or "I'd always wanted to try a girl like you" etc 🤢.
I have no desire to be anyone's experiment or for someone who doesn't really fancy me to sleep with me to "try it out". |
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Have they said we are not their type or just assuming?
Because if they actually me that then there is no way in hell I’d entertain them.
If I am just assuming then I will probe them for deets. Some folk really do just like all types.
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"On here I am always dubious when someone is coming on strong and I am nothing like their verifications or they say things like "you're not my usual type" or "I'd always wanted to try a girl like you" etc 🤢.
I have no desire to be anyone's experiment or for someone who doesn't really fancy me to sleep with me to "try it out"."
Ugh, yes! This.
I'm a bigger girl and have had messages where the guy had said, I don't normally go for women your size but...
Unreal.
As a side note, I love the colour of your lingerie in your profile pic
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"On here I am always dubious when someone is coming on strong and I am nothing like their verifications or they say things like "you're not my usual type" or "I'd always wanted to try a girl like you" etc 🤢.
I have no desire to be anyone's experiment or for someone who doesn't really fancy me to sleep with me to "try it out".
Ugh, yes! This.
I'm a bigger girl and have had messages where the guy had said, I don't normally go for women your size but...
Unreal.
As a side note, I love the colour of your lingerie in your profile pic
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Yeah exactly 
And thank you! 😊 |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 3 days ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
All of the time.
When you get messages saying I'd love to try a Tgirl. That always makes me feel special.
Same in a club when you've seen guys getting blown out by loads of women then sidle up to you.
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If someone says I'm not their usual type I think they're using reverse psychology and that I'll be flattered they've made an exception for lil ole me. I'm not because usually it's a form of negging ' you should be grateful doing you a favour'.
If someone finds you attractive there's no need to qualify it |
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"All of the time.
When you get messages saying I'd love to try a Tgirl. That always makes me feel special.
Same in a club when you've seen guys getting blown out by loads of women then sidle up to you.
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Same when we get messages saying ' I've never had an older woman' 🤦 |
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"I don’t like the phrase ‘not my type’
What does that even mean. You either are attracted to someone or you are not. It’s as plain as that.
I very much have a type. It's what I'm attracted to most.
And I know what I'm definitely not attracted to. "
Exactly this. I have a definite type too. It also makes me laugh when I get a message along the lines of ‘I think I fit what you’re looking for’, when in fact they are usually the complete opposite. They either see themselves in a very different light, haven’t read my bio or both 🙈 |
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By *eeboCouple 3 days ago
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I would say people may have a 'Type' based on looks they like and past experiences etc but when you actually meet someone get to know them etc then there can still be a genuine attraction and chemistry with someone you may have passed in the street without a second look.
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"I would say people may have a 'Type' based on looks they like and past experiences etc but when you actually meet someone get to know them etc then there can still be a genuine attraction and chemistry with someone you may have passed in the street without a second look.
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Happens to me all the time.
No the getting past without a second look bit only kidding |
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"I would say people may have a 'Type' based on looks they like and past experiences etc but when you actually meet someone get to know them etc then there can still be a genuine attraction and chemistry with someone you may have passed in the street without a second look.
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Absolutely this. I have met people who wouldn't be my normal type as such, but started chatting to them and the way they carry themselves, their confidence and positivity is attractive.
Got to like yourself for others to like you too. |
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"When you know you aren't their type but they say they want you.
Are you just an easy option?
A fill in until something better comes along?
A temu version of the one they really want?
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I’m charitable and everyone should have the chance to meet this guy. |
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"When you know you aren't their type but they say they want you.
Are you just an easy option?
A fill in until something better comes along?
A temu version of the one they really want?
I’m charitable and everyone should have the chance to meet this guy."
So you give them a pity date? Respect 👍🏼 |
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"When you know you aren't their type but they say they want you.
Are you just an easy option?
A fill in until something better comes along?
A temu version of the one they really want?
I’m charitable and everyone should have the chance to meet this guy.
So you give them a pity date? Respect 👍🏼 "
Exactly, a few crumbs from the table. I’m paying it forward. |
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"I wouldn't assume someone's type. If they approach me though I would assume they like what they see. If they persevere through my lengthy enrollment process, then I'm guessing i am their type  "
And if they end up having sex with me even though I'm not their type, well they have to live with that shame and embarrassment, not me! |
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It hasn’t happened to me but at the moment I would probably avoid. I say at the moment because if I wasn’t having great sex elsewhere and actually fancied sex with them anyway then I might just go for it. |
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I can honestly say I can't ever recall anyone messaging me with "you're not my type but hey! Any holes a goal!" I think it may have something to do with my fairly direct (some may say "brutal") profile. My response would be a polite no thank you in that case.
I'm not everyone's cup of tea & I'm nobody's mug! |
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By *hilloutMan 2 days ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Happened only once, years ago, in a club during an event I co-hosted.
I wasn't her usual type, but she was clearly in the mood for something different. I was more than happy to oblige.
It was legendary 😈 |
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By *oyoteUgly OP Woman 2 days ago
Somewhere dark and gloomy |
"Happened only once, years ago, in a club during an event I co-hosted.
I wasn't her usual type, but she was clearly in the mood for something different. I was more than happy to oblige.
It was legendary 😈"
I don't think guys really care though so they? Sex is sex |
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"Happened only once, years ago, in a club during an event I co-hosted.
I wasn't her usual type, but she was clearly in the mood for something different. I was more than happy to oblige.
It was legendary 😈"
All this was missing was an ‘A-HA’ or ‘back of the net’ at the end |
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"Happened only once, years ago, in a club during an event I co-hosted.
I wasn't her usual type, but she was clearly in the mood for something different. I was more than happy to oblige.
It was legendary 😈
I don't think guys really care though so they? Sex is sex"
Do I care if I'm some else type? No
Do I care if they are mine? Yes to a certain point. I won't go way off what I usually do but sometimes you get surprised what ends up attracting you, but it's definitely not an immovable object. |
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By *oyoteUgly OP Woman 2 days ago
Somewhere dark and gloomy |
"Happened only once, years ago, in a club during an event I co-hosted.
I wasn't her usual type, but she was clearly in the mood for something different. I was more than happy to oblige.
It was legendary 😈
I don't think guys really care though so they? Sex is sex
Do I care if I'm some else type? No
Do I care if they are mine? Yes to a certain point. I won't go way off what I usually do but sometimes you get surprised what ends up attracting you, but it's definitely not an immovable object. "
The first is what I meant. Guys don't care if they are the woman's type. Women probably do. Some women. |
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I don't think guys really care though so they? Sex is sex"
No, absolutely not, sex is not sex.
Do I care if I'm some else type? Fuck yes. I ain't no second place holder.
Do I care if they are mine? I don't have a type, there are traits I like and go for and traits I will not tolerate for a second. There are many things on the list that are 100% deal breakers every time.
Of course the more standards you apply to life and lovers the harder it is to find a match. |
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"When you know you aren't their type but they say they want you.
Are you just an easy option?
A fill in until something better comes along?
A temu version of the one they really want?
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On here I don't think people look for their ultimate type.
I don't think they would have sex with just anyone either.
I do believe you just have to be level with or slightly above the fuckable mark.
That's all.
If it's NOT on here , the same standard applies.
If they are looking for long term then ... a higher standard applies and personality actually comes into play then |
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I think it's partly a confidence thing, OP. Of course if I am very obviously physically not someone's type, I wouldn't pursue it: I'll never be tatted, bearded, etc. Similarly, I'm boringly straight and Dominant, and that won't change.
But when someone reaches out and says 'I don't normally go for [insert Me characteristic] but you are different', I tend to take it positively.
Yes, I am different. Just wait until you meet me. It will rewire your sense of what you want from your life. |
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I genuinely cant recall ever being told Im somebody's type, regardless.
Unless their type is "has a pulse and at least a functioning penis" then I wouldn't know. That may be the neurodiversity in me. I lack the ability to tell the difference between flirting and niceties....not nice titties. I can tell what they are.
As for myself. Character traits often do more for me than physical. So I dont really have a traditional "type". Saying that, if their verifications are all from 6"19, muscle bound hulks that piss testosterone, I wont even attempt a message. So I'd probably question a message from someone soliciting me if that was their previous experience. |
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