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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
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Yes. If I feel I want to in that moment.
I won't not interact with somebody because of a different view. I may not feel like doing so for any reason but their view etc is not one of them.
Sometimes I just can't be arsed. |
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I would still interact with them after all if we were all the same and had the same point of view, wouldn't life be boring?
It's the people that always seem to disagree with you just because your not their type of person or just want an arguement or be difficult that I tend to avoid  |
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Depends on what the disagreement is, but generally I don't want to cause drama so I'm always going to interact with someone in the forums.
Might even drop a fab or whatever the game everyone is playing is.
I wouldn't go out of my way to debate the thing I know we're opposing sides of though, because this isn't a great layout style for trying to follow that (and the chats sometimes get waaaayyyyyy too busy). |
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If someone has extreme views I tend not to interact and block them. Saying that, I’ve blocked people for having untidy backgrounds in photos. I’m obviously as shallow as the muddy end of a stagnant pond. |
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"It depends on the disagreement I guess. The further from my moral compass they land, the less likely I am to interact with them and the more likely they’ll rest in my block list. "
And this for the other. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
I wouldn't say that."
Nor would I. But there have been times where people falsely read personal attacks in to words and then leap to the ad hominem. And then get upset.  It all seems rather daft to me.
Obviously there are occasions where it's very much personal but someone disagreeing doesn't always mean it is. |
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"If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?"
Nope, definitely not, you can disagree with many people you want to rip the clothes off (or agree with many you couldn't stand being in the same room as). |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"It depends on the disagreement I guess. The further from my moral compass they land, the less likely I am to interact with them and the more likely they’ll rest in my block list. "
Yeah, some views reflect who a person is. And the compatibility can dramatically decrease. Certain things are big no nos. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"I would still interact with them after all if we were all the same and had the same point of view, wouldn't life be boring?
It's the people that always seem to disagree with you just because your not their type of person or just want an arguement or be difficult that I tend to avoid "
Oh those people. Yeah, that crap is exhausting. It's pointless trying to interact so a wide berth is definitely best for your mental wellbeing. And being able to post on Fab.  |
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"But there have been times where people falsely read personal attacks in to words and then leap to the ad hominem. And then get upset."
I suppose sometimes what the rest of us are missing is context, because certain issues could be a trigger for people 🤷🏻♂️
And the txt only forums strip away so much subtly in human communication it's impossible to know if any one is reading comments with the intonation and intent they were typed in |
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"If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
I wouldn't say that.
Nor would I. But there have been times where people falsely read personal attacks in to words and then leap to the ad hominem. And then get upset. It all seems rather daft to me.
Obviously there are occasions where it's very much personal but someone disagreeing doesn't always mean it is."
Imagine if we were all the same. I'd have to block you all. |
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"But there have been times where people falsely read personal attacks in to words and then leap to the ad hominem. And then get upset.
I suppose sometimes what the rest of us are missing is context, because certain issues could be a trigger for people 🤷🏻♂️
And the txt only forums strip away so much subtly in human communication it's impossible to know if any one is reading comments with the intonation and intent they were typed in"
And the overwhelming majority of the time people don't want to look beyond what is said. See text, instant react. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"Depends on what the disagreement is, but generally I don't want to cause drama so I'm always going to interact with someone in the forums.
Might even drop a fab or whatever the game everyone is playing is.
I wouldn't go out of my way to debate the thing I know we're opposing sides of though, because this isn't a great layout style for trying to follow that (and the chats sometimes get waaaayyyyyy too busy)."
But not interacting can help sidestep the drama, can't it? Occasionally at least.
Avoiding debating certain things is a very, very good idea. Inspired really. Certain threads I avoid so hard so I don't have to painfully bite my tongue. It's not worth it. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"If someone has extreme views I tend not to interact and block them. Saying that, I’ve blocked people for having untidy backgrounds in photos. I’m obviously as shallow as the muddy end of a stagnant pond. "
You've blocked someone because of an untidy background? Brilliant. 😅 I've not yet blocked someone because of their photos, might start doing it. |
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There are more people i don't interact with than I do OP.
If someone has made a nasty comment in my direction or ignore me then I chose not to interact. If someone creates a facade and believes the hype about them I don't interact to just feed ego.
If someone has a different opinion to me but can communicate it I'm all for learning and I will interact |
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I shamelessly curate my online experience. The offline world throws even hateful opinions at me that I can't avoid. I work long days, 6 days a week, and my time away is My time.
I've blocked people on Bluesky for:
Kinks I'm not into;
Being transphobic;
Being homophobic;
Being Islamophobic;
Being proudly ignorant;
Having wrong opinions about food.
Mine is a shimmering, delicate bubble and I love it. |
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I encourage people who disagree with me to tell me why they think I’m wrong, I welcome discussion.
But when people tell me that my personal opinion is wrong just because it doesn’t align with their’s, that’s just stupid |
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"I shamelessly curate my online experience. The offline world throws even hateful opinions at me that I can't avoid. I work long days, 6 days a week, and my time away is My time.
I've blocked people on Bluesky for:
Kinks I'm not into;
Being transphobic;
Being homophobic;
Being Islamophobic;
Being proudly ignorant;
Having wrong opinions about food.
Mine is a shimmering, delicate bubble and I love it. "
Omg! I found the Elephant in the room everyone keeps talking about! |
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By *oyoteUglyWoman 3 days ago
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"I shamelessly curate my online experience. The offline world throws even hateful opinions at me that I can't avoid. I work long days, 6 days a week, and my time away is My time.
I've blocked people on Bluesky for:
Kinks I'm not into;
Being transphobic;
Being homophobic;
Being Islamophobic;
Being proudly ignorant;
Having wrong opinions about food.
Mine is a shimmering, delicate bubble and I love it. "
I remember you! |
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I have never met anyone I have 100% agreed with. We all have differences. That’s what makes the world interesting. If every difference was a deal breaker then you wouldn’t speak to anyone.
There are people I like a lot who I largely disagree with and people I don’t like at all who I wholeheartedly agree with. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"But there have been times where people falsely read personal attacks in to words and then leap to the ad hominem. And then get upset.
I suppose sometimes what the rest of us are missing is context, because certain issues could be a trigger for people 🤷🏻♂️
And the txt only forums strip away so much subtly in human communication it's impossible to know if any one is reading comments with the intonation and intent they were typed in"
It's not impossible. Definitely not. Might be trickier at times but sometimes basic comprehension skills can be poorly lacking. And then tangents appear and I read it and it's so clear what the poster meant.
Yes, some topics are definitely more sensitive - I respect people who can navigate those well. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"There are more people i don't interact with than I do OP.
If someone has made a nasty comment in my direction or ignore me then I chose not to interact. If someone creates a facade and believes the hype about them I don't interact to just feed ego.
If someone has a different opinion to me but can communicate it I'm all for learning and I will interact"
Ignore you in what way?
It's a wise idea to ignore people you're completely incompatible with, definitely. I need to learn that skill. |
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"If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
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Yes, and no. We all have different life experiences, perspectives and opinions. It's ok to disagree. It's also ok to change our opinions on things. We constantly change as humans. Some things we are strict on, some things we are flexible on.
Everyone has their likes and dislikes. It's not a sign they dislike me, simply they have a different opinion. I think a certain level of maturity is needed and also to understand not every comment is personal or directly aimed at that person. Some people just want to be the victim and become outraged at any comment. Some people just don't care. |
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Usually differing views dont bother me would be boring if we all thought the same.
However i do actively avoid threads/people were i feel that it wouldnt be a logical/genuine debate were you listen to each others views whether you agree or not. There are some people where i feel there almost always waiting to jump on anyones comment that doesnt allign with there way of thinking because i just dont have the energy for that.
I would also avoid people i know have a strong dislike for me as i feel that would just be me triggering/antagonising them maybe.
But for the most part there are lots of people with different views i can disagree with and continue engaging with without issue. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"It depends not just for a difference of views but if they posted stuff i thought was vile it would put me off."
Oh that's understandable. Vile is a very strong feeling and nothing good would come from interacting with them. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"I shamelessly curate my online experience. The offline world throws even hateful opinions at me that I can't avoid. I work long days, 6 days a week, and my time away is My time.
I've blocked people on Bluesky for:
Kinks I'm not into;
Being transphobic;
Being homophobic;
Being Islamophobic;
Being proudly ignorant;
Having wrong opinions about food.
Mine is a shimmering, delicate bubble and I love it. "
Curating your own experience is such an important tool! Yes, I'm similar. Bar six days. I find that it's better when energy is poured in to things of your choosing.
Anyway, sounds delightful OP; hope you're able to continue in your bubble and no 'phobics burst it any time soon. 🩷 |
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If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?"
Not necessarily, opinions will always differ, My opinion of things almost always differ from everyone. Doesn’t mean doesn’t mean I dislike them, I may think they’re an idiot who’s full of shit, but doesn’t make think any less of them.
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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But when people tell me that my personal opinion is wrong just because it doesn’t align with their’s, that’s just stupid "
Or the it's a fact, it's the truth when it's their opinion. It's a subjective topic. *sigh* |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"I have never met anyone I have 100% agreed with. We all have differences. That’s what makes the world interesting. If every difference was a deal breaker then you wouldn’t speak to anyone.
There are people I like a lot who I largely disagree with and people I don’t like at all who I wholeheartedly agree with."
There are people you don't like at all but wholeheartedly agree with? Interesting.
It's good to know we all have our differences, was beginning to think the world was a giant hive mind. |
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By *ddie1966Man 3 days ago
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I'm always open to discussion and different views. it creates great conversation (most of the time).
I used to love debating ( or was that mass debating).
The only people who get put on my block list are the flat earthers and people who don't have an open mind. |
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"I have never met anyone I have 100% agreed with. We all have differences. That’s what makes the world interesting. If every difference was a deal breaker then you wouldn’t speak to anyone.
There are people I like a lot who I largely disagree with and people I don’t like at all who I wholeheartedly agree with.
There are people you don't like at all but wholeheartedly agree with? Interesting.
It's good to know we all have our differences, was beginning to think the world was a giant hive mind."
Some people are just arses. I agree with their views on the world but their personality is just horrible. |
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I think if I consistently saw we had totally different opinions on important things, any interaction would be v shallow.
Disagreeing with someone doesn't always mean dislike no. However if someone always jumped on what I'd written to disagree, I'd think they were very argumentative tbh. |
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I like a little debate every now and then and am generally open to having my mind changed on things (but it doesn't happen a lot), people can and do disagree with me and mostly I still like them.
There are some red lines that if someone disagrees on will result in me not liking them but that's reserved for people who have particularly arsehole opinions, like racists and suchlike. |
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By *WB85Man 3 days ago
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No two people agree on everything....just ask my wife.
I guess it depends on the context of the disagreement on what I would do with that person in the future.
Theres been threads on here lately that have shown me someone really isn't my type. Will we still interact on the forum.....absolutely.
Would anything happen outside of forum, most likely not.
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"If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
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Not really. I can get on my high horse about things that matter to me and “argue” or say something to someone but it doesn’t necessarily mean I don’t like THEM, just their comment/opinion at that time.
Generally, if I don’t like someone I won’t interact with them at all. |
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It depends on the disagreement.
I enjoy a good debate and we shouldn't all live in echo chambers, but if someone has views that I find offensive or abhorrent, or upsets me personally, I will block and avoid them mostly. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"...I may think they’re an idiot who’s full of shit, but doesn’t make think any less of them.
The mr "
Generally I've found that if I think you (a general you) are full of shit I'm going to think less of you (a general you). Disagreeing on best cheesecake flavour? Doesn't change the view as a whole. Disagreeing on something that makes me think you are full of it? Yeah, I think less of.
What it's on is probably important most of the time.
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"Usually differing views dont bother me would be boring if we all thought the same.
However i do actively avoid threads/people were i feel that it wouldnt be a logical/genuine debate were you listen to each others views whether you agree or not. There are some people where i feel there almost always waiting to jump on anyones comment that doesnt allign with there way of thinking because i just dont have the energy for that.
I would also avoid people i know have a strong dislike for me as i feel that would just be me triggering/antagonising them maybe.
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Yep, conserving your energy is sensible. Love a good debate but bow out/opt out if it's just people talking over each other or people disagreeing for the sake of it.
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I'm not that shallow to think that if I disagreed with someone on a singular topic that I would form a full opinion of them, unless they were completely and objectively egregious.
I have many friends where we disagree on certain points and I value the friendship over my ego and trying to be right on a difference in opinion. I just don't broach those subjects. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"I think if I consistently saw we had totally different opinions on important things, any interaction would be v shallow.
Disagreeing with someone doesn't always mean dislike no. However if someone always jumped on what I'd written to disagree, I'd think they were very argumentative tbh. "
No, it doesn’t. And comments aren't always personally directed, lost count the amount of times I've read someone making a genuinely general point only for another to read it as a personal attacks.
Living in an echo chamber would be so dreary, wouldn't it? I like interacting with the range of people on here, the only ones I try to avoid are those I've blocked. Makes life easier. |
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"If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
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To point one yes mostly but sometimes we simply have nothing to say to each other.
To point two no it isn't. You don't have to agree with someone to like them. We wouldn't be married if you did  . |
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"If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
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Depends on what the disagreement was. If they wanted to meet for a drink and suggest a wetherspoons, that's a hard no.
If they wanted to meet for a social at a Tommy Robinson match, also a hard no.
If they suggested bon jovi is hard rock, I'd still meet them but question their musical knowledge. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"I can get on my high horse about things that matter to me and “argue” or say something to someone but it doesn’t necessarily mean I don’t like THEM, just their comment/opinion at that time. "
I wish this could be pinned, it's perfect. 🩷 Might salve a lot of nonsense.
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Hang on a minute is this do opposites attract?
Well magnets do..
wine and cheese do
Banana and chicken works
as does sweet and sour.
but I suppose on here it's reasonable to say there is many elements involved ..
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" Hang on a minute is this do opposites attract?
Well magnets do..
wine and cheese do
Banana and chicken works
as does sweet and sour.
but I suppose on here it's reasonable to say there is many elements involved ..
*are*
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" Hang on a minute is this do opposites attract?
Well magnets do..
wine and cheese do
Banana and chicken works
as does sweet and sour.
but I suppose on here it's reasonable to say there is many elements involved ..
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It's like bananas and rice |
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"If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
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Loving this question Melificious !
I would ALWAYS continue to interact with someone whose viewpoints or morals do not match mine as long as we are simply interacting on here.
The only way people come to an understanding of the world and the people in it is through listening to each other and I have sufficient humility to understand that not everyone is at the same stage of life or understanding
I could 'tolerate' such a person in company for a short while. I could grow to appreciate them and maybe even consider changing my own point of view if they have the maturity to exchange thoughts and ideas without aggression or bad feeling.
If they were an arsehole who is incapable of understanding or who gets heated when hearing different points of view or worse becomes abusive because their tiny minds or emotions are blown to bits then - I don't really want to be near them for too long if at all.
They would never be friend material.
On here , the only time I stop engaging in exchanges with anyone is when they do the above. i.e. temper, tantrum, insult and total intolerance that other people have different ideas.
Those that think that if they keep saying something or even better SHOUT it out then they are right. Those that believe every discussion is a debate to win.... add to that the passive aggressive, weak willed arseholes. I'd rather not spend any time with them at all, unless they needed and wanted help.
Does it mean they dislike you ? Course not. I don't dislike the people I disagree with I just don't share their ideas BUT Meli Weli - Some people misunderstand their own feelings and point outward to others saying, ' i don't like her she said such and such' when the reality is , their discomfort is caused by themselves. They just haven't learned that yet. |
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"I shamelessly curate my online experience. The offline world throws even hateful opinions at me that I can't avoid. I work long days, 6 days a week, and my time away is My time.
I've blocked people on Bluesky for:
Kinks I'm not into;
Being transphobic;
Being homophobic;
Being Islamophobic;
Being proudly ignorant;
Having wrong opinions about food.
Mine is a shimmering, delicate bubble and I love it.
I remember you! "
Ah, likewise, though you have changed your name to a different untruth, I think. |
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"I shamelessly curate my online experience. The offline world throws even hateful opinions at me that I can't avoid. I work long days, 6 days a week, and my time away is My time.
I've blocked people on Bluesky for:
Kinks I'm not into;
Being transphobic;
Being homophobic;
Being Islamophobic;
Being proudly ignorant;
Having wrong opinions about food.
Mine is a shimmering, delicate bubble and I love it.
Curating your own experience is such an important tool! Yes, I'm similar. Bar six days. I find that it's better when energy is poured in to things of your choosing.
Anyway, sounds delightful OP; hope you're able to continue in your bubble and no 'phobics burst it any time soon. 🩷"
Thank you so much, Meli, and likewise! We should go Zorbing some time. |
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"If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
Loving this question Melificious !
I would ALWAYS continue to interact with someone whose viewpoints or morals do not match mine as long as we are simply interacting on here.
The only way people come to an understanding of the world and the people in it is through listening to each other and I have sufficient humility to understand that not everyone is at the same stage of life or understanding
I could 'tolerate' such a person in company for a short while. I could grow to appreciate them and maybe even consider changing my own point of view if they have the maturity to exchange thoughts and ideas without aggression or bad feeling.
If they were an arsehole who is incapable of understanding or who gets heated when hearing different points of view or worse becomes abusive because their tiny minds or emotions are blown to bits then - I don't really want to be near them for too long if at all.
They would never be friend material.
On here , the only time I stop engaging in exchanges with anyone is when they do the above. i.e. temper, tantrum, insult and total intolerance that other people have different ideas.
Those that think that if they keep saying something or even better SHOUT it out then they are right. Those that believe every discussion is a debate to win.... add to that the passive aggressive, weak willed arseholes. I'd rather not spend any time with them at all, unless they needed and wanted help.
Does it mean they dislike you ? Course not. I don't dislike the people I disagree with I just don't share their ideas BUT Meli Weli - Some people misunderstand their own feelings and point outward to others saying, ' i don't like her she said such and such' when the reality is , their discomfort is caused by themselves. They just haven't learned that yet. "
Amazingly put as always granny |
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"It depends on the disagreement.
I enjoy a good debate and we shouldn't all live in echo chambers, but if someone has views that I find offensive or abhorrent, or upsets me personally, I will block and avoid them mostly. "
Pretty much this for me, I'll happily back and forth with people, does it mean I dont like them, no. But if the views or comments they make i find belittling or vile (and not even specifically me taking it as a personal insult) then nope, no more time wasted on them. |
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It depends on the situation. If we disagree reasonably and have an interesting discussion. I'm all for it. We can't always agree on everything. That is life.
However, if the other person gets snappy and aggressive over disagreements. Which has happened to me before. Then I'm going to find it difficult to follow through with meeting. |
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I’m always interested in trying to understand other view points. As you get older you find out their are multiple truths, depends whose shoes you are in. Makes for a more honest perspective when you take time to listen. So yes I’m more than happy to talk to people who may not agree with my truth. |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"Depends on what the disagreement was. If they wanted to meet for a drink and suggest a wetherspoons, that's a hard no.
If they wanted to meet for a social at a Tommy Robinson match, also a hard no.
If they suggested bon jovi is hard rock, I'd still meet them but question their musical knowledge. "
Absolutely nothing wrong with anything you've typed there, keep those boundaries up. 🩷 |
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By *eli OP Woman 3 days ago
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"To point one yes mostly but sometimes we simply have nothing to say to each other.
To point two no it isn't. You don't have to agree with someone to like them. We wouldn't be married if you did . "
😅 Yeah, I don't think anyone ever agrees with someone all the time. Especially not in a long term relationship! But you learn to understand their point of view. Work around it. Or blindly ignore it if it's something minor. |
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Opens forums. Different people. Life styles. Reasons. Beliefs. There will always be someone who has the opposing view or opinions. Doesn't mean they don't like you.
Just means they are going what they want yo be.
I will never not like someone for there views or thoughts
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People will always disagree on subjects just as much as people will agree on the same subject.
Just because someone doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean they dislike you, just their opinion doesn’t lineup with yours. But I guess that can also vary depending on the sensitivity of the subject.
If people start being highly offensive trying to get their point across then yeah it’s a defo not interested because you clearly can’t hold a conversation without being nasty. As it was proven a few times yesterday in a certain thread and our block list had a few new additions to it.
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If morals are at stake I block them. Be glad they Outed that gulf between us both fore sex. Otherwise you feel the wrong kind of dirty.
If a basic disagreement of a minor nature, may carry on chatting. Nobody is forced to chat if they don't feel it's fun. |
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"If morals are at stake I block them. Be glad they Outed that gulf between us both fore sex. Otherwise you feel the wrong kind of dirty.
If a basic disagreement of a minor nature, may carry on chatting. Nobody is forced to chat if they don't feel it's fun. "
100% this. |
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"There are more people i don't interact with than I do OP.
If someone has made a nasty comment in my direction or ignore me then I chose not to interact. If someone creates a facade and believes the hype about them I don't interact to just feed ego.
If someone has a different opinion to me but can communicate it I'm all for learning and I will interact
Ignore you in what way?
It's a wise idea to ignore people you're completely incompatible with, definitely. I need to learn that skill. "
Mainly those that say they are inclusive especially when starting threads yet only comment on their favourites 😂 |
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" Loving this question Melificious !
I would ALWAYS continue to interact with someone whose viewpoints or morals do not match mine as long as we are simply interacting on here.
The only way people come to an understanding of the world and the people in it is through listening to each other and I have sufficient humility to understand that not everyone is at the same stage of life or understanding "
Don't tell anyone but I was secretly hoping you'd appear on this thread - I always greatly enjoy reading your take on this kind of topic.
"I could 'tolerate' such a person in company for a short while. I could grow to appreciate them and maybe even consider changing my own point of view if they have the maturity to exchange thoughts and ideas without aggression or bad feeling.
If they were an arsehole who is incapable of understanding or who gets heated when hearing different points of view or worse becomes abusive because their tiny minds or emotions are blown to bits then - I don't really want to be near them for too long if at all.
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Yep, it's possibly a bit of a weakness but once someone becomes aggressive when someone has a different take on the subject, that's me finished. There's no point trying to engage really, is there?
Being able to exchange ideas and consider other viewpoints is one of the main reasons I love the forums, changed my mind a few times on things. It never happens when there's abuse. Lack of maturity.
"On here , the only time I stop engaging in exchanges with anyone is when they do the above. i.e. temper, tantrum, insult and total intolerance that other people have different ideas.
Those that think that if they keep saying something or even better SHOUT it out then they are right. Those that believe every discussion is a debate to win.... add to that the passive aggressive, weak willed arseholes. I'd rather not spend any time with them at all, unless they needed and wanted help. "
Yep. Repeating the same thing, over and over. An opinion doesn't possess more validity because the owner can type it more than once. The shouty, angry, frothing at the mouth sort can have a platform but it doesn't need to be engaged with (situation dependent)
"Does it mean they dislike you ? Course not. I don't dislike the people I disagree with I just don't share their ideas BUT Meli Weli - Some people misunderstand their own feelings and point outward to others saying, ' i don't like her she said such and such' when the reality is , their discomfort is caused by themselves. They just haven't learned that yet. "
Two nicknames? 🥰
Yes. It's easier to look outward and blame others. I realised last year when something happened that I was unhappy about - I should work on myself and then it wouldn't. The fault didn't lay at anyone's feet at such.
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I'd disagreeing with someone was a sign they didn't like you me and the husband would have divorced by now 😂
We all have different views and as long as people respect that & don't try and force their views/opinions as facts or try and change yours it's all good.
It would be a boring place if we all thought the same.
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It’s more people’s behaviour than viewpoints which would lead me not to interact with them. And that’s entirely subjective, and for the most part based on forum posts, so I am aware that those impressions may be skewed.
Some people can’t discuss without getting personal or defensive, I’m not here for that.
Some people I just don’t have any common ground with, I’m not interested in interacting with them nor they either me, I imagine.
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"If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
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On a serious note...good grief no. It's a sign of intelligence that you can disagree with people robustly and passionately but still interact like adults.
Alternatively... An erect cock has no values or opinions. |
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"I'd disagreeing with someone was a sign they didn't like you me and the husband would have divorced by now 😂
We all have different views and as long as people respect that & don't try and force their views/opinions as facts or try and change yours it's all good.
It would be a boring place if we all thought the same.
Mrs "
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It depends.
If it's something like which way should a toilet roll hang (always over the top fwiw), clearly they're wrong, but I'm not going to hold it against them.
Someone who agrees with everything is likely to bore me very quickly.
It's a turn on if someone is passionate about their opinions - assuming those opinions aren't racist/homophobic/misogynistic etc - and they're open to seeing other views too.
But extreme views, or those that won't consider other opinions, I'll either choose just not to discuss those topics if they're an otherwise decent person, or hit block/not engage, because frankly it can just be a turn off when someone's like that. |
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I think nk there's a difference between disagreeing on stuff (like who's the best guitarist) and having fundamentally different values. We couldn't possibly get it on with a raving Trumpist. We would be living in different realities. |
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There are a number of forum users that I don't engage with directly for various reasons.
Some simply because their public persona is the extreme opposite of how they conduct themselves privately.
Some because they are often quick to give advice to others about avoiding threads they don't understand or agree with or find triggering but seem reluctant to take their own advice. The Ironics of this little world.
I do tend to judge people based simply on their forum words because I know nothing else about them and I have nothing to compare and contrast with.
I don't generally avoid people I disagree with and I'm happy to debate on subjects I have some knowledge of but I will actively avoid anyone with a history of ragebaiting or grenade launching or those who dismiss the lived experience of others as having less value than their own.
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"If you disagree with someone's viewpoint, morals (or perceived lack of), erm that's enough for the general idea - would you still interact with them on Fab?
If someone disagrees with you, is it always a sign they dislike you?
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As always, it depends.
If people do things sexually that don't work for me, I've zero problems with that, sexual morality is a relative concept.
However, if they hold views that treat certain sectors of society as somehow lesser, then I want nothing to do with them.
Arguments about fiscal policy? Fine.
Denying trans people rights, racism & outright fascist ideology, you're in the bin. |
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I think if somebody's core Morals directly oppose my own, it would be very difficult to have any sort of conversation with them.
Different view points, that's not a problem. Its a great ground for sharing. Morals though. Probably a hard no. |
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I suppose it depends on what the disagreement is about really.. im sure everyone's opinions and views are different but I suppose one main thing is if you are both looking for different things on here, that may affect the interaction.. but I chat to everyone really |
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