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By *eijuWoman 4 days ago
Manchester |
i mean, if you made a comment or had banter/cheeky humor that showed your personality and they didn't enjoy it, doesn't that mean that you're just not that compatible. it's probably best to try and be humorous over a call/cam so tone can't be misunderstood. |
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By *eijuWoman 4 days ago
Manchester |
i face a similar issue, my jokes/humour don't really land well through text so i only really show that side of myself when talking to people on cam or after establishing a deeper connection. |
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I guess it’s only a waste of time when it stop being fun x I’ve probably offended a fair few but I’m a forum newbie but I join in on threads post random stuff sometimes serious sometimes funny ( well I think it is ) x I still get the off meet and chat to plenty x so I’d hang around a bit longer if I was you x |
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For me, you just have to keep trying but stay true to what you want, it will happen eventually but if you feel it wont, then stay and keep going or leave.
I am still in the camp of trying, because you just never know |
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I agree with what others have said, the context of a message can change completely on the other end by someone reading it.
Personally we look out for red flags, I have to keep wifey safe and respected, anything that makes me feel this won’t happen, it’s a block |
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By *eliWoman 4 days ago
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You can always let your personality shine buuut people aren't necessarily compatible with it. Or you them.
Banter as said above is... yeah. Might not be.
Fab is essentially free, not obligatory for existence right? If something made me unhappy more than happy, I'd leave. Go find things that bring me joy. I've never understood staying where unhappy. 🤷🏽♀️ |
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By *sm265Woman 4 days ago
Perthshire |
"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
3 months and 6 verifications..,Looks like you're doing ok.
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We find that the banter / jokes always tend to be of a sexual nature.
I can't speak for others, but lots of sexual innuendos early into a chat just doesn't do it for us.
My advice is keep a chat vanilla initially, just as if you're talking to someone on a regular night out.
Men aren't wasting their time on here, lots of men do just fine.
Mrs. |
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I'd say for most men Fab is going to be a waste of time. Women and couples can be very picky here, choose people they believe suit best what they are looking for. They do that by looking at profiles, seeing if there is anything that may interest them in that person. Most men completely ignore the need for a good, informative profile, and send one line messages to a large selection of female and couples profiles without bothering with compatibility. Or send very explicit first message. Plus most men don't seem to bother to read profiles.
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"If your “banter” is constantly getting you blocked then I would suggest it isn’t banter."
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Banter? Cheeky humour?
Or possibly crude and crossing the line maybe a little bit too early?
Fab can be a great resource for men if they engage properly, I’ve been on and off here for about 12 years or so and have found my greatest success at getting meets is mostly via non-sexual conversations with the ladies I’ve engaged with.
Just talk to them normally.
It’s not rocket science. And it works! |
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"We find that the banter / jokes always tend to be of a sexual nature.
I can't speak for others, but lots of sexual innuendos early into a chat just doesn't do it for us.
My advice is keep a chat vanilla initially, just as if you're talking to someone on a regular night out.
Men aren't wasting their time on here, lots of men do just fine.
Mrs. "
👍🏻 Well, exactly.
I should have just done the thumbs up to this rather my post above! ⬆️ |
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Do you think the people you have met so far have been a waste of time?
Do you think everyone should appreciate and like your personality?
If the answer is yes then you probably are wasting your time.
If its no then a thread like this probably doesn't represent you well. |
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I can meet, be that on here or in clubs and what have you.
I think you have to remember that like too, people are as selective as they want to be. You may not be checking the _oxes these people are looking for, and that’s ok.
Is it harder for single men? Absolutely. But only because there are more. |
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You have a good profile, good pic and 6 positive veris . You're doing well. Perhaps, experiment with your usual style of banter, and chat on the forums, and see what the response is, positive or negative. I rarely send requests or messages to women, and rely on forum interactions to attract attention. It works. |
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I’ve been on fab swingers five years had one couple And one woman, but it does seem to be where you live the north of the country seems different to the south and there is not that many clubs in the south |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
Say whatever you want...🤣 if they dont get it,their problem, not yours...as simple as that.🤭
I never control what I say,and why would I?im not gonna lick anyones ass just to look better than I actually are.im a pain in the arse ,and bloody proud of it too🤣 |
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By *iver78Man 4 days ago
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
You have to understand that what you might see as banter etc may not be there idea of funny , i have been chatting to a lady for literally months and I wont lie some of things she comes out with I just dont get !! Thankfully she isent a constant texter , and she is a nice lady but I could understand why people would ghost her ( as they often do ) because without being crass she can come out with some pretty weird stuff
What you see as funny may be what they do !?
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
What type of slightest comment and cheeky banter are leading to you being ghosted? Don't quote messages as that's not allowed but give us the gist if you can |
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"Reply + quote on the message you want to reply to and then type outside of the bit in square brackets.
Your bio and certain pictures bear the hallmarks of AI. It would put me off replying."
It's the em-dash, instant giveaway unless the OP is a stickler for not using hyphens  |
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Banter can be hard to interpret online if you have never spoken to someone before, something that would be acceptable from a close friend or someone you are familiar with might not sit well coming from a stranger.
We have long boring profile, lots of men don’t read it and message something that clearly they wouldn’t say had they read it. This is a filter in its self because if the person messaging can’t be bothered to read what we have put on our profile then we certainly won’t be interested in speaking to them. |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
You’re doing ok in clubs so continue doing what’s successful |
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I think for me, there’s cheeky/ banter and it’s all going well, and then all of a sudden there is a massive weird overstep that goes way beyond cheeky and any reply to that gets a whole lot of attitude back. |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
That hasn't really been my experience. I've got quite a dry, teasing sense of humour and, for the most part, it goes down well. Occasionally something doesn’t land, but that's fine
Everyone has a different sense of humour and a different idea of what they want from an interaction.
I tend to ease into the silliness and teasing rather than going straight in at full force, and you can usually get a feel pretty quickly for whether someone enjoys that kind of banter. I'd rather show some personality and occasionally get it wrong than play everything so safe that the conversation becomes bland. |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
Do you mean commenting in the forum gets you ghosted, or is it your “risky banter” in direct messaging?
Fab as a platform in general, is a lottery as a single guy, although the things which help are;
Being black. Many women are looking for black guys.
Being bisexual. You could definitely get your cock sucked every day of the week through Fab, if you didn’t mind a bloke sucking you off.
Location. Without a doubt, location is the biggy. I’m fishing in an empty pond compared to those guys living in and around the cities/denser populated areas.
Get yourself back to V2V club. I found it nice enough, although quiet for numbers the night I went. 😎👍 |
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Since I replied on this thread, I’ve had a guy send a message that ignored what my profile says and was accompanied by a dick pic. Weirdly I did not think this was a good start at all, I think he may well be wasting his time on here |
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Some men usually the ones who send me certain messages are definitely wasting their time on here .
Can't comment to the op situation but sarcasm never comes across well in messages unless your very familiar with someone .
Besides one of your photos is definitely a wee bit dodgy ai so put most off . |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine.
3 months and 6 verifications..,Looks like you're doing ok.
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Hmm, looks like a bit of the ME,ME boing on and attention seeking. Or could be just an interesting topic. Who knows? |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
Its the ones with personality and banter who are genuine who get through for us and more likely to be the top of our list when we want a meet.
As long as its still respectful its better than a short Hi wanna fuck message |
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What type of message or banter are you sending? 🤔
I think it’s best to play it safe with the first couple of messages and then lightly introduce a bit of humour. Personally, I don’t like it when messages are too ‘nice’ and prefer a bit of down to earth humour (I like confidence that’s bordering on cocky) but I know it’s not for everyone. |
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With any comedy, you have to know your audience 👍
If you enjoy banter and that's your personality, there's nothing wrong with that. Curious to know what's getting you ghosted though 😅
FYI - I'm only checking this thread to see if the OP figures out how the 'Reply + quote ' button works 🙂 |
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"Reply + quote on the message you want to reply to and then type outside of the bit in square brackets.
Your bio and certain pictures bear the hallmarks of AI. It would put me off replying."
Okay, thank you, not AI but thanks for letting me know |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine.
Say whatever you want...🤣 if they dont get it,their problem, not yours...as simple as that.🤭
I never control what I say,and why would I?im not gonna lick anyones ass just to look better than I actually are.im a pain in the arse ,and bloody proud of it too🤣 "
And more power to you i say |
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"Be yourself... Not everyone will be for you, nor you them, but being exactly you will ensure you only really get your people... It just takes time... Attraction is hard to find"
Thank you Ariel, i appreciate your advice |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine.
You have to understand that what you might see as banter etc may not be there idea of funny , i have been chatting to a lady for literally months and I wont lie some of things she comes out with I just dont get !! Thankfully she isent a constant texter , and she is a nice lady but I could understand why people would ghost her ( as they often do ) because without being crass she can come out with some pretty weird stuff
What you see as funny may be what they do !?
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I know what you mean, its just human interaction i guess |
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"Reply + quote on the message you want to reply to and then type outside of the bit in square brackets.
Your bio and certain pictures bear the hallmarks of AI. It would put me off replying.
Okay, thank you, not AI but thanks for letting me know"
You have to admit though, the insouciant yet assertive way you use that em-dash followed by the clinchers, with their swaggering comma, do kind of evoke that faux-confidence that AI has been so well-trained to do. |
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"The first 12 months on here i felt invisible and it just didn't work.
Then I realised that it was my approach that was wrong. I changed it up and have had some amazing situations.
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Can i be you for a few months, your experience sounds better than mine lol |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine.
What type of slightest comment and cheeky banter are leading to you being ghosted? Don't quote messages as that's not allowed but give us the gist if you can "
Just jokey responses or questions about your favourite restuarant, puff, gone |
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"I think for me, there’s cheeky/ banter and it’s all going well, and then all of a sudden there is a massive weird overstep that goes way beyond cheeky and any reply to that gets a whole lot of attitude back. "
Im sorry to hear that |
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"Since I replied on this thread, I’ve had a guy send a message that ignored what my profile says and was accompanied by a dick pic. Weirdly I did not think this was a good start at all, I think he may well be wasting his time on here"
Bloody hell, sorry, didnt know it would get this sort of attention |
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"Some men usually the ones who send me certain messages are definitely wasting their time on here .
Can't comment to the op situation but sarcasm never comes across well in messages unless your very familiar with someone .
Besides one of your photos is definitely a wee bit dodgy ai so put most off ."
Well one is a video of me, another is a pic in tje bathroom, another is a pic on the bed after work and the one in my hacking kit is one where i was piping on a memorial event. Bow tie, kilt and my miniture medals |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine.
3 months and 6 verifications..,Looks like you're doing ok.
Hmm, looks like a bit of the ME,ME boing on and attention seeking. Or could be just an interesting topic. Who knows?"
Well im sorry i have left such a low opinion of myself here, was genuinely interested |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine.
Its the ones with personality and banter who are genuine who get through for us and more likely to be the top of our list when we want a meet.
As long as its still respectful its better than a short Hi wanna fuck message"
Lol not really my style |
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"What type of message or banter are you sending? 🤔
I think it’s best to play it safe with the first couple of messages and then lightly introduce a bit of humour. Personally, I don’t like it when messages are too ‘nice’ and prefer a bit of down to earth humour (I like confidence that’s bordering on cocky) but I know it’s not for everyone. "
Fair one, its very much about finding that common ground i guess |
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"With any comedy, you have to know your audience 👍
If you enjoy banter and that's your personality, there's nothing wrong with that. Curious to know what's getting you ghosted though 😅
FYI - I'm only checking this thread to see if the OP figures out how the 'Reply + quote ' button works 🙂"
I think replying to a status in a jokey way |
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"Reply + quote on the message you want to reply to and then type outside of the bit in square brackets.
Your bio and certain pictures bear the hallmarks of AI. It would put me off replying.
Okay, thank you, not AI but thanks for letting me know
You have to admit though, the insouciant yet assertive way you use that em-dash followed by the clinchers, with their swaggering comma, do kind of evoke that faux-confidence that AI has been so well-trained to do."
Well i do love to creative write, i am descriptive in my drafts |
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The thing is mate, is that this site is full of men. And many spam women with messages. Women join without a photo and within ten minutes have 200 messages. Not one of those messages is from a man who cares about what he's doing.
It can't be that much of a leap to think that women are coloured by this behaviour, and start filtering their options. And why not? They have the choice, and, they're getting spammed. They need a mechanism.
But it means for a nice chap like yourself, there's going to be one thing someone sees that they saw in 20 profiles that they didn't like, and you're getting judged. It's not personal.
This isn't the real world. In the real world you're probably a head-turner. Fab turns an 8 man into a 5, and a 5 woman into an 8, such is the way of things.
It's not you mate, it's just how it is. |
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"The thing is mate, is that this site is full of men. And many spam women with messages. Women join without a photo and within ten minutes have 200 messages. Not one of those messages is from a man who cares about what he's doing.
It can't be that much of a leap to think that women are coloured by this behaviour, and start filtering their options. And why not? They have the choice, and, they're getting spammed. They need a mechanism.
But it means for a nice chap like yourself, there's going to be one thing someone sees that they saw in 20 profiles that they didn't like, and you're getting judged. It's not personal.
This isn't the real world. In the real world you're probably a head-turner. Fab turns an 8 man into a 5, and a 5 woman into an 8, such is the way of things.
It's not you mate, it's just how it is. "
Thanks bud, am learning every day and youre spot on. I guess its just a culture change for me.
Thanks man youre a true gent. |
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"The thing is mate, is that this site is full of men. And many spam women with messages. Women join without a photo and within ten minutes have 200 messages. Not one of those messages is from a man who cares about what he's doing.
It can't be that much of a leap to think that women are coloured by this behaviour, and start filtering their options. And why not? They have the choice, and, they're getting spammed. They need a mechanism.
But it means for a nice chap like yourself, there's going to be one thing someone sees that they saw in 20 profiles that they didn't like, and you're getting judged. It's not personal.
This isn't the real world. In the real world you're probably a head-turner. Fab turns an 8 man into a 5, and a 5 woman into an 8, such is the way of things.
It's not you mate, it's just how it is.
Thanks bud, am learning every day and youre spot on. I guess its just a culture change for me.
Thanks man youre a true gent."
Fuck me, don't get used to it... this is not the path you were looking for 
It's just a place to waste time where people get their bits out |
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"The thing is mate, is that this site is full of men. And many spam women with messages. Women join without a photo and within ten minutes have 200 messages. Not one of those messages is from a man who cares about what he's doing.
It can't be that much of a leap to think that women are coloured by this behaviour, and start filtering their options. And why not? They have the choice, and, they're getting spammed. They need a mechanism.
But it means for a nice chap like yourself, there's going to be one thing someone sees that they saw in 20 profiles that they didn't like, and you're getting judged. It's not personal.
This isn't the real world. In the real world you're probably a head-turner. Fab turns an 8 man into a 5, and a 5 woman into an 8, such is the way of things.
It's not you mate, it's just how it is.
Thanks bud, am learning every day and youre spot on. I guess its just a culture change for me.
Thanks man youre a true gent.
Fuck me, don't get used to it... this is not the path you were looking for
It's just a place to waste time where people get their bits out "
when you start laughing randomly |
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Several verifications in just a few months. Some guys are on here a year and can’t get a meet of any kind.
If you’re saying unwarranted filth and passing it off as ‘banter’ then yeh they should walk away.
If it’s very light stuff and they just lost interest then so be it, you seem to be doing alright without them |
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"Several verifications in just a few months. Some guys are on here a year and can’t get a meet of any kind.
If you’re saying unwarranted filth and passing it off as ‘banter’ then yeh they should walk away.
If it’s very light stuff and they just lost interest then so be it, you seem to be doing alright without them"
Thanks bud, till i come on here i just didnt realise |
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Speaking as a couple if the "banter" is sexual inuendos right out the box then thats off putting and normally does not get a reply. you can always tell who being themselves and who's putting on a bravado. just be yourself, be respectful, stop trying too hard and the rest will come naturally |
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To be fair I'm really quite sarcastic so my humour only really shows in person because messages can be misconstrued.
I've had encounters at clubs where women have said I've laughed their knickers off....
But in text I've also been banned from the forums more times than Gary Glitter from the school fair.
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"To be fair I'm really quite sarcastic so my humour only really shows in person because messages can be misconstrued.
I've had encounters at clubs where women have said I've laughed their knickers off....
But in text I've also been banned from the forums more times than Gary Glitter from the school fair.
Mr. "
Last time at a club I laughed a womans wig off. Then I laughed.
If a certain mod doesn’t like you then the bans are inevitable (that comment just got me banned no doubt) |
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"Several verifications in just a few months. Some guys are on here a year and can’t get a meet of any kind.
If you’re saying unwarranted filth and passing it off as ‘banter’ then yeh they should walk away.
If it’s very light stuff and they just lost interest then so be it, you seem to be doing alright without them"
Been here only 2 weeks, and already had a meet? You’re way above the average in here mate, and fair play to you! I’m sure the OP, as well as myself, would love to hear what you did different to all us mere mortals?
I would say altering your profile text to “at least 50 men to every woman in here” would be more accurate….😎👍
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"Several verifications in just a few months. Some guys are on here a year and can’t get a meet of any kind.
If you’re saying unwarranted filth and passing it off as ‘banter’ then yeh they should walk away.
If it’s very light stuff and they just lost interest then so be it, you seem to be doing alright without them
Thanks bud, till i come on here i just didnt realise"
Always remember; Fab isn’t ‘all there is’. There are far better platforms out there, which have more ladies on them. The one redeeming factor Fab has in its favour is; it is THE ONLY contact site single guys can use completely free of charge, all the time.
Take an irreverent look at Fab, don’t take it too seriously, and dip in and out when you need a break from all the sex you get elsewhere 😎👌 |
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"I believe it is difficult for men on here yes. No secret formula. Just need to be a decent human being lol"
And in the 9 weeks you’ve been here, you’ve already met 5 “decent human beings”, so fair play to you! There’s some hope for the rest of us 🤗 |
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"Several verifications in just a few months. Some guys are on here a year and can’t get a meet of any kind.
If you’re saying unwarranted filth and passing it off as ‘banter’ then yeh they should walk away.
If it’s very light stuff and they just lost interest then so be it, you seem to be doing alright without them
Been here only 2 weeks, and already had a meet? You’re way above the average in here mate, and fair play to you! I’m sure the OP, as well as myself, would love to hear what you did different to all us mere mortals?
I would say altering your profile text to “at least 50 men to every woman in here” would be more accurate….😎👍
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Thank, see i didnt realise and am grateful |
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By *iver78Man 3 days ago
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Is your banter annoying ? Sorry to say we all have that mate who just thinks there funny when there actually not some people know when to turn it off and some dont , bit like that David Brent bloke , people laugh at you and not with you , most people will play along until it get annoying |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
If you feel like you are wasting your time with someone then, why would it bother you, walk away knowing that it is probably a good sign that she didn't fit what you were looking for. Beautiful woman are everywhere, a beautiful woman with confidence and intelligence which fits you is rarity and perhaps even more so if you simply use fab and not go out into the world.
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine.
If you feel like you are wasting your time with someone then, why would it bother you, walk away knowing that it is probably a good sign that she didn't fit what you were looking for. Beautiful woman are everywhere, a beautiful woman with confidence and intelligence which fits you is rarity and perhaps even more so if you simply use fab and not go out into the world.
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Its a tricky one, the world and dating has changed so much now |
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"Never give up is the key
But you did 🤔🤣
Lol dont think that was for me"
No that wasn’t for you, it was for someone who said they decided to stop messaging women but in the next breath said don’t give up 🤣 |
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
No sure it may be a bit hit or miss here and there but you just have to keep moving forward |
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OP you shouldn't care about other peeps opinions of you; if you are being disliked for being genuine (truly expressing yourself) then it's not your problem. It's not the type of peeps one would want to be associated with, so if they're blocking U, they're doing U a favour is how I see it. Plenty lovely peeps online who will chat to you openly about sex and not crochet, cups of tea, shopping, etc. |
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"Never give up is the key
But you did 🤔🤣
Lol dont think that was for me
No that wasn’t for you, it was for someone who said they decided to stop messaging women but in the next breath said don’t give up 🤣"
Fair one |
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It depends on your attitude and expectations. I am a fairly positive person in many areas of my life and I've learned not to take this place seriously and have no expectations. Its an avenue to explore the possibility. The worst thing you can do here is moan about any lack of success. |
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By *oxesMan 2 days ago
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"After a period of time on this platform. Have found that the slightest comment and youre instantly ghosted, so cant risk banter or cheeky humour.
This meaning you cant let your personality shine."
Depends what you saying and where. I have never had a problem with ghosting on here. |
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"Several verifications in just a few months. Some guys are on here a year and can’t get a meet of any kind.
If you’re saying unwarranted filth and passing it off as ‘banter’ then yeh they should walk away.
If it’s very light stuff and they just lost interest then so be it, you seem to be doing alright without them
Been here only 2 weeks, and already had a meet? You’re way above the average in here mate, and fair play to you! I’m sure the OP, as well as myself, would love to hear what you did different to all us mere mortals?
I would say altering your profile text to “at least 50 men to every woman in here” would be more accurate….😎👍
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I have been here in the past, met a load of people, one of them verified me when I returned.
I don’t think you need any help from me. Stacks of meets and verifications on your page |
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"Reply + quote on the message you want to reply to and then type outside of the bit in square brackets.
Your bio and certain pictures bear the hallmarks of AI. It would put me off replying.
Okay, thank you, not AI but thanks for letting me know"
I started reading the thread but it then become a race to bottom to see if you figured out reply and quote. Now just solve the banter and you will be doing well. |
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In my many years on and off fab I’ve come to realise it’s all about timing. You just need all the stars to align and to catch the right person, at the right time, with the right message.
But your right, it is a proper graft on here a lot of the time
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Some times even if you compliment or try to start a conversation they dont reply then you end up messeging twice by accident and end up getting an ear full i just block if they dont reply or say they aint intrested still meet fun people on here and in my eyes if they dont reply block you or give you attitude god knows what there like in person lol probably safer to not meet them lol |
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"Several verifications in just a few months. Some guys are on here a year and can’t get a meet of any kind.
If you’re saying unwarranted filth and passing it off as ‘banter’ then yeh they should walk away.
If it’s very light stuff and they just lost interest then so be it, you seem to be doing alright without them
Been here only 2 weeks, and already had a meet? You’re way above the average in here mate, and fair play to you! I’m sure the OP, as well as myself, would love to hear what you did different to all us mere mortals?
I would say altering your profile text to “at least 50 men to every woman in here” would be more accurate….😎👍
I have been here in the past, met a load of people, one of them verified me when I returned.
I don’t think you need any help from me. Stacks of meets and verifications on your page"
Thanks bud |
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"Reply + quote on the message you want to reply to and then type outside of the bit in square brackets.
Your bio and certain pictures bear the hallmarks of AI. It would put me off replying.
Okay, thank you, not AI but thanks for letting me know
I started reading the thread but it then become a race to bottom to see if you figured out reply and quote. Now just solve the banter and you will be doing well. "
Thank you, i realise i am doing okay |
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"In my many years on and off fab I’ve come to realise it’s all about timing. You just need all the stars to align and to catch the right person, at the right time, with the right message.
But your right, it is a proper graft on here a lot of the time
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Dont imagine school holidays help either |
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"Definitely not. Just gotta find the right people. We have met many single guys."
Well youre rare on here, i get a view send a message something nice and get nothing back. So i dont tend to bother with couples now, i dont think i appeal to couples bud |
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