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Why do people choose not to make their verifications public?
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By *eFCUKaLot OP Couple
over a year ago
somewhere close |
I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women. |
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By *eFCUKaLot OP Couple
over a year ago
somewhere close |
"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women."
What an ass  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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never used to hide mine until guys whom i said no to were getting in touch with whom i met and giving them grief or telling them that i was no longer interested in them and it was a few doing is.. so hidden they are and i no longer want veris or give them unless they really want one..
so many false veris now anyway you no longer know what real or not |
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On my previous profile I sometimes didn’t like the graphic language used. I don’t like to show veris that discuss what we did in bed. |
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We displayed ours until we were contacted by profiles who had met the people who had verified us. Mostly suggesting that we should meet them too. |
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i get a lot of men who do not want me to even give them a verif because they are "fab straight" and could affect their rep with women  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Cheeseville, Somerset |
A lot on mine relate to when it was a couples profile for a decade, and as that person is no longer around it would be unrepresentative to have them on display.
It makes my summary look a little odd as there's a large number from single males. Most were from either organised socials or MFM meets.
I'm not concerned with that, but don't want anything specific about people meeting me and someone else being visible, as that was about meets with my ex.
That's in the past. |
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I ask people not to verify me if they have met me but not played- as I only meet at clubs.
I don’t need social veris, my veris prove I’m genuine. I don’t need another saying we had a good night but didn’t play.
If someone ignores me and veris anyway, I don’t show it. Just reading 10 the same all the time.
Only show play ones x |
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By *onicZMan
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
I was once told I have too many so someone wouldn't meet me!
Lots of mine are from the social aspect or clubs, so that seemed bizarre but each to their own |
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By *ACOLCouple
over a year ago
Cork |
We only hide the ones that are too explicit.
Lina. |
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I think the whole veri thing is a bit cringe worthy. So I don't show mine. I also value my privacy.
I'm ok to veri guys I've met, as it helps them stand out as "meetable".
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Because its no one else business who I've met and some people get really weird with them. Messaging people you've met, gossiping etc they can cause a lot of drama. I just don't bother with them at all. |
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"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women."
oh those people are sad... I once asked a guy if he wanted a veri.. and he said " god no. I don't need people to know I've met you " funny I refused to meet him again
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There are a few where someone goofed and used my real name. Not showing that
Super graphic ones
People who have left the site or for other reasons the verification is not there for me to display anymore
Really old ones
Someone asked me not to because of a fear of drama (although tbh my preference would be to show those ones to flush drama mongers out)
Basically I only show a few now because of the way I've changed my use of the site, but when I showed most of them, they're reasons why |
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"I ask people not to verify me if they have met me but not played- as I only meet at clubs.
I don’t need social veris, my veris prove I’m genuine. I don’t need another saying we had a good night but didn’t play.
If someone ignores me and veris anyway, I don’t show it. Just reading 10 the same all the time.
Only show play ones x"
I/We will only verify people we've had sexual contact with. Don't care how good your social skills are, what we're verifying is that you're an acceptable play partner. We've played with a handful who we've not verified because we'd not want to "recommend" them, but if we'd not played with them they definitely would have been verification worthy. |
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I don't show all, some have genuinely left the site, some there is no longer a connection etc.
I wouldn't want to show all but I wouldn't hide all either.
I had a situation where someone tried to arrange something without my knowledge contacting a veri. That bothered me.
Those that hide them because of "shame" based on the comments in this thread, that's shocking to me but can fully see that happening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because its no one else business who I've met and some people get really weird with them. Messaging people you've met, gossiping etc they can cause a lot of drama. I just don't bother with them at all. "
Mainly this!
It creeped me out when someone I met, found and contacted others I had met. 
Obviously unfriended and blocked, next step will be Police  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cause its nobodys business |
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Mine are a bit graphic so I rather not show mine as my meets & what we done should be kept private |
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When I get a new veri random men message me and shout at me that I didn’t meet them. So I don’t ask for veris (last 2 were given without me asking) and I don’t show them in an effort to draw less attention to them |
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Um. When people reach out to the people I show verifications from to find out how they managed to fuck the ice queen.
Sex with me is traumatic enough. They don't need the ongoing hassle  |
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"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
Because we believe in discretion. We shouldn't have to say who we have met, nor should they. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guess honesty is commended, until someone gets offended. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the verification that they have left me. I do not like sexually graphic ones on my profile, what we did is our business. |
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When I was active or made more off a personal effort to be involved on the scene be it visiting swinger clubs/socials a few times a year for social or private gatherings I used to have most things visible and open on my profile that included verifications…
Last few years though I have taken a large step back I rarely communicate or message/chat with anyone anymore tbh as for clubs same really once in a long while visits..
Life just comes in the way sometimes and other things have taken priority/interest in general in life for me that I am more focused on…
Regarding verifications I used to have them all visible and open be it social encounters/webcam or sometimes private encounters and I always felt more happy and fortunate that I was able to meet them people I never felt shame or embarrassed for it if anything I was grateful for the happy memories….
That being said after a while I kind off grew tired off looking at the list and one day I just decided to hide all off them except for the 2x recent ones as I figured not everyone needs to see/know everything after all it’s not a trip advisor site and somethings are best left private..
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I don't have any play veries and wouldn't display them if I had.
Quite a few people who have verified me aren't on the site now so their verifications have gone but still count in the summary.
Others I keep hidden for various reasons including drama of their making that had nothing to do with me but I don't want anyone thinking I was associated with them.
I have also hidden veries that were not truthful.
Written by people I had actually met but the verification they left bore no resemblance to what actually happened.
I have hidden all of them at different times when others think it is acceptable to contact them and ask for my personal details or they are outside my age filters and they want people I have verified to persuade me to message them. |
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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago
Fantasy land in the SW |
"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t.
Because we believe in discretion. We shouldn't have to say who we have met, nor should they."
This |
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By *opman121Man
over a year ago
stoke on Trent |
If u have had a good meet or if you feel it was not that good then u should verify it ? |
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I don't show veris that I deem too explicit, as I think it may give people who read the profile the wrong impression. Just because I did a thing with one person doesn't mean I will with others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women."
Weird |
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"I don't show veris that I deem too explicit, as I think it may give people who read the profile the wrong impression. Just because I did a thing with one person doesn't mean I will with others."
I get this and I do something similar
I prefer to not show recent verifications to filter out anyone who wouldn’t wanna meet folks without verifications in ‘the last 3/6 months’ malarkey  |
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I hide mine unless I am arranging to meet and then happy to show them to people who are interested in meeting. If they asked to see them, suggests to me that that may be interested in meeting. Maybe they won't be thought after reading veries  The other reason is I have on occasion had people contacting me direct about other people I have given veries too. Asking what they are like what they enjoy etc. that's just bad form for me, that's not what they are meant for. Happy fabbing everyone whether you show your veries or not |
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I don't display all ours because it's pointless some are duplicates, some are sexual ones & sexual trip advisor isn't my thing, some people have left the site so theirs no longer show.
I've left enough that shows we are who we say we are, we turn up and that's all that's needed.
I totally get why people don't display them it's no one else's business who they meet, just being verified is enough.
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Because who I have met is no one else's business.
Before I hid mine, I'd get guys telling me they were fitter/better looking then someone I'd met so my reasons for declining them were lies. Men had contacted people on my verifications for trip advisor style reviews. I hate graphic, poorly written verifications. I don't give out verifications to people so its right i don't use theirs.... There's a whole host of reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because its no one else business who I've met and some people get really weird with them. Messaging people you've met, gossiping etc they can cause a lot of drama. I just don't bother with them at all. "
Similar reasons from when one of us did this as a single long before. |
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By *ee-LiteWoman
over a year ago
Northampton |
Veris are just to say what they are ‘to establish that Fabsters are genuine, not an endless display of what sexual activities ensued, do we really need to know? |
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There’s a million different reasons why i personally sometimes hide my veris. But ultimately it never has anything to do with the person giving the verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t display cam ones, don’t see the point as the reason I check others veris are to see in person ones. Cam veris wouldn’t really verify anything for me.
Also not keen on super graphic or detailed ones. And finally, I prefer to keep it to show the ones I think truthfully reflect me and how the meet or social went.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We displayed ours until we were contacted by profiles who had met the people who had verified us. Mostly suggesting that we should meet them too. "
I hid mine on my couples profile for the same kinda reason.
If you won't meet me, why did you neat xy+z etc |
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By *ags73Man
over a year ago
glasgow-ish |
They’re my experiences, so to speak, so unless I think it may help someone I’m chatting to, I’m happy to stick to the summary. |
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I’m not meeting new people at the moment, so if someone I’ve already met decides to verify me then this updates on my profile and isn’t time sensitive, so it looks like I’ve met someone perhaps more recently than i actually have, it then starts up difficult conversations with other people who query my profile saying I’m not meeting. This is all so much more complicated than it needs to be!
It’s no one else’s business who I have met or chatted with or when I met them etc.
The fact that I’ve been verified should be enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The green tick should be enough. |
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I always have a couple on show simply to prove that I’m genuine and follow through on what I say. I see no reason to have them all show.
I always give a veri after a meet even if it doesn’t go anywhere but even if it does they’re usually quite generic in a similar vein.
My favourites are the ones guys give that read like the script of a cheap porn movie along with the words , “treat her with respect”… |
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We had one that didn't want to show his because it had mentioned about him having a sexual activity with Mr and he didn't want anyone to know he was bi...after turning up to ours... for a Bi MMF.
I'm happy to show ours to be honest. Not had any reason not too yet. |
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I'm happy to show my verifications and most who I've left a verification for have also displayed them. I presume that those that didn't display them don't want people know they would meet an old timer like me.
I don't like to use graphic language in the verifications I write and keep them fairly discrete. However I did receive a request for another verification with a full graphic description of the horny encounter for personal use only which I thought was brilliant and I was more than happy to do. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
south west |
Lots of people are judgemental if you have to many veris or even if if you have met someone that has loads of veris (not just social meets ) ..
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
south west |
"I don't display all ours because it's pointless some are duplicates, some are sexual ones & sexual trip advisor isn't my thing, some people have left the site so theirs no longer show.
I've left enough that shows we are who we say we are, we turn up and that's all that's needed.
I totally get why people don't display them it's no one else's business who they meet, just being verified is enough.
Mrs "
There are some very dodgy profiles with say three veris from other dodgy profiles..a few visible ones do give confidence some one is genuine ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not into verification. Prefer to meet in person at swinger clubs and actually spend time chatting with someone.
So all these posts here are an eye opener to me. Next they will be wanting a rating system like rate your Uber driver. |
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I know for fact some don’t want to show
as not wanting to publicise how many meets they have had and privacy wise too |
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I don't hide them on this account or my wife and is couple account.
Mostly because we are active in the local club and do social events which our veris reflect. More there to show we are legit than anything else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hide mine because who I've met and how often I meet, is no ones business but my own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We enjoy doing the occasional camera show but the downside is you can end up with a load of verifications from strangers you have never met or spoken too. We would prefer to be able to delete them but as we can't We can just not publish them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On my last profile the verifications I didn’t show were graphic ones.
There’s no need for those sort. |
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By *WB85Man
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
Some people find lots of verifications a bad thing.
Each to their own I guess. |
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I choose not to show mine because no one needs to know who I’ve met or what I got upto during that meet .
That’s between me and the person I’m meeting . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know some couples who never display their meets with Single men & only display the meets with couples..the reason..they'd be tormented by some single men then, saying "I thought you weren't meeting single men" cos some would have it mentioned in their profile "No Single Men".... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Show what you want and hide what you want. It's your profile and as long as you don't miss off the mods you can do what you want with it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i get a lot of men who do not want me to even give them a verif because they are "fab straight" and could affect their rep with women "
That happens a LOT |
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I'm not trip advisor..
Plus, I got a veri from someone I knew ages ago, didn't recenly meet, then got messages of why I didn't meet xyz.
I don't post on fb what I have for dinner..so, I don't need a veri to let others know what I'm doing |
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I’m not showing a veri with a more graphic description of play and think I’ll keep this rule moving forward x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was active or made more off a personal effort to be involved on the scene be it visiting swinger clubs/socials a few times a year for social or private gatherings I used to have most things visible and open on my profile that included verifications…
Last few years though I have taken a large step back I rarely communicate or message/chat with anyone anymore tbh as for clubs same really once in a long while visits..
Life just comes in the way sometimes and other things have taken priority/interest in general in life for me that I am more focused on…
Regarding verifications I used to have them all visible and open be it social encounters/webcam or sometimes private encounters and I always felt more happy and fortunate that I was able to meet them people I never felt shame or embarrassed for it if anything I was grateful for the happy memories….
That being said after a while I kind off grew tired off looking at the list and one day I just decided to hide all off them except for the 2x recent ones as I figured not everyone needs to see/know everything after all it’s not a trip advisor site and somethings are best left private..
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So much this. My bs radar is finely tuned to profiles with dozens,even hundreds of verifications. I've known from personal experience that
1. Sex is subjective so what I enjoy will be different from others in varying circumstances
2. Not all encounters with the same person have the same chemistry
3. Social/party/club veris are naff IMHO
What's the Russian expression? Trust, but verify. Trip advisor, indeed, sir! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't bother with veris now last time I was on here I use to get guys mailing me asking me to mail the women I'd met and see if they would meet them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not trip advisor..
Plus, I got a veri from someone I knew ages ago, didn't recenly meet, then got messages of why I didn't meet xyz.
I don't post on fb what I have for dinner..so, I don't need a veri to let others know what I'm doing"
Aw cmon. We need to know when you had sausage and mash. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not showing a veri with a more graphic description of play and think I’ll keep this rule moving forward x"
Best water mark |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was d*unk lol |
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I do find veris quite useful to perhaps corroborate what is said in the narrative and also after speaking to them. If they are recent, it does give more confidence they are likely not to be time wasters.
I am always very wary of those who have veris from TVs, but choose not to show them, where other veris are shown!
R xx |
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There doesn’t need to be an endless amount, but a few public ones I like to see. Helps me ascertain if the people someone has met with matches up with preferences or other things they’ve stated in their profile. I display my verifications also for this exact reason. For example, my profile states my certain preference in a woman, my verifications mostly are from women who fit that description therefore are consistent and an accurate representation of not only my profile but myself as a whole.
Overly graphic ones detailing every granular detail of a play encounter I find to be quite distasteful though. Cos you know, less is more and all that.
If someone feels a certain way about the amount of verifications I have, or the time frame in which I’ve got them, then I question if they’re someone I even want to associate with in the first place.
All just another reason why I prefer to meet people in real life first as opposed to online. Can be taken on face value, no other trivial factors aside from the content of my character that I can be judged on. Verifications are a pleasant reminder of all the wonderful experiences I’ve had and bloody fantastic people I’ve met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All on display. If someone has taken time to write them for me then I think it’ll be rude to not show them. Also they give a better understanding to potential partners that who I am and what I am looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't share the crude ones
I haven't shared my summary because the number of people I've met or when I've had a meet is no one's business but mine |
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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
We keep the occasional low effort ones off (two word varies -‘great fun!’) as they add little.
You also can’t display from people who have left the site which hits some of ours too |
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By *amoanMan
over a year ago
st peter port |
The issue I have with veris, is that even if you don’t show them on your profile, it still indicates, the sexual orientation of the verifier.
This mean that althought I’d love to meet a 35 yr old, divorced, size 12 hot blonde, with the ability to suck a golf ball up a garden hosepipe, she’s likely to be put off msging by the lovely T girls I’ve had amazing hot oral sex from who’ve been good enought to take the time, to leave a much appreciated verie.
I love oral both ways and women are my default setting, but the reality is, as a mature male, its gonna be a truck driver in a frock, heels and blond wig polishing my helmet. |
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It’s quite interesting reading this as we were thinking of hiding our veris, as it seems to be pure nosiness why people glance through them mostly.
I think we’ve been on here long enough to show we are genuine, we meet when we say & we look like our pics but I think past that verifications almost seem like eBay reviews lol |
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"The issue I have with veris, is that even if you don’t show them on your profile, it still indicates, the sexual orientation of the verifier.
This mean that althought I’d love to meet a 35 yr old, divorced, size 12 hot blonde, with the ability to suck a golf ball up a garden hosepipe, she’s likely to be put off msging by the lovely T girls I’ve had amazing hot oral sex from who’ve been good enought to take the time, to leave a much appreciated verie.
I love oral both ways and women are my default setting, but the reality is, as a mature male, its gonna be a truck driver in a frock, heels and blond wig polishing my helmet."
You know, if you don’t want a blowie from a man then you don’t have to have a blowie from a man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it also largely depends the country/city you're posting from. Some communities are smaller and more secretive than others, for historical reasons so I tend to take "social" and "party" veris with a huge grain of salt as I have witnessed a lot of unpleasantness between party organizers, attendees and the general sort of assiduously repetitive and wholly unrealistic back-scratching (and stabbing) that goes on here (and similar English-speaking sites) between all those involved. I've red-flagged and blocked some of those profiles because frankly, I can do with less drama and politics... and we all know about sex and politics.
Whereas a site like this makes zero sense in France, the Netherlands,BENELUX and Germany because everything is all out in the open and you can even google swing venues on the maps nearest to you.
There is a French website for swinging, of course, but I won't mention it primarily because you have to have a pretty good command of the language and have a French phone number, I think so it's useless for anglophone Fabbers. I don't know if they use a similar system of verifications but the security on it is quite tight and there are NO blank profiles.
Don't know the situation in Germany/Austria/Switzerland. I assume swinging German-speakers know where to go and they tend to be a LOT kicker than us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry, that was a typo. Germans are a lot kinkier, not kicker.
Unless you're a soccer fan, of course. Hehehe |
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"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women."
What a douche bag had a few like that I now make sure they genuinely like bigger women and a not ashamed of showing that fact |
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Some women won't meet guys that have met certain other women cause they have heard things or don't like them so I can see why some guys don't display them |
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By *ojo2joWoman
over a year ago
Swansea |
Because verifications could be for an early meet/ social meet and the person turned out to be a complete disrespectful *rse the next time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women.
What a douche bag had a few like that I now make sure they genuinely like bigger women and a not ashamed of showing that fact"
You'd be amazed how many young, fit guys have a secret desire for fat girls. I had a fling with a guy whose mom was a dietitian who regularly verbally abused her fat clients.
I swear.. I'd never had had this much attention in my teens (and I wasn't exactly fat then just a little extra butt and little tummy, but tall with thick thighs) but as a married fat momma with no desire or intention for a committed relationship, I was like catnip for every millennial within a 15-mile radius.
Goes to show, eh?
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Because its no-one else's business who I have met x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women.
What a douche bag had a few like that I now make sure they genuinely like bigger women and a not ashamed of showing that fact
You'd be amazed how many young, fit guys have a secret desire for fat girls. I had a fling with a guy whose mom was a dietitian who regularly verbally abused her fat clients.
I swear.. I'd never had had this much attention in my teens (and I wasn't exactly fat then just a little extra butt and little tummy, but tall with thick thighs) but as a married fat momma with no desire or intention for a committed relationship, I was like catnip for every millennial within a 15-mile radius.
Goes to show, eh?
Guys will sleep with anyone... especially if we accommodate. "
When we accomodated, our inbox was bombarded with gym fit guys under 30. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only have 3 veries but they're public so I have nothing to hide |
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I like to maintain an air of mystery |
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I show mine as I've met some great people I never give anyone a negative verification even if it was bad just not my thing to do just don't bother seeing them again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t display the ones we didn’t play with and do display the ones that we did, however we really don’t understand the social veris
We even got asked to veri someone whilst in Cap D’adge and we only had a cup of coffee with them ha ha ha ha - give us all a break Fab is a swingers site for people who actually have sex with other people, not the wannabes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people don't show them because they are not transparent that they are seeing other people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people don't show them because they are not transparent that they are seeing other people "
This |
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"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
1. We wouldn't want to meet them again or be judged by their profile.
2. One ex partner of Tony's tried contacting and meeting one of our friends behind our back to cause a rift ! (she did that via our verifications )
3. We want to keep them all to ourselves lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a fab ‘friend’ who I’d verified at a social meet contact my other verifications to arrange 3sums with me and him without knowing until one of my veris came back and told me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I generally hide the casual veri's from social events as they don't really say anything about me.
I've been verified by a woman who I said hi to in a corridor. Literally just hi as we walk passed each other.
I've been verified by a woman who was at the same event but I had no interaction with whatsoever. Why people do this I don't know. |
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I’ve had guys saying they have chatted with someone on my veris who are interested in a 3some, off course my veri didn’t want a 3some, at least not with that guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I don’t feel the need to? Or want to? It’s as
Simple as that? I find it a huge turn off? Each to their own surely? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some disappear if the account becomes shutdown but the veri number remains the same |
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Very much each to their own I guess. We display all of ours, social or otherwise. We don’t meet outside of clubs anyway and in the past we have attempted to meet both well verified and unverified people from Fab with mixed results  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only have one veri on my profile as i have only met one person and I'm happy with it.
I really couldn't care less if people know who i have met on here.
If people think any different of me for who I have met, then they're the problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cause its nobodys business "
100% agree ?? |
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"I’m not showing a veri with a more graphic description of play and think I’ll keep this rule moving forward x
Best water mark "
Thank you  |
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All of my verifications are from webcam.
I don't see the point in showing all of them so we only show those I like the best and from fab friends. |
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Some don’t want others to see the people they are meeting and this is why they hide them.
If you say you’re straight and then have other sexual ‘preferences’ leaving veri’s it could look a bit confusing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
Freedom of choice for me.
All it is is to say you are genuine and like your described profile.Not a description of how a cock goes in holes or how you kissed. |
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"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
Good question, not sure tbh. Can’t really think of any reason off the top of my head x |
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"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
Because it's our business who we met and also to protect them from unwanted messages. |
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"I hide mine because who I've met and how often I meet, is no ones business but my own"
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Mine are hidden because I had a psycho message me because one of my veris had failed to turn up (apparently)to meet her, she gave me grief for a few weeks until I had to block her |
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i show webcam chats and social meeting - being as i ran a social and attended a few social I have a few - i have stopped putting on other meets as I have had some hate messages, and its no one else's business |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have hidden most of ours as we where told we where too hardcore or too experienced. |
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By *unchalMan
over a year ago
Dartford |
"never used to hide mine until guys whom i said no to were getting in touch with whom i met and giving them grief or telling them that i was no longer interested in them and it was a few doing is.. so hidden they are and i no longer want veris or give them unless they really want one..
so many false veris now anyway you no longer know what real or not"
That’s a horrible experience. I’m curious about how you know there are so many false veris? |
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Some have left the site, one I have blocked so can't show it, and a couple of them have given a little too much info and details about what we did together so I choose not to show them. |
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By *eren4891Woman
over a year ago
North east wales |
I've found there seems to be alot of the same women going with the same guys as me. So I've started no displaying everything. Esp as I have people constantly checking my profile then comment to say "ooo you've been having fun" etc etc |
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Nothing to do with other people who i have sex with |
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I don't like them. I don't write verifications, I don't want to receive them either. |
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Pros and cons.
My couples profile we have 200+ but only show a few, because honestly who wants to see 200+? People assume that’s 200+ meets… when the vast majority are cam verifications, or socials.
My singles profile? I hide them, but point to my couples one anyway.
But really, at the end of the day, all I want is somebody honest. I’ve had two failed meets in the last few weeks because people (with verifications I may add) didn’t turn up after all the planning.
So yeah, I would scrap them completely if it meant not being let down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I display enough recent veris to reassure visitors to my profile that I am still alive and who I claim to be. I don't display them all because there's a fine line between enough and too many, and anybody who needs to see everything before drawing a conclusion can sod off. I had one meet get very arsey about not displaying her veri. I'd worked out that she was a prolific barebacker, and I didn't really want anyone to assume I'd gone skinny dipping. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
The ones I've hidden mention wild sex that never happened on this eart
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Numerous reasons. Some are from duplicate meets, sometimes the profile has left so we can't show them. Another reason is not wishing to be associated with a particular profile anymore and lastly we have one verification which was so over the top we felt we shouldn't show it as it was not a true reflection of how the meet went (it was only a social). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I display enough recent veris to reassure visitors to my profile that I am still alive and who I claim to be. I don't display them all because there's a fine line between enough and too many, and anybody who needs to see everything before drawing a conclusion can sod off. I had one meet get very arsey about not displaying her veri. I'd worked out that she was a prolific barebacker, and I didn't really want anyone to assume I'd gone skinny dipping. "
Like your style of writing. Skinny dipping |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"We displayed ours until we were contacted by profiles who had met the people who had verified us. Mostly suggesting that we should meet them too. "
This and the fact that people are very judgemental if you have a lot of them due to social events and maybe club meets. It's automatically assumed by some (often wrongly) that you've fucked everyone who has verified you. It boils down to the age old thing of not reading properly or at all. |
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Personally mine were mostly from one lady with few others from ladies who've left fab, but my FBs situation was complicated so didn't show them to preserve her anonymity. And because they weren't/aren't showed I asked someone to do one from social I attend, just to show any verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like your style of writing. Skinny dipping "
Thank you kindly. I'm available for weddings, bar mitzvahs and Masonic functions. |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
We chose not to within a month or so of being on . People ( mainly single guys) would message us say “we have a mutual friend, so we’ll get on too “ Yada yada . Or and we found this worse, they would message those on our veri’s and say the same or that they knew us and so would vouch for them to get themselves party invites. |
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"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t.
Because we believe in discretion. We shouldn't have to say who we have met, nor should they."
This reflects our positon too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cos you don’t have to - we don’t always feel the need to give or receive - quite grown up we feel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We often don't give a verification and we don't always show them either... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only show them to.prove I'm real |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We keep some of ours public just to prove ,
1. The last time we met anyone
2. We are still alive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications are not as reliable or as useful as talking to the person in real time. They can only give you a vague idea but not the whole picture.
We all have different reasons for our preferences. I'd never assume that the partner I had a great (or bad) time with would behave in the same way as with someone else.
I'm not counting Verifications for the sole purpose of event organisers who want to vet possible candidates who would be an asset to their events of course, though I suspect that even they have multiple methods of sifting out the ones not fit for their needs. This isn't a criticism, just human nature.
Consider the following analogy.
You're looking for a great restaurant. You check the reviews. Some are positive, some aren't. You'll never really know until you've experienced it yourself and even there, you could have visited during a bad day, staff quit, cook is in hysterics in the kitchen and deliveries were canceled.
You could go back to the same restaurant a week later, the staff are nice, the atmosphere is wonderful and the experience was amazing.
That's why I take any peer reviews with a grain of salt and respect those who prefer to save themselves the grief of publishing highly subjective, or bland or inaccurate veris. Sometimes it's simply a question of others just being nosy and quizzing the reviewers or poaching lovers. Who know?
When in doubt, your gut instinct is a better method for assessing whether someone is compatible than a terabyte of social/party/reciprocal veris.
Just my €0.02 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like what I get upto with to stay private.
So usually I won't show a verification if they have been over sexually graphic with there description of what we did. |
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By *ik40Man
over a year ago
Worcester |
I have nothing to show
Still no verification  |
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There was a local woman who for a while would message any guy I had received verifications from asking why they'd meet me but not her. I could have hidden my veris but why should I? |
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I dont for the simple reason that its between me and the person concerned |
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"I dont for the simple reason that its between me and the person concerned "
This^^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As everyone said some people get pissy if you show them! I was warned not too by 1 girl, didn't want anyone knowing she had FF play. |
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By *risis_rocMan
over a year ago
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Some people who I’ve met have specificity asked not to publish as they don’t want people to know who they are fucking lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because someone from 2017 verified me when I came back and its 2024!!!
A couple that verfied me have left the site, so it doesnt show.
Loads of reasons why people dont show them.
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By *mmaleiaWoman
over a year ago
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I show my social veris, my sexual veris are my business & nobody elses |
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I dont display them as i had a jealous partner contacting veri's and making threats to them to leave me alone.
I have no issues with displaying them for a short period of time if i'm chatting with someone who has asked to see them.
When I do meet people, I will always ask if they want me verifying them and I have no issues eithdr way or with being displayed on other peoples public verifications.
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At one point I hid all my verifications.
That was a while ago.
I then had people accusing me of being fake or having something to hide.
So I said stuff it, I’m showing everything. |
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I don't show any - who I meet/sleep with is private.
It also REALLY upsets the weirdo who stalks my profile that she can't see who I meet |
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Hidden mine now due to people being nosey |
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By *undazeCouple
over a year ago
Dover |
Nobodies business but ours, but if we were planning a meet we'd make them visible to our prospective friend. |
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By *OYFBWoman
over a year ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
After reading the comments in this thread, I’ve hidden my verifications! |
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By *eren4891Woman
over a year ago
North east wales |
Because I've found the same people meeting the guys I had and just seemed a little strange.
Also sometimes feel like there's abit too much info put there |
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By *eren4891Woman
over a year ago
North east wales |
"I don't show any - who I meet/sleep with is private.
It also REALLY upsets the weirdo who stalks my profile that she can't see who I meet "
Exactly this!!! I don't get it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I look at female couples veris so I can see if I stand a chance |
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"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women.
What an ass "
that is terrible he did that. Curves are wonderful and so is a larger lady ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women.
What an ass that is terrible he did that. Curves are wonderful and so is a larger lady !"
He still messages on occasion looking to meet up again. Bless him |
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By *elbriceMan
over a year ago
Colchester |
"We made all our veris public but the one guy who didnt publish our veri on his page didn't want anyone to know he liked fat women."
WTF |
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By *each bumsCouple
over a year ago
SPAIN.. PERMANENTLY |
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By *each bumsCouple
over a year ago
SPAIN.. PERMANENTLY |
Because we don't kiss and tell .. |
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By *he LsCouple
over a year ago
East Midlands |
We like to see veris as it helps show people are genuine, luckily we've never had any issues with displaying ours.
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"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
Who I meet is no-one’s business but me and the people I've met. |
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Sometimes verification's disappear due to members leaving fab.
We had at one point 22 verification's now dropped to 9. This is mainly due to us wanting to seeing regular same people.
Maybe it's time to meet new friends lol |
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Most of my proper ones are from my FB and she doesn't want another guy to know she's now exclusively playing with me as she's known him for years. So I don't display,though of late I've got a couple from socials and they're fine to show I'm genuine though because of my FB situation I specifically ask not to be playing veri'd by anyone, just a bit of a strange situation been deeper than a fab thing, while been exclusively a fab thing. |
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I don’t show mainly I have received messages on several occasions from people questioning who I meet etc.
It just as bad as spotting someone you meet in the supermarket and they trying to start a conversation mainly around fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Feels too much like trip advisor |
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A veri or two to prove you are real, will leave home etc is enough. If people want to collect veris like loyalty card stamps go for it but it’s meaningless. |
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Some people feel the need to write an explicit chronology of a meet or are beyond garish so we don't publish those x |
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I have had only three meets in three years...all three went pretty good...I asked them all twice to veri me and all three said they would...and none did. |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman 7 weeks ago
Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk |
"I know it’s there choice yada yada yada but what is the reason why you wouldn’t. "
Many of mine are from people no longer on the site so I can't show them even if I wanted too |
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By *WB85Man 7 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
Many like to keep their journeys private and not share all the details with others.
There's nothing worse than graphic verifications, they feel like an amazon review of your sexual performance. |
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i only meet guys via fab and i hide all my veris because guys just cant help them selves and try to meddle..and to be fair some women and couples too
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contact my meets for info
message me saying such & such sent them
send abusive messages to my meets / or tell them lies about me normally because ive turned then down
men tend to get very graphic when leaving veri
and ive hidden them because i want to it dont affect men getting in touch ive never been asked why i hide. as i said i only meet men via fab ..couples and women i meet in other ways as far far to many fakes and messers on fab yes you heard right some women and couples are massive messers as well |
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why cant our verifications be shown anymore just because the guy has left the site |
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Gives other’s confidence you’re genuine . So many fakes on here |
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Because as a single man you are cut no slack! Your messages may not even be read 80% of the time, Therefore I feel I need to show people that I’m genuine, I do turn up and I bring the excitement and passion that I say I will. People verifying me show that I’m capable of doing all this and more |
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"Because as a single man you are cut no slack! Your messages may not even be read 80% of the time, Therefore I feel I need to show people that I’m genuine, I do turn up and I bring the excitement and passion that I say I will. People verifying me show that I’m capable of doing all this and more "
You're answering "why do people NOT show verifications" 🤔 |
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In part some people are happy to do a verification but not want everyone to know, they have own reasons and as I do their decision is fully repected.
If a verification I send is not shown on their profile, again I do not think owt of it.
I sometime show only certain ones depends on what I fancy doing at that time.
The veris are all positive thankfully |
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"i get a lot of men who do not want me to even give them a verif because they are "fab straight" and could affect their rep with women "
I came here to say this, too |
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