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We're on the edge of blocking all single men for every 100 that message were lucky to find 1 that's actually in it for the swinging, gets couple dynamic and isn't just here to cheat on their partner or looking for an urgent meet... is it just us or has Fab really reached that point... |
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We've already blocked them due to this exact reason. It was either block then, or come off fab all together because the constant "hi" messages and the abuse we received when we turned them down almost made us quit completely |
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over a year ago
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As a single man who I think gets swinging do you think charging men more to be on the site, similar to what clubs do, would sort the wheat from the chaff?
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"As a single man who I think gets swinging do you think charging men more to be on the site, similar to what clubs do, would sort the wheat from the chaff?
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No I don't. Chaff have money just as much as wheat |
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It might but then bit like the clubs the good ones get punished, paying some extortionate fees. The hard thing to comprehend is there are people looking for a good single male yet, many can't click on to it and think "free now" "hung for your wife" are how it's gonna click |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a single man who I think gets swinging do you think charging men more to be on the site, similar to what clubs do, would sort the wheat from the chaff?
No I don't. Chaff have money just as much as wheat"
True |
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"Don't tar us all with the same brush, there are some descent honest ones out there.  "
There are some decent guys here for the right reasons
Unfortunately there's way too many invisible ones who literally appear not to be capable of reading or writing
And then from the decent ones the pool becomes smaller if they're not quite what you want
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By *r Man45Man
over a year ago
North West |
"Don't tar us all with the same brush, there are some descent honest ones out there.
There are some decent guys here for the right reasons
Unfortunately there's way too many invisible ones who literally appear not to be capable of reading or writing
And then from the decent ones the pool becomes smaller if they're not quite what you want
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Yes I do get that, It does seem to be a fishing exercise for most guys. Keep looking, im sure the right ones we come along.  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Already have them in, must be verified etc doesn't mean they're here for the right reason "
Block all incoming mail from men and browse profiles yourselves.
You can generally tell from a quick scan of their profile as to why they're here and what they're looking for.
Block any unsuitable ones as you go and they'll never appear in future searches.
Verifications from those that attend clubs and organised socials are usually a good pointer to those that are in for the long haul and the right reasons as opposed to those simply looking for NSA hook ups.
Will usually get the result yo want with a bit of legwork and certainly guarantees your inbox will be tidier. |
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I get what your saying OP, but I've had silly message requests from females and couples. The male ratio is high so the amount of silly messages from guys will be high but the ratios were even then I reckon the fucktard messages would probs be an pretty much equal amount between males, females and couples.
There are a lot of genuine guys on here, you just need to go try find them. |
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And at the other end of the Fab spectrum;
all the smug couples who think it’s acceptable to ‘booty call’ solo guy profiles at 1 in the morning, or when the wife has had enough alcohol to say “Oh go on then”, and you get the message for a “no kissing, she won’t suck your cock either, just fuck and go”……
Has Fab really reached that level?  |
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By *uckurcumMan
over a year ago
Bishop Auckland |
"I get what your saying OP, but I've had silly message requests from females and couples. The male ratio is high so the amount of silly messages from guys will be high but the ratios were even then I reckon the fucktard messages would probs be an pretty much equal amount between males, females and couples
There are a lot of genuine guys on here, you just need to go try find them. "
A pretty good summary of how it rolls on here and other places .... |
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why not just block those guys your not interested in rather than block all?
just block as you go along those that want cum n go block those you dont fancy block thats how i/we do it on our joint accont and this my single account if you block all you will miss the few who do get swinging
the saying dont tar all with the same brush is so true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fully appreciate what you are saying - a female associate on here has shown me her inbox and says its lucky when she ever gets it below 100 messages. Practically all from single guy profiles, all following the same pattern of "Wow, stunning, would love to fuck" accompanied by a couple of selfies and a couple of cock pics. Barely any seem to read her profile or send her a message based around what she has asked for/pick out her interests sort of thing.
Having said that - I believe to a degree a lot of people no matter the sex are as bad as each other on here but single male accounts bear the brunt of the complaints. I'm not saying that there aren't plonkers as per OP's post but:
There are couples who you could say lead guys on with thier numerous uploads captioned "fab to be next" and so on, or will state they are not looking for single guys but seem to regularly uploads videos and pics of the lady being fucked by a different partner "not the hubby" - which gives off a bit of a mixed message.
I would also say there are some females who know exactly what they are doing with some of their uploaded pictures, begging for FABS to get to Page 1 but then complain thier inbox is swamped.
There will be cheats of both sexes and all profile types, some are just better at being sneakier than others. |
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By *ohn 66Man
over a year ago
South Birmingham |
"As a single man who I think gets swinging do you think charging men more to be on the site, similar to what clubs do, would sort the wheat from the chaff?
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What evidence is there that rich men are in any way better than those who might be priced out?
Although it might work against a single bloke like me, I can see that filters might be the best way for couples to proactively find who they are looking for. |
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"As a single man who I think gets swinging do you think charging men more to be on the site, similar to what clubs do, would sort the wheat from the chaff?
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This is the only site I am aware of, which treats solo guys as equals, by charging the same fees to use, for all denominations. Don’t take that away ffs!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a single man who I think gets swinging do you think charging men more to be on the site, similar to what clubs do, would sort the wheat from the chaff?
What evidence is there that rich men are in any way better than those who might be priced out?
Although it might work against a single bloke like me, I can see that filters might be the best way for couples to proactively find who they are looking for."
I'm not rich, but any dating site you have to pay a healthy subscription to join and message people.
I was a subscriber here but don't plan on renewing it as my chances are limited, no matter how you come across. |
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"We're on the edge of blocking all single men for every 100 that message were lucky to find 1 that's actually in it for the swinging, gets couple dynamic and isn't just here to cheat on their partner or looking for an urgent meet... is it just us or has Fab really reached that point... "
Top tip... Block all single males from messaging you. You can actually still send a message to single guys with the ones you like. It just means you now have to look for a guy rather than wading through the 100 message's to find the right one. The single guy can reply back to your message after YOU have made the initial contact.
Hope that helps and wish you the best of luck
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"And at the other end of the Fab spectrum;
all the smug couples who think it’s acceptable to ‘booty call’ solo guy profiles at 1 in the morning, or when the wife has had enough alcohol to say “Oh go on then”, and you get the message for a “no kissing, she won’t suck your cock either, just fuck and go”……
Has Fab really reached that level? "
Indeed there are so many fuck and go couples and women about on fab
So many couples and women that waste us genuine guys time.
Stick to clubs. Best way to meet people anyway.
Skip all the rubbish messaging and meet real swingers  |
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I have my message filters on.
I block when I see a profile that is unsuitable to me, usually when they have looked on my profile or they are on local updates as I rarely search and of course the one word/liner brigade.
It's arduious and Fab should take some responsibility by removing (after a certain period of time) the non meet verified with no photos non site supporter lurkers. |
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We don't let it bother us tbh...we have message filters on, but only for age. We get a lot of messages from guys, but we like meeting guys! If a message has no effort put into it or the sender has a dreadful profile then we simply ignore it. If they get abusive then we'll just block them. If a guy is patient enough to wait for a reply and has sent a thoughtful message that shows they've read our profile, we are happy to respond, whether that's to politely let them down or get to know them further. Admittedly, we did used to get annoyed with it, but in reality, it's not that bad considering that when you find a real gem...they can make for a truly amazing meet. The guys that have made it that far with us have not only been great in bed, but also a lot of fun outside of it too. And as another comment mentioned, single men aren't the only ones that have a terrible approach to messaging...we've had our fair share from couples too. |
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"And at the other end of the Fab spectrum;
all the smug couples who think it’s acceptable to ‘booty call’ solo guy profiles at 1 in the morning, or when the wife has had enough alcohol to say “Oh go on then”, and you get the message for a “no kissing, she won’t suck your cock either, just fuck and go”……
Has Fab really reached that level?
Indeed there are so many fuck and go couples and women about on fab
So many couples and women that waste us genuine guys time.
Stick to clubs. Best way to meet people anyway.
Skip all the rubbish messaging and meet real swingers "
Clubs may be fine when they’re on your doorstep, but in my experience, they’ve rarely been worth the 3 or 4 hours round trip drive for a nice chat with likeminded people and the potential for a possibility of a sexual encounter…… |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We're on the edge of blocking all single men for every 100 that message were lucky to find 1 that's actually in it for the swinging, gets couple dynamic and isn't just here to cheat on their partner or looking for an urgent meet... is it just us or has Fab really reached that point... "
The best advice I can give any couple on here that feels like this is to block single guys.
You’re still able to browse and initiate contact with guys who take your fancy, and they can then respond to you while the remainder stay blocked |
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"We're on the edge of blocking all single men for every 100 that message were lucky to find 1 that's actually in it for the swinging, gets couple dynamic and isn't just here to cheat on their partner or looking for an urgent meet... is it just us or has Fab really reached that point... "
If you are getting frustrated then definitely block single males. However that does then make me wonder how you are going to find the guy you want?
Either you are going to have to go out and search for him - which a lot of people do. Or you might want to consider asking people you trust who they might recommend. Referrals work and they are a real thing. |
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By *eeboCouple
over a year ago
basingstoke |
Was literally about to write a post asking about things to consider if Mrs C was thinking about having her own profile on here!
A fee things to think about and reality of the fact it may take some time to find what we/she is looking for!! |
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"And at the other end of the Fab spectrum;
all the smug couples who think it’s acceptable to ‘booty call’ solo guy profiles at 1 in the morning, or when the wife has had enough alcohol to say “Oh go on then”, and you get the message for a “no kissing, she won’t suck your cock either, just fuck and go”……
Has Fab really reached that level?
Indeed there are so many fuck and go couples and women about on fab
So many couples and women that waste us genuine guys time.
Stick to clubs. Best way to meet people anyway.
Skip all the rubbish messaging and meet real swingers "
Have we reached a point where we're gatekeeping what 'real swingers' are now?
Everyone has their own kinks, desires and preferences and whether that means fuck n go meets, gangbangs, straight swapping or being covered in custard and spanked - it's all valid! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We feel same way if you invite them 99% won’t show up or ghosted once given details location ect and most are bi or curious and reading alludes them also |
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Agree that the majority ruin it for the minority and that's the reason we turned off single men.
But let's be honest there is just as many crackpot couples on the site too its just the ratio of men is higher so you see it more.
The amount of couples who either can't string a sentence together or just as pushy is quite high. Fortunately once you become a pro at ing out the mental cases you can (and we have) found some amazing people x |
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As a single male just starting to explore the scene this is depressing to read.
I've been on and off here several times as it's a nightmare just trying to get to talk let alone meet.
Most of the times the messages go unread |
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"We reckon that if you meet a guy at an organised social he's already in the top 5%, at a club probably 2%"
Definitely this which is why we stick to clubs. A lot of men seem to treat Fab as a porn replacement judging by a lot of the messages we get. |
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If your patience has worn thin then you must do what’s right for you.
Fab has some great single guys if you can just put up with the bollocks, put a bit of time in and be bothered to filter effectively.
Others can follow your lead or not as they wish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Were certainly getting that way which is a shame. So many blokes and so little with the ability to hold a conversation or share a face pic"
I totally concur
Communication is key; I enjoy conversation with no expectation in clubland. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It might but then bit like the clubs the good ones get punished, paying some extortionate fees. The hard thing to comprehend is there are people looking for a good single male yet, many can't click on to it and think "free now" "hung for your wife" are how it's gonna click "
Thank goodness there are still some reasonably-priced clubs. The ones I have attended recently seemed to have relaxed, engaging, well-behaved blokes. Maybe the keyboard idiots are too high in number... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And at the other end of the Fab spectrum;
all the smug couples who think it’s acceptable to ‘booty call’ solo guy profiles at 1 in the morning, or when the wife has had enough alcohol to say “Oh go on then”, and you get the message for a “no kissing, she won’t suck your cock either, just fuck and go”……
Has Fab really reached that level?
Indeed there are so many fuck and go couples and women about on fab
So many couples and women that waste us genuine guys time.
Stick to clubs. Best way to meet people anyway.
Skip all the rubbish messaging and meet real swingers "
Clubland tends to be great fun! |
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"We're on the edge of blocking all single men for every 100 that message were lucky to find 1 that's actually in it for the swinging, gets couple dynamic and isn't just here to cheat on their partner or looking for an urgent meet... is it just us or has Fab really reached that point... "
To be fair we're mainly dicks |
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