"What event op and what is she unsure of?.
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I think she's got a preconceived idea about the whole environment and the type of person.
I have suggested going to an event with other couples as opposed to singles |
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"What event op and what is she unsure of?.
I think she's got a preconceived idea about the whole environment and the type of person.
I have suggested going to an event with other couples as opposed to singles"
Do you mean to go to a club together? |
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"What event op and what is she unsure of?.
I think she's got a preconceived idea about the whole environment and the type of person.
I have suggested going to an event with other couples as opposed to singles
Do you mean to go to a club together? "
Yes. Go to a club with no expectations as a couple |
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I know how I would approach the subject but I'm a woman and I don't know your wife at all.
I would have a good chat with her, ask her what she was unsure about. Then I'd reassure her that she was in complete control and nothing would happen that she didn't want, I'd make sure she knew she was enough for me and that if we never went to 'an event' together it wouldn't change my feelings towards her and that I would never pressure her into doing something she wasn't sure about.
Then I'd ask her if there was an unfulfilled fantasy that she has that I could help her achieve.
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"I know how I would approach the subject but I'm a woman and I don't know your wife at all.
I would have a good chat with her, ask her what she was unsure about. Then I'd reassure her that she was in complete control and nothing would happen that she didn't want, I'd make sure she knew she was enough for me and that if we never went to 'an event' together it wouldn't change my feelings towards her and that I would never pressure her into doing something she wasn't sure about.
Then I'd ask her if there was an unfulfilled fantasy that she has that I could help her achieve.
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Thankyou for the advice, really appreciated. For me it stems from our personal experiences. I have never had that excitement, thrill, whereas she has in the passed |
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"^^ and doesn't want to do it again or is wary of how it would impact your relationship? "
She would only want to play with me, and no one else. Not worried about our relationship, as it would just be us. |
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"Go to a club together and follow her lead.
Always go by the person more cautious, use your brain and not your dick.
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Yeah, ive said that. No different to going to a club and having a drink. Nothing has to happened |
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By *WB85Man 13 weeks ago
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Absolutely that. Find a club that has either a newbie event or a couples evening. They have a far nicer / gentle feel to them.
Its exactly how we started, slow and steady slowly getting more comfortable. |
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"^^ and doesn't want to do it again or is wary of how it would impact your relationship?
She would only want to play with me, and no one else. Not worried about our relationship, as it would just be us. "
So you're asking how to approach her so that she will agree? |
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"^^ and doesn't want to do it again or is wary of how it would impact your relationship?
She would only want to play with me, and no one else. Not worried about our relationship, as it would just be us.
So you're asking how to approach her so that she will agree? "
Yeah |
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You don’t have to actually do anything in a club - you can just go and watch, or jut socialise at the bar area (though you might have no choice but to see naked cheeks roaming about)
If she does decide to go with you, and you guys are alright looking around (if there isn’t already a club nearby to you lot), have a look around for a newbies event or something that might suit you |
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"^^ and doesn't want to do it again or is wary of how it would impact your relationship?
She would only want to play with me, and no one else. Not worried about our relationship, as it would just be us.
So you're asking how to approach her so that she will agree?
Yeah"
Ok, how have you broached the subject so far |
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Ask her if she wants to go to a swinging club. It's not uncommon for women to only want to play with her partner. Many couples only play with each other on their first visit. It's not a mass orgy as people some think. |
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"^^ and doesn't want to do it again or is wary of how it would impact your relationship?
She would only want to play with me, and no one else. Not worried about our relationship, as it would just be us.
So you're asking how to approach her so that she will agree?
Yeah
Ok, how have you broached the subject so far"
The o p should know his wife well enough without asking others as none of us know the dynamics of your relationship.
Is she fully aware you have this profile I ask because I think that if she does and finds out you are asking strangers how to approach your wife I think at the very least anyone would find it disrespectful and likely not want to go to a club because she could be wondering if any at club knew your relationship was being divuldge to whole of fab.
If you are married and she does not want to go ask yourself what is more important her happiness or yours |
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"I really want to experience my first event but my wife isnt sure. How would you approach the subject, in the knowledge that I am very keen in fulfilling a fantasy of mine?"
Genuine question OP, but does your first 'experience' need to be in a club? I ask as there are plenty of socials around that take place in more vanilla settings and it's an easy way to get a feel for the scene without any (perceived) pressure. |
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I’d arrange to go to a social gathering first rather than a club and arrange a code phrase she could say in case she didn’t like it, for example she could call out: “my haddock is steaming, darling” then you’d know it was time to leave. |
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