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Please Please stop with the squirting obsession
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
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It certainly seems to be a badge of honour for some men.
if a guy is doing something I don't like I ask him to stop. If he didn't the whole encounter would come to an end, if Mr N was there he would ensure he stopped way before that happened.
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By *aandLoCouple 2 weeks ago
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"Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
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Sorry you met such an egotistical, obnoxious guy - to say that to your husband!
These guys are totally about their ego and what they want. Tone deaf to what actually turns the lady on, and gives her a pleasurable experience.
Guys definitely struggle with the concept that for me it's not an orgasm. They are separate things; they can happen simultaneously or separately.
Any guy proclaiming to be able to make me do anything is an absolute turn-off.
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"Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
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Well said, it’s such a strange thing to boast about. Women who squirt will normally squirt it normally has little to do with the person they are playing with. |
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"Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
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So the first time it happened for me it was totally unexpected but also completely natural and unforced and happened every time from then on. For me, mental stimulation and connection plays a huge part alongside the stimulation and attraction that combined achieve the desired result. With one of my FWB’s all of the above fell into place and I actually hit the ceiling one night with it! I also had one guy who couldn’t perform for me so he decided that if he couldn’t perform with his dick, he would with his fingers. I kept asking him to stop because it was hurting and he carried on regardless (he was a bit intox which is why he couldn’t perform). I’ve also had guys try so hard that when they’ve finally achieved it, I’ve gushed blood where they’ve been so rough!
For the majority of us, we don’t actually need it to enjoy sex guys, but if it happens it’s a very pleasurable bonus! |
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I like to provide pleasure and have been told that I’m good with my mouth and fingers. Would I claim to be able to make a woman squirt, not really because each woman is different. I have been the cause of squirting but other times have focused on clit play because they didn’t like fingers inside. My aim is to provide pleasure in whatever form it takes - sometimes a squirt, more often not |
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"Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
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I absolutely agree with you OP.
I genuinely dislike the notion that it's taken as a challenge or even an indication of skill.
Sometimes I will, but it's really off putting when someone tries to force it. |
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This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit.
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Then why do you meet them and let them do it to you? 🤔 |
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"Not sure what all the hype is about yes made a woman gush but being covered in juices is not a real turn on i can assure you being covered in juces is indeed a turn on for many"
Yeah I know quite a few women who love it. Of course it's not for everyone, just like anal isn't , but seems a bit odd that the OP keeps meeting people and letting them do it to her if she doesn't like it. What's the partners view? Is he saying anything ?
I have a couples profile , I know what my lover likes and doesn't like and no one touches her in any way she doesn't like , |
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For me it’s all about arousal and varied play.
I don’t want to fucking or prodding a lady for half an hour but a little fingering, a lot of kissing, toys, laughter and a hard cock go along way. Whether you both cum is immaterial, the pleasure is in the aroused play and on a few occasions ladies have squirted with my fingers not even in their pussies. |
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"Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
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Sorry to hear this. I always like to fully discuss what all like or not and always respect that. The end results are so much better then and fun for all. It’s sad some don’t respect others and reason why my wife not on here anymore as too many arrogant guys thinking can do what they like and no consideration for others |
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"Also, slapping your cock on faces and pussies it’s porn and it’s shit "
Lots of women enjoy it, especially pussy but a few on the face too.....it's obviously not your thing, but it's not just porn. I'm sure lots of things happen in bedrooms that you also see when you watch porn, that's expected. If you think it only happens in more it might be down to inexperience ? |
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"Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
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Yes that sounds like a big negative on his behalf
So what he made you squirt
Some of my most intense orgasms have been without squirting
Probably another reason that goes against meeting men and sticking to just bringing women in to play with
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Nothing less sexy than a guy focusing just on one thing that he probably has six thousand porn videos of. Just because some girls do it and enjoy it, doesn't mean everyone does.
Anyhow, any guys here into having a butternut squash shoved up their arse? |
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Perhaps I’m one of the rare ones who actually doesn’t enjoy it. If during play the lady does, then fine, I’m happy for her. I’m more interested in her openly enjoying the experience and not aiming to make her cum or squirt. If either happens, as I said, good as long as it’s what she wanted.
Iv had a lady squirt and then ask if I enjoyed it? What am I supposed to say? So I response with as long as your happy, relaxed then I’m all good.
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"Perhaps I’m one of the rare ones who actually doesn’t enjoy it. If during play the lady does, then fine, I’m happy for her. I’m more interested in her openly enjoying the experience and not aiming to make her cum or squirt. If either happens, as I said, good as long as it’s what she wanted.
Iv had a lady squirt and then ask if I enjoyed it? What am I supposed to say? So I response with as long as your happy, relaxed then I’m all good.
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For me, it's less binary. Its not whether I enjoy something or not but, if I enjoy it, HOW I enjoy it. I'd rather have a guy with an average dick who knows how to ask, listen and adapt then a big dick with a big dick. |
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Omg yes!!! I couldn't agree more!! What is the obsession??!
Lots of men put their own pleasure before mine (mrs) in so many ways but especially with trying to force me to squirt! In 5 years I think only 1 or 2 have asked me if I even like squirting, if they asked rather than just assuming they would find that I only orgasm from it occasionally and sometimes they actions they take to try and make my squirt actually hurt! They don't read my body they just assume because it might have worked with someone else it will work with me and other women.
I am more confident now to say... "thats not pleasurable lets do something else" but often kills the vibe and I've checked out at this point.
Sometimes I squirt and absolutely love it and have the best orgasm but thats usually from lots of build up and reading what's working for my body!
Communication is absolutely key... I ask what they like and do my best to read their body without assuming, the same in return would be amazing but rarely happens.
Mrs x
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I am more confident now to say... "thats not pleasurable let’s do something else" but often kills the vibe and I've checked out at this point.
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Mrs x
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Completely agree! To those who say just communicate, this is exactly what happens. Or they stop for 30 second and then go back as if I might have changed my mind. It completely kills the vibe which is awkward when in a full swap/orgy. |
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Preach, OP. Well said.
I don't need to, I don't want to, no you're not special, and most of the time when guys try (and sometimes they're very forceful in trying), they usually just end up making me bleed. |
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I am more confident now to say... "thats not pleasurable let’s do something else" but often kills the vibe and I've checked out at this point.
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Mrs x
Completely agree! To those who say just communicate, this is exactly what happens. Or they stop for 30 second and then go back as if I might have changed my mind. It completely kills the vibe which is awkward when in a full swap/orgy. "
Yes.
I do communicate, and so many won't take no for an answer. |
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"Im constantly being asked, as soon as i say ive never squirted before. Its like a challenge and they say i can make you 🫣 it puts me off as soon as they say that."
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"Best just to tell guys you don't squirt as you have excellent bladder function and control, but if they insist !!!"
, most men if you tell them that they will practically beg you to let them try ,it's like it's there mission to make every woman squirt n cum
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By *erdyguy45Man 1 week ago
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I encountered squirting for the first time while in the LS.
I wasn't trying to make it happen and just happened to be having fun with her when it happened.
She apologised and said she should have warned me in advance that it happens but it was unexpected and enjoyable.
I don't go into an encounter with that in mind but have been lucky enough to meet others where the same happens, sometimes just from oral alone.
I don't take it as a badge of honour and don't aim to make it happen but if they enjoy it and it happens then it's all good with me.
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"Best just to tell guys you don't squirt as you have excellent bladder function and control, but if they insist !!!, most men if you tell them that they will practically beg you to let them try ,it's like it's there mission to make every woman squirt n cum"
💯 This!
If you say you don't squirt, their eyes light up and you can almost here a little voice inside their head going "ooooooo challenge" 
NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU THINK FINGER BLASTING ME WILL MAKE ME SQUIRT, ALL YOU WILL GET FROM ME IS A SWIFT KICK AND END OF PLAY |
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"Absolutely 💯 OP
Some guys seem to think by making a woman squirt/gush means she has orgasmed.
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I admit I used to believe that, and porn is to blame, like often.
It's also a simplification, when you think like that:
It's not always obvious to tell when a woman orgasms and every woman will reach it in a differrent way, whereas squirt is 1)very obvious when it happened and 2) fairly straight forward to reach consistently.
So when you think squirt=orgasm, you automatically go for that. |
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"Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
Sorry you met such an egotistical, obnoxious guy - to say that to your husband!
These guys are totally about their ego and what they want. Tone deaf to what actually turns the lady on, and gives her a pleasurable experience.
Guys definitely struggle with the concept that for me it's not an orgasm. They are separate things; they can happen simultaneously or separately.
Any guy proclaiming to be able to make me do anything is an absolute turn-off.
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I'm glad you said this, it isn't an orgasm for me either, I thought I was missing something lol. I can squirt/gush lots but rarely a guy gives me an orgasm, although an old friend would give me many orgasms yet I never squirted with him (I miss him) |
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"Best just to tell guys you don't squirt as you have excellent bladder function and control, but if they insist !!!, most men if you tell them that they will practically beg you to let them try ,it's like it's there mission to make every woman squirt n cum"
Best to ask them if they want to accompany you to the loo when you are having a pee, that's squirting for you right there.  |
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"Honestly guys, when I see you write that you can make a woman squirt, there is nothing more likely to make me hit block.
This is after years of meets with guys jabbing clumsily at the same spot inside me in hope of achieving the ultimate indicator of their sexual prowess.
It’s not sexy, it’s shit. I’m not a fruit machine that pays out if you press the right buttons. Most of the time in these encounters, I don’t even want to cum. I want to be mentally stimulated more.
I’ve literally had one guy force an uncomfortable orgasm out of me accompanied by ‘squirting’ - by aggressively prodding that area. He was satisfied, having achieved the result HE wanted. He then started trying to explain to my husband how he did it - information my husband certainly did not need or want!
Sometimes when me and my husband have sex it happens, and yes it’s nice. But DON’T go into sex looking to achieve it. That’s not how you give women pleasure. It should be something that MIGHT happen in certain circumstances, it shouldn’t be a goal.
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