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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" Show her this profile if yours | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" Which year? | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" Why have you only had sex with her once a year? | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" Have sex with her again  | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" You are such a joker  anyway what is problem with ur cock? Can I help your wife?  | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" I had one for 6 years. Till i did something about it. No not chesting before you ask lol | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? I had one for 6 years. Till i did something about it. No not chesting before you ask lol " One what? | |||
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"Find her profile on here and arrange a meet!" | |||
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"Find her profile on here and arrange a meet!" PMSL. | |||
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"Have sex with her again" Giggles  | |||
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"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair. I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her. Good luck I feel for you." When Do you think she started to have affair before or after sexless marriage ? | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? I had one for 6 years. Till i did something about it. No not chesting before you ask lol One what?" Sorry typo none i meant | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!  | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" I'll ask her for you once shes not so busy | |||
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"Talk to her?" 
Relationships involve relating so talk find a common ground or bed or kitchen counter... fuck it any surface will do | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that! "Two years two months here  | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here "What the hell are we doing wrong? If we were closer.....maybe? | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here "What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope? | |||
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"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair. I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her. Good luck I feel for you." You moved out 3 weeks ago? So did her affair start before or after you joined fab?  | |||
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"Have the conversation that I had with my wife when I was married; Me - Is sex important in our relationship? Her - No, not really. Me - So it doesn't matter if I get it somewhere else then, does it? Her - Now you put it like that, yes it is. Me - So why don't we have it more often?" Honestly there is nothing you can do , when there is no sex in a marriage.... You’re just roommates, that live together because of children or a crazy amount of debt... I have lived with 2 women and when the sex stops. The relationship is over | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" If you’d posted this on the 1st January I wouldn’t have been worried | |||
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"Have the conversation that I had with my wife when I was married; Me - Is sex important in our relationship? Her - No, not really. Me - So it doesn't matter if I get it somewhere else then, does it? Her - Now you put it like that, yes it is. Me - So why don't we have it more often?" Had this mid way through last year, been single single November. | |||
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"You have action pictures on your profile , you don't disclose on there you are married . And you been before and back for more ! Right When you took your vows did you involved strangers from a swingers site ? Marriage in my opinion is to be discussed between the people involved ! Sometimes I wonder why people get married with someone and they feel they can't speak with that person . I rather be single and alone ! If something is wrong in my relationship. I would ask my partner first and if I am not happy tell him! " Exactly...... if my girlfriend is not having sex with me. I’m going to find out why Not wait a year with no sex..... No way | |||
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"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair. I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her. You are quite correct Good luck I feel for you." | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" You are on a swingers site ? And asking this on a forum ? This place always ceases to amaze me | |||
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"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair. I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her. Good luck I feel for you. You moved out 3 weeks ago? So did her affair start before or after you joined fab? "Was told 3 years ago to find sex somewhere else. I joined fab about 2 years ago. Our marriage had been over for years. We are still friends with no hard or ill feelings towards each other we had just grown apart. It just took an affair to get us to do something about it. We are both much happier now. | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" Haven’t read the whole thread but does she know you are on here ? | |||
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". For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. " Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally | |||
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"There's some good advice among the various (including some ribald) comments above. If you're not getting all you need from a partner, then discussing it with them is a sensible first start. However there is not always a simple solution, and there are plenty of people on Fab (male and female) who are looking for something extra in secret from their partners. Maybe sometimes a love life can be rekindled. Maybe you can learn to live without. Maybe sometimes a partner can accept that you're free to find sex with others but are still committed to the relationship. Maybe in some cases it's better for all concerned for a relationship to end and new relationships to start. But sometimes there is no perfect answer and we have to choose the "least worst" option. For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. " Eh, so long as the spouse doesn't find out. People can do as they choose, dressing it up as doing their unwitting spouse a favour doesn't really cut it. | |||
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 my situation is slightly different. I won’t go into specifics on here. Although I should say she wanted to but couldn’t. After a lot of talking we decided that swinging would be ideal for me. I have full blessing to do what ever I want with who I want. She will even come to the club with me for the social side. We have made some very close friendships over the last year and our relationship has never been stronger and more loving. | |||
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"Talking works my situation is slightly different. I won’t go into specifics on here. Although I should say she wanted to but couldn’t. After a lot of talking we decided that swinging would be ideal for me. I have full blessing to do what ever I want with who I want. She will even come to the club with me for the social side. We have made some very close friendships over the last year and our relationship has never been stronger and more loving. "It sounds like you have a great wife. | |||
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If you haven’t already tried this then get the hell out of there, your spouse can do better.
For me, talking only works if she will listen, if she won’t then maybe it’s worth trying counselling. I’m not saying it will definitely fix stuff but if she’s not taking your sexual needs seriously then she won’t take your concerns seriously either. She might do if a counsellor says it.
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"There's only one lesson to learn here OP... Only bring personal stuff on this forum in the understanding that many (most?) posters will take glee in taking the piss because you're a bloke asking. If you were a woman it would have been widespread pity and "sending hugs" crap." Rubbish. | |||
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"Some good advice here but a bit patronising too. “Talk to her” well wow, I bet nobody in the situation of seeing their relationship die and the happiness of their kids at stake has ever thought of that
If you haven’t already tried this then get the hell out of there, your spouse can do better.
For me, talking only works if she will listen, if she won’t then maybe it’s worth trying counselling. I’m not saying it will definitely fix stuff but if she’s not taking your sexual needs seriously then she won’t take your concerns seriously either. She might do if a counsellor says it.
Good luck"If only that works | |||
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". For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally " that is true. One must try hard to do as little harm as possible. That may mean abstinence, but that can make some people irritable and bad company. If the cheating route is taken, then I guess it would be good to be as discreet as possible so there's little chance of it turning out badly for all parties. | |||
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"Talking works my situation is slightly different. I won’t go into specifics on here. Although I should say she wanted to but couldn’t. After a lot of talking we decided that swinging would be ideal for me. I have full blessing to do what ever I want with who I want. She will even come to the club with me for the social side. We have made some very close friendships over the last year and our relationship has never been stronger and more loving. "Wonderful outcome, and a wonderfully understanding partner. | |||
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". For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally " They should expect it, if they are withholding sex from them. Or be understanding if there is something stopping them from having sex permanently. | |||
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". For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally They should expect it, if they are withholding sex from them. Or be understanding if there is something stopping them from having sex permanently. " Remember this is one side of the story | |||
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". For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. Yet if the other found out the person was having a affair it could destroy them equally They should expect it, if they are withholding sex from them. Or be understanding if there is something stopping them from having sex permanently. Remember this is one side of the story "
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"It's obvious. Search for a thread where a woman hasn't had sex with her husband in a year and do the polar opposite to the advice given." | |||
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"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair. I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her. Good luck I feel for you. You moved out 3 weeks ago? So did her affair start before or after you joined fab?
Was told 3 years ago to find sex somewhere else. I joined fab about 2 years ago. Our marriage had been over for years. We are still friends with no hard or ill feelings towards each other we had just grown apart. It just took an affair to get us to do something about it. We are both much happier now."So it's ok for you to have sex with others but when she did it, it's an affair? | |||
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"There's some good advice among the various (including some ribald) comments above. If you're not getting all you need from a partner, then discussing it with them is a sensible first start. However there is not always a simple solution, and there are plenty of people on Fab (male and female) who are looking for something extra in secret from their partners. Maybe sometimes a love life can be rekindled. Maybe you can learn to live without. Maybe sometimes a partner can accept that you're free to find sex with others but are still committed to the relationship. Maybe in some cases it's better for all concerned for a relationship to end and new relationships to start. But sometimes there is no perfect answer and we have to choose the "least worst" option. For many on here, ending a marriage would be harmful (emotionally, psychologically, financially) to themself, to partner, to children and others. But enforced abstinence might also be emotionally harmful. Sometimes having affairs might be a least worst option. " Wise words. | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? I'll ask her for you once shes not so busy "ruthless | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" At least she let you take pictures...
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"Is there a way back from this? Not this specific situation but any relationship where sex has dwindled to practically nothing. Can desire and intimacy be rekindled? " Personally I don't think there is, I have been in the same situation before, when I tried to settle for a nice guy, I just didn't desire any sexual relations with him further down the line so I had no choice but to end it, as we just ended up being housemates tbh  | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here
What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope? "To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything. | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here
What the hell are we doing wrong?
If we were closer.....maybe? "If only, judging by your pics and profile I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong at all. Maybe you’re looking for something you won’t necessarily find on here. Maybe I am too. x | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here
What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?
To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything. "Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here
What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?
To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.
Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol
I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you "Same here, 7 months and not 1 bit horny lol | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol" OMG, really? Wow! | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow!" Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here
What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?
To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.
Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol
I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you
Same here, 7 months and not 1 bit horny lol"Been there and done that lol, be warned as soon as you have sex again, you will be opening the flood gates | |||
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"Check she not having an affair mine was. When I was in sexless marriage, She was getting her sex somewhere else it was only me getting it once or twice a year. Not saying your wife is having an affair. I got out moved into my own place 3 weeks ago having time of my life now had more sex in 3 week than had in 5 years with her. Good luck I feel for you. When Do you think she started to have affair before or after sexless marriage ?" | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! " Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" speak to her about it and ask her why also buy her haribos because her answer will sound so much funnier | |||
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"If your on a swinging site looking for sex with other people and she's not wanted to have sex with you in over a year I think you know the answer here yourself in fairness " wrong deodorant maybe | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it." If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it? | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?" they just can't make up their minds if truth be known | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known "How do you mean? | |||
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" Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, ... " People are very varied in this respect. (And maybe there are gender differences too). Some people can have a happy sexless life or stage of life; others find abstinence depressing, and lack of sex will have a negative effect on their broader life (work, mood, relationships, energy levels etc). It's not a basic human need at quite the same level as oxygen or food, but for some people it's not far off. Thankfully self-service can be adequate for many people for a while at least, even though it's always nicer to give and share and respond. As well as people who find involuntary deprivation depressing and others who find it harmless, there is of course also the more unusual notion of enforced chastity in a D/s relationship which some people can find fulfilling at a rather profound level. | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known
How do you mean?"Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then | |||
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"Is there a way back from this? Not this specific situation but any relationship where sex has dwindled to practically nothing. Can desire and intimacy be rekindled? " Couldn’t for me. | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known
How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then "No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known
How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here
What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?
To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.
Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol
I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you "Totally true, so I thought a swingers sight would be perfect way to find a Friend with benefit, someone I liked as a person, who could become a genuine friend who wants to meet say once a month have a good time, enjoy each others company then enjoy each other, but there's just as many 'player's' and bullshitters in here, now 16 months WTF!! | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known
How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then
No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants "I actually do | |||
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"Talking works my situation is slightly different. I won’t go into specifics on here. Although I should say she wanted to but couldn’t. After a lot of talking we decided that swinging would be ideal for me. I have full blessing to do what ever I want with who I want. She will even come to the club with me for the social side. We have made some very close friendships over the last year and our relationship has never been stronger and more loving.
It sounds like you have a great wife."Thank you. I certainly do she’s wonderful | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known
How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then
No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known
How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then
No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants "That's actually quite an awful generalisation... that's like saying all men only care about sex. I'm a woman, I know what I want, and I have no problems communicating that. | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?they just can't make up their minds if truth be known
How do you mean?Well think about it you try something new on you've just bought it you love it but you've got something else that goes better with the shoes you love and then you find your favourite handbag which goes with neither, so you say to hubby or partner what do I look best in, he says that or that and you put on what you originally had on saying well what's wrong with this then
No, I'm sorry I genuinely don't understand the point you're making when does a woman truelly no for definite what she wants "99.9% of the time I reckon. That old stereotype is pretty outmoded. | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Fuck I am single and I haven't found Someone I want to have sex with in more than a year, beat that!
Two years two months here
What, since you've had sex? How on earth do you cope?
To be honest, the longer you go without it the easier it gets. It’s not like I’m desperate or anything.
Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol
I hesitate in finding a new sexual partner without being sure I like them as a person as I know my sexual prowess will be awakened insatiably once I have had a taste for it again so just makes finding that next partner harder to find when you know what is in front of you
Totally true, so I thought a swingers sight would be perfect way to find a Friend with benefit, someone I liked as a person, who could become a genuine friend who wants to meet say once a month have a good time, enjoy each others company then enjoy each other, but there's just as many 'player's' and bullshitters in here, now 16 months WTF!! " | |||
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"Have sex with her again Solid advice! "Sorry I know this is nothing to do with this thread but just had to say your profile name is great, really made me smile | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" Sorry, I do like to keep her busy. | |||
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"Tis true, I'm now at 15 months I don't even masterbate lol OMG, really? Wow! Believe it or not sex is not a vital art of the human form, we can function without it, not always through choice but it is an enjoyable act obviously, I am just maybe more than a bit reluctant to just give up my new found virginity to just anyone, which doesn't really help me, but hey, that is the route I am choosing as I couldn't just have sex with anyone anyway! Sex is a basic human want and need though and is one of life's most pleasurable things to do. Wouldn't like to think we had to go without it. If sex is a basic human need why, according to so many men, do so many women not need it?" Testosterone. Average male levels are 17 times higher than women's. It's not the only answer, and obviously many women do have a high sex drive. But female bodybuilders who use testosterone alongside their training often report a sharp rise in sexual desire and a new urgency for sex. | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do??? Why have you only had sex with her once a year? " because he's santa clause and he only cums once a year???? | |||
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"Have sex with her again" but that would be twice his yearly ration | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" Do you want me to speak to her and see wat I can do | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" My heart goes out to you, as a bloke - and I realise that females also experience this - who went through the same for many years. If you can talk to your lady about this, and aren't afraid to ask for professional help, then maybe what appears to be broken might be mended. In my case, none of the above were possible, she simply viewd sex as dirty, buse & vile, went so far as to.say it was unnatural, so after nine years I bailed out. I hope you work it out. | |||
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"I've only had sex with my wife once in a year. What do I do???" What year was it ? | |||
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"Find her profile on here and arrange a meet!" Lmao far too much at this | |||
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"She’s getting it from somewhere else trust me" Not necessarily, trust me and lots of therapy as a couple and individuals. There can be lots of reasons. | |||
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"She’s getting it from somewhere else trust me" I trust you not. There are clear differences between male and female sexuality. | |||
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"Might be a bit late but... My partner and I haven't had sex in 3.5 years (been together 25). Sex life was originally OK. Dwindled after having kids, and eventually stopped completely. My survival technique was to (after about 18mnths) have an affair. My partner doesn't officially know, but I'm sure she suspects or does know. But it's probably easier for her to pretend it's not happening." That's sad but completely understandable | |||
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"I blame boxes of condoms.... My ex and i bought boxes of 12, and rattled through them to start with, but it did tail off to once a month, and 12 in a box made an excelent xmas prezzie Then she started buying boxes of three, so when i asked why, she said leap years didnt count any more... " | |||
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"Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat. " Love this answer | |||
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"Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat. Love this answer "he UNLOS so guess either he became a wanker of went to a brothel lol | |||
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"Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat. Love this answer
he UNLOS so guess either he became a wanker of went to a brothel lol "Or he found the Mrs on here | |||
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"Go to a brothel. Fuck all this talking and communication rubbish, if she isn't dying from cock lust by now then that's not something that's going to be fixed by a nice chat. Love this answer
he UNLOS so guess either he became a wanker of went to a brothel lol
Or he found the Mrs on here "aye thats possible too lol | |||
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"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home. So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as “ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘ Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle." This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. | |||
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"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home. So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as “ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘ Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle. This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. " i did and no regrets | |||
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"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home. So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as “ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘ Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle. This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. " Not bullshit at all. The relationship isn’t all about sex in the end would be very shallow to walk away, we don’t dislike each other enough for that. Couldn’t be bothered with the disruption at my age may be if I were 26 years younger it would be another story . | |||
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"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home. So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as “ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘ Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle. This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. " There are many reasons why people can't just walk away. It's not that simple. | |||
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"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home. So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as “ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘ Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle. This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. " Oh if only it was so simple as that eh | |||
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"Empty bank account before you leave her.." Or of course, before you leave him but the problem is no matter where you stash it, it can be found. | |||
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"15 years with mine. Beat that!" Easily.. | |||
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"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home. So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as “ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘ Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle. This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. There are many reasons why people can't just walk away. It's not that simple. " Agree with this. My husband stopped all intimacy the moment we found out we were finally going to become parents. That was over 10 years ago. I tried, countless times to change the situation but there was a point when one more rejection was a rejection too many and I stopped trying. That is when I found fab. | |||
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"I imagine that is why some people come here because they don’t get sex at home. So many people in sexless relationships and it really isn’t as easy as “ just talk to them “ either . Sometimes they have become so unapproachable you cannot even start ‘the conversation. ‘ Shrugs ! you just give up in the end and accept what you have ( or have not) as it isn’t worth the hassle. This is bullshit you just pack your bags and walk away like i did when i was in one. There are many reasons why people can't just walk away. It's not that simple. Agree with this. My husband stopped all intimacy the moment we found out we were finally going to become parents. That was over 10 years ago. I tried, countless times to change the situation but there was a point when one more rejection was a rejection too many and I stopped trying. That is when I found fab." So sorry to read that . How horrid for you. Hard to believe isn’t it, not what you expected at all . Was he brought up to think sex was only for procreation 
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"Learn from most of the guys on here.... 1. Ask her 'Hows yous' 2. Show her a pic of your cock. Job sorted!" Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha | |||
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