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How does fab make you feel?
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Personally, at times, it makes me feel completely undesirable, ugly, past it. I realise I'm one of thousands of guys on here, and I'm not on anybody's to do list.
So, why stay? I like the interaction with the people I talk to on here. I take breaks. I remind myself sex is fun (more a memory these days), and there's always that outside chance of meeting someone.
If it wasn't for the lounge, I'd probably have quit a year ago. That over 50 thing is real.
So, how about you? Are you 'exceptional' and you're banging away more than the garden gate? Are you enjoying the affirmation that you're a hot ticket, or do you just perv away? 🤓
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On a personal level at the moment I'm neutral about it all.
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"On a personal level at the moment I'm neutral about it all.
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Interesting from a mod 👍🤓 |
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Most of the time this place is repetitive and uninspiring, but every now and then you make a connection that makes it seem worthwhile |
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I think you describe it well, Fife. It's a mix. I enjoy the good and try not to let the bad bother me.
When I'm not feeling it, I just log on less or not at all. |
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"I think you describe it well, Fife. It's a mix. I enjoy the good and try not to let the bad bother me.
When I'm not feeling it, I just log on less or not at all."
Breaks are important. If I read exceptional one more time........😬🤓 |
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Honestly at the moment im getting nowhere on here,it feels like a popularity contest sometimes and getting ghosted/no reply is fucking exhausting and some of the abuse validates my own low opinion of myself and is totally draining
Other than that pretty much given up on here |
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"I think you describe it well, Fife. It's a mix. I enjoy the good and try not to let the bad bother me.
When I'm not feeling it, I just log on less or not at all.
Breaks are important. If I read exceptional one more time........😬🤓"
Your an exceptional ninja 😁😘 |
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It makes me laugh and it makes me horny, that's it really. I'm not here for validation or nonsense, just penis and connecting with people who can provide the penis. |
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"I think you describe it well, Fife. It's a mix. I enjoy the good and try not to let the bad bother me.
When I'm not feeling it, I just log on less or not at all.
Breaks are important. If I read exceptional one more time........😬🤓
Your an exceptional ninja 😁😘"
In the shadows 🥷🤓 |
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The site in itself doesn't make me feel anything and never has done.
I haven't been meeting for 5 years and while it's easy to say that's by choice it's definitely more to do with circumstance and health.
I haven't sent an introductory message in those 5 years and I'm not using the site to keep in touch with friends.
I dip in and out when I feel like it as it's more of a distraction than anything else but I rarely if ever spend more than 30 minutes a day here and only then if I haven't got something more important to do.
I've always said I'm not a swinger and being here was a hobby rather than a lifestyle choice but it's pretty obvious from reading the forums that being a member of fabswingers just in itself and posting on the forums is a lifestyle choice for some.
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By *hortieWoman 2 weeks ago
Northampton |
I treat this place like a pub. Sometimes it's got a good crowd in, I chat, have fun.. maybe flirt with a view to something more.
Sometimes it's dickhead day and I go somewhere else.
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To be honest my last meet was April last year!!!!
I have limited availability due to family which makes it near impossible to meet but I live in hope.
I get a lot of comments which is great but never goes further than that xxx |
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I recognise this, OP. It’s pretty soul destroying to be ignored and overlooked (even with a - hopefully - decent profile, and when sending polite, engaged messages with face pics).
I question the logic of being on here most days, but for those rare moments of interaction or meets, it’s all worthwhile. The flip side is that I can’t keep away for the fear of missing an opportunity. I need to take a leaf from your book, OP, and take the occasional time out. |
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it makes me feel that you can invest as much time crafting a profile stating your boundaries and expectations and ppl will still try to bypass them (which is a huge turn off considering kink NEEDS respect for boundaries). ppl will say this isn't a dating site but expect women to do emotional labour and to build a connection but then treat as disposable once the excitement of banging you has worn off. so i guess it sometimes has made me feel like that, a dog that was just for xmas. idk is a love/hate relationship because i dooo want to find someone who im just attracted enough to let them touch me but not too attracted that im going to be creating fantasies in my head about dating then for reals. anyway, what was the question? how does fab makes me feel? depending on the day it could be frustration, excitement or depression. |
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"On a personal level at the moment I'm neutral about it all.
Interesting from a mod 👍🤓"
I did make it clear that it was on a personal level. As a mod I'm neutral anyway |
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"it makes me feel that you can invest as much time crafting a profile stating your boundaries and expectations and ppl will still try to bypass them (which is a huge turn off considering kink NEEDS respect for boundaries). ppl will say this isn't a dating site but expect women to do emotional labour and to build a connection but then treat as disposable once the excitement of banging you has worn off. so i guess it sometimes has made me feel like that, a dog that was just for xmas. idk is a love/hate relationship because i dooo want to find someone who im just attracted enough to let them touch me but not too attracted that im going to be creating fantasies in my head about dating then for reals. anyway, what was the question? how does fab makes me feel? depending on the day it could be frustration, excitement or depression."
I wouldn't actually mind a meet leading to dating, but I get your sentiment 🤓 |
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Yeah seems to be more a social thing for me chatting shit and having a laugh in the forums. Profile wise I don't get much attention unless it's from bi or gay guys trying to convince me I'm not straight. |
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"Yeah seems to be more a social thing for me chatting shit and having a laugh in the forums. Profile wise I don't get much attention unless it's from bi or gay guys trying to convince me I'm not straight. "
This is where filters become useful. Definitely, especially for a single pringle like me, it gives you some elements of sociality 🤓 |
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Like a walking talking vagina for anyone's disposal, should I refuse then I'm just a fat cunt anyway......
Fabs great.
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Like anything, this place fluctuates but
don’t take anything personally.
Have a giggle, have a peek around.
If a connection is made, great!
But I’m not desperate for anything.
Remember, there’s a real world out there |
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By *olo180Man 2 weeks ago
Greater London |
Have had my frustrations in the past here but finding the forums has been the real winner for me and given me much renewed interest in the site…a sexy social media!
Have interacted with some lovely people and been lucky enough to meet a few. Am enjoying the experience and have learned to not take it to seriously x |
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By *sWyldWoman 2 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
I really don't allow it to make me feel anything these days.
Its a bit of a habit being here. Sometimes there are some lovely folk.
I don't compare myself to others. If I did I'd likely begin to feel very out of place.
Ultimately I know its just strangers on the Internet and its not an important part of my life. |
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"I really don't allow it to make me feel anything these days.
Its a bit of a habit being here. Sometimes there are some lovely folk.
I don't compare myself to others. If I did I'd likely begin to feel very out of place.
Ultimately I know its just strangers on the Internet and its not an important part of my life. "
True, but it kinda gives you a rule of thumb about your desirability 😬🤓 |
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It is what it is, dont think there one perumale or female at would meet everyone that messages. Some people get 1000s of massages and some may get none but let it ever get you down. |
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How does it make me feel? Ugly. Annoying. Too much.
Why do I stay? There are good friends I’ve made who hang around in the lounge and the forums usually crack me up |
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"How does it make me feel? Ugly. Annoying. Too much.
Why do I stay? There are good friends I’ve made who hang around in the lounge and the forums usually crack me up "
Ah, the here's my face pic, followed by silence. A little gut punch, but there you go 😬🤓 |
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By *lfa RomeoMan 2 weeks ago
southeast , Herts, Beds |
Makes me feel, I'm not good enough, inadequate, lonely too |
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I don't worry about it too much. It can be entertaining and an escape. Everything else is a bonus. I learned to ignore the usual people that try to spoil it for everyone. Sometimes take a little break. It's on my terms so happy with it. |
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I'm not that invested....I have my friends and I've met some amazing people and had amazing experiences because of Fab but it is a pastime not a lifestyle choice
I know I could leave today and keep in touch with those who matter to me |
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I’m enjoying the forum where I’ve had a lot of fun, taking part and messaging some great people.
I’m ever hopeful I met actually meet someone, but it won’t be from the profile section I suspect. I’m lost in a see of eligible and younger guys. |
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"I don't worry about it too much. It can be entertaining and an escape. Everything else is a bonus. I learned to ignore the usual people that try to spoil it for everyone. Sometimes take a little break. It's on my terms so happy with it. "
Yeah, just had six weeks away. Saw a friend was back on, so paid my fiver to say hello, and I'm here again 🤓 |
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"I don't worry about it too much. It can be entertaining and an escape. Everything else is a bonus. I learned to ignore the usual people that try to spoil it for everyone. Sometimes take a little break. It's on my terms so happy with it.
Yeah, just had six weeks away. Saw a friend was back on, so paid my fiver to say hello, and I'm here again 🤓"
Always good to see you.  |
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"I don't worry about it too much. It can be entertaining and an escape. Everything else is a bonus. I learned to ignore the usual people that try to spoil it for everyone. Sometimes take a little break. It's on my terms so happy with it.
Yeah, just had six weeks away. Saw a friend was back on, so paid my fiver to say hello, and I'm here again 🤓
Always good to see you. "
Cheers bud 👍🤓 |
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FAB doesn't affect my feelings. There have been times when I haven't been a fan of what someone might say or do to others but I no longer engage with them as i've found they are , in the main, not capable of reasoned discussion. |
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It’s really sad that Fab affects people’s mental health so much.
You need a really thick skin to be on here. No different from any dating site I suppose. The difference is the mud slinging and the rudeness when people are rebuked.
If it’s not working leave. I will hopefully continue to meet lovely people here. |
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"FAB doesn't affect my feelings. There have been times when I haven't been a fan of what someone might say or do to others but I no longer engage with them as i've found they are , in the main, not capable of reasoned discussion. "
It shouldn't affect them, but it does 🤓 |
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Compared to regular dating site’s, Fab’s… slow. Might be better in a couple but I’m single. Didn’t trust the site initially, because it looks outdated. Heard about it on a podcast but just looked occasionally.
I’d like to know the ratios of men to women. You only have to compare “likes” to see there’s a lot of single men on here.
If I message I attach a face pic, 70% don’t get read. Currently messaging someone who is amazing.. so there is hope! |
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Here's the thing you have to keep sight of.
In person, in real time, how many times would you 'put yourself out there'? Realistically. If you went out one night a week, how many girls would you offer to buy a drink or chat up in person?
That's the level most guys or girls would find bearable on the ego.
So if you're punting your ego around on fab dozens of times daily or more. That's gonna sting. Because the more you ask doesn't equal more yes'es.
Be kind to yourselves. Be more selective over who you flirt with. Be calmer and just let fun find you.
And don't make sex the centre of your life. Have a wank and a dirty daydream and look up, look out. Be happy 😎🤷🏼♀️ |
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"Here's the thing you have to keep sight of.
In person, in real time, how many times would you 'put yourself out there'? Realistically. If you went out one night a week, how many girls would you offer to buy a drink or chat up in person?
That's the level most guys or girls would find bearable on the ego.
So if you're punting your ego around on fab dozens of times daily or more. That's gonna sting. Because the more you ask doesn't equal more yes'es.
Be kind to yourselves. Be more selective over who you flirt with. Be calmer and just let fun find you.
And don't make sex the centre of your life. Have a wank and a dirty daydream and look up, look out. Be happy 😎🤷🏼♀️"
Oh, I'm a grandad, so that's very important to me. I have no ego, but everyone wants to be wanted 🤓 |
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"It’s really sad that Fab affects people’s mental health so much.
You need a really thick skin to be on here. No different from any dating site I suppose. The difference is the mud slinging and the rudeness when people are rebuked.
If it’s not working leave. I will hopefully continue to meet lovely people here. "
i think fab (and f3e3ld) is better than any other dating site (although ppl might argue this isn't a dating site) because at least ppl are mostly more honest and upfront about just wanting sex. aaaaall others dating sites are used exactly for the same purpose but with lies, deceit and manipulation. honestly i think this is not about sites and what they're marketed for but rather the character of the people using them. |
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"Here's the thing you have to keep sight of.
In person, in real time, how many times would you 'put yourself out there'? Realistically. If you went out one night a week, how many girls would you offer to buy a drink or chat up in person?
That's the level most guys or girls would find bearable on the ego.
So if you're punting your ego around on fab dozens of times daily or more. That's gonna sting. Because the more you ask doesn't equal more yes'es.
Be kind to yourselves. Be more selective over who you flirt with. Be calmer and just let fun find you.
And don't make sex the centre of your life. Have a wank and a dirty daydream and look up, look out. Be happy 😎🤷🏼♀️"
I like this. |
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Oh, I'm a grandad, so that's very important to me. I have no ego, but everyone wants to be wanted 🤓
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Of course, we all want to be wanted. We're humans and we do the tribe thing. We do better with a side-kick.
I do too. But only if it's right.
Don't make it a gaping burning hole in your chest is all I mean.
Perspective and contentment is hard to keep. But it's worth a lil time re-centering in whatever way works for you. Exercise or meditation or tv watching or reading or knitting or walking your dog. Contemplate your navel. Pat yourself on the back. Smell a daisy. |
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Oh, I'm a grandad, so that's very important to me. I have no ego, but everyone wants to be wanted 🤓
Of course, we all want to be wanted. We're humans and we do the tribe thing. We do better with a side-kick.
I do too. But only if it's right.
Don't make it a gaping burning hole in your chest is all I mean.
Perspective and contentment is hard to keep. But it's worth a lil time re-centering in whatever way works for you. Exercise or meditation or tv watching or reading or knitting or walking your dog. Contemplate your navel. Pat yourself on the back. Smell a daisy."
I do travel to keep my perspective. Highly recommend the Netherlands as an underrated travel destination 🤓 |
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Oh, I'm a grandad, so that's very important to me. I have no ego, but everyone wants to be wanted 🤓
Of course, we all want to be wanted. We're humans and we do the tribe thing. We do better with a side-kick.
I do too. But only if it's right.
Don't make it a gaping burning hole in your chest is all I mean.
Perspective and contentment is hard to keep. But it's worth a lil time re-centering in whatever way works for you. Exercise or meditation or tv watching or reading or knitting or walking your dog. Contemplate your navel. Pat yourself on the back. Smell a daisy."
contemplate a daisy. smell your navel. |
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"It’s really sad that Fab affects people’s mental health so much.
You need a really thick skin to be on here. No different from any dating site I suppose. The difference is the mud slinging and the rudeness when people are rebuked.
If it’s not working leave. I will hopefully continue to meet lovely people here.
i think fab (and f3e3ld) is better than any other dating site (although ppl might argue this isn't a dating site) because at least ppl are mostly more honest and upfront about just wanting sex. aaaaall others dating sites are used exactly for the same purpose but with lies, deceit and manipulation. honestly i think this is not about sites and what they're marketed for but rather the character of the people using them. "
I use other dating sites but, I’m honest and upfront straight away. Most people say thank you for your honestly, but not for me. |
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Old and frustrating .that’s how it makes me feel ! But I live in hope !!! |
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I think it depends on the mood I bring to it, I try to stay off if I’m normal great as it really can perpetuate that but I also enjoy it most of the time and chatting with likeminded people is lovely! |
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A bit frustrated sometimes as nobody seems to want to meet or they say they will and then let you down. |
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"A bit frustrated sometimes as nobody seems to want to meet or they say they will and then let you down. "
I think, especially as a man, that somehow, ladies have the life of reply on here. That's not the case. That's irritating if you're getting let down 🙁🤓 |
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I do travel to keep my perspective. Highly recommend the Netherlands as an underrated travel destination 🤓"
I've never been but it does look really interesting. Scenic. Is the food good? |
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"Here's the thing you have to keep sight of.
In person, in real time, how many times would you 'put yourself out there'? Realistically. If you went out one night a week, how many girls would you offer to buy a drink or chat up in person?
That's the level most guys or girls would find bearable on the ego.
So if you're punting your ego around on fab dozens of times daily or more. That's gonna sting. Because the more you ask doesn't equal more yes'es.
Be kind to yourselves. Be more selective over who you flirt with. Be calmer and just let fun find you.
And don't make sex the centre of your life. Have a wank and a dirty daydream and look up, look out. Be happy 😎🤷🏼♀️
Oh, I'm a grandad, so that's very important to me. I have no ego, but everyone wants to be wanted 🤓"
Yes we all want to be wanted but some on here dont seem to understand that not everyone wants everyone else.
From the attitude and entitlement in some of the messages a lot of men on here think just because a woman has a profile she open for anything with anyone.
If we dare to say no we get abuse. In a public place if you approach someone and they have a little chat and they say no thanks to sex you dont say "well your a fat ugly cow and I'd never fuck you anyway" You say ok thanks and either walk away or stick to general chat.
Men talk about needing a thick skin on here to cope with rejection but women need a thick skin if they are brave enough to say no. |
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Gosh, I am sorry to hear that Fab has such a negative effect on some people.
To me the site (NB: Fab as a whole, *not* the forum) has had nothing but a positive effect in my life.
Yes, there are dickheads. But maybe it’s because I’ve been around a long time so they bypass me now.
I get lots of attention and adulation- I know much of it is saccharine and just a means to get laid haha but I don’t get bored on here. When I was bedbound earlier this year, I had so many chats with soooo many people- we all knew it was not going anywhere as literally I couldn’t go anywhere but I was entertained and Fab offered a little glimmer of hope in very, very dark days.
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I do travel to keep my perspective. Highly recommend the Netherlands as an underrated travel destination 🤓
I've never been but it does look really interesting. Scenic. Is the food good?"
Yes. Utrecht is fantastic. Travel by train is so easy. 🤓 |
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I do travel to keep my perspective. Highly recommend the Netherlands as an underrated travel destination 🤓
I've never been but it does look really interesting. Scenic. Is the food good?
Yes. Utrecht is fantastic. Travel by train is so easy. 🤓"
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Tbf i've not been here long enough for it to effect me negatively so far, I just enjoy chatting on the forums and the odd message with a couple of people so far.... will see how it goes 😂 |
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If it starts to feel more negative than positive I’d leave. So far it’s been more on the plus side. |
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Fab.. once was so fun made great friends and had a lot of fun
Currently fab has it ups and downs
Currently I do feel I’m not good enough |
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For a while, it made me feel completely undesirable. My messages were either unread or deleted without reply, low views and no interaction on my profile.
But then I moved past all that when I realised the insane numbers involved. There are thousands of similar profiles and women can receive hundreds of messages daily so it's bound to be difficult to be noticed.
Now, I mainly just enjoy browsing and occasionally chatting. |
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Being here does not make me feel one way or the other. I didn't come here with any expectations and it does little to change preheld thoughts about myself and my life.
At times it can be a fun distraction and at others there is little that interests me and I spend less time on here. |
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It makes me feel horny
Oh and happy when im having a giggle on the forums. |
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Before it was sometimes amazing,sometimes happy, sometimes doubtful and sometimes downright pants. It was a roller coaster with no brakes at times.
But after a break now its just a fun distraction with some totally unexpected moments |
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More meh than anything else these days |
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By *sWyldWoman 2 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
"I really don't allow it to make me feel anything these days.
Its a bit of a habit being here. Sometimes there are some lovely folk.
I don't compare myself to others. If I did I'd likely begin to feel very out of place.
Ultimately I know its just strangers on the Internet and its not an important part of my life.
True, but it kinda gives you a rule of thumb about your desirability 😬🤓"
It really doesn't. I'm apparently far more desirable here than in the real world. Its all nonsense |
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By *recticWoman 2 weeks ago
taunton |
I have an off/off relationship with Fab. Sometimes I like it to meet people, sometimes I feel like a bag of crap and like it for the validation without meeting, sometimes I get the ick and sometimes it’s just too much effort to sift through to find the extraordinary.
When it comes to face pics I’m fairly confident in myself and don’t think I’ll send anyone running but really looks are pretty much all we have to go on here and I have accepted that I may not be everyone’s cup of tea.
Having lost a lot of weight recently I’m very insecure about my loose skin ( which I hide in my knickers haha) and the fact that I now I have teeny arse and my once enormous tits are neither as bouncy or as big so meeting is a bit of a stumbling block. |
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A challenge for numerous reasons but he who dares wins hope springs to mind  |
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Some days it makes me feel joyful - when I'm enjoying forum interaction and getting fun messages from people I am engaged with. Other days it makes me feel worthless, with either endless messaging and no commitment to actually meet, or cockwombles expecting me to drop my knickers and come running because they've shown me a picture of their rancid dick.
You take the good with the bad huh? |
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The fab ladies love me and it makes the experience a while lot better. |
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"FAB doesn't affect my feelings. There have been times when I haven't been a fan of what someone might say or do to others but I no longer engage with them as i've found they are , in the main, not capable of reasoned discussion.
It shouldn't affect them, but it does 🤓"
Is that from people you know or people you don't know ? |
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Amazing and depressed depending on the day! |
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Fab makes me feel like an individual sperm, swimming in an average shot of ejaculate of 50 million sperms searching that one, solitary egg, out there somewhere, in the darkness…..
Fab also makes me wish I was one half of a genuine swinging couple. The most content people using this site tend to be swinging couples, as let’s face it; swinging is a couples’ game…. |
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I have a love/hate relationship with fab. I swing between often feeling insecure and unattractive, and feeling fierce and not giving a fuck.
Its hard not to compare yourself to some of the stunning people on here. If it's making me feel down, I tend to have a break as some people have mentioned.
I mostly just like chatting crap on the forums when I'm bored. But sometimes it feels like a popularity contest. I've started to avoid threads like that, or just avoid the forums for a bit.
I try and be lighthearted and funny on here, and when there's a serious topic I'm interested in I will give a serious thoughtful answer. But some of the negativity can just wear me down and make me angry. |
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Like a rose between two thorns. |
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I’ve recently reactivated, however I have a love hate relationship with this site.
Mostly because you shoot your shot, and get nothing back as a single guy. Makes you feel a bit crap sometimes.
However, I have made connections with some really good people. So there’s always a plus side. |
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By *aughty50sCouple 2 weeks ago
Yorkshire - but we travel a lot |
In a word, wistful. Fab keeps us in touch with the lifestyle we used to enjoy massively but can no longer fully participate in. Not many folks are interested in playing with someone with restricted mobility who uses a wheelchair. |
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I find it frustrating at times, I only ever message people that I think I would click with, I’m not trying to complete fab…. Just trying to make friends at best, fulfil someone’s needs at worst.
Genuinely consider myself to be a decent bloke and so when I make contact with someone politely as I would in person, to be completely ignored is a bit demoralising.
Not looking for sympathy, just explaining how it feels when you’re a bloke who isn’t looking to just dip his wick |
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By *oelMan 2 weeks ago
Midlands, London, Brussels |
Yeah similar, it feels a bit frustrating. But then I remember not to worry, and not to expect anything. Use it as a place to send messages, and connect but remember it's unlikely |
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I like reading how everyone is having sex, I’m a bit of a pervert you see 😉 |
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We are mostly on here for checking out club nights/ parties/ he likes reading the forums...
Sometimes it makes me feel amazing about myself, sometimes not so much, but when I'm not feeling it, I just take a little break...
Looking back on photos and veris is a sure way to make me smile... happy memories lol  |
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"I like reading how everyone is having sex, I’m a bit of a pervert you see 😉"
Wait? What? Sex! Not here 🤭🤓 |
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"Personally, at times, it makes me feel completely undesirable, ugly, past it. I realise I'm one of thousands of guys on here, and I'm not on anybody's to do list.
So, why stay? I like the interaction with the people I talk to on here. I take breaks. I remind myself sex is fun (more a memory these days), and there's always that outside chance of meeting someone.
If it wasn't for the lounge, I'd probably have quit a year ago. That over 50 thing is real.
So, how about you? Are you 'exceptional' and you're banging away more than the garden gate? Are you enjoying the affirmation that you're a hot ticket, or do you just perv away? 🤓
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Sometimes I like it as I like the forum and chipping in now and again.
However, a lot of the time, I can't be arsed with it. As on the flip side I can find the forums repetitive with repetitive threads and then replies are more tailored to some forum people and they tend to be the same answers too.
The events page can be really informative, but it depends if fab advertises the events and doesn't boot the events off, which I've been told happens.
So as with every site, for me, it has it's ebbs and flows. |
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Mostly can’t be arsed with it - if J hadn’t paid for site supporter, I’d’ve suggested sacking it off for a bit. Full of people who don’t respect boundaries (yeah I’ve read your profile, I know you’re not looking for straight guys, but I’m ignorant AF so I’m just going to message you anyway..and here’s an unsolicited photo of my knob next to a can of Coke/lynx deodorant/the sky remote chucked in for good measure 🙄). Log in to check in with the handful of people we chat with, but other than that it’s a bit of a let-down!
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Fab generally works for me. I know how it works and I am happy with it. I don’t take it too seriously and it doesn’t define who I am. |
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I don't think it's the best place to seek contentment. If people aren't happy in their real lives and they think that coming on here and hoping this site is going to have a positive affect on that, are probably only going to end up disappointed.
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Cynical people will tell you anything to try tu get in your knickers. |
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By *luefire2Couple 2 weeks ago
just somewhere around here |
Just somewhere to catch up with people we meet in clubs, almost like giving them our number or address to see if they want to meet again.
We don't really use it to arrange meets, we use X and other places. |
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It doesn’t make me feel anything really, never struggled to meet anyone although having a break at the moment sometimes it’s funny and you make good friendships I guess overall it makes me feel okay or I wouldn’t be here |
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Fab serves it's purpose. It enables me to have sex. Not much more than that really. It's never gonna be life changing |
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"Fab serves it's purpose. It enables me to have sex. Not much more than that really. It's never gonna be life changing"
Sex? What's that? 😬🤭🤓 |
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Honestly, this site makes me feel free. Free to show a side of my personality that my friends don't know about nor family. The reason being, I know they're not open minded enough to understand. |
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Never thought about it tbf, its just a site we use to make friends we can help feel good and vice versa 😈 |
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"Fab serves it's purpose. It enables me to have sex. Not much more than that really. It's never gonna be life changing
Sex? What's that? 😬🤭🤓"
No seriously
What is it |
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"In a word, wistful. Fab keeps us in touch with the lifestyle we used to enjoy massively but can no longer fully participate in. Not many folks are interested in playing with someone with restricted mobility who uses a wheelchair."
This is a massive barrier i find myself against on here wheelchair user 17 years now |
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It validates most insecurities and self criticisms I have...if not most, then all.
I don't know why I even stay  |
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By *ML49Man 2 weeks ago
north west |
I find it odd when mods block ya |
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"I find it odd when mods block ya"
I mean first and foremost they are people too with preferences!? |
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"I find it odd when mods block ya"
bish i wish they did, so they stop nitpicking my profile and censoring me |
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It can feel very isolating. You don't want to complain when things aren't going well because you don't want to come across as a moaning single guy, and you don't want to say when things are going well because it comes off as arrogant. The nature of sight meaning you can build connections with multiple people also means that when they find what they're looking for, you can easily feel left behind and lost. |
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I can’t say that it has a big influence on me, I don’t take it to seriously, and I log in not expecting anything. With such a low starting point it has no effect on my general mood |
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Sometimes harassed, fed up that guys can't read or they send loads of messages, the guys statuses amuse me though lol some really strange folk on here,
I'm on a Facebook page,that for the first time has me questioning what kind of man could be on here,
so im probably sticking to friends meets only which is a shame |
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By *ary 121Man 2 weeks ago
East Bergholt |
Probably go against the grain,but depressed & insecure more often than not |
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Nooo never.
I am 58 (59) in August.
I was lucky enough to have a 35 year old lady visit me on Saturday evening.
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Makes me feel like a kid in a sweet shop. I get a fuckton of offers every day, have met some lovely people and had some mind blowing sex. |
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"Sometimes harassed, fed up that guys can't read or they send loads of messages, the guys statuses amuse me though lol some really strange folk on here,
I'm on a Facebook page,that for the first time has me questioning what kind of man could be on here,
so im probably sticking to friends meets only which is a shame "
I agree. I do hotels if it's my suggestion to meet, but even then people can pull all sorts of stuff.
Even if meeting for socials/in public first doesn't guarantee safety |
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"Nooo never.
I am 58 (59) in August.
I was lucky enough to have a 35 year old lady visit me on Saturday evening.
Wow lucky you x
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"Personally, at times, it makes me feel completely undesirable, ugly, past it. I realise I'm one of thousands of guys on here, and I'm not on anybody's to do list.
So, why stay? I like the interaction with the people I talk to on here. I take breaks. I remind myself sex is fun (more a memory these days), and there's always that outside chance of meeting someone.
If it wasn't for the lounge, I'd probably have quit a year ago. That over 50 thing is real.
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I hear you x |
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By *host63Man 2 weeks ago
Bedfont Feltham |
Rapidly losing interest. |
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By *pthillMan 2 weeks ago
st shithole |
You just wrote my entire story |
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It differs day to day like when I’m interacting with people i feel great but on a quiet day it can be lonely on here and that’s when i know it’s time to log off for the day and go else where for interactions with other people |
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A bit mixed for me really fed up with being led on then let down and some people just taking the piss still hopeful something will turn up |
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A lot of the time it feels like I’m invisible on hear |
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By *ddie1966Man 2 weeks ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
In a word.
Ignored.
Only here for the forums now. They're fun, but at times people can be very rude and scathing.
WTF...? They don't even know me |
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I just take Fab with a pinch of salt and remind myself not to invest too much energy in it.
I should have really hid my profile as I cannot meet indefinetly but I like browsing the forums, perving and the odd chat. Its not a crime!
So Fab is a nice distraction from reality and nothing more, for me at fhs mo xx |
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Lately a bit deflated, not sure that's fab or me in general tbh though 🤔 |
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Mixed feelings for me, sometimes I connect and share thoughts, other times it’s just a lonely place which is no fun . |
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By *arlo56Man 2 weeks ago
Newcastle |
Just for the chat really for me.
I get more interest from women in everyday life than I do on fab.
But it's good to come on and have a natter now and again. |
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"Most of the time this place is repetitive and uninspiring, but every now and then you make a connection that makes it seem worthwhile"
agreed it’s mostly a frustration and I wonder why I spend time on it
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I was quite deflated until very recently though that was probably a few other matters of the heart causing that
Right now though I've met someone new on here and things are blossoming nicely so it's making me feel very happy at the moment 😄 |
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It makes me smirk now and then...It’s a bit of fun entertainment .. and occasionally you might get lucky... what more can you expect for a fiver a month or whatever it costs ... A lot of people seem to slate Fab but maybe they just expect too much from it. |
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"It can feel very isolating. You don't want to complain when things aren't going well because you don't want to come across as a moaning single guy, and you don't want to say when things are going well because it comes off as arrogant. The nature of sight meaning you can build connections with multiple people also means that when they find what they're looking for, you can easily feel left behind and lost."
Nail on the head there mate |
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I'm lucky in that, I was on as a couple and got to know a few good guys
Although I've met new guys on my own in the past I feel less likely to do that now, so just stick to friends
It's difficult at times for us women on here isn't it |
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I could very much take it or leave it just now.
Pretty neutral. |
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"Personally, at times, it makes me feel completely undesirable, ugly, past it. I realise I'm one of thousands of guys on here, and I'm not on anybody's to do list.
So, why stay? I like the interaction with the people I talk to on here. I take breaks. I remind myself sex is fun (more a memory these days), and there's always that outside chance of meeting someone.
If it wasn't for the lounge, I'd probably have quit a year ago. That over 50 thing is real.
So, how about you? Are you 'exceptional' and you're banging away more than the garden gate? Are you enjoying the affirmation that you're a hot ticket, or do you just perv away? 🤓
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It can be really tiresome a lot of the time, conversations going well to totally disappearing then deleted, being made to feel like we are held to a standard and if you’re an inch (many a pun possible) below 99% of the women on here then there’s no chance. As with all apps, if you’re not photogenic then chances are hampered already.
Has anyone noticed an increase in profiles saying ‘likes to be spoilt’ or on what seems a genuine account, get their number to then be asked how much you’re prepared to pay?
Then now and again you will connect with someone and it’s hot and fun😂.
I come back and disappear for numerous reasons but on balance currently I’d say it’s more negative than positive, which is a shame. It doesn’t always feel that way though.
I did try with the forums for a while but found I didn’t suit them nor do the forums suit me… yet here I am haha |
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It's fun most of the time, with plenty of breaks, but I do find trying to build a connection with someone can be exhausting and frustrating |
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It doesn't make me feel anything really, When I was meeting it was nice to meet some really nice guys. Ive never had a no show and very very few abusive messages so I guess my time on here has been positive . Now im just here for the forums and if I want a break I take a little time out |
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Its a complete mixed bag for me. At times it can lend confidence in short bursts but at other times it can make me feel completely inadequate. And the change can catch you unaware as well. Most of the time its its middle of the road. |
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By *ci_teaMan 2 weeks ago
Loughborough |
Makes me feel absolutely useless.
Understand there are loads of blokes (and know I'm not the hottest).
Worst when they've read the message but don't delete it or reply.
Don't like the stereotypes either unfortunately.
Would be nice if you could upload a intro video for ppl to see |
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Feel = Fab Effectuating Emotional Lethargy |
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I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, 5’ tall, going bald, lost all my teeth thru diabetes medications I’m on. Had 3 replacement hip operations with another sometime in the near future, and also a shoulder operations due to arthritis. Got dodgy ticker aswell and only 52yra old.
But enough about the good stuff, not had any form of female sexual activity for 9yrs since splitting and then getting back with my wife. Does it bother me?? Sometimes, it would be nice to feel close again. Would I cheat on her?? I doubt it, I’m not really that type of person. So why am I on here?? I joined when we had split and although meets have never happened I got talking to a great bunch of people over the years, but unfortunately time, work etc.. meant I lost contact so I just come and go on here when I fancy just to be nosey |
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it's a mix for me really, as others have said already
some days, it can make you feel unpleasant feelings, and other days pleasant and fun ones
this is merely an extra to all our lives, and so it's totally up to us if we take it seriously or not
but it's good to have a balance of being serious and not so serious when navigating fab I find |
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Personally
Makes me feel worthless, don't fit in
All about looks and how hung u are |
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Like a kite flying in a hurricane  |
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Like an absolute CUNT!
Feels like I'm an invisible. Im better off talking to myself because no fucker ever replies back to any messages, anymore!
Yep! Pay for a subscription to feel like a wanker. It's not exactly soul destroying but it's not far off it.
Bollocks! That's what this is |
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I'm aware I ain't going to get anywhere on here.
I basically like to look at the hot women |
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Pretty depressed at times but only because it polarises what my issues are off Fab. |
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Makes me feel sexy at times, love showing off, finding like minded people and expanding my horizons! |
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By *ambertMan 2 weeks ago
Cheltenham |
Usually massively depressed.
But I still keep coming back 😂 |
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By *ary 121Man 2 weeks ago
East Bergholt |
Just like life on here,some decent,genuine people,then there’s the absolute full of shite brigade ( more often than not single guys passing themselves off as single females/couples) just gotta keep on keeping on……………….its out there,but needs a thorough search finding it |
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Not trying to be flippant, I've tried to learn to not let it make me feel particularly strongly, which is an ideal to strive for anyway.
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It's all the fakes that spoil it and i can never work out who is verified etc. Maybe site should be a paid for site. You get one week free but from then on you need to be a site supporter. Would reduce the number of idiot's spoiling it for genuine people |
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We’re are enjoying new adventure it’s exciting |
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It’s like Facebook for swingers and it is none judgmental, there is someone for everyone on here and that’s such a positive thing, the community feel and temptations knowing we’re all here for a reason  |
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By *mf123Man 2 weeks ago
with one foot out the door |
I try not to feel anything no matter where i am or what im doing |
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By *lan157Man 2 weeks ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
I am outside most women's "looking for " age range now but there is nothing I can do about that. However I enjoy chatting with friends who have profiles and the forums of course. |
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we have valid reasons not to be meeting anyone at present, but still dipping in to catch up with some folks, to see whats new, we guess curiosity is a big draw
when it comes to idiots, still lots to block
when it conmes to feedback, plenty of positives |
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"It’s like Facebook for swingers and it is none judgmental, there is someone for everyone on here and that’s such a positive thing, the community feel and temptations knowing we’re all here for a reason "
There is someone for everyone? Really? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Like fuck is there! Not for vast majority of single straight men there isn't.
Your post made me laugh. Good thing I wasn't drinking tea, otherwise it would have come out my nose |
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"It's all the fakes that spoil it and i can never work out who is verified etc. Maybe site should be a paid for site. You get one week free but from then on you need to be a site supporter. Would reduce the number of idiot's spoiling it for genuine people "
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No one spoils anything for anyone. It's a misconception that's often spewed by those who feel their lack of success is down to the transgressions of others. In all my years I've never encountered a fake profile. I carve my own path on here and my experiences — good and not-so-good — are based on my actions and behaviours. |
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"It's all the fakes that spoil it and i can never work out who is verified etc. Maybe site should be a paid for site. You get one week free but from then on you need to be a site supporter. Would reduce the number of idiot's spoiling it for genuine people
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No one spoils anything for anyone. It's a misconception that's often spewed by those who feel their lack of success is down to the transgressions of others. In all my years I've never encountered a fake profile. I carve my own path on here and my experiences — good and not-so-good — are based on my actions and behaviours."
Thwre are plenty of fake profiles on Fab. Poor description, lack of photos and or grainy photos that look like they've been cropped from another account.
They pop up and are dissappear within a few days. Blokes pretending to be women. |
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By *DCQMan 2 weeks ago
South East |
"It's all the fakes that spoil it and i can never work out who is verified etc. Maybe site should be a paid for site. You get one week free but from then on you need to be a site supporter. Would reduce the number of idiot's spoiling it for genuine people "
Huh? It’s extremely easy to work out who’s verified, and there’s obviously an option to be a site supporter. If you want to reduce the amount of “idiots” you interact with - only contact those who tick those two particular boxes? Easy solution... |
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If people are having really bad experiences why do they stay |
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By *eriScotMan 2 weeks ago
Scottish Borders |
Is it just me or has there been a massive increase in single male posts just whining and complaining about not being liked, not getting meets, no one fabbibg their pics, etc etc…..no wonder with the self pity, victim mentality!!
It’s like that for the majority of, especially single men. Just suck it up, take it on the chin and keep trying.
That’s just the dating game in general |
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"It's all the fakes that spoil it and i can never work out who is verified etc. Maybe site should be a paid for site. You get one week free but from then on you need to be a site supporter. Would reduce the number of idiot's spoiling it for genuine people
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No one spoils anything for anyone. It's a misconception that's often spewed by those who feel their lack of success is down to the transgressions of others. In all my years I've never encountered a fake profile. I carve my own path on here and my experiences — good and not-so-good — are based on my actions and behaviours.
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Thwre are plenty of fake profiles on Fab. Poor description, lack of photos and or grainy photos that look like they've been cropped from another account.
They pop up and are dissappear within a few days. Blokes pretending to be women. "
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Who cares?? Are you an errant Knight † on a quest to vanquish these 'fake profiles'. How are their misdeeds affecting YOU personally? They don't affect me. I apply sufficient common sense and due diligence when engaging with people on here. |
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By *DCQMan 2 weeks ago
South East |
"If people are having really bad experiences why do they stay"
Exactly!! Fab is not holding anyone hostage, they are allowed to leave freely! |
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By *DCQMan 2 weeks ago
South East |
"It's all the fakes that spoil it and i can never work out who is verified etc. Maybe site should be a paid for site. You get one week free but from then on you need to be a site supporter. Would reduce the number of idiot's spoiling it for genuine people
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No one spoils anything for anyone. It's a misconception that's often spewed by those who feel their lack of success is down to the transgressions of others. In all my years I've never encountered a fake profile. I carve my own path on here and my experiences — good and not-so-good — are based on my actions and behaviours.
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Thwre are plenty of fake profiles on Fab. Poor description, lack of photos and or grainy photos that look like they've been cropped from another account.
They pop up and are dissappear within a few days. Blokes pretending to be women.
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Who cares?? Are you an errant Knight † on a quest to vanquish these 'fake profiles'. How are their misdeeds affecting YOU personally? They don't affect me. I apply sufficient common sense and due diligence when engaging with people on here."
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I hear you.At 62, I go to clubs with my wife.she gets all the fun, and I end up just hanging around like a fuck wit.Last club I went to I watched telly for five fucking hours.One bloke there was 78. Didnt have the heart to tell him he'd no fucking hope. |
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"I hear you.At 62, I go to clubs with my wife.she gets all the fun, and I end up just hanging around like a fuck wit.Last club I went to I watched telly for five fucking hours.One bloke there was 78. Didnt have the heart to tell him he'd no fucking hope."
Was it everything you hoped for |
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I feel the same way I haven't meet any one on here yet I message people but not reply but you have to remember for every 1 woman there is about 20 men don't let it get you down |
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Oh more than.Vintage episode of Top Gear, more than made my night. |
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Like I’m at the bottom of the corporate ladder
Sending out loads of job applications (initial messages), getting lots of rejections without an explanation on what I’ve done wrong (left on read or deleted)
Hoping I can get some experience to put on my CV (verifications), but it’s harder to get a job without a proven track record (catch 22) and can’t improve your track record without a job.
Have a very limited portfolio (images & videos), and can’t improve this much without “work experience”. Had plenty experience in the past but had a 6 year job gap (marriage) and lost all my my previous portfolio as a result, I assume this makes things worse for me in terms of candidate desirability.
Applying for jobs with autism also makes it a little more difficult, mistranslating social cues (not completely getting what the person wanted to hear or know about)
lol, yeah, it’s very relatable to my job search
No angst, I know the game is the game, once you get a foot in, things start getting better, I just found it interesting. |
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