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Is your work conspiring against your sexual life? đš
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"I haven't been meeting since 2020 partly because I don't have either the time or the energy required. I work for a small 2-person company and it isn't easy to take time off unless the business actually closes that day and I often work 6 or 7 day weeks so fab and everything connected with it has to take a back seat. " Same here. I would love to find a regular to trust, but it's so difficult. Sometimes I used the cam rooms to climax because I needed it, but hidden. | |||
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"I thought it was just me, I work silly hours then come home and run the kids round to every club imaginable then try to relax for what feels like 30 seconds then bed and repeat. " This is us. Feels like we have no time at all and when we do weâre so exhausted we canât be arsed!  It gets pretty frustrating | |||
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"I thought it was just me, I work silly hours then come home and run the kids round to every club imaginable then try to relax for what feels like 30 seconds then bed and repeat. This is us. Feels like we have no time at all and when we do weâre so exhausted we canât be arsed! It gets pretty frustrating "I just see another forum post and thought no point of me posting my boring Friday night plans. Its relentless aswell. | |||
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"What has become apparent to me, is my work life has a huge impact on my feelings and mood towards fab. When I'm stressed, I'm not as active on here. Lately I'm finding a better balance of things, but it is difficult....thats for sure. Your profile pic is very enticing OP. I hope you have a great day. " Im having a fantastic day. Thank you  | |||
"I use the forums and pics to relax in the bath or bed Chatting with others helps - it's not all fab sex talk " Same  | |||
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"Working in hospitality, it has always been considered against my sex life" And mine too. But it's like this site, addictive | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " Your workplace is asking too much of you ,my last job was like that i did 12 hour days a lot of it heavy lifting and then on call 1 week in 3 i had to knock that on the head ,slept worked ate that was my day ,i guess you need the money  | |||
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"I work long hours, so I don't have much time for fab. Therefore when I took time out to meet people who subsequently don't show, I get very pissed at losing what little free time I have. As a result, I now do things rarely outside of socials." That has happened to me too, unfortunately | |||
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"I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like" Could be worse. You could have bundles of time and have no idea how to have a flitty witty chat đ· | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " I know exactly what you mean... farming isnt a straight forward job, if im meeting someone, I need like 5 working days notice to try pull my shit together and sort myself out, and thats all if ive managed to have a day off. I keep getting told I have a nice arse and to be honest I dont see it any more when I look at myself. I'll get the messages of "how you doing" and sometimes I want to reply with "im covered in cow shit, running on caffine and little sleep" but I just somehow crack on and hope for the best. | |||
"I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like Could be worse. You could have bundles of time and have no idea how to have a flitty witty chat đ·" So true | |||
"I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like Could be worse. You could have bundles of time and have no idea how to have a flitty witty chat đ· So true "always been a fan of yours outoftheblue. Hope your feeling better about your situation soon. | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. I know exactly what you mean... farming isnt a straight forward job, if im meeting someone, I need like 5 working days notice to try pull my shit together and sort myself out, and thats all if ive managed to have a day off. I keep getting told I have a nice arse and to be honest I dont see it any more when I look at myself. I'll get the messages of "how you doing" and sometimes I want to reply with "im covered in cow shit, running on caffine and little sleep" but I just somehow crack on and hope for the best. " Praying not to be stood up into the bargain. Nice arse btw  | |||
"I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like Could be worse. You could have bundles of time and have no idea how to have a flitty witty chat đ· So true
always been a fan of yours outoftheblue. Hope your feeling better about your situation soon. "Thank you sexy | |||
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"I can relate to this so much. I used to go to work and come home exhausted everyday, then struggle to switch off and sleep. For years I thought it was normal, that everyone else must be this tired after the daily grind too. Work based stress is so unfair and it feels like it should be the norm when you're deep in the thick of it all. This year, for the first time in 23 years I lost my job and for the first two days I was devastated. Once I got over the initial shock I suddenly realised this huge weight had been lifted off me, that had grown over the years so gradually that I hadn't noticed just how much it had changed me. I've been lucky enough to find another job and start earning again and I have to admit all that stress came down to the employers I was working for. Those that dont care about their teams will load more on to them everyday without a single thought about the personal affect it has on them. Im not telling you to leave your job by any means, but I have learnt that the difference between a stressful role and a comfortable one all boils down to how much your employer cares about you " Incredible post. It resonates deeply in me. Thank you đ· | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " OMG, I totally relate. Look like I have frequently done 10 rounds with Tyson and need a nap to continue... 
But thank god for the forums!  | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. OMG, I totally relate. Look like I have frequently done 10 rounds with Tyson and need a nap to continue...
But thank god for the forums! "Amen! | |||
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"It's all about balance. Work can be exhausting or stressful. I try to find ways to relax and re energise. I usually need a full day's rest before I feel mentally and physically ready for a meet. Otherwise I'm stressed out and overthinking. I do think life is worth living and we shouldn't actually work. Food should be in abundance and every "job" is filled with multiple people doing the same role. Everyone works a few days just to do something productive. And then they go and do what makes them happy for the rest of the week. I'd travel the world, learning languages and eating authentic food. I'm a dreamer." I said, dreamer, you're nothing but a dreamer Well, can you put your hands in your head? Oh no! đ¶đ¶ | |||
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"I think I'm the one cock blocking me to be honest (not to self don't be such a dork) " This! I swear ive cock blocked myself so many times just being worn down. | |||
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"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " Very much so. Working overseas for up to 6 weeks at a time kills most things off. | |||
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"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " Lying in bed with broken ribs and concussion from work, so definitely affected my sex life. | |||
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"Empathise with you fully OP I get home from work, having done a full days manual labour, covered in lime mortar dust, feeling exhausted and filthy. I have quick doggy cuddles, then have to hard scrub the body because of the lime in the mortar. By the time Iâm out I sit on my bed and canât be arsed to move. The dog loves it as he has my attention. I have just been blocked by another fabster tonight for not making more of an effort. đ€·đŒââïž" That happens to.me quite often | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. Lying in bed with broken ribs and concussion from work, so definitely affected my sex life." So sorry to hear that. May I ask what happened | |||
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"Haha oh fuck yes! 25 years of working evenings and weekends is a complete and total cock block! Work conspiring to ruin my sex life is old news sadly âčïž " You know I know what you're talking about đ | |||
" Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " Absofreakinlutely. I took on my latest role on 4.5 years ago but the company was taken over by investors last year and the pressure has increased immensely on me. At my age, I really doubt that I could get anywhere close to the money I'm on by moving on. I'm way too stressed,too much of the time and I don't do nearly as many things, or have the will to, as I used to just a few years ago. | |||
"Haha oh fuck yes! 25 years of working evenings and weekends is a complete and total cock block! Work conspiring to ruin my sex life is old news sadly âčïž You know I know what you're talking about đ" Welcome to âThe Industryâ | |||
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"I get you. For me itâs not work life but rather my home life. Sometimes I just feel like such a drudge. I am not in the frame of mind to meet or chat either, so I donât. Hope it all balances out for you OP, hang on in there! " I get you đ | |||
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"Iâm so tired that Iâve worn the same condom for 3 days now "Rex!!! OMG | |||
"I get you. For me itâs not work life but rather my home life. Sometimes I just feel like such a drudge. I am not in the frame of mind to meet or chat either, so I donât. Hope it all balances out for you OP, hang on in there! " Home life is a big job. đȘđ· | |||
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"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " Hi you Your industry is particularly hard for it, I think. Iâve been pretty lucky in recent years, but just had the realisation that Iâm not coping with the amount of work again. Iâm working on my days off a lot. I plan to have a proper sit down and find a way forward soon. Feels like a change is needed. I think you need to get out of London and move to Wales | |||
I feel the same, I can't decide if I am burning out or just going through menopause or both.
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"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " I 100% get this and agree | |||
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"I 100% understand this! Work has had everything Iâve got to give recently, Iâve hit burn out level! I donât feel sexy, I feel anything but (comes with the job). So Iâm taking a week off to reset! If you can, take a week away and reset, get your nails done, take yourself on a pamper day x" Lovely Eve, I adore your post. I got my nails done yesterday. It works đ | |||
"I think as you get older time seems to go faster and the end starts to loom. The harder you try to recapture those moments the harder it gets. Work is so much harder too and seems far more taxing than it used to be. I work from home so from 9 till 5 I do an exhausting shift chained to my PC doing very cerebral, stuff, pausing briefly to chill on here and another well-known swingers site. Recently found I have a high blood pressure problem for first time in life. I think it's stress related so think I need to give up work.I dropped to 4 day week a year ago and 3 day when 65 in september. Not sure if that will be enough. I am mentally exhausted. Time for some me time I think." I think you are taking the right decision. Not thinking is a retirement time yet? Do you have that option? | |||
"Ah sorry to hear you are going through this
I feel the same, I can't decide if I am burning out or just going through menopause or both.
"I bet both. Keep strong đ«ĄđȘđđ» | |||
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"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. Hi you Your industry is particularly hard for it, I think. Iâve been pretty lucky in recent years, but just had the realisation that Iâm not coping with the amount of work again. Iâm working on my days off a lot. I plan to have a proper sit down and find a way forward soon. Feels like a change is needed. I think you need to get out of London and move to Wales "Iâm thinking to move to Bristol. Closer  | |||
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"I get this. Currently juggling 2 very different careers, adjusting to a whole new way of life. Quite honestly feeling a million miles from sexy or even horny as I'm so tired. I've got a fantastic fwb who does make me feel great when we are together but my free time feels so limited I'm sure he will soon get bored! It's hard. I feel your pain.. I don't have the solution but hopefully it helps a little knowing you're not the only one xx" Agree, it's not the sexynnes its the horniness missing I quit my job last Thursday because the pressure is unbarable but it wasn't accepted as I was asked for more time to reconsider it. I'm really stressed | |||
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"I get this. Currently juggling 2 very different careers, adjusting to a whole new way of life. Quite honestly feeling a million miles from sexy or even horny as I'm so tired. I've got a fantastic fwb who does make me feel great when we are together but my free time feels so limited I'm sure he will soon get bored! It's hard. I feel your pain.. I don't have the solution but hopefully it helps a little knowing you're not the only one xx Agree, it's not the sexynnes its the horniness missing I quit my job last Thursday because the pressure is unbarable but it wasn't accepted as I was asked for more time to reconsider it. I'm really stressed " Have you considered a stress risk assessment at work? It can really make a big difference. I use them a lot for people. It can be really hard to see the wood from the trees sometimes, perhaps in urging you to think abouy it , work realise there's an issue here. I know its tough but I'd suggest some time off before making any big decisions | |||
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"I get this. Life becomes all-consuming, and one ends up feeling like the moments when you're not on the go are to be used to just sit. I work from home, I don't socialise with anyone, and when I'm not working, I withdraw into my little domestic shell of walking the dog and snoozing while something arbitrary plays on TV. I look at myself in the mirror and it's not inspiring - I see a lined, balding gnome. I've stopped visiting Fab more than sporadically. Not only can I not really meet (domestic reasons), but when I can, it feels like too much effort. I don't feel sexy, and this year I haven't even dressed. I guess it ends with a whimper, not a bang. đŽ " Beautiful Davina, you have been so missed here. You are part of the Forum Royalty and as a loyal subject Iâm imploring you to come back in glory and majesty. We really miss your clever, funny, sexy posts and threads. Your amazing pics, your beautiful and so well-written stories also. I'm still moved when you shared how you started to cross-dress when you became a widower. I love to know about South African culture through your eyes. Your wise advice has been so important for so many people. Don't leave us, don't let yourself go. Come back (hopefully in black and red â€ïžâđ„) đđș | |||
"Mine sees me travelling pretty much constantly in Europe and beyond (spent best part of the last 3 years in the ME), and that sometimes has its positives and negatives. Positives: You get the opportunity to go to lots of clubs (when in Europe). Negatives: You fall into the "Working in the area" criteria, and people don't like to meet those who are" So true. I tent to dismiss men looking for a meet during a work trip. Make me feel Like a service. I miss traveling, but now its so expensive again | |||
"I get this. Currently juggling 2 very different careers, adjusting to a whole new way of life. Quite honestly feeling a million miles from sexy or even horny as I'm so tired. I've got a fantastic fwb who does make me feel great when we are together but my free time feels so limited I'm sure he will soon get bored! It's hard. I feel your pain.. I don't have the solution but hopefully it helps a little knowing you're not the only one xx Agree, it's not the sexynnes its the horniness missing I quit my job last Thursday because the pressure is unbarable but it wasn't accepted as I was asked for more time to reconsider it. I'm really stressed Have you considered a stress risk assessment at work? It can really make a big difference. I use them a lot for people. It can be really hard to see the wood from the trees sometimes, perhaps in urging you to think abouy it , work realise there's an issue here. I know its tough but I'd suggest some time off before making any big decisions " You re bloody gorgeous, there is not chance your partner is going to get bored of yourself. When he going to find somebody like you again. Lucky guy đŠ Thank you for your advise | |||
"I get this. Life becomes all-consuming, and one ends up feeling like the moments when you're not on the go are to be used to just sit. I work from home, I don't socialise with anyone, and when I'm not working, I withdraw into my little domestic shell of walking the dog and snoozing while something arbitrary plays on TV. I look at myself in the mirror and it's not inspiring - I see a lined, balding gnome. I've stopped visiting Fab more than sporadically. Not only can I not really meet (domestic reasons), but when I can, it feels like too much effort. I don't feel sexy, and this year I haven't even dressed. I guess it ends with a whimper, not a bang. đŽ " Get back here, you. And stop talking bollocks goth queen. 𧥠đžïž | |||
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"...I'm going to buck the trend here (don't be jealous!), but work IS the reason I can enjoy the escape the Fab life gives me. I'm fortunate enough to have a job that doesn't really pressurise or drain, and having to travel for it means I spend a few days each week living a 'responsibility free' life. Gym/Swim every night, eat out in nice places, and when the stars align occasionally, I get to enjoy the spoils of exquisite company from this place." Too late. Iâm officially jealous. | |||
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"I get this. Life becomes all-consuming, and one ends up feeling like the moments when you're not on the go are to be used to just sit. I work from home, I don't socialise with anyone, and when I'm not working, I withdraw into my little domestic shell of walking the dog and snoozing while something arbitrary plays on TV. I look at myself in the mirror and it's not inspiring - I see a lined, balding gnome. I've stopped visiting Fab more than sporadically. Not only can I not really meet (domestic reasons), but when I can, it feels like too much effort. I don't feel sexy, and this year I haven't even dressed. I guess it ends with a whimper, not a bang. đŽ Beautiful Davina, you have been so missed here. You are part of the Forum Royalty and as a loyal subject Iâm imploring you to come back in glory and majesty. We really miss your clever, funny, sexy posts and threads. Your amazing pics, your beautiful and so well-written stories also. I'm still moved when you shared how you started to cross-dress when you became a widower. I love to know about South African culture through your eyes. Your wise advice has been so important for so many people. Don't leave us, don't let yourself go. Come back (hopefully in black and red â€ïžâđ„) đđș " đ„șđ€ that is just too lovely. | |||
"I get this. Life becomes all-consuming, and one ends up feeling like the moments when you're not on the go are to be used to just sit. I work from home, I don't socialise with anyone, and when I'm not working, I withdraw into my little domestic shell of walking the dog and snoozing while something arbitrary plays on TV. I look at myself in the mirror and it's not inspiring - I see a lined, balding gnome. I've stopped visiting Fab more than sporadically. Not only can I not really meet (domestic reasons), but when I can, it feels like too much effort. I don't feel sexy, and this year I haven't even dressed. I guess it ends with a whimper, not a bang. đŽ Get back here, you. And stop talking bollocks goth queen. 𧥠đžïž" đ but bollocks r us! Lol. Thanks honey. | |||
"I get this. Life becomes all-consuming, and one ends up feeling like the moments when you're not on the go are to be used to just sit. I work from home, I don't socialise with anyone, and when I'm not working, I withdraw into my little domestic shell of walking the dog and snoozing while something arbitrary plays on TV. I look at myself in the mirror and it's not inspiring - I see a lined, balding gnome. I've stopped visiting Fab more than sporadically. Not only can I not really meet (domestic reasons), but when I can, it feels like too much effort. I don't feel sexy, and this year I haven't even dressed. I guess it ends with a whimper, not a bang. đŽ Beautiful Davina, you have been so missed here. You are part of the Forum Royalty and as a loyal subject Iâm imploring you to come back in glory and majesty. We really miss your clever, funny, sexy posts and threads. Your amazing pics, your beautiful and so well-written stories also. I'm still moved when you shared how you started to cross-dress when you became a widower. I love to know about South African culture through your eyes. Your wise advice has been so important for so many people. Don't leave us, don't let yourself go. Come back (hopefully in black and red â€ïžâđ„) đđș đ„șđ€ that is just too lovely. " We all missed you. I get what you are saying but hopefully is temporary. đ€  | |||
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"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " No sex life but my work and commute if killing off the time I spend on myself physically. And I know it'll catch up eventually, not making time for even just a 20 min run isn't going to help long term | |||
"I think a lot of people underestimate how mentally exhausting starting a new job can be. The first few weeks of learning new systems, processes and a whole new domain can completely drain you by the end of the day. I went through that recently myself and for a while I didnât even want much social interaction after work, let alone trying to be witty or flirty online. Sometimes your brain is just overloaded and needs quiet more than anything else." Peace and quiet calm, so important for body and soul. But I need support also, friendship, love, I need even sex, let alone cuddlesâŠ
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"Even the best silver gets dull and needs polishing every now and then. I think most of us have periods like that. I am sure will not always be as such. Small little things to get back that mojo help even if is something just for half an hour every other day. As for work, we'll if again small changes can be made that could help. Often at work is not just the workload but lots of other stuff. I find half of my time is wasted reading emails that I should never have been copied in the first place. I hope it gets better for you. " As usual, you are wonderful đ | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. No sex life but my work and commute if killing off the time I spend on myself physically. And I know it'll catch up eventually, not making time for even just a 20 min run isn't going to help long term" Commuting. An important point to be considered also. I fortunately work close to home. I think I couldn't handle the pressure well if I had to commute a long distance/time to get home also. Thank you for your great post | |||
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I think what is grinding me down at the moment is life in general. Big kids, big problems. Thinking about the future. Elderly relativesâ deaths. Itâs all one after another and it is difficult to feel sexy or wanting to take the time to chat to people and arrange to meet etc.
But it is always good to make the time and disconnect from life and re-connect with those we care about and have a good laugh. I have always thought that we have to make the time. xx | |||
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"Mine sees me travelling pretty much constantly in Europe and beyond (spent best part of the last 3 years in the ME), and that sometimes has its positives and negatives. Positives: You get the opportunity to go to lots of clubs (when in Europe). Negatives: You fall into the "Working in the area" criteria, and people don't like to meet those who are So true. I tent to dismiss men looking for a meet during a work trip. Make me feel Like a service. I miss traveling, but now its so expensive again " I totally understand the "In the area" thing, so I don't message people when I am working away. When I have been based somewhere for long periods I have met people in clubs and they have become friends. Travel is expensive, and I am lucky in that work does allow me to travel at their cost. I get an expense allowance that covers my living costs, including weekends on long contracts. So my only expenses are leisure based | |||
"Mine sees me travelling pretty much constantly in Europe and beyond (spent best part of the last 3 years in the ME), and that sometimes has its positives and negatives. Positives: You get the opportunity to go to lots of clubs (when in Europe). Negatives: You fall into the "Working in the area" criteria, and people don't like to meet those who are So true. I tent to dismiss men looking for a meet during a work trip. Make me feel Like a service. I miss traveling, but now its so expensive again I totally understand the "In the area" thing, so I don't message people when I am working away. When I have been based somewhere for long periods I have met people in clubs and they have become friends. Travel is expensive, and I am lucky in that work does allow me to travel at their cost. I get an expense allowance that covers my living costs, including weekends on long contracts. So my only expenses are leisure-based " Fantastic. You are building up the life you want to live. đ· | |||
"Actually, it is that simple. You choose to work for a corrupt indenturing system, and by doing so you sacrifice much more than your sex life. You're a cog in that system, for them, you can be replaced, you don't matter, probably never will matter. You choose to pay a mortgage, you're sacrificing your right to own your home, you'll spend more than half your life paying for it and they'll only let you keep it so long as you keep paying, until in about 70-80 years they will tear it down before it falls down because it was never meant to last longer than that. You'll do "work" why? to pay for the house? to have freedom 2 measly days a week? for as long as you can move freely, until you're too old to move freely, where, if you're lucky you'll have a pension that doesn't fuck you over and manage to enjoy the last few years loosing your ability to move freely...? NO, IT IS that simple. But simple doesn't mean easy. Everyone incarnates here with a gift, a gift that will pay them ten to a hundred times more than "work" ever will. Are you too old to remember what yours is? When did you sell out your gift for the honour of being a cog in their system? I found mine, after a long time... I had the job, cat, house, a girl... losing it opened my eyes. I'm still working on it because it isn't easy. But it was simple. Either, you choose YOU, or you choose the system. Which ever you choose, accept the consequences. Even freedom has consequences. " Agree. Simple doesn't mean easy Thank you for your conscious reply and the time you took to write such an amazing post. | |||
"My job is super intense when it is happening- but once the shift is over- calm and loveliness- usually in amazing places, beautiful hotels and fantastic food and drink
I think what is grinding me down at the moment is life in general. Big kids, big problems. Thinking about the future. Elderly relativesâ deaths. Itâs all one after another and it is difficult to feel sexy or wanting to take the time to chat to people and arrange to meet etc.
But it is always good to make the time and disconnect from life and re-connect with those we care about and have a good laugh. I have always thought that we have to make the time. xx "Your life is amazing and you have overcome so many difficulties to deserve it. So lucky to be considered your friend. Proud of you amiga. | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. Lying in bed with broken ribs and concussion from work, so definitely affected my sex life. So sorry to hear that. May I ask what happened " Was working on a tower and some idiot reversed through the barrier and knocked the tower over, luckily only 1 lift high, but high enough to do some damage | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. " Yep same here , and I have no excuse as I'm self employed ! I genuinely come on here to pass time and hope I get to someone nice , but I can't do all the sex stuff lol , cos I just don't feel it | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. Lying in bed with broken ribs and concussion from work, so definitely affected my sex life. So sorry to hear that. May I ask what happened Was working on a tower and some idiot reversed through the barrier and knocked the tower over, luckily only 1 lift high, but high enough to do some damage" đł I hope you get better soon, and get supported to take a deep rest, you deserve to be pampered by angels... and devils too đ | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. Yep same here , and I have no excuse as I'm self employed ! I genuinely come on here to pass time and hope I get to someone nice , but I can't do all the sex stuff lol , cos I just don't feel it " You need to employ yourself as your own sex coach. Apply to the position asap  | |||
"Mine sees me travelling pretty much constantly in Europe and beyond (spent best part of the last 3 years in the ME), and that sometimes has its positives and negatives. Positives: You get the opportunity to go to lots of clubs (when in Europe). Negatives: You fall into the "Working in the area" criteria, and people don't like to meet those who are So true. I tent to dismiss men looking for a meet during a work trip. Make me feel Like a service. I miss traveling, but now its so expensive again I totally understand the "In the area" thing, so I don't message people when I am working away. When I have been based somewhere for long periods I have met people in clubs and they have become friends. Travel is expensive, and I am lucky in that work does allow me to travel at their cost. I get an expense allowance that covers my living costs, including weekends on long contracts. So my only expenses are leisure-based Fantastic. You are building up the life you want to live. đ·" At this moment it works for me; I have low boredom levels so the transient lifestyle is working for me both with work and swinging (except in the ME). But I am starting to think a partner may be nice; one who shares this lifestyle and one who doesn't want marriage (I have 3 ex wives already) | |||
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"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. Hi you Your industry is particularly hard for it, I think. Iâve been pretty lucky in recent years, but just had the realisation that Iâm not coping with the amount of work again. Iâm working on my days off a lot. I plan to have a proper sit down and find a way forward soon. Feels like a change is needed. I think you need to get out of London and move to Wales
Iâm thinking to move to Bristol. Closer "Better, but Iâd still recommend over the bridge and much further west. I love cities, but working in them is tough. | |||
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"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. Lying in bed with broken ribs and concussion from work, so definitely affected my sex life. So sorry to hear that. May I ask what happened Was working on a tower and some idiot reversed through the barrier and knocked the tower over, luckily only 1 lift high, but high enough to do some damage đł I hope you get better soon, and get supported to take a deep rest, you deserve to be pampered by angels... and devils too đ" That sounds like a pampering yoh dont get on the nhs | |||
"I'm exhausted. When I arrive home late, after a long working day, I try to relax by browsing here and having a laugh reading the Forum. But I can't help feeling like an impostor. I look at my face in the mirror, and I can't find any trace left of the sexy woman in my picsâ album. Then, I read a message asking, âWhat lingerie colour are you wearing tonight babe? I would like to reply, âI'm lying on bed with the same awful clothes I wore yesterdayâ but I refrain myself. I don't have the energy and time to keep a flitting witty chat either with the people I like. Does anyone feel his work is having a negative impact on their sexual life reducing their libido? Please don't reply âquit your jobâ or delete your accountâ. its no so simple. Lying in bed with broken ribs and concussion from work, so definitely affected my sex life. So sorry to hear that. May I ask what happened Was working on a tower and some idiot reversed through the barrier and knocked the tower over, luckily only 1 lift high, but high enough to do some damage đł I hope you get better soon, and get supported to take a deep rest, you deserve to be pampered by angels... and devils too đ That sounds like a pampering yoh dont get on the nhs" They should | |||
